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@Yitzyk
I apologize for this late reply, but have had a client trial the past 2 weeks and little time for diversion.
Yes, I was able to pay my children’s tuition, by hard work and sacrificing other things. My kids and grandkids didn’t/don’t go to summer camp, they spend the summer here under family supervision at a much lower cost.
I was part of the movecause of ment to get out local day schools/yeshivas made constituent agencies of Federation for funding purposes. It also allows the Jewish Family Service to do the scholarship screening and tuition determination. This keeps all private information truly private and real professionals determine need.
In the late 1970s I spearheaded a major area fundraising campaign to guaranty no Jewish child would be turned away from the local school because of tuition needs. We raised more than $5Million from the greater community for an endowment. The endowment is managed by professionals of the local Jewish Foundation. No yeshiva administration can dip into the scholarship endowment for operational funds or to fix a leaky roof.
We have convinced local institutions to share costs and purchasing. The Chabad school and the Schechter school made a combined deal for computers and science lab equipment at a much lower cost than either could get alone.
We established a committee of professionals to write grant applications for funding from many private corporations. Most yeshivos don’t think the Fortune 500 Goyische companies are a funding source, but they are.
My youngest graduated high school years ago, but that did not stop my commitment to raise and give tuition assistance funds. There are many like me here OOT who are willing to work with the non-Frum community to assure Jewish education. I don’t see this cooperation in town.As for your last request for donations to a specific yeshiva, let me tell you about the fundraising system in place in our area day schools for at least 35 years. In addition to tuition, each family is required to fundraise XXX dollars per year (selling raffle tickets, etc) OR write a check in that xxx amount. Those who can afford to write a check do so, others work hard to raise the charity funds. The schools also give x dollars credit for those who volunteer at school events, etc. It is not unusual to see grandmothers helping in the cafeteria every day. They get the benefit of being out of the house with young people and while not paid, the value of their time counts towards a family’s obligation.
What could you offer the school to offset some tuition and save them on expenses? You need to be creative in your approach. One of my neighbors had his teenage boys cut the Day school lawn and plowed snow in exchange for a needed tuition break@Coffeeaddict
How did I choose that restaurant? Many prior dining experiences there.My father maintained an office at 500 7th Ave, My grandfather’s showroom and offices were at 1220 Broadway. From the time I was 8 I would take the train from New Haven to Penn Station at least once a month and have lunch or dinner out with them. I got to try most of the Manhattan kosher restaurants that operated below the park between the early 1960s and dating days. All my grandparents lived in NYC and I was exposed to dining the outer boros as well.
I know that few of my frum friends and classmates ate in restaurants as often as we did, but most of them were from families that had been in the US only a generation or two and were likely to have a stay at home mother or grandmother cooking for the family. My mother was a school administrator in the public schools. My grandmothers both helped run their husband’s business and went to the office 4 days a week. In fact, I can only remember eating meals cooked by either grandmother a total of 4 times in my life (and they lived into their 90s). If we went into NYC for a family birthday or anniversary the celebration was held in a restaurant.@Coffeeaddict
“Nobody knows the quality of the restaurant that isn’t in the neighborhood”What a false generalization…………….
I was born and raised in CT. We did lots of eating out in NYC, not our neighborhood.
In my dating days, Top Manhattan picks were Moshe Peking, LaDifference and Lou G. Siegel…none of these
were in the neighborhood, but we sure knew their quality.
In Brooklyn we often ate at Shang Chai, not our neighborhood,People who dine out with regularity know the quality of restaurants outside their neighborhood. The internet has helped provide that information.
Ancedote:
In 1972 I had an obligatory shidduch date with the niece of my 10th grade rebbi’s wife. I picked the young lady up at her home in Boro Park. She knew from her aunt that I had driven in from CT after work and that we were going out for dinner. We drove into Manhattan to the restaurant. After being seated and handed a menu she seemed confused with the process. It turns out at age 19 she had never been to a restaurant. The only time she had ever eaten outside of a home was at school or a simcha. She never had to choose a meal for herself from a variety of choices. Needless to say this was a one and done situation. She would never have fit in with my family and lifestyle.
The rebbi’s wife never bothered me againMy daughter grew up helping in the office. I run a family law practice with specialties in Wills, Trusts, Preobate, divorce, child custody and adoption.
I never had any interest in personal injury or medical malpractice cases and always referred them out. As my children and their spouses planned to join in the CTL firm, and someday take over completely when I retire, they realized they needed expertise in other areas and to expand the scope of business. Son #1 has an MBA and practices Business and Contract Law. Son #2 Has a Real Estate Brokers License and mostly does development and RE partnerships
DIL #1 has an undergraduate degree in Engineering and does Patent and Copyright work.
Youngest daughter saw that there was great room to expand in PI and Med Mal, and that a medical background made sense, Thus the RN choice.
Son #3 is my shadow and restricts his practice to what I do.
Daughter #1 has a degree in Psychology and handles divorce, adoption and child custody cases only. She is in constant demand by the local Probate Judge for assignment at the court appointed attorney for children whose parents are in the midst of a divorce. Although court appointed, this work is paid for by the parents at her regular billing rates. Thinhs are different in small town CT than the way it works in NYC, where most attorneys run from court appointed work.@Workingboy
I understand your frustration.
Your shadchan did you a disservice in fixing , you up with BY and Seminary girls.
My sons and daughters are also professionals who finished Yeshiva then colleg and graduate degrees and professional licensing,
A competent shadchan would have been fixing you up with young ladies pursuing similar goals who don’t expect their spouse to sit in kollel and be supported by others.The mothers and fathers network does a better job making introductions for those young frum adults in the professions and business world than the average shadchan can do,
It’s called networking and it works well.My eldest daughter, an attorney in my firm, who also is an RN was set up with a Frum young man in her law school by a female Jewish professor who has taught both of them, though they had not been in the same class together. The professor had got to know both students well and made a great suggestion, They have been married a few years, both work in my firm and they have given us 2 lovely grandchildren so far.
Mrs. CTL and I were introduced by our mothers who knew each other well. It’s almost 50 years marriage for us. Both mothers knew we’d be college and profession types and had similar interests.
Over the decades, Mrs. CTL has invited young adults to our home for Shabbos and Yuntif to give them a chance to meet and mix. Sometimes, one of them will find that another isn’t for them, but might be perfect for a specific friend, the connection is made and there have been a number of marriages resulting.
My negative view of most shadchanim is that they do not really know the young adults. It is not like it was 50 or more years ago when one was likely to be fixed up with someone in your own community, shul, or relatives
I always told my sons to choose a nice restaurant that they liked for a first date. That way if the date was someone not worth seeing again, at least they had a meal they enjoyed for my money.
My eldest grandson will start dating in the next couple of years and Zaidy will offer the same advice (and pay for the meals).
I think a young lady should be proud to be seen at a fine restaurant with a date, why hide the fact you are seeking a life partner?
That said, the boy should communicate in advance where the couple will be going on the date. The young lady should know how to dress. Dress shoes for a restaurant are different than walking shoes for a stroll in the park.
@Redleg
Had Congress not raised the Social Security reserve funds for decades, they would have been earning interest to pay benefits.
In a Ponzi scheme, the capital never is invested, it is immediately paid out to early investors and the originator skims the bulk of the money.
For decades Social Security was solvent, then Congress misappropriated the capital. Congress also did not make sure the matching governmental contribution was made for each employee, thus causing the problem.A Ponzi scheme is set up to defraud investors. Social Security was set up as mandatory retirement (and later disability) insurance. Congress defrauded the participants later on, but that was not the intent under the New Deal.
NO,
The key word that sinks your comparison is investors.
Social Security is a tax plan, Participants are taxpayers, not investors.
Tax contributions are matched by private sector employers and supposedly the government.Participation in a Ponzi scheme is voluntary, participation in Social Security is mandatory,
@Listenandthink
“There is no such thing as a conservative or reform “shul”….they are only referred to as “temples”You are showing your ignorance, bias or a victim of self reference criteria reasoning.
‘Shul’ is a Yiddish word, not everyone speaks or uses Yiddish.Temple is an English word.
My parents grew up in NYC. If they heard/read the word Temple associated with a synagogue name they assumed it was Reform, not Conservative.
In 1950 they moved to New England. In the Boston area many Orthodox synagogues has Temple as part of their name.
Typically Conservative and Orthodox synagogues here in CT use the word Congregation followed by a Hebrew word or two.
The oldest synagogue in NYC is Congregation Shearith Israel which is Orthodox, also Sephardic so the word shul does not apply.
I have been a member and/or president of 5 Orthodox synagogues in my adult life. One had 4 Hebrew words followed by the word Synagogue as its name. The other 4 were named Congregation XXXXX XXXXX.
There are Conservative synagogues I am aware of in New England that often the use the name Temple XXXXX, Some are old congregations (more than 100 years) that started as Orthodox and changed to Conservative in the mid 20th Century. An example is Temple B’Nai Abraham in Meriden, CT.Please don’t label Jews and their synagogues based on your limited knowledge or how it is done in your neighborhood
ADHD is commonly diagnosed so that schools will receive state special education funds.
@ZD
I am dead set against them, But in the USA School vouchers are the answer to the problem.
Low income frum families with many children cannot afford to pay sufficient tuition to run the schools.Why am I against school vouchers?
#1 I don’t believe in tax dollars funding private institutions
#2 Separation of church and state
#3 Remember the uproar when NYS attempted to set standards and requirements in yeshiva teaching? If yeshivas and day schools take government money (vouchers) regulations and requirements will rear their heads@NevilleChaimBerlin
I don’t know why you tagged me in your post of May 20 2:18PM….
I had not posted in this thread. Perhaps you meant to tag CT Rebbe@5ish
Thank you for the explanation.
This system was not used in any of the institutions our children or grandchildren attended/attend.
#1 it is none of the classroom teacher’s business to know which children have parents who owed money
#2 at the end of the school year, the scholarship committee and the administrator would have a meeting and go over the amounts still owing (without names revealed). If there was enough funds in the scholarship savings account, money would be transferred to the operating budget to clear all balances.
#3 The HEAVY HITTERS would be asked to cover the debt, so every family started the year fresh after summer break.
It’s different ins small communities OOT. Lots of non-frum Jews support the yeshivas/day schools along with all the other Jewish institutions in town.As someone whose children have been out of yeshiva for decades and handled tuition by just write check….
Please explain what an admission card is, and why it might be stealing?
ThanksMy question is how much would it take to get me to pack up my family and move IT?
More than anyone could offer.
My parents left NYC for New Haven in 1950. Dozens of shuls, bakeries, butchers, Yeshivas, day school, Mikveh, affordable single family homes with land and business opportunities.
I left for Fairfield County decades ago. Not as many choices, but I can be in NYC in 90 minutes. That’s close enough for me.
With on line and phone shopping, I seldom come into the city, just for simchas, special occasions or to visit the family cemetery@Millhouse
we weren’t talking about Germans in Frankfurt understanding Yiddish, we were talking about Swiss in 1970
Stop trying to start arguments about nothingYou had nothing to add to my post and trying to prove others wrong by changing facts and situations is obnoxious.
In the future please scroll on by my posts as I shall do with anything you write@Millhouse
If you read my post, my sister attended seminary in Switzerland about 50 years ago. This has nothing to do with the standard German being taught in Swiss schools nowadays (your terminology).
My great Grandmother spoke and taught us High German, our family came from Bavaria. This German is much closer to the Suisserdeutsch than the low German of the north.Frankfurt does not speak High German. I have been to Germany many times on business, but speak, read and write German so had no problem communicating, same with Austria. I went pursuing reparations claims for relatives and clients. Otherwise I have no desire to set foot in those lands,
I first went to Switzerland about 50 years ago. In Zurich and the north I spoke German, In Geneva I spoke French and in Lugano I spoke Italian. I did not use Yiddish or English.
My father Z”L was fluent in 18 languages and made sure we learned at least 6 or 7.
Currently I am attempting to learn Mandarin Chinese, but am making slow progress@Joseph
“Yiddish is the language of Ashkenazic Jewry.”
Wrong……………….
Yiddish WAS the common language linking much of Ashkenazic Jewry.
BUT it wasn’t the language of my maternal German forebears. My Oma always referred to Yiddish as a gutter language.
It wasn’t the language of much of Hungarian Jewry
My Litvish great grandparents and great great grandparents spoke Polish, Russian, Lithuanian and Yiddish.
My paternal grandparents born in NYC in the 1890s did not speak Yiddish. My father A”H born in Brooklyn 100 years ago and myself born in CT more than 65 years ago only learned Yiddish for business reasons. My siblings some as old as 75 do not speak Yiddish.“There are those who speak Yiddish that don’t know English well (or even at all.)”
If they live in the USA, it’s about time they learn to read, write and speak English. That sentiment does not apply just to Hispanics (as the right wing complains).“Yiddish is a unifying language for Jews from different countries and national languages (i.e. English, French, Ivrit, German, etc.)”
A completely meaningless point for an AMERICAN event. and as I’ve stated many times it is NOT a unifying language for German Jews. OMA never felt unified with the ‘peasants from the east’ who could not speak ‘real German’
My 70 year old sister went to seminary in Switzerland in the 1960s. Those girls who spoke Yiddish had a very hard time dealing with the locals, shopping, using transportation, banks, post office, etc. She learned German from our Great Grandmother and had no problem.
I learned Litvish Yiddish, I haven’t got a clue what most Galitzianers are saying when speaking Yiddish, especially when they substitute the P sound for B.My forbears chose to leave Europe for America 150 years ago. Our unity with fellow Jews was belief and practice, not Yiddish.
If you want to attend an event that has almost all speeches in Yiddish, fine, I would not enjoy it. I’d mail my contribution and not attend
@Akuperma
Law schools don’t usually offer Financial aid, they help arrange loans. This is quite different from undergrad or masters programs that have fellowships or teaching assistant positions to help with the cost. Maybe a law student could get a part time job in the law library, few and far between.@lakewhut
Please don’t put words in my mouth.
The OP is asking about Law School Admissions, and who you know will not generally get you admitted. That said, your name, such as Kennedy, Rockefeller, Bush might move you up on the list. Legacy admissions are far more prevalent in undergraduate admissions that professional school.I spoke about who you know aiding in bring in clients to the firm.
OP says he wants to practice corporate law, he would not generally be involved in bringing clients.Unlike most jobs, what you know is determined by the licensing exam (Bar Exam).
If you pass, you are qualified to start working, much of what you’ll do has to be learned on the job, it isn’t taught in law school.For example, I teach as an adjunct at a law school in Massachusetts. They have a completely different court system than CT. Civil suits less than xxx dollars and criminal cases with penalties less than one year in jail are in District Court. Bigger cases are in Superior Court. CT has no District Courts, everything starts at the Superior Ct level. A new lawyer coming out of Harvard Law working in CT would have to learn our court system and filing requirements. The CTL firm is in the Family Law, Wills, Trusts and Estates Business, In CT Divorces are part of Superior Court business, In Mass they are part of Probate Court.
I’m also licensed in NY. Your basic trial court is called Supreme Court, in 40+ other states, that’s the name of the highest Appellate Court. You have Surrogate’s Court, similar but not the same as Probate Court in other states.
Most small firms don’t want to bear the expense of a new associate having to learn how it works in the firms’ state, sop will look for graduates of state law schools, or those who have interned in the state. Easy in NY, but CT only has three Law schools: Yale, UCONN, and Quinnipiac, so most applicants come from out of state schools. Our firm has work in MA, CT, NY and FL so I look for associates who are admitted to those Bars first.I currently have 2 application from graduates of UMICH who are following spouses going to Medical School at Yale. Impressive resumes, but training cost is too high, knowing they’ll leave withing 3 years when spouse gets an intern match out of state, so I’ll probably hire local grads for the two opening I have this year.
@Lyha951
It doesn’t seem worthwile to attend Law School unless it’s NYU or Columbia???????????????????
Really???????????????????????Yale #1
Stanford #2
Harvard #3
University of Chicago #4
Columbia #5
NYU #6
Pennsylvania #7
UVA #8
UMICH #9
Duke #10I wouldn’t count on getting into most of these with a BTL, although it has been done occasionally.
NYU get a real degree
NY Law, BTL should be fine.Bigger question???
Where are you going to practice? For a white shoe goyische firm or Wall Street firm? They’ll want a real college diploma hanging on your office wall besides your JD and Bar Certificate
Some small private firm that does wills, estates, personal injury and real estate closings…they won’t care
Government it doesn’t matter.I and all my children and their spouses are products of Ivy League universities and law schools. and YES, the old boy (and now girl) network does help land business. Many a trust client has found us by looking in the alumni directory for a Penn, Harvard or Yale Alum practicing in our area.
If you are not looking to attend a top tier law school, it doesn’t really matter what undergraduate degree you get and who issues it as long as the institution is accredited. Your LSAT and possibly an interview will make the entrance decision.
Currently, there are loads of empty seats at American non-top tier law schools. Being an attorney is not what it used to be in terms of income, advancement, etc. It has changed drastically in the past 30 years.I have hired associates who have BTLs, pre-law degrees (whatever that really means) and a BS in IT. I am more interested in where they attended law school, where they interned, what courses they took in law school (and grades earned) AND that they have passed the state Bar Exam. Except for my children and spouses, I do not hire anyone who has not passed the Bar Exam and is licensed.
If you expect to earn a paycheck while studying for the Bar Exam and learning on the job, best bet is to start with a government agency (DA, etc) who uses tax dollars to underwrite your cost,Joseph has posted in the past that he is employed by the New York City Public School System.
In the US, government regulations (USDA) will not allow the Milk labeling of non-dairy chocolate.
There are also state Consumer Protection and Truth in Advertising rules/regulations.laws that apply in some jurisdictions@5ish
You are confusing slander and defamation
Slander is oral and may be defamatory
Libel is slander that is reduced to writing and spread (published) to at least one other by almost any means and also may be defamatory in nature.Truth is a defense to both charges.
There is a stricter standard for proving defamation to public figures, there must be a malicious intent to cause harm.Haven’t taught Tort law in 25 years, but you posted a common misconception most incoming first year students have/had.
CTL’s biggest legal definition pet peeve:
Virtually all contracts are verbal, some are oral, some are written.
Example of the rare non-verbal contract: Auctioneer asks who who’ll bid and a paddle or hand is raised. That non-verbal agreement forms a contract,NO….
In CT and MA Big Y supermarket chain removed all self checkouts 4 years ago.
I will not use a self-checkout if the store also has cashiers. I will not help the store eliminate jobs and they do not give me a discount for doing their labor.The closest gas station to my home (s blocks) is FULL service. It is consistently the same price at self serve stations in the neighborhood. We use the full service gas.
@Lucy
Trying to spin doesn’t change the facts. I called you out on your inaccuracy.
The Republicans, a new party, having won their first National election in Nov 1860, showed their true colors and have acted that way since.@Ubiquitin
The document in this case is Lakewhut’s post
I can only reply to his written words, what he thinks or meant to post is not evident@Lucy
WRONG, time to go back to 11th grade US History class and pay attention this time.
Andrew Johnson of Tennessee was elected VP with Republican Abraham Lincoln in Nov 1860. Johnson, a Democrat was a Senator and did not resign his position when Tennessee left the Union and joined Confederacy.
After Lincoln’s assassination and becoming President, Johnson became the full time target of the Republican Congress.
He was impeached by the House and survived the trial in the Senate by one vote.@Coffeeaddict
I was referring to Buttigieg. His 15 minutes of fame is with the media, not the party faithful. He will have flamed out by the end of superTuesday.
The NY mayor is not even getting 15 minutes of fame. he is maneuvering for a shot at the VP slot or cabinet position, in exchange for the few delegates he might accumulate@Coffeeaddict
It is my belief that Senator G and Mayor B have no traction and no chance of being nominated. In 2016 both parties ran NY residents and it didn’t work well. I don’t expect a repeat of white male NY Republican being opposed by a white female NY Democrat in 2020.@lakewhut
Stop posting inaccuracies and I’ll stop calling you out. Lawyers make their living by exposing inaccuracies and failure to follow the written words of laws and contracts. . It doesn’t matter what you meant to say you are bound by what is contained in the four corners of the document.@klugeryid
President Obama was President. That is the reality. If Lakewhut had written that if Mr. Obama had been Prime Minister in a parliamentary system I would not have called him out.The first two debates are limited to 10 candidates each
According to the DNC rules, candidates can qualify for the first two debates by either:Receiving at least 1 percent support in three DNC-approved polls. Those could be in early state polls — Iowa, New Hampshire, South Carolina or Nevada — or in national polls between the beginning of January 2019 and the two-week mark before the first debate (a candidate could fall short but then qualify for the second debate if they meet the polling threshold two weeks before the July debate).
Receiving donations from at least 65,000 unique donors with a minimum of 200 donors in at least 20 different states.
Each debate will include no more than 10 candidates, chosen at random from the pool of those who qualify. Should more than 20 total candidates qualify, preference will be given to those who meet both criteria for polling and donations.Rules have not been set for any debates after the first two.
I spoke to a DNC member at our town’s Memorial Day ceremonies. She told me that no more than 16 are likely to qualify for the debates based on current polls and fundraising activity. By the time additional debates come along a half dozen of the 23 will likely have dropped out of the race due to lack of interest or funds.Today, I received an email from the Female US Sentator from NY asking for contributions from all registered Democrats in my family, as she has not met the polling criteria or fundraising minimums to qualify for the debates.
I hit the delete button.@lakewhut
WRONG as usual.
In countries with both a President and a Parliament, it is the Prime Minister who can lose the office if the governing party doesn’t survive a no confidence vote. The President serves a set term and election for that office is not concurrent with Parliamentary elections.
If the shul always runs out of hot water, having an urn that can only serve half of those present it is time for a member to step up and buy a second urn.
But, then what would you complain about?@Joseph my favorite troll
#1 This poll was for Democrats, I don’t know why you and inserted your selves here uninvited, you are like a crasher at a kiddush#2 I never used the word Florida. Bush lost the nationwide popular vote. The court decision gave him an Electoral College victory. Why try to argue with facts?
@Participant
I said punish Blue States, I did not say punish Democrats (don’t put words in my mouth),Mass, CT, NY, NJ, CA are loaded with people who pay more than 10K annually in property tax and state income and sales taxes who are adversely affected by the new tax laws. The changes increased the CTL family tax bill by more than 25K for 2018
CA is suing for already allocated rail funds Trump has withheld
@AviK
If Trump is still in office and runs for reelection I predict another close election. There country is very evenly divided going back to the 2000 Bush Gore election. With Bush losing popular vote and the court giving him an electoral college victory.
Trump will lose the Blue states no matter who is the Democrat candidate. Blue state voters are fed up with his retribution for their votes in 2016. Starting with an income tax plan made to punish us. Reneging on already allocated federal funds, etc.I attended a Dem State Central committee meeting yesterday and there is an agreement among the members to not participate in any campaigning for primary candidates based on digging up dirt from the distant past, We have agreed as a whole to push the attributes of candidates. The opposing part will be the mudslingers. Wish this was the case in all states.
Thank you Joseph…………….
after three years of Mrs. CTL’s illnesses and surgeries, B”H she is on the mend and I am dealing with my own deferred health issues.
Hand surgery completed last week
I see the ankle/foot surgeon tomorrow
Opthamologist Tuesday for cataract consult
Internist Friday……………………………………..
Putting Medicare premiums to work@Coffeeaddict
4 years ago (IIRC) there were only 16 seeking the Republican nomination@Joseph
the current NYC mayor has no real national or international experience
We are currently suffering with a President who hails from NYC, not interested in another one
The Dems need a candidate who is more geographically acceptable than NY/NE/NJ
Guess that eliminates, DeBlasio, Sanders, Warren, Booker…….
I think Buttegig and O’Rorke are too youngExcuse typos and spelling please. My hands are not working well today, had hand surgery on Weds and still healing
@coffeeaddict
I posted ask me again when it’s actually primary season. I am not bothering investigating all 23 because I don’t expect to have to choose between them on primary day in CT.
I would not vote for DiBlasio, Harris, O’Rourke. I can’t even name all 23 off the top of my head.