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Is it more refined to drink from a bottle or from those “hydration packs” they make for hikers where you strap a large bottle to your back and drink through straws that come under your arms up near your mouth?
We can add, taking an interest in a sport and following a team. One need not watch, to follow a team through a season.
Mod-80. Your reply to me highlights everything that is wrong with written communication and why it should not ever become the substitute for verbal communication. I never stated or implied that anyone should do anything remotely similar to what I did, nor did I suggest one speak to their Rav about it even if you assumed that I did. Perhaps I will begin to end all postings with the disclaimer, “dont take anything I write as advice or guidance, that is the job of your Rav/Rebbetzin. And never assume, for when you do you make an a** out of U and ME”.
“How do you know which person to follow?”
The morah you mentioned before, might be a good place to start.
I got the literature on my front porch yesterday. I asked my Rav if I can open it with my 17 year old and discuss with him why the information contained in the packet is worthless. He told me yes, and laid down certain guidelines for doing so. I believe, and he agreed, that more important than throwing the literature in the garbage is the ability to realize on your own when someone gives you literature that belongs in the garbage. Hopefully we are being mechanech our children in such a way, that at some point they are able to realize on their own where to put this literature.
The fellow I was talking to, turned out to be a messianic jew. A southwestern jew ignorant of anything jewish except for a few tzatzkes the family kept when cleaning out grandmas house. When in college he was recruited by a member of a messianic congregation and at first he had the same reaction any frum jew would have, jews have nothing to do with j, that’s an oxymoron in and of itself, this fellow taught him their idea about being a “completed” jew and he became a card carrying member. I know this, because he actually called me a week after we met and wanted to continue the discussion. It took quite some time, and dozens of emails back and forth to sufficiently convinve him to call a frum Rav in his city (he lived near houston) who he met a number of times, and eventually became a mispallel in that shul. While I agree with the sentiment expressed above, that missionaries, like flies, are best ignored, if approached in a respectful manner, you just never know who might be asking and why.
My encounter took place in 1998, 13 years later we have so many more frum jews, kein yirbu, but unfortunately so many more unaffiliated and worse, jews who mistakenly believe they are practicing judaism when in fact they are practicing xtianity in jewish garb.
Should point out that missionaries. Don’t knowingly try to go after frum yidden. The more an am haaretz their target the more they chase that target.
DH. You are preaching to the choir.
To borrow from a common saying. Ask a weird question, get a weird answer.
The city also has a leak forgiveness program, the nyc.gov site has info (go to the DEP page)
http://www.nyc.gov/html/dep/html/water_and_sewer_bills/leak_notification.shtml
The DEP will alert you to a potential leak if your usage suddenly goes up over a certain time period. You must have an automated meter reading device installed for the service to work. If you do, follow the link and sign up.
(was asked this very question when I was on a sales trip in montgomery alabama) “why don’t you believe in JC”
me: why should I.
him: to be saved
me: from what?
him: from eternal damnation
me: why do I have to be saved from that? what did I do to “earn” the trip?
him: the bible says so
me: what bible?
him: cites relevant verses from his scripture
me: thats not written anywhere in my bible – the jewish bible does not contain the books of matthew, luke etc..
him: what do you mean?
me: what is not to understand? those are not part of the jewish bible
him: oh, but it is part of the new testament
me: as a jew, I believe in a “testament”, not a new one or an old one. Just an original.
him: what about jeremiah 31?
me: (thinking, its a good thing I once read the book, you take jesus i’ll take g-d”) first of all, the phrase “bris chadasha” (I had to explain to him those are the hebrew words that were written by the navi who did not speak either greek, latin or the kings english )does not mean a new testament, but rather a new covenant and if you would read the entire chapter, specifically the pesukim (I used the word verses) that preceed and follow this specific phrase, you would see that there is no new covenant either, rather a renewal of the old covenant, but I continued, you can not read much less understand hebrew, so anything I tell you is meaningless. Perhaps you should learn to read and understand hebrew, then we can have an intelligent conversation.
him: oh
him after a silence of perhaps 20 seconds: what do jews believe about the second coming (note the tone change from why not to what do you believe about
me: we dont. there is no such concept in judaism
him. really?
me: really, really.
him: what about isiah 53?
me: what “about” isiah 53?
him: doesnt it say a prophecy of the suffering servant blah blah blah and all werent all those things fulfilled in j?
me: lets assume your interpretation and understanding of the chapter is correct, why assume j is the subject? any one of tens of thousands of jews throughout history fit the subject, he doesnt have a monopoly on being despised and beaten and besides, the chapter is not written in the future tense, it is written in past, future and present tense, oh I forgot, you dont read hebrew.
him: maybe I should learn hebrew.
me: maybe you should. here is my card if you need any help. enjoy your day. good luck.
This is not funny, but since there is no thread about dumb questions asked…..
Last night we got a call about the child of divorced parents. “Does he agree or disagree with his parents decision to divorce”. We hung up, didn’t even bother to say, “pardon?”. If the caller is reading this, what are you thinking?
how far in advance did you book the one way ticket? the roundtrip?
I hate to say this, but if my introduction to torah jewery was the yeshiva world coffee room, I would run the opposite way. The invective routinely directed towards others is horrible.
When I was in the 10th grade, in Yeshiva of Staten Island (in 1984), I was once learning bechavrusa (for the sake of accuracy, he was actually more of a tutor than a chavrusa)with one of the Rabbeim (he said a shiur to one of the high school grades) and we came upon a word which neither of us could translate. The Rebbe reached over for the only available dictionary, the Jastrow, and looked up the word. When he had his answer he looked up at me and said “not bad for a reform rabbi”. I still keep in touch with this Rebbe and about 8 years ago I mentioned this episode and he told me, now that there are other options that are just as good from ehrilcher yidden, use those instead.
Master. What do you have against calling the Menahel? Speak with him about your concerns, what you are looking for, what negative things you have heard, what you would like to gain from your yeshiva (rabbeim, chaverim and teachers) and ask if you can come see for yourself. Rav shlomo Braunstien doesnt bite. I promise.
I didnt read a single reply. Apologies if I am repeating anything.
The gemara states that a man should not walk behind a woman. I dont remember if this was a middas chassidus, a halacha or just an eitza tova. Whatever it is, there is certainly legitimacy to not walking behind a woman. When I was dating (20 years ago), I was advised to hold open the door for the girl I was with, but, to wait 3-4 seconds before entering so that I wouldnt walk in directly behind her (and the possibility also existed that once inside she would go a bit to the side and wait until I walked in too, making it so that I was not in back of her – in fact, several girls I dated walked through the door, directly to the side of the entrance so that when I walked in, they were not in front of me at all – they were well aware of this gemara too).
If you are looking into YRCB as a high school choice, why not direct those questions to the menahel of the mesivta, R’ Shlomo Braunstien shlita or the Sgan Menahel R’ Michel Guzik shlita.
“Shaatnez D’Oraisa, knowingly.”
Unless you are an expert in hilchos shatnez, already inspected this particular item of clothing, know for sure it wasn’t corrected AND know he/she put it on deliberately….that is a lot of “ifs”.
There seems to be an unhealthy infatuation and preoccupation with anything related to “tznius”, especially among men.
Now that I completely understand the scenario: People who delude themselves into thinking they are a size 8 when they should be wearing a size 12 (men and women alike) have far greater issues to deal with than being embarrassed by a stranger pointing out that not all body parts fit, or that the material only stretches so far. Leave them be, unless the situation is hazardous to their health (for example, the guys pants are so tight, he has a hard time breathing – I actually heard a doctor tell this to someone who complained of “shortness of breath”. He replied, wear a larger size pair of pants and you will be able to breathe normally)).
If what was showing was a direct result of her wearing clothing that was to tight, I would not have even pointed it out to another woman to tell her, I would have to believe the woman is very aware of how tight her clothing is, but chose to dress that way anyway. It is not my place to say anything to her, that is the job of her husband and/or Rav/Rebbetzin (if she dresses that way to go shopping, she dresses that way publicly in general and I would assume the Rav/Rebbetzin have seen it and are dealing with it in their own way). If what was showing was not as a result of what she was wearing, but just an unfortunate “wardrobe malfunction” (akin to a man whose zipper is open), I would have found a woman I know to point it out to her.
Adorable. You are mixing up the 2 protaganists in the story. And yes, we should learn from history. Perhaps the lesson to be learned is, even if you did not get an invitation, you should still go to the simcha. Who knows, perhaps if Kamtza showed up, his friend would not have been so bothered that bar kamtza showed up as well. Perhaps he might have calmed him down. Perhaps things would have turned out differently. Perhaps that is the lesson we should learn, for after all it is referred to as the espisode of kamtza and bar kamtza. Why is kamtzas name attached to this episode, what did he do? His invitation never showed up in the mail, he is more of a side note. Perhaps he is linked to this episode by name, because he too is in some way at fault. Your friend is making a simcha, go say mazel tov and don’t stand on ceremony waiting for one. Certainly don’t be insulted.
Obviously, someone still does not understand 🙁
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Its an interesting concept and we found someone to give lessons to one of our children at a time and place that is most convenient for us.
About 2000 years ago, another person didn’t get an invitation to a simcha either. I dont know what his thought process was thinking about the non invitation. Who knows, had he gone to say mazel tov anyway, things might have turned out differently.
Met fan and cub fan? You must be a glutton for punishment. At least last night you had a 50/50 chance at being happy after the final out.
I think observanteens friend would have been turned off to yiddishkeit even if she was not abused by her parents and was emotionally stable. She actually said so herself when stating she saw hypocrytical behavior on the part of her parents. One need not be an einstein to spot a hypocrite.
I do think that “bad influences” are only legitimate threats if the one exposed has a poor foundation. Someone with a good foundation won’t feel threatened by the perceived peer pressure. The problem is, the peer pressure is enticing because there is the niggling doubt that perhaps those friends are not wrong. If a teen has no place to go with those little doubts he or she might decide to test out the water by figuratively sticking in a couple of toes first to try and get the answer on their own. Once that happens, all bets are off. As good an any yeshiva or bais yackov might be, how many of those students will admit to feeling comfortable approaching a rebbe or morah and asking straight out, how do I know the galach down the block is wrong when he asserts xyz? How many can actually answer that question if approached by the galach for an explanation why he was wrong?
The person who quoted “halichos bas yisroel”, can you tell us the footnoted source for the various opinions?
I’m not sure I understand the terminology “it is customary in some communities”, customary meaning, this is how we do it, because this is how we feel it is supposed to be done according to halacha OR, this is not halachicly required, however it is customary in some communities to do it anyway.
Coffee is most certainLy a “social drink”, its the whole appeal of a place like starbucks, especially those located in a barnes and nobles.
“A lounge has the same status as a bar.”
Why is it muttar to order a coke and not a beer when you are not fraternizing with the other patrons? Going through the Aruch Hashulchan in this siman (its all I have available at the moment) it appears from the way he explains the din/takana (appears is the actionable word right now, I really should go through it a second time and also go through the many mareh mikomos he brings down) the issue is one of drinking with them (which is why for example you can buy the drink and take it home when no kashrus issue is involved). I’m not arguing with you, just going through the sugya.
Regarding the fellow who ordered the beer, I think he did it more to impress his date than anything else. He utterly failed to do so.
Did I miss the line about him being a meyuchas?
Doesnt the Rma say that “shechar shel tvuah” the minhag is to be meikel?
Either way, bar, in the context of a hotel lounge means the place from where the drinks are purchased/served, one orders a glass of water or a diet coke at this bar as well.
Its ironic, the reason for the gezeirah is “chasunos” and this is where everyone goes for dates.
However you look at it, you wake up in the morning next to your spuse, not their dead ancestors. A shrew is still a shrew even if she (or he) has yichus up the wazoo.
You are redefining the term yichus how it is being used in this thread, and still make assumptions about the way things work in shamayim. Feel free.
“Kallah nah vachasuda.”
I wonder if there is a 3rd opinion not recorded in shas that argued with both beis shammai and beis hillel and said, she shouldnt even be here, let alone comment on her lookss, it isnt tznius.
@ Mayan: There is nothing “wrong” with anyone you mentioned. When I hear “the alter” I think slabodka and kelm, must be the litvak in me. 🙂
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“perhaps the ‘father of the bride’ takes her to the ‘alter”
You talking der alter from slabodka or kelm?
Non jews don’t take anyone to the alter, they take they to the altar.
Am I in Chelm?
“Many times in life and yes even on the cr, i feel invisible/ignored.”
Forget how you feel in cyberspace for a moment. If you truly feel this way in reality, then you should seek guidance about your self esteem, or lack thereof.
“Great Tzadikim have more zchusim to pass on.”
Again, you are privy as to how zechusim are tabulated, collected and allocated? You are certainly correct that great tzadikim do a lot more than the avg poshiteryid, however, you do not know how the ribbono shel olam “scores” their torah and maasim tovim, and how they are applied to later doros.
Personally, I am familiar with the maamer chazal to seek to marry a bas talmid chacham, the maamer chazal that a father should seek to marry his daughter to a talmid chacham, and even the maamar chazal about looking into the brothers of a potential wife. The only yichus chazal have told us to look out for are those that are psulai kahal. If you are familiar with a maamar chazal that one should seek a marriage partner who shtams from yichus, please share it. If all things were equal, then why not look at the elte zeida, otherwise the elte zeida could have been the gadol hador of a previous generation, but if his grandaughter is a shrew, all his zechusim wont help you (they certainly didnt help her, or her parents who raised her).
I would never have pegged my kindergarten morah as an abuser. live and learn.
I think we should do away with the entire chassuna as we know it and spend the 20 (or 30, or more)thousand dollars on other things. We can avoid all of the ills that plague society at once. Those who feel it is a breach of tznius will be happy. Yeshiva administrators will be happy because they can now turn to the parents for all this money for schar limud. people wouldnt spend beyond their means thereby negating the need for the resulting takanos to save people from themselves. The only ones who wont be happy are the caterers and musicians. We can keep the caterers happy by giving them say 10% of what we would have spent on a chasuna and they in turn would use that money to prepare meals for those who unfortunately dont have a meal of their own. The musicians, hmmm, I’m stuck.
Is the discussion about walking down the aisle? Is it about dressing inappropriately (which is a discussion for the grocery store as much as it is a chasuna)? Is it about women walking down the aisle in front of men and vice versa?
To the OP. Everywhere you go? Perhaps you frequent the wrong places too often.
Also, some people use the term “off the derech” a bit too loosely. This past shabbos I heard a chassidishe yid use the term in reference to his son who married a litvishe girl and is a full fledged shmoer torah umitzvos, just on a path that is different than his father. Yes, he is off his fathers derech, but not off THE derech. Is this what our OP might mean?
Why someone might abandon torah and mitzvos is ultimately because torah umitzvos mean nothing to him/her. There are as many reasons as their are people why they find no meaning in torah and mitzvos (just as there is surely a reason this chassidishe fellow turned to a litvishe derech instead of the one he grew up on).
“so everybody is in agreement now?”
Not sure about anyone else, but I certainly agree that men should not be wearing jean skirts.
The witnesses were started by a fellow named charles russell in 1870.
Regarding what the Kohen Gadol wore… this is in perek gimmel in yoma.
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You are both correct. In the morning he wore “pilusin” which the Rav tells us came from Ramses (Egypt) but in the evening he wore from Hodu (india). One thing is pretty certain, he didnt wear denim.
1010 Wins in NY interviewed a believer who stated he stopped paying his utility bills among other things. The reporter asked him if he could come back sunday morning for a follow up and the guy told him “not sure where I will be that day”. If you are in or near NYC tune in to 94.7 FM you get to hear mr camping.
CNN has an interview with one of the employees of this “church”. She says 80% of the employees think he is insane and they are planning to show up to work Monday, like always. As a secretary, she has scheduled numerous appointments and meetings for company employees for next week and beyond.