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Perhaps you can do a milchig stand-up Kiddush after davening for about $25/pp in Flatbush but thats NOT the frame of reference in the original question which implied the family was doing a full seated meal with music, photographer and simcha hall rental…. get real. They are not doing some quickie Kiddush catered by the Sisterhood or fish platters from some local takeout place (hopefully not sushi from Jin in Passaic)
We have been fortunate in our lifetimes to have had some of the greatest gadolei yisroel in generations share with us their daas torah and ahavas yisroel to an extent I cannot imagine was exceed in any prior generation. We still suffer from a level of sinas chinam that some would say is the biggest obstacle to z’man morishiach but its hard to imagine from a spiritual perspective we are on a downward trendline. Some will invoke the internet as the biggest contributor to moral decline but over the long term, I think this will be shown to have resulted in greater access to torah knowledge than any other single development in our history.January 17, 2018 1:11 pm at 1:11 pm in reply to: May a lawyer publicly state that his client is crazy? #1451545
Not a simple yes/no question. An attorney may claim mental impairment, illness etc. consistent with advocacy on behalf of his client to the extent it would be exculpatory under the charges brought by the prosecutor or mitigate the charges or in sentencing. The procedural rules and ethical obligations of counsel are governed by the applicable federal or state laws in the proceeding, local bar rules, the circumstances in which he/she has assumed the representation (e.g. retained by the client, court appointment etc).
The “gashmisus versus ruchnius’ battle goes on virtually non-stop since every decision about “how much is too much” triggers a question of whether at the margin, additional expenditures don’t contribute to hidur mitzvah but rather are focused on “hidur those who are the simcha machers” (aka showing up in shul with a Calabrian esrog that cost several hundred dollars in a sterling silver box). There is no bright line test in terms of $$/person spent on a bar mitzvah any more so than having a chassidus charter a commercial jet to shlep over several hundred chassidim to join a rav at some simcha or on his vacation or advertising a “heimeshe peisach” at some incredibly expensive Florida hotel for a cost of $5,000 per family member. Its what you can afford and what makes you happy. Every dollar you spend for a simcha celebration beyond the minimum required to be yotzeh the mitzvah, at the margin, could feed some poor family or help some yesomim. But that’s not life.January 17, 2018 9:45 am at 9:45 am in reply to: Kallah Taking Chosson’s Last Name Upon Marriage- Jewish or Gentile? #1451384
Obvious: POTUSJanuary 16, 2018 9:29 pm at 9:29 pm in reply to: Kallah Taking Chosson’s Last Name Upon Marriage- Jewish or Gentile? #1451295
There is a growing trend today, even among frum families, for the woman to retain her name or use a hyphenated name, especially among women who pursue both families and a professional career. As another poster noted, there is NOTHING in hallacha that mandates adopting a husband’s name, even though that is the norm today among both yidden and goyim.January 16, 2018 9:29 pm at 9:29 pm in reply to: Choson & Kallah Walking Together Into Wedding Hall – Jewish or Gentile? #1451293
Actually, the name of the shevet was Shevet Joseph, not Shevet Yosef….after a lengthy review of CR postings here on YWN, the Ebeshter realized that it would be easier to just go with Joseph rather than suffering through 327 postings under 14 different aliases as to why Yosef had all sorts of negative implications (e.g. his initial treamtment of his brother when they arrived im mitzrayim)January 15, 2018 10:55 am at 10:55 am in reply to: Saying L’shana Haba’ah B’Yerushalayim in Eretz Yisroel #1449493
To Winnie: probably the former…unless you happen to be wishing it to some guy in chassidish lvush on Eastern Parkway waving a yellow flag and humming a new nigun for “Yechi”
Thanks Winnie….sounds like there is much to be learned from EY, if our politicians have the desire to really do something which will require bot $$ and political capital. There has been a fear that anyone who talks realistically about civil preparedness is a acknowledging the increased likelihood of attack which, in turn, has mega political consequences. The Repubs are afraid that such discussion will implicitly be viewed as saying the Trumpkopf has brought us closer to nuclear war. The Dems just want to stick their heads in the sand and sing kumbayah with the Iranians and North Koreans.January 15, 2018 9:53 am at 9:53 am in reply to: Choson & Kallah Walking Together Into Wedding Hall – Jewish or Gentile? #1449452
Chazal bring down that it was dor ha’midbar that first started the minhag of renting simcha halls and having the Lipa Shmetzer of their generation perform at chassanas……Just about every generation of yidden has put its spin on the conduct of simchas and added to the minhagim which evolve over time. There is no “right” or “wrong” way for the chassn/kallah to arrive at the simcha hall….in India they arrive on an Elephant (not sure about yidden in India)….here in the NYC area, they may arrive in an Oddessy or SUV (if the kallah is wearing her hair up) but may have to walk the last block or two because all of the cars double and triple parked in front of the simcha hall.January 15, 2018 2:41 am at 2:41 am in reply to: Is the Meningitis vaccination required for boys living in Yeshiva dorms? #1449324
” …..Presumably this is not such an issue in a Yeshiva Dorm…”
Hopefully you are correct but as a purely public health matter, the CDC strongly encourages the vaccination as do most state heath departments. There also are studies indicating transmission vectors via non-sexual but still “close” physical contacts which may very well be a concern in a yeshiva dorm where the bochurim “horse around” and engage in the same types of physical interactions as in any dorm. Also, there are very few side effects from meningococcal conjugate vaccine used to protect against bacterial meningitis. To my knowledge, there is no vaccine against the viral form of the disease.
more focused on the SPF rating on their sunblock than my knitting afghans…BTW, are yidden allowed to use an afghan if it is shatnes?January 14, 2018 7:43 pm at 7:43 pm in reply to: Saying L’shana Haba’ah B’Yerushalayim in Eretz Yisroel #1449270
Perhaps say it with the understanding that you are wishing the other person will continue to have the z’chus to live in Yerushalayiim next year and the year after etc… also wish that the next year there will be less conflict and more tolerance of the multiple communities living in the City, each with different political and religious perspectives.
Binyamin….please don’t be so funny….I almost fell out of my rocking chair. You also misspelled “ameratzus”. On a more serious note, if you profile the names of many chazal over the centuries, you will discover that there are names that have as much nexus to torah as Gali, Ayit, Suki or any of the other dozen or so most popular names today in EY. If you are more comfortable with 12 variations on the avos and imahos, each ending in “LE” , that go for it. Mi kamocha yirsroel (or is that mi kamacha Yisroeleh?)
When I did my regional planning degree (at the Univ of Pennsylvania) back before the Civil War (or so it feels) the only recognized degrees were either MRP or MCP.. The new MURP degrees now offered by many universities are slightly much more focused on social issues and inner city economic development but its all labeling and marketing. If you go o the PAB website they list the degrees offered by over 200 public and private universities and the names of the degrees vary. You have to go to the individual schools’ website and read about their program focus. Most importantly, see if you can find some alumni in your city or area or ask for some email contacts from their alumni office. That will give you a much better idea of what kinds of jobs their graduates have actually pursued.
Much hatzlacha in whatever path you take.
Talking about apples and oranges….depends on your income, local minhagim (invite everyone in the shul for the luncheon or just to a “Kiddush” with lunch reserved for the family/friends, whether lunch is table service or buffet etc. For a formal lunch, the $30K estimate is not unreasonable for upscale kosher caterer with large family/friends invited. Obviously, the norm is much lower in NYC area…typical $7000-$10,000 max for buffet lunch in shul verus renting a simcha hall nearby.
Seeing yngerleit and even some of their rabbonim engaging in the disgust habit of smoking right outside of the doors of the yeshiva/beis medrash is a much greater chilul hashem than cannabis. The selective morality (aka getting drunk on purim is OK) is contradicted by the efforts in recent years to limit or eliminate excess drinking by most roshei yeshivos and askanim affiliated with various mosdos.
Uncle Benny…we agree….I might even consider Binyamin for my new pet parakeet
Stop trying to create Halacha where none exists…..naming children goes by the minhagim of the family…there is NO strict limits as all the above postings have noted that many well known rabbonim and askanim have names derived from other languages or are variations of goiyeshe names or modern ivrit. Unless we restrict names to those of men and women mentioned in torah and neveeim,, there is no significance to a “Zissel” than to Gal or Raffi
Daas Yachid says…”Any comparison to kiddush wine, a glass of wine with dinner, or even drunkenness on Purim and Simchas Torah, is so ridiculous as to make the motivation for the argument completely transparent”
Sorry, but on one said having a glass of wine for Kiddush or dinner should be assur (unless you don’t know what the word “moderation” means and if so, you have other issues. When you day there is no comparison between getting high on week and getting drunk on wine (“drunk” means beyond “moderation”), tell that to the parents of yungerleit killed by drunken drivers on Purim (or year round)….the number of traffic deaths attributed to cannabis (according to data from the CDC) is less than 1 percent (.003%) of those attributed to alcohol.
One really amazing outcome of a Goral ha/Gra was posted here in the CR about 7 years ago:
One dramatic instance of the use of the Gra Goral was in the identification of the bodies of 12 members of the Lamed Heh (the Convoy of 35, with the Hebrew letters lamed and heh being equivalent to the numbers 30 and 5, respectively ). The 35 fighters, members of the Haganah pre-state militia, were killed in January 1948, during the War of Independence, at the foot of the Arab village of Tzurif, during their attempt to reach the Etzion Bloc of Jewish settlements, south of Jerusalem. The bodies of the fighters were mutilated by the Arab attackers who killed them, and only in 1951 were the corpses gathered. By that time, it was possible to identify only 23 of the bodies conclusively.
The chief rabbi of Jerusalem at the time, Tzvi Pesach Frank, ruled that the identification of the remaining bodies would be determined by the Gra lottery, and the task was assigned to the revered Jerusalem sage Rabbi Aryeh Levin.
The identification took place in Levin’s beit midrash, in the presence of representatives of the bereaved parents. Twelve candles were lit, the Bible was opened at random seven times and Rabbi Levin ruled that as they stood in front of the remains of each of the fallen fighters, the last verse on the page had to include the name, or an allusion to the name, of each of those whom they were trying to identify. “How amazed everyone was when one of the verses that first appeared was ‘The earth is the Lord’s, and the fullness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein,’ a verse that [in Hebrew] begins with the word ‘to the Lord,’” which is abbreviated in Hebrew with the initials lamed-heh. “Moreover, to everyone’s amazement, every page spoke unequivocally. In the first verse they reached there was a specific name that clearly identified one of the fallen … One after the other … the identity of the fallen was determined.” (Quoted in “A Tzaddik in Our Time: The Life of Rabbi Aryeh Levin,” by Simcha Raz, who also provides the official minutes of the lottery. ) While a lottery was often used for private matters, here the lottery was conducted for the purpose of a decision of great public significance.”
Several posters note that canabis (in moderation) is no more dangerous than alcohol (in moderation) and probably less dangerous than tobaco. Why don’t we seriously consider assuring both alcohol and tobacco.
So we have one Rav who had respect in many segments of the tzibur and was regarded as a posek tell us its OK to daven on behalf of the government and soldiers (most of whom are goyim). Is the issue that we are doing this on our own rather than in response to a “request for prayer” by the goyim. If the Trumpkopf was to ask the nation to “pray for our soldiers” would Joe start a new thread warning us NOT to do so since it violates Halacha?
Hey Joe….I forgot to give you my “blessings” for a successful 2018….not sure what are the top 10 New Years’ resolutions for trolls but hopefully your Streimlach hanging over the fireplace was filedl to the brim with seforim on Secrets of a Successful Troll etc.
To others, speculating on Joe’s different screen names, don’t waste your efforts. If the theme of the posting is a xenophobic and myscogenistic rant cloaked in distorted citations to chazal or some meforshim, you probably have the right guy.
In any event, most of us don’t walk around giving “blessings” to anyone, yiddin or goyim. If a goy you work with sneezes, its OK to say “god bless you” if that is the norm in your culture. If a goy is sick, its ok to wish him/her a speedy recovery. Not sure what a blessing is but generally, you might draw the line on saying “I’m going to shul to daven on your behalf” although even that might be mutar if the outcome will be to create good will for you, your family or the yiddeshe tzibur in general.
“….We should not be seen to make any criticism of [Trump] at all. Particularly as the President is known to be a sensitive type. (which is a fact not a criticism. I am also sensitive…”
Well since your are sensitive, I won’t say that is one of the dumbest suggestions I think we have read here …I first thought you were engaging in some sarcasm or satire but then I realized you might be serious. We should always respond positively and show hakoras ha’tov when our elected leaders take actions that we support but should not remain silent in the face of actions we oppose, weather in relation to religious or secular matters. Too many American yidden sat on their hands in the late 1930s right through the end of WWII while the American president refused to take action which would have saved tens of thousand of yiddeshe lives. Trump’s presidency so far has been a very mixed outcome and to feel we have to forego our voice for one instance of reversing an unjust sentence, reminder that the other case of a Presidential pardon was for a racist sheriff in Arizona who was condemned by most of those supporting SMR’s release.
Roughly the same point made above by several posters with respect to surface accumulations of treifus which may or may not be easily cleaned. I have a feeling that there also may have been an issue as between the earlier microwaves which had interior plastic surfaces versus the steel and ceramic coatings used today (although plastic is still used a lot in the cheaper units..)
?The interior surface of the microwave over time gets greasy, such as a pot of greasy meat and so on, but such as our cooking, which is consists mainly of [boiling] water, [cooking potatoes or pancakes, with meat in it….etc……
As others have said repeatedly, there is NO ban or limit on romaine or any other food. They have said it could be among the causes but it will take more time to determine if all of those taken ill have ingested romaine in roughly the same time period. In the interim , wash your lettuce and enjoy.
Just because some Rav was named Zissel, it doesn’t make it any more appropriate “name” than some modern Hebrew names that R’ Kanievsky thought weren’t sufficiently “Jewish”. What is “Jewish” about adopting some Yiddish name derived from Old German etc. If we want to be machmir on naming children with only “Jewish” names than one should only use a name that appears in the Torah or the Neviim.
Gordie: …….naming a boy “Zissel” i(aka “sweeties) is borderline child abuse…perhaps consider “schlissel” which lends itself to more masculine connotations
For many of us who interact daily with goyim in a business environment, its generally not appropriate to engage them on religious beliefs. It some circumstances, under state and federal law, it could be view as contributing to a hostile work environment (i.e. there is a fine line between sharing factual information in response to a question versus engaging in evangelical behavior). Likewise, generally not a good idea to push sheva mitzvos discussions with goyim you don’t really know and haven’t inquired about Jewish beliefs in re “gentiles’.January 3, 2018 1:16 am at 1:16 am in reply to: Must a Shul Select Only Someone Who Is Married To Be Chazan? #1441458
Obviously there is no halacha requiring a marrid chazan even on the yamim noraim. At the same time there are lits of chazal, who bring down a preference for a married chazon, other factors being equal. The recent ad here to the right side of the page by a Eruopean shul seeking a “married chazana’ triggerd the thtread, not any “agenda”. Also unmentioned is the fact that an unmarried chazan would have more time to focus on the shul, provide intruction for bar mitzvah preparation for the younger kids, etc.
I found it an interesting experience and one of contrasts. They clearly ar focused on reinforcing the linkages between modern Christian belief and its roots in what they call the Old Testament. They have collected moe Judaica tha I’ve seen anywhere in the world other than the Hebrew Museum in EY. Literally dozens of sifrei troah (some hundreds of years old) from all over the world (and a frum sofer from EY writing a new sefer real time as part of the Exhbiti) . If your able to deal with it, the goyishe parts fo the museum are interesting but nothing really new (skip the animated exhibits and videos). If you call in advance, they can arrange for prepackaged kosher lunches with hashgacha from a local vaad tht are served in huge cafteria. (there is also a kosher foodtruck parked on the nearby mall a few days a week). Allow about 2–3 hours mimimum (if you intend to skoip over the goyeshe exhibits. Also, come later in the day when the christian school groups have generally fiished their guided tours. Skp the evening musical performance in the theatere., Its only about 5 or 6 bloks south of the Smithsonin Air and Space museum (just off the Mall). Definitiely worth the trip even for frum yidden. They clearly have us in min.
While the leadership of the frum tizbur is dancing around and offering barachos to the President for releasing Sholom Mordechai, the Trumpkopf himself continues his mindless taunting of North Korea as a pretext to launch an attack, threatens the integrity of our criminal justice system, and ammounces a contest to deligitimize the news media (and that was only this morning). The total obcession with one individual’s freedom (which was long overdue) has blinded us to the non-stop downward spiral playing out in the WH>January 2, 2018 3:47 pm at 3:47 pm in reply to: Must a Shul Select Only Someone Who Is Married To Be Chazan? #1441178
“You find many more married talmidei chachamim than unmarried talmidei chachamim”
Obviously as a numbers matter, given that such a large percentage of the male segment of the tzibur is married.. However, there are many fine young chazzonim who have not yet met their besschert so no reason to exclude them other then the preferences of the particular shul (just as the are more likely to prefer a married Rav). Its funny that l’havdil among the reform congregations that have gay clergy, there was a recent brogias because in one publicized case, the lay leadership wanted a “rav” in a committed relationship. Marriage (however defined) seems to be the preferred state of affairs.
Even if the 1000 years shelf life of cherem R’G were up in 5778, does anyone really believe Yidden living in North America, or EY would start taking multiple wives, unless, of course, if we had a kol koreh from all the leading Gadolim authorizing polygamy as a means of addressing the shiduch crisis.
So the obvious question is why Rav Gershon or some other gadol over the centuries did not provide some equivalent (aka heter shava maohs rabonim) alternative for extreme cases where the husband refuses to provide a get to his wife?? And the obvious answer is…??January 1, 2018 10:05 pm at 10:05 pm in reply to: Must a Shul Select Only Someone Who Is Married To Be Chazan? #1440779
To Honda 613….My Yiddish-English dictionary had no listing for “gifeelechtz” but I assume it means something like “with great emotion and kavanah”. I would agree with you entirely that logically, there is no logical nexus between a yid being married and having the requisite attributes for being a chazzan (in terms of his yiddishkeit, lamdus, etc).
As to the banner ad I noticed posted on the right side of the page, the ad simply said it was for “a European Shul” and presumably a full time position but it did not mention the name of the country or city where the shul was located.
P.S. I personally prefer a chazzan who has the ability to invoke emotions with the old-time nigunnim and a modest degree of chazanus but who can also articualte the ivrit so it is intelligible, I’m not a big fan of every other teffilah having to be rearranged into a shlomo karlbach nigun….Chazan YM Helfgott is someone whom I have had the privilege to hear many times and meets that standard for me along with Yanky Lemer (both at MO shuls) but I’m certain others have their own preferences.
“Its mostly common when it affects a rebbeshe or rosh yeshiva family…”
And the reason for this is….???? Are wives in “rebbeshe” families more reluctant to “refuse a get”?? Is a Rosh Yeshiva more likely to want to impose a get on his wife than a poihsete yid??
Does anyone here on YWN frequently encounter goyim at work, school or in social settings who come up to you an say they live their lives in accodance with the Shevah Mitvos B’nai Noach an have a question as to how mitvah A or B might apply and whether they should consult a Rav or Posek?? I’m sure there are some but not in my experience.December 31, 2017 6:27 am at 6:27 am in reply to: Keeping Mental Illness A Secret In Shidduchim🤕 🤒🤐👰🤵 #1439618
What I find difficult is how it is possible for a couple to hide such illnesses from one another after dating for a reasonable period of time? Personality disorders maybe….serious mental illness and someone on medications seems unlikely. We have laws in many states requiring a homeowner to disclose if their basement has water problems; we have the ability to find out the source of every bump and dent on a used car on Carfax but for someone with whom we plan on spending the rest of our lives, their is no disclosure obligation for the family members??
If not Rav Moshe, Z’TL, how about the new Whatshisnamme Rebbe, the young “Rav” who was megayer by the Vaad of Queens and immediately started his own chassidus. He clearly has “leadership” aspirations.
Health…..yes, it does. ….that’s the greatness of the internetDecember 29, 2017 12:01 am at 12:01 am in reply to: New Details About Ger That Got Married And Is Now A Rebbe #1439146
To Take22Tango:…with respect to the “Hellbrander Rebbe”, did you make that up or is there really another such rebbe who anointed himself and convinced his wife he wasn’t ganz meshuge and over time they got a minyan of genuine “Hellbrander Chassidim”??
Well said…all of the rabbonim mentioned earlier in this thread have their own following and will continue to do so. On particular issues, one or another may emerge as the “leader” of the klal but as you note, that may be for purposes of a transient issue or a psak on a global emerging issue. If a Rav has to “claim” leadership, which as you say none have historically done, more likely than not he will be a leader without many followers.December 28, 2017 6:36 pm at 6:36 pm in reply to: New Details About Ger That Got Married And Is Now A Rebbe #1438958
They confirmed the geyrus, NOT the Chassidus….the Vaad of Queens doesn’t certify chassidus (nor to my knowledge does anyone). Any rebbele can anoint himself as the Rockaway Rebbe, have someone design a cool set of levush (how about feaux fur streimlach and a green bekeshe for the environmentally sensitive millennials), rent an old Starbucks location as his shteitel and hope someone shows up for davening (e.g. advertise free chulent for the local yungerleit).December 28, 2017 4:04 pm at 4:04 pm in reply to: New Details About Ger That Got Married And Is Now A Rebbe #1438925
A “chassidus” only requires one follower…unless Rebitzen Yisruel is a closet misnaged, I think he has the required quorum of ONE. If Joe is monitoring this thread, he might have a second so that he can be certain to have the requisite broigas among his chassidim.
“So the criteria for a Gadol now is whoever approves of Trump in English?”
Probably not since I’m not sure any chashuve Rav will “approve” of the Trumpkopf in English, Yiddish or Mandarin…..maybe an occasional nod of the Shtreimlach in his direction for a particular policy decision (e.g. designating Chulent as the National Comfort Food”) but there is any oxymoron about being a “gadol” and giving the Trumpkopf a blanket endorsement. in any language
And of course some folks just say things that are so stupid, everyone assumes they are “trolling”….
Alabama’s Secretary of State (who BTW said that actually voted for Moore) has said that NONE of the claims of fraud had any substance and that the State would proceed to certify Doug Jones as the new senator from Alabama at 1:00 PM today CST. He and other state leaders have acknowledged that Moore had become an embarrassment for the state and several have said they believe he has become delusional. (One of his election “experts” is best know for claiming that the CIA arranged for the JFK assassination based on “statistical analysis”). I’m sure this all upsets our resident Moore lover who started this thread but perhaps he can start a petition to get Moore’s trolling rights at local shopping centers restored now that he will have so much times on his hands.December 28, 2017 6:05 am at 6:05 am in reply to: New Details About Ger That Got Married And Is Now A Rebbe #1438515
No. 831: Meshulachim flying into JFK to raise funds for their phony Yeshiva
No. 830: Shteiging on Friday mornings in the beis medrash with a bunch of guys who were out late Thursday night at an all-you-can-eat Chulent-fest. …