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MAZEL TOV!!!
Or in order to…
Get thee to a Podiatrist. The creams and sprays do not work. it is under your nails. Some success has been had, I hear, with laser treatment, but it is costly and not covered by insurance. The oral meds can cause liver damage. Wish I had a better aitzah for you.
Curiosity + 100 (and I don’t even kn wo what the + sign stands for). I thought your cat’s name was Ye-kitty-el.
The roach baits (Combat and Raid make these), probably contain some Boric Acid, I bet.
I am sending you a virtual gift, two free tickets to the Coffee Room. Happy birthday, Goq. I’ll drink a coffee in your honor (oops, just used up one of your virtual tickets). Ad meah v’esrim in good health and with your zivug b’korov.
When asked “why,” this or that, you are literally asking “the cause” of something. So the proper answer both grammatically and logically, is to include a part of the original question, followed by “because (the cause of this),” in the response.
I think that many people here should try to understand that someone relying on a kula, is ALSO following the Halacha. Your choice to be machmir is fine. For you. But apparently it doesn’t work as well for another perfectly frum and fine Yid, whose rav paskens that the chumrah is not the Halacha, and the Kula is JUST as valid.
Hashem gave us a beautiful Torah and admonished us “Vachai bahem.” Some of us have forgotten what it means to live our lives with enjoyment,and view that enjoyment as sinful somehow, which btw is EXACTLY what the Goyishe views were, as espoused by certain Christian groups.
If someone legitimately follows a kulah, as per his/her LOR, don’t look down on that religous observance as somehow not being proper. It certainly IS, even if you choose a more stringent mode, which is proper for you. And that, btw is the true meaning of live and let live.
You’re yourself!! No one else could do it. We’re all counting on you. (btw, Oomis, you posts reveal your rue self, you ARE compassionate, caring, giving, and a lot more positive attributes I could identify you with) “
That’s so sweet of you to say so. I can actually feel my tichel getting tighter on my swelling head. OOM and I are not related (so far as I know). OOM is Roshei Teivos for One Of Many, but Oomis is an affectionate form of Ema, that my son calls me sometimes. Two different sources for similar sounding screen names.
DASH – LOL.
If there were one, I am looking for a couple of whitish/almond textured flat panels for my Succah, to replace a couple that broke in the bad weather one year and are duct taped, so they have been usable. Plus, I think someone may have stolen a metal connector pole or bracket (I won’t know until we try to put the succah together, because we saw 2 guys waltz into our yard after the yom tov and start to walk out with metal chairs that had been in our succah and are usually kept in the back yard (no fence). Though we stopped them, it is possible they already had put something in their truck before we noticed them in the yard. They had some lame excuse why they made a “mistake” and came into our yard to take the chairs, and gave us back the chairs immediately, but I think they might have taken the succah part, which we had not yet put away.
The question is not ‘why are roaches disgusting?’ (which they are), but rather ‘why are we disgusted by roaches?’
Good question. Probably because they move so fast,they have TRULY yucky feelers,and they spread disease. I am scared by small creatures that move faster than I do (not including my grandkids). The fact that they go crunch when someone steps on them, adds to the ick factor, and that black or brown carapace is just awful to look at. Certain other bugs do NOT disgust me, like caterpillars, ladybugs, but anything looking like a roach or a worm or slug, makes me sick. And don’t get me started on SPIDERS.
As to the boric acid – it is well known as a successful roach remedy, but HIGHLY toxic to people and pets, so be careful if you have small children or grandchildren around, or a dog or cat. It will wipe out the colony within a week, as the roach gets it on its legs and brings it back to the nest, where it dies, and the other roaches cannibalize it and also die. Or so I was told by the person who recommended the BA as a cheap pesticide. It also slows them down so they can be caught, if that is your wish. I would not put BA near open food.
This resonates with me, because I am DEATHLY afraid of roaches, ever since I opened my oven in my old apartment, to put something inside and several jumped out at me. They were painting all the apartments around ours, below and above our floor as well, and the roaches came streaming into my apartment to avoid the paint smell. We roachbombed (after leaving the apartment to spend the night at my parents’ house), and it was mamesh disgusting. We had also put up about ten roach motels, and they were ALL filled to the brim. I am sure Hashem had a good reason for creating these disgusting creatures, but I hope never to find out what it is.
BTW, which goy first looked at a lobster and said to himself, “Wow, a giant cockroach! That looks like a good thing to eat!” I do not get how anyone could eat something that looks like something I need to squish (but can’t because it goes crunch!)
TY, Syag (not Swag).
I also think it is Tyv Taam, but it tastes less than delicious IMO.
S omeone
W ith
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Probably originates from “swagger” which someone who is full of himself does.
I would not want to categorize myself. I TRY to be compassionate, I try to be caring, and I even try (often do not succeed) to be funny. So which is it?
Tell that to Shlomo Carlebach Z”L, who often whistled (and so beautifully, with such heart) when he sang in public. Goyim eat and sleep, too. Should we give those things up?
As to the hand folding – I have heard it is how the Goyim hold their hands when they are in church, so I could see that, I suppose. I will say this, when I went to Crown Heights Yeshivah over 50 years ago, our morahs and rebbies always taught us to sit up straight with our hands like that during quiet time or when someone choshuv was coming into the room.
Although I’ve seen the father of the child be comppassionate toward her, It has been told to me that his parents never showed compassion toward him as a child,- it is possible tht it stems from this,”
I actually misread this the same way as OOM did (no relation to Oomis). What does the lack of compassion shown by grandparents to their son, have anything to do with the son nonetheless being a compassionate father to his daughter? He is fortunate indeed to have developed empathy in SPITE of having a parent who was not a role model for the same for him.
It is VERY rare that a healthy, normal child does not smile. In fact, smiling is one of the first social development milestones. I would want to have this child evaluated. Does she act out, exhibit ANY type of emotion?
Not goyishdig, just rude and unbecoming, something over which the goyim have no monopoly.
“Sometimes n00bs can get really annoying.”
I actually had to think for a few moments to figure out you meant “newbies.” So rule #1 – when posting, please write out the entire word, don’t use shorthand. This is not a text message.
“Anybody older than five months can give a lecture.”
Anyone UNDER five months can spit up and wake up for a feeding and diaper change every three – four hours).
Stay out of it, my friend. You have clearly already pre-judged the situation negatively by calling the girl a liar, when you know zero about her personal life. She could have already made plans for Friday night, or maybe when she goes out on Shabbos lunch, she doesn’t like to plan also for the night before. Maybe she does not know you well enough (despite knowing your wife)to want to be a guest in your home after only beginning to date your friend. Don’t be so quick to label her. You might be right, but more important, you are probably wrong and can mess this up for your friend.
Middle of the Road should mean just that. Neither Machmir nor Mekeil.
I honestly do not know the answer to this, but isn’t it crucial to the learning process and subsequent making of a siyum that one actually understands that which he is learning?
Ani tapuach?
And here I thought it was someone describing their body type (apple or pear shape). Apple types are at greater risk for heart disease, btw.
ELAL is honoring the tickets.
KATZ is a company that makes certified GF rolls and challahs. I believe they are made from oats and ARE hamotzi. Some GI docs believe oats are NOT GF, and some oats actually are not because of their proximity to the wheat fields and fear of cross contamination with wheat.
On the surface, I think this is a GREAT way for single people to meet each other. BUT – it is veruy high pressure for the girls who feel they are at a “meet” market. They feel the need to compete with each other, and the process is very demeaning in many ways. But at least it is proactive on THEIR parts, and they are not relying on someone to eventually get around to fixing them up, and the back and forth nonsense that accompanies shidduchim nowadays.
The bigger problem is that it is usually the SAME people going to all of these “exciting” events with haskamas of rabbis, and facilitators (who on earth ever coined that expression – they are not facilitating anything and their presence is oppressive at times).
I went to singles events when I was young (once upon a glorious time ago), in fact I made a very dear friend on one of them (hi, Best Bubby). But nobody was bothering or facilitating or mentoring or ANYTHING us. We just met some very nice people under nice circumstances, had pleasant and wholesome activities before, over and after Shabbos, and many of us got asked out as a result.
Nowadays the entire thing is VERY awkward.
I have a female relative who attends these events, either at hotels (not so often) or in people’s homes. The same crowd always shows up, but still she goes, because “ya never know.” Ya never know, is right. She is 29 and looks about 22. You know who invariably approaches her and even ask her out? ALL the guys pushing 40(and they think she is in her early 20s and are shocked when she tells them she is older). Do they really believe that most 20-23 year old girls are looking for guys who are nearly twice their age? Still she is menschlech with them, and doesn’t rudely run off when they speak to her.
There has GOT to be a better way.
Nada, zip, zilch, efes,zero – an oldie, but goodie.
I’m with Tahini.
Sorry about the typos – I am outta control today!
“Pinchas didn’t need a beis din to kill. And if it happened today, one wouldn’t need a beis din to kill. “
But he would definitely need a good LAWYER if he tried that in THIS country.
I believe around $60 an hour or so.
It seems you are trying to use Litzonus to be Docheh the Mussar. Perhaps you are refering to paintings that you’ve seen. I’m sure those paintings are just from that period of time. If you go back in time even further -I’m sure all dress, even not in Kings’ courtyards was very Tzinus. “
You are mistaken. And the paintings I have seen, are paintings of the times. We know from seeing period costumes that women of note throughout the Middle Ages through the 19th Centrury, dressed with lowcut necklines. it was the fashion, especially of the wealthy, AND of the members of Court. The ONE and only point I was making was that you cannot use the “dress in front o0f the king” argument, because often throughout history, that mode of dress would eb considered inappropriate by our standards of tznius, yet be considered wholly proper in front of the king of that time. Look at how women dress for the Inaugural Balls today. that is OUR “King’s Court,” and yoI highly doubt you’d want you daughter dressed like that.
And a goy cannot keep halacha.” Wrong. He cannot keep SHABBOS. I never understood why, though, as Adam Harishon I presume was expected to keep Shabbos. The world was created for the Torah, and Shabbos is certainly a BIG mainstay of that.
“Tznius “too far” is not Tznius at all, as it draws attention to the women who has gone “too far” and whose message is: Hey everyone, look at me; see how beautifully frum I am (and you’re not)! “
Cherrybim – ICAM. The way some people ostensibly dress for tznius, CALLS attention to them, inappropriately. Just the opposite of what the spirit of Tznius requires.
A Bas Yisroel is a princess. If you wouldn’t walk around the King’s courtyard dressed the way you do -you shouldn’t dress like that in public. First realize how great you are and then you’ll always want to do the right thing! “
You are correct, but I would remind you that if you look at the mode of dress of many young women (and men) in Kings’ courtyards of long ago, you would likely not consider those fancy outfits to be particularly tzniusdig. But that is the PROPER way they dressed to see the King.
ybrooklynteacher – Are you a young teacher? IMO your remark to the parent, especially at a simcha, was a little inappropriate. In the Parent-Teacher meeting, yes, you can and should make mention of that to them in a non-judgmental way. But at a CHASUNAH??????
I am sorry you were embarrassed; I do know the feeling of mistaking someone for someone else and making ill-advised remarks. But you really walked yourself right into that one. It’s a good object lesson for all of us to refrain from discussing “business” at a simcha, and to think about how what we say might embarrass the OTHER person.
Hashem thankfully spared you from embarrassing the child’s mother in a public place. The person you mistook for her, evidently does not have a sloppy child, or she might have been very embarrassed, too. There is no place for sarcasm (half OR whole) when speaking with the parents of your students at any time. Just my opinion, and I do not mean to sound abrasive.
Ever stop to think that each of us has only ONE birthday? The ones that follow are really anniversaries. Just a thought…
Pinchas killed Zimri for flaunting in public his flagrant disregard for the laws of morality with a non-Jewish woman. Pinchas was a tzaddik, whose ONLY thought was Kovod Hashem, when he committed his act of kana-us. What Zimri and Cozbi were doing was a clear and unquestionable act of immorality. Pinchas knew the halacha. Today, you see men spitting on and terrorizing four year old girls for not wearing sox. THEY are neither Pinchas-es nor tzaddikim.
Curiosity: There are Shailos U’Teshuvos seforim from poskim that say women should cover their face (not just their head.) “
There will always be men who lust after women, no matter how much they are covered up from head to toe. As the problem seems to primarily be with the evil thoughts of men, perhaps the men should be working on themselves to get rid of those impure thoughts, rather than totally covering up the innocent victims of THEIR unbridled yetzer hara. I am curious, though, in what century did those poskim write those teshuvos? I am not being sarcastic, I genuinely want to know if this was written in recent years.
Though it ia true we have a chiyuv to give tochacha, if you are going to do it, better be really sure that you are halachically correct and not giving mussar about a chumrah or minority-held minhag that are not required by the Torah.
“I sued to sit at the other head of the table.”
You must have really wanted to 🙂 “
APY and Wolf – see what happens when I post when I have not had enough sleep?
Even cartoons of pritzus is wrong.”
Cartoons of pritzus, absolutely wrong. But not cartoon of little girls playing on a slide or in the sandbox. That IS too far.
I agree that salad is way better with FETA…. (loved that story).
It just happened. On Shabbos, I was invited to a “general” Shalosh Seudos in honor of someone’s sheva brachos at my shul (we were not invited to the chasunah, but the whole shul is invited for Shahlosh Seudos). I saw a woman in the slight distance, whom I thought was someone who had just married off her son that week and would normally be out of the area for Shabbos sheva brachos by the kallah’s family. I called out Good Shabbos, and asked her what she was doing HERE (rather than away at the sheva brachos out of the neighborhood). To which she replied, “I’m the kallah’s grandmother!” It was then I realized that she was NOT the person for whom I mistook her. I covered by saying, I hadn’t realized the family connection. Boy was my face red!
They should honor it IMO, and they should also make the person responsible for incurring the losses, pay for that mistake. It is not the mistake of the consumer, who did nothing other than legitimately order a ticket through EL AL. If I were to tell a customer the wrong price for something (or if a store mistakenly stickered an item with the wrong price), they are leagally bound to charge the lower price, aren’t they? I woudl agree, however, that once people got wind of the error, they should not have continued to order tickets, if it was being done. I really know very little about this story, though.
I sued to sit at the other head of the table. Then I realized I really preferred to sit next to my husband. He sits at the head, and I, to his immediate right. Is this really so important that we need to debate it?
“Morah” means to be in awe of, not necessarily to be afraid. And the Torah speaks of Morah Eim v’Av. We should not fear our parents, but we should hold them in awe and with kovod. It is hard to feel safe with a human being who makes us feel afraid of him or her.
Before answering your question – have you made this person aware that (s)he is abusive and hurtful? Many people are so self-absorbed that they actually have no clue that they are committing onaas devarim. It is a chessed and a CHIYUV d’Oraisah to give them mussar. Many of us have trouble doing so.
That said, if someone keeps consistently abusing verbally, then apologizes, my response to that is, I can only be moichel if you are sincere in your apology. In order to do teshuvah, you have to first acknowledge wrongdoing, then honestly apologize, and finally(most crucial), make a sincere plan not to do this same action again. One who sins and says he will do teshuvah and then sin again, is not forgiven by Hashem on Yom Kippur. If the Most Merciful One deems that to be unforgivable, I see no reason why we should be more forgiving than He.
Maybe (and it may be a challenge to do this) you should distance yourself from someone who is that nasty to you. Unless it is your mother or father, or someone who is mentally ill, cutting off the relationship might be best, as least in the short term. Sometimes a person needs that jolt, in order to realize how hurtful they are being. If I am talking out of my sheital, I apologize (sincerely).
I should NEVER post after midnight. I can’t proofread too well then.
Thank the person nicely for the time they spent in the meeting and say good night. Very simple.