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Thanks for the Musar. Working on it.
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mobicoParticipantMichoel,
I am so sorry to hear that you are having such trouble and difficutly in Shidduchim. In my experience both working woth Baalei Teshuvah as well as in making Shidduchim, succesful Shidduchim as a rule take place between those of similar backgrounds. Perhaps there are Shadchanim who specialize in setting up Lubavitcher Baalei Teshuva? You may have an easier time finding a like minded woman through such a Shadchan.
mobicoParticipantBecause unlike those who are classified as non-Orthodox, those who identify as Zionist and Orthodox are Shomrei Torah and Mitzvos. We certainly have our differences, but when so many hate us and so many Jews are estranged, and we are still trying to rebuild the Beis ha’Mikdash which was destroyed due to Sinas Chinam, it as a rule would seem to behoove us to focus on the important things we share in common.
mobicoParticipantI would argue that extreme anxiety leads to attempts at conformity. A healthy awareness of who one is leads to being comfortable in expressing his individuality.
mobicoParticipantNo. If anything, extreme anxiety leads to attempt at conformity. Every person is an individual, and even in an insular society such as ours there is ample oppurtunity for individualism. Only those who are dealing with emotional issues feel an extreme need to conform in an unhealthy manner.
June 26, 2026 9:24 am at 9:24 am in reply to: Is it public shaming to identify a poster’s real name? #2567818mobicoParticipantIf someone wishes to remain anonymous, then revealing his name would be Megaleh Sod, which is a form of Lashon Hara. Of course, if a poster does not conform to the rules of the board (unclear though it may be what exactly they are), then he and his anonymous screenname should be removed.
May 4, 2026 9:50 am at 9:50 am in reply to: Matzav Inbox: What Is Going On With These Weddings? #2544108mobicoParticipantNot a single argument here!
mobicoParticipantHmm … wondering why the mods let this through. This seems to be a criticism of Frumkeit, spouting a number of Hashkafos that range from problematic to outright anti-Torah.
Mabe I am missing something, as the subject line is giibberish to me.mobicoParticipantPretty sure that this would be preferable Halachically.
mobicoParticipantAnd Refuah Sheleimah!
December 29, 2025 7:19 am at 7:19 am in reply to: Halacha question:can you build a snowman on shabbos? #2492334mobicoParticipantThe short answer is no. For a detailed, claer, and comprehensive treatment, look for the article written by R’ Yehudah Spitz of Ohr Smeach.
December 29, 2025 7:19 am at 7:19 am in reply to: Halacha question:can you build a snowman on shabbos? #2492147mobicoParticipantShort answer is no. For a clear, detailed, and comprehensive treatment, look for R’ Yehudah Spitz’s article on the Ohr Sameach website.
mobicoParticipantThese two concepts, and any other espoused in the Seforim ha’Kedoshim, are different ways to express the same idea – namely, to be Makayem Ratzon Hashem. That is the purpose of life. This, of course, requires much discernment to determine what Hashem wants for each individual at any given time. As the original quote goes, G-d is in the details.
December 26, 2025 12:34 pm at 12:34 pm in reply to: Why are there no chilled but frum/yeshivish yeshivos in israel? #2491472mobicoParticipantBirkas ha’Torah
Toras Chaim
Arzei Levanon (Sussman’s)November 25, 2025 6:13 pm at 6:13 pm in reply to: Declare Neturei Karta to be Non-Jewish Rodfim and Enemies of the Jews #2476908mobicoParticipantEnemies of Jews? Yes. Rodfim? Absolutely. Non-Jewish? not only incorrect, but meaningless. No declaration can change the reality.
mobicoParticipantRav Sternbuch Shlit”a yesterday:
“Regarding the prayer gathering [to be held tomorrow]. It is truly a mitzvah for everyone to help the campaign. Hashem will help everyone who sanctifies the Divine Name. They want to completely uproot us, to show that we are like beggars, nothing. And we will show [them] that we do indeed have power. And besides that, our strength also stems from the fact that Hashem is with us. Therefore, if someone does not participate, he shows that he holds the Kingdom of Heaven in contempt. Everyone should make an effort to come, and he will have a great mitzvah and enjoy great salvation, and he will see that the hand of G-d is exalted. Whoever helps us with this, will enjoy success with G-d’s help”.
A few days ago, Rav Sternbuch said that the mitzvah of obliterating Amolek is an absolute obligation mide’oraiso. We are obligated to protest because they want to uproot us. And when certain elements tried to present arguments as to why one should not participate in the gathering, Rav Sternbuch said that it is forbidden to be poresh from the tzibbur.
mobicoParticipantRav Sternbuch yesterday:
“Regarding the prayer gathering [to be held tomorrow]. It is truly a mitzvah for everyone to help the campaign. Hashem will help everyone who sanctifies the Divine Name. They want to completely uproot us, to show that we are like beggars, nothing. And we will show [them] that we do indeed have power. And besides that, our strength also stems from the fact that Hashem is with us. Therefore, if someone does not participate, he shows that he holds the Kingdom of Heaven in contempt. Everyone should make an effort to come, and he will have a great mitzvah and enjoy great salvation, and he will see that the hand of G-d is exalted. Whoever helps us with this, will enjoy success with G-d’s help”.
A few days ago, Rav Sternbuch said that the mitzvah of obliterating Amolek is an absolute obligation mide’oraiso. We are obligated to protest because they want to uproot us. And when certain elements tried to present arguments as to why one should not participate in the gathering, Rav Sternbuch said that it is forbidden to be poresh from the tzibbur.
September 17, 2025 9:46 am at 9:46 am in reply to: How do we know that anti-Zionist posters are Jewish? #2450644mobicoParticipantHow do we know that pro-Zionist posters are Jewish? Could they be Evangelical Christians? The lack of Kavod HaTorah and regard for Gedolim they spew is very suspicious.
mobicoParticipantThis Sugya deals with Bishul Akum, which is a Chumra d’Rabanan to begin with. The Turmus in question were not included in the Gezeira (as you are no doubt aware, seeing as you have seen the Sugya). So they are not “Goyishe food”. The point that you are talking about is that those who are not Bnei Torah – meaning that they do not care enough to delve into the finer aspects of the Halachah – are likely to make broad general assumptions. If they hear that one thing is Mutar, they are likely to permit other things that are actually Assur. Therefore a Rav may not permit the Turmus – despite the fect that they are not even Asur mid’Rabanan – to Amei Ha’aretz, lest they then expand the Heter to include things that are actually Asur.
Rav Moshe Shternbuch Shlit”a recalls how in his youth the English city of Liverpool had a thriving religious community, but there was a big talmid chochom there who, noticing the difficult financial situation of the population, declared that he had found a way to keep stores open on Shabbos through a sale to a non-Jew. He publicized the wording of a deed of sale and partnership with a non-Jew, and people started opening their stores on Shabbos on the basis of that rov’s ruling. Unfortunately, within a short period, people started cooking and writing on Shabbos too, and stopped keeping Shabbos altogether. Once the fence of Shabbos observance had been breached, people no longer distinguished between different cases, and breached Shabbos completely, and they and their descendants threw off the yoke of observance completely. A flourishing Jewish community was destroyed because of that initial breach.mobicoParticipantcoffee addict:
Thank you for finding me humerus – now I’m smiling too!
mobicoParticipantcoffee addict:
Thanks for finding me humerus – now I’m smiling too!
mobicoParticipantBecause b’Etzem we are all always happy.
mobicoParticipantI am fundermentally disagreeable. Speaking the English is most impotant in order to be societally fungible.
mobicoParticipantYup, I feel the same way.
We just may be the silent majority – becuase it’s just not worth getting into it with either extremiist group.mobicoParticipantNot sure why my posts seem not to go through (until they all do at once), but at the risk of repeating myself:
I heard from an Adam Gadol who is in position to know that R’ Shmuel understood from R’ Chaim that this is the correct thing to do.
I do not take Shevuos under any circumstances, however.mobicoParticipantI have an extremely authoratative source that what I am saying is correct. An Adam Gadol who heard it from R’ Shmuel (or maybe his son).
I do not take Shevuos.mobicoParticipantR’ Shmuel Kaminetsky Shlit”a asked R’ Chaim Kanievsky Zt”l about it, and he was supportive of the intiative. There are certainly great Gedolim on both sides of the debate, but this is more than sufficient to back the backers, and to refrain from bashing them.
mobicoParticipantR’ Shmuel Kaminetsky Shlit”a went to R’ Chaim Kanievsky Zt”l, who supported the initiative. Thought there are other Gedolim on both sides of the debate, this is more than enough to back the backers, and to refrain from bashing them.
mobicoParticipantR’ Shmuel Kamenetsky Shlit”a went to R’ Chaim Kanievsky ZT”L, who told him that it was a good idea to participate. There are other Gedolim on both sides, but this is more than sufficient to back up the backers, and to refrain from bashing them.
mobicoParticipantI have found them disappointingly innapropriate. I was very surprised to see them.
September 4, 2024 6:22 pm at 6:22 pm in reply to: Stupid Question, but would Appreciate any Smart Answers. #2311715mobicoParticipantAs mentioned, there does not seem to be any source for the assumption of the OP.
Pidyon Shevuyim is a Mitzvah, with no strings attached.
It is not at all unlikely that someone redeemed from captivity may well change for the better. Either way, it is almost gaurenteed that they will perform more Mitzvos afterward then in captivity.August 29, 2023 9:22 am at 9:22 am in reply to: Who’s job is it to get the Shul involved in lecha dodi #2220772mobicoParticipantRocky –
Did his name start with an “R” and end with a “y”?
mobicoParticipantAvira’s position is clear, accurate, and sourced. Nor has he personally attacked any individual or institution. He has clearheadedly pointed out an issue in a balanced and appropriate manner on a site with “Yeshiva” in its name. Those attacking him bring to mind the Maamar Chazal about Kol Haposel.
Hey, I think I may deserve some credit for that as well ?
mobicoParticipantAvira – what has changed is that no one is relying on the Chazarah to be Yotzei. We continue it because it is the Tzurah of Tefilah as determined by Chazal, but since no one needs it to be Yotzei it is not the main SH”E of the Sha”tz.
IsraeliYid – this is for a different reason. One must Daven anything said out loud in the Nusach of the Tzibbur. Therefore, if one is not conversant, he must “practice” in the Shtiller SH”E. If one is, say, equally conversant in both Ashkenaz and Sefard, then he may Daven Ashkenaz in his Shtiller SH”E even though he is Davening for the Amud in a Shteibel that is Makpid on Nusach Sefard for the Chazarah (example taken from my own life, based on another Shailah I asked!).mobicoParticipantNowadays the main Shmoneh Esrei is the one the Shat”z davens to himself. This was told to me directly in response to a question I asked R’ Moshe Shternbuch Shlit'”a.
July 20, 2023 8:59 am at 8:59 am in reply to: Classics and Beyond Shabbos Nachamu- A Love/Hate Relationship. Dubno Magid #2209797mobicoParticipantShkoyach! Thank you for sharing, and for writing this vort up so nicely.
mobicoParticipantParticipant: That was uncalled for. Please keep thing civil.
mobicoParticipantThis is longtime pet peeve of mine. Not a big deal in the Scheme of Things, but – I agree.
mobicoParticipantRefoel Zeev:
I have been wondering the exact same thing. You are right – about the lack of reporting, and that it should have been obvious, and that the confusion about it proves your original point!
February 6, 2023 5:29 pm at 5:29 pm in reply to: Brainstorming an Alternate Term for Boyfriend/Chassan and Girlfriend/Kallah #2163085mobicoParticipantWho are you talking to about each other already? Presumably, due to Tznius parameters, parents and mentors. With your parents, use his / her name. With mentors, say, “The Bachur / girl I’m going out with”.
mobicoParticipantYes. There are many mainstrem Yeshivos that have done this. It is indeed a more recent phenomenon, but IMHO it is normal and good. It provides a safe, healthy outlet for the guys without them leaving Yeshiva. It promotes camradarie amongst the Chevra. And as a rule, it is locked during Seder. Much better then sending time on a phone, no?
mobicoParticipantAnyone who blows regularly knows that there is a gradual buildup of saliva and other detritus that block easy and clear blowing, and also affect the sound.
mobicoParticipantStore where it won’t fall from a height. If dusty, rinse. When buildup accrues inside from blowing, twist pipe cleaners together, 2 or 3 thick, lengthening if necessary by attaching them at the ends. Pour water and a bit of dish soap into the Shofar, and insert pipe cleaners, twisting, puling, and pushing. Rinse thoroughly.
July 31, 2022 10:44 am at 10:44 am in reply to: Talmeidei Chachamim with kids not like them #2110516mobicoParticipantR’ Menachem,
IMHO, this is the point. The only Heter to hate a Yid is if he is no longer Achicha b’Mitzvos (subject to othe factors in addition). Anything else – personality conflicts, rivalries, etc. – constitutes Ahavas Chinam – for no reason. The default is Ahavas Yisrael. If Ahavah and Sinah can both be Chinam, then the implication is that the deafult state is neutrality. But this is not true. This is what I meant in my comment earlier by Ahavas Yisrael being stronger than Ahavas Chinam.
Anyway, to the best of my knowledge, the term Ahavas Chinam was coined by R’ Kook ZT”L. I did not know that it was used by the Lubavitcher Rebbe. These were great people to be sure! What I have written is based upon my Kabbalah from my Rebbeim.
It does not seem to me that we are in any great disagreement; ultimately, we are espousing the same approach.July 30, 2022 11:34 pm at 11:34 pm in reply to: Talmeidei Chachamim with kids not like them #2110416mobicoParticipantMenachem,
I know of no Mekor for the Chiluk you prsent. The term “Ahavas Yisrael” MEANS loving a Jew for no other reason other than he is a Jew. That which he is a Jew IS A REASON to love him. Ahavas Chinam, a term Chazal never used, to me implies that there is no reason to love him but you should anyway. I am not even sure what to do with that.
mobicoParticipantFirst of all, every case is different. Menasheh was also a big Talmid Chaccham. The Gemara says he “went off” due to Taivos. Sounds like a fine comparison to many these days to me. I do not recall saying or implying that we should not show any children anything other tham love and compassion.
Secondly, I was making only one point, based on the OP – it is not a new ide that great Talmidei Chachamim have children who are “not like them”.
Thirdly, Ahavas Yisrael is much more powerful than Ahavas Chinam.mobicoParticipantA good parallel for current OTD kids would be Chizkiyahu ha’Melech, who was one of our greatest Tzadikim to the point of having nearly been Mashiach. And his son was Menasheh, the greatest Chotei u’Machti Es Harabim ever, whose actions nearly singlehandedly led to the Churban, and who according to some lost his entire Chelek in Olam Haba.
mobicoParticipantI certainly agree with the general point of the article, which is, after all, a Gemara! However – I have not seen a correlation at all. Of course, my perception is greatly limited. If the Gemara says that this is a cause, then it is a factor.
mobicoParticipantAlso, many to most Talmidei Chachamim have large families, and not all of their children necessarily follow the same path.
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