just be yourself. and have a good reason for why you want to go to her sem/sem at all. bc it is almost guaranteed that that question will be asked at some pt.

stay in America.

what I mean by think is this: people who don’t just go with the flow, who actually think about what they are doing, work on themselves and don’t take things at face value.

“America is the Land of the Spree and the Home of the Crave.”

that one just came off the top of my head. I have better ones somewhere.

girls are very warm, broad range of family types, no pressure, sincere…

some teachers are connectable and some are not. its really up to you to initiate. you can initiate with whoever you want and I am sure they will reciprocate.

not too much textual work. some preparation work but not too intense.

schedule is reasonable. twice a week there are night classes, usually get out around 1:30.

and she partakes not in the bread of laziness

people, it is time to start being able to separate good and bad actions of people. Sometimes there is bad amongst good but that DOES NOT cancel out the good. there are thousands of people learning in BMG and regardless of anything else that may be going on there, we need torah learning and they are doing it. you see what is going on in Israel after the gedolim are niftar. this world needs Torah and every time there is great torah learning lost, we can see the effects. appreciate those that are learning because without them, this world would only continue to spiral downwards.

im not condoning bad actions. I am just saying that you cant turn a blind eye to the good of a person just because you disagree with some other aspect of their actions.

and also, look in the mirror. where is your animosity coming from? think about it

“afterteens,” as you call them are very different from high school girls. lumping them together is insulting. people’s perspective in life changes when their biggest worry moves from a math final/ chumash report/ social politics to making a living, finding a job and a spouse and living the right way without teachers guiding every step.

if publishers are so picky explain to me how so many of these books got through their radar?

yussel:jumping down peoples throats and widening the chasm btwn you and those who are more religious will be a good method of counteracting the achdus at the levaya of R’ Ovadia Yosef z”l

what gets me mad as when every sect of jew feels the need to put down those who are more religious and jump on every little detail that could possibly be misconstrued as close-mindedness, elitism….

everyone feels threatened by those who are doing more than them. but it doesn’t have to be taken out in such an immature way.

im afraid I don’t fit into any one of your categories shopping girl.

never even heard of it. cute name

during recess I went to ask the teacher who had recess duty if I could use the bathroom. I didn’t know the teacher and was rlly shy so I spoke very quietly. the teacher said “pardon?” and I hadn’t the haziest notion what that meant. so I just stood there and stood there dumbfounded and on the verge of tears. to this day I flinch when someone uses “pardon”.

I also remember telling the teacher every day that I felt like I needed to throw up so that she would let me go to the bathroom. maybe after my “pardon” encounter, I didn’t think just asking to go to the plain old bathroom was urgent enough. so I came up with what I thought was a definite emergency.

thinking back, the teacher probably thought I was a nut job at best, or a 6 year old bulimic at worse.

the pt of seminary is not to get hashkafa you wud be missing otherwise. if oyu think that you should definitely go to sem.

and tell me please at what point in dental school do they give the course on how to stuff your hands in a patient’s mouth at the precise moment you as them a question? it seems like every dentist aced that subject.

besalel- well done 🙂

who said you have to write your chosson letters? is that a rule? if writing is not your thing, express yourself in other ways.

“I believe the question is insane. Helping a Jew be Mechallel Shabbos has somehow been packaged in our warped, Americanized minds as being a Kiddush Hashem?!”

that’s because everyone is so busy trying to show how open minded and non- judgemental frum Jews are that they forget that there are standards.

totally. especially the Kiddush Hashem one. I work in a boy’s school and I see chillul Hashem on a daily basis. Then the kids go on a trip and some random goy (who was FOR SURE paid off) says how impressed he was by the kids behavior.

And I stand there scratching my head.

many times if someone isn’t looking at you or acknowledging you, it is because of an insecurity within themselves. maybe they are not sure of their place, are shy, afraid of strangers…. it could be anything.

basically, if a guy in a black hat wont look you in the eye, it may not be because he is standoffish and snobby. there are many reasons for the actions of people. sometimes you just need to be creative to come up with one that doesn’t automatically put someone in the wrong.

don’t be so quick to judge because im sure you don’t want others to judge you. 🙂

what exactly do they think you’re doing?

tips:

you are who you are and don’t let yourself be convinced otherwise. don’t change yourself for others. if you want to change, change for yourself. not because you want a shidduch.

you are going to get rejected at some point along the way. it stings bad. don’t let that ruin your self image. not everyone is for you.

laugh a lot. this stage can be frustrating, aggravating, demoralizing and emotionally draining. but you can always find something to laugh about.

did not realize when this thread was started. so now im not expecting an answer, but anyone out there can answer: why do you want to work in a kiruv camp?

funny how some people don’t know the difference between “their” and “they’re”