Rational Frummie:

Halevai that would be true. Many extremely frum Guys and girls from really frum homes have fallen real fast- and it started with a click of the mouse. And they fell real bad, unfortunately.

I know many of these people, very well. And its very scary, and very sad.

The yetzer hara does not discriminate between circumstances. If anything, he tries harder on those who are stronger.

I don’t think there are more OTD kids in Lakewood than anywhere else.

There’s OTD kids everywhere, unfortunately.

Says me: I agree wholeheartedly with the 8th grader one- they were sooo cool when I was in school.

Actually just the other day a non-jew asked me if there is different kind of judiasms, and I told her no, that there is just one- that we follow from the Torah.

She asked me why some people are “jews” but virtually assimilated. So I told her that being a jew is a born status. Some people choose to observe the religion, while others don’t.

I did not, however, mention about reform, conservative etc cuz I had no idea what to answer her on that

Peerimsmeach- Why are you screaming?

I think that in a town where there is just so many people in such a tiny place, it needs to be separate.

If Gateshead had many more stores and a bigger area, it might not be that way

Cherry Bim: “Newcommer, cheer up. We don’t live forever. So whatever is troubling you; it is only temporary. In a hundred years, it won’t make a difference and no one will care”.

Now,thats not very comforting! Maybe in 100 years, it wont make a difference, but 100 years is a long time! Besides, we have to live in the moment and focus on being happy right now, not waste our life away cuz in 100 years, its not gonna matter anyway.

Newcommer: Try to sit down and think where your source of unhappiness is coming from. If its coming from a fear or worry abt the future, strenghtening ur emunah may help.

If if its fixable, try to fix it. If its a general feeling of unhappiness with no cure then try excersizing, socializing, and being busy.Strengthening your connection with Hashem will always help though, since living with Hashem gives you comfort, meaning and feeling that you are not alone.

Good Luck!!

on the ball: Popa is just making fun cuz he gets nervous from the word clarity

huh? My brothers have been walking arond for weeks now telling everyone that Bello died!

Iww.. GROSS. that video was totally disgusting!!

Hashem please help your people!

And if you dont understand what is terribly wrong about that video then may Hashem look after you and protect you……..

when my sis was sem age abt 8 years ago, her whole grade went 2 israel except 2 girls. This past year, only 20 girls out of 65 in the grade went to israel.

so the fad is dying down- im glad

Caleefornia- as a girl in the shidduch parsha, my personal opinion is that you wear shab. def. but not wedding. I would wear heels if you r comft. walking in them.

Good Luck!

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To yekke2,

AVOID THE GUY AT ALL COSTS. It is not our job to run around trying 2 bring these crazy and dangerous individuals back.

By engaging in conversation with them, you are putting yourself in possible danger. You might laugh this off and think its silly, saying you’re way 2 strong 4 these guys, but the truth is no one is and we dont need to hear their garbage anyways.

Just protect yourself and your kids from these guys.

Some of EG acapella cds are very “kosher” with just singing and noises with the mouth but other songs like ashrei, amen, and yavohh are real music! They have drums, some clinging noises and they make the voices in to a tune so it sounds like real music…

I am a teacher in a classroom of 8 year old boys and one of my students are definetely passively agressive. He won’t say no to my face when I say something, he’ll just not do it in a quiet passive agressive way or take on purposely a veeery long time to do it as if 2 say- I dont have 2 listen- but in a very quiet way. Its often hard 2 see passive agression since it is very subtle, but still defenitely has 2 b addressed.

I have actually asked Rav Yisroel Belsky this question and his answers was that its stealing to copy music from someone else instead of buying the cd. To those who say that u wud not have purchased it, who said? If u are copying the music, them u obviously like it and may very well purchase it! Honest yidden try to make a parnassah and we prevent them from doing so by copying music from other people. Rav Belsky told me that u already bought the cd, and u wanna copy it so u cud have 1 for the car, and 1 for your house, then its mutar since u wudnt have bought another 1 just for your car.

Theres a psak halacha from a Gadol with out any of us coming up with our own opinions.

I do not really understand what this whole discussion is about.

The halacha states clearly that it is assur to touch the opposite gender unless it is your immediate relative.

Period. Done.

It is not a chumra of any kind but a serious sin if trangressed.

WOW- Giggle Girl.

Whatever u said was completely true- and very well written.

I was thinking of formulating a response but then I read your post and it says everything I wanted to say!

That is the very truth about emunah and bitachon.

Thank You so much!

Hi Hershi,

pretty impressive that u chose a middah and u wanna work on it.

Like with all middos, we have to slowly work on it, piece by piece till we get better and better. Running 2 the opposite extreme is dangerous and will in all likelhoods end in a flop.

Choose something small to start working on. This could be 1 person who u find hard to give to and once a day give something to him. Or this could be 1 act u find hard to do (such as let a car go b4 u u) or whatevr and do it once a day. As you start training urself more and more and u feel the barriers of selfishness falling a bit more each day, u cud add on something else 2 “practice”. Eventually, u will find it starting 2 become more natural 2 u. Remember that breaking middos is hard and may take a long time- (even a lifetime!) but with hard work, u’ll get there Iyh.

Good Luck!

Hey! How did u know- I think I have this fridge opening door syndrome…

Any cures- Please- I think I have a very severe case of it.

I stand every morning in front of the fridge for hours to decide what to eat… and then Im late for work.

LOL!!!!

Yehuda Tzvi,

I am really sorry to hear of the tremendous pain you are in right now. I can not offer you any medical advice since I am not learned in these subjects.

However, I can tell you that I know the MOST EFFECTIVE cure for any disease in the world- tried and tested with best results…

badadadadummm….

Tefilla!! I am not saying that you are not davening. All I am saying is that if you write with such helplessness, there is a great chance that yo do not FULLY believe that Hashem is more powerful than any doctor and is able to turn around your situation within minutes!!! Maybe the reason why you are left so helpless is because Hashem wants you to turn to Him with complete dependance and faith. If you tell Hashem, “Hashem, right now there is no medical way to get me out of this mess. However, I believe with complete faith that You are the One that gave me this nisyaon in the first place, and You are the Only One that can take it away. I know that since You are my loving Father, you only want whats best for me, and I trust that you will send me a yeshua now.” Then Hashem will surely hear your tefillos and answer you!Also, I would go to Gedolim for advice ( to see if there is any other option) or just for a bracha. I would also still make hishtadlus whenever possible, keeping in the mind that really only Hashem holds the key to your yeshua.

May you only see yeshuos and nechamos quickly!

batseven

thank you

We went to the pocconoes with all my daughters friends-we went snowtubing-if u check it up online, i dont remember the name, and we slept overnight by an inn nearby. but if that’s too far or too expensive, then even a iceskating trip, and then a party together, hot cocoa..etc was enjoyed by all. Hats of to you for being so involved with your kids!!!