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January 1, 2017 4:50 pm at 4:50 pm in reply to: Inspirimg Music recomendation #1207425
Mordechai Schapiro. I can’t get that “S’char Mitzvah, Mitzvah” out of my head. My favorite is by Schwekey(?) We Are a Miracle. That song never fails to make me very emotional and proud to be a Yid. (It IS Schwekey, right?)
Rather than say Happy New Year (oops, I just did, didn’t I???), I vastly prefer to wish each and every one of you in the Coffee Room a happy, meaningful Zos Chanukah. I haven’t had much chance to read, much less post, here recently, being exceptionally busy with Bubby stuff B”H, as well as the usual things that I have taken upon myself this year. I have not forgotten my friends in the CR, and look forward to finding and making the time to pore over the words of wisdom that I have often found in this forum (and if it’s shtuss, I’ll just pass right over it, so be forewarned well in advance). 🙂
Chag Sameach, everyone!
OomisNovember 22, 2016 6:06 pm at 6:06 pm in reply to: Who's the Bigger Crybaby? #1194601
Let’s go back to arguing about Tznius, Cholov Yisroel, the Shidduch Crisis, and Loshon Hara. Much safer topics than politics.November 22, 2016 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm in reply to: Who's the Bigger Crybaby? #1194600
I also saw the clip. Just by virtue of it being said at all WHEN it was said, was offensive, even if the words superficially sounded “right” to some.November 22, 2016 6:00 pm at 6:00 pm in reply to: Who's the Bigger Crybaby? #1194599
A person should be able to attend a play without being subjected to a cast’s personal expression of dissatisfaction with a current event. It was neither the time nor place for such expression, it was meant to PUBLICLY embarrass the VP and by extension the President-elect. Mike Pence showed great class, in my opinion. I do not blame Mr. Trump for his reaction. I could not STAND Obama for the last 8 years (or Mr. Biden either who is his puppet), but I would never have shown such disrespect to them, or to the Office of President and Vice-President.
Methinks these performers are too full of themselves. Don’t blindside someone who came to have a nice night out with his child.
+1October 11, 2016 2:24 am at 2:24 am in reply to: Now that Trump has been revealed…hope your NOT voting for him #1187275
I don’t like what Trump said. It was crude, vulgar, nivul peh of the highest order. BUT – he did not do what Bill Clinton did while in office. And unlike Hillary, he did not call a bunch of special needs children “ree-tards” or curse at secret service people or other White House personnel on a regular basis. For every crude thing Trump has said, there is a wealth of vulgarity and criminality on the parts of the Clintons.
I don’t love Donald Trump. But I absolutely cannot abide that woman.If this was the best person our country could find to run as the first female presidential candidate, it is uch and vey. We are in trouble no matter who is elected. But I am hoping if The Donald makes it, that Mike Pence will be the mitigating factor. Tim Kaine is just scary.October 11, 2016 2:06 am at 2:06 am in reply to: Mazel tov! It's a boy!!!! #1185903
Thank you all, for your good wishes! I haven’t been on line until tonight.
I wish everyone a g’mar chasima tova.September 9, 2016 4:23 pm at 4:23 pm in reply to: Can you comfort me #1183813
Torah teaches us that even when we are in aveilus for our PARENTS for a full year, there is a limit to the aveilus. There is a Shiva period; there is a Shloshim period, followed by 10 more months of saying Kaddish, and then the final month of aveilus for them. For non-parental losses, the halachic period ends with the Shloshim. Of course the feelings of aveilus don’t go away so easily, but we are forced back into life. If we cannot cope, we need help.
This post sounds like it was written for effect. If not, if the poster genuinely has these feelings, I urge him/her to seek immediate counseling, with a Rov or another professonal, to help deal with an inappropriate emotional response.
We can mourn the Beis Hamikdash for over 2,000 years. We are not supposed to be in mourning yomam valeila for people, and certainly not ewverytime we hear of another death, which unfortunately is not ceasing any time soon. There is a hge difference between feeling very sad at hearing of someone else’s pain (and none of us comes even close to Moshe Rabbeinu, so I doubt we are near that madreiga of his empathy), and being in actual aveilus for the death of a Yid whom we do not know.September 9, 2016 4:10 pm at 4:10 pm in reply to: Brewing Cacao #1178121
What? Brew chocolate?????September 9, 2016 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm in reply to: What happened to the CR? #1189031
Ok, I have been here on and off. Personal issues required my attention elsewhere, and I didn’t really have the head for continuous visits to my favorite coffee room. I hope you are all well, and wish you a gebensched and HEALTHY year filled with much bracha and meaning.September 1, 2016 7:00 pm at 7:00 pm in reply to: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not? #1178376
If one is walking down the street, there no doubt will ALWAYS be a woman walking ahead SOMEWHERE.September 1, 2016 6:53 pm at 6:53 pm in reply to: Why do working people tend to not be as ruchniyus as Kollel people? #1177027
Oh, I mamesh have no patience for this. The OP made a very presumptuous statement about ruchniyus. I know Kollel people who are not particularly ruchaNIYIM (an adjective, not “ruchniyus,” which is a noun). I know FREI people l’gamrei, who are extremely spiritual. Spirituality is not in the exclusive purview of “learning” people. It is a state of mind and being, and comes to each person in a different way. Based on the OPs question, one could ask why some Kollel people seem to want a certain gashmiyus-filled lifestyle that is inconsistent with the ruchniyus they supposedly possess. My statement and the original remark made by the OP are both faulty in their premise. As soon as one makes a generalization about a group, that is a questionable thing, as far as I am concerned.
SOME Kollel people are more spiritual than SOME working people. SOME working people are incredibly spiritual,more so than SOME Kollel people. Our hashkafos are personal, and what you see on the outside is not always what is contained in the inside. Al tistakeil bakankan…etc.August 4, 2016 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm in reply to: im a girl alone in medical office #1165310
OP, you have a job to do. People will be coming and going all day in a doctor’s office. The office door is presumably unlocked. You are worried about something that should have been of concern before you took this job.
If the doctor is a yarei Shamayim (not Yiras Shamayim; he HAS yiras Shamayimh if he is a YAREI Shamayim), then he, too knows the Halacha. Speak to your own Rov if this is really an issue for you. Otherwise, be a professional, act professionally at all times, and schedule patients at times that allow you to feel comfortable that you will not be alone for extended time with him. All this goes out the window if he were to act or speak in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. Then you leave. JMO.July 27, 2016 12:38 am at 12:38 am in reply to: What is Trump Thinking? #1164190
Does common sense allow a top security person in the Obama Administration to perpetuate the most absurd and dangerous of canards for two weeks, and not send help to AMERICANS in service of their country, and her reward is to possibly end up as our commander in grief? I am frankly not crazy about either choice, but I sincerely believe that at least Mr. Trump will surround himself with good people. I have no such illusions about someone who has proven time and time again to be dishonest, disreputable, and despicable. One look at her smugly bored face during the inquiry was enough to turn me off.July 27, 2016 12:31 am at 12:31 am in reply to: "Lock Her Up" say Sanders Supporters #1187960
U’teshuvah,u’tefilah, u’tzedaka maavirin es roa hag’zeira.July 18, 2016 8:13 pm at 8:13 pm in reply to: overbearing parents #1161272
Once a child becomes an adult, and demonstrates real responsibility, parents DO need to be less overbearing, if in fact that they are. Some behavior will always be viewed as overbearing, by immature teens. Some behavior WILL be overbearing, by overly possessive parents (read: Mothers).
Any rules made by parents for the reasonable safety and welfare of their children, who may be too young or immature to recognize that fact, nevertheless need to be followed. If a teen wants to be totally in charge of his/her destiny, let that teen mov out, be self-supporting,and make their own way through life. But that rarely happens that way. They want independence without actually being independent.July 15, 2016 9:16 pm at 9:16 pm in reply to: KIPPOT SERUGOT #1159275
There is no specific halacha bedavka to wear a kippah. The halacha is to wear a head covering to denote Yirah Malka (hence, Yarmulke). My zaidie in Europe O”H wore something on his head that looked nothing like the kippot of today, more like a box. It is a pet peeve of mine that some people are more concerned with what is covering the head, than the fact that the head is being covered. What is under the kippah, is far more important than the kippah itself. And that among other things, is what causes divisiveness.July 8, 2016 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm in reply to: The Murder of Hallel Yaffa Ariel #1158512
I thank all of you for your sympathy and chizuk. I just spoke to my cousin (the Bubby)the other day, and the family is pulling together. They accept the Din, but are trying to make sense of it, and take steps to try to ensure that no other family goes through such a tragedy as they did.July 7, 2016 2:13 am at 2:13 am in reply to: How to prepare Minute Steak #1158740
I do a minute steak ROAST is a flattish roast. I spice it with a packet of dry onion soup, lots of minced garlic, a full jar of Gold’s Cantonese Duck Sauce, followed by a L O T of cinnamon. Cover with foil and bake at 350 until it is fork-tender. Then uncover and leave it in the with the heat turned off. You can optionally put cut up potatoes around the roast before baking, and/or mushrooms.July 5, 2016 3:38 am at 3:38 am in reply to: The Murder of Hallel Yaffa Ariel #1158506
147, decades later the pain is still fresh. I empathize with the tragic loss of your own relatives. May Hashem bring us the Geulah we need so badly.July 4, 2016 12:26 am at 12:26 am in reply to: The Murder of Hallel Yaffa Ariel #1158504
Thank you all for your kind remarks. Hallel’s slaughter was a tragedy. And the very next day, nebbich, another tragic korbon. A husband and father murdered in front of a couple of his children, and his wife now fights for her own life. My family tragedy is a tragedy of ALL of us. His tragedy, that of Dafna Meir, the Fogels, the Henkins, Shoshana Greenbaum O”H, the only child of her parents who was expecting her own first baby, and all the names mentioned AND MORE who were not, these are ALL our mishpacha, even though only Hallel was close blood to me.
Our middos tovos and mitzvos DO elicit positive response from HKB”H. We don’t want to see more korbonos, unless they are brought by our Kohanim in the Beis Hamildash. So each of us has the koach to help bring that day one day closer. I don’t ever again want to hear the anguish to which my cousin gave voice on Thursday, and will forever be feeling until Yemos Hamashiach, coming from the mouth of another Yiddishe mama.June 28, 2016 1:05 pm at 1:05 pm in reply to: The new Avrohom fried-the name bring down the house is a very goyish term #1157396
I think the original comment refers to the story of Shimshon. I am with Popa on this one.June 24, 2016 8:19 pm at 8:19 pm in reply to: Shavuos: Cheese-Cake Reason? #1156824
There is only one compelling reason to eat cheesecake. YUM!!!!June 19, 2016 4:33 pm at 4:33 pm in reply to: Shavuos: Cheese-Cake Reason? #1156822
Al pi oomis, it’s a segula for hatzlacha in a good shidduch, if the kallah makes and serves excellent cheesecake for her chosson who likes cheesecake. Should he be lactose intolerant or chalilah R”L lo aleinu have an actual aversion to cheesecake, a Rebbetzin should be consulted.June 19, 2016 1:46 pm at 1:46 pm in reply to: Cheesecake recipe #1155632
There is no such thing as too much gashmius when you eat cheesecake. We have a mitzvah v’samachta b’chagecha. I am almost certain it says somewhere,”Ein simcha, ella b’cheesecake v’shokolad.” V’chulei.June 15, 2016 3:04 am at 3:04 am in reply to: Why did the Bnei Yisroel eat milchigs at har sinai? #1155295
Sam, I believe you are correct. I actually learned, and am recalling now thanks to you, that it was not that they didn’t know how to shecht, but that ma’amad Har Sinai was on Shabbos, 6 Sivan. So you are right, they couldn’t shecht and kasher their keilim until a day later. All they had available was milchigs, apparently.June 15, 2016 2:59 am at 2:59 am in reply to: Shavuos: Cheese-Cake Reason? #1156820
If ya gonna eat cheese, ya may as well LIKE it!!!! When you put together, cream cheese, eggs, vanilla, and sugar, MAGIC happens! Add in some dollops of chocolate, and it’s taam Gan Eden. Add some fruit pie filling on top and it’s mamesh a balanced meal! Ya got yer basic food groups, protein, calcium, fat, carbs, vitamins, and minerals in one single food aource. What could be bad? The halacha of v’nishmarten me’od es nafshoseichem, would seem to indicate that one should eat a balanced diet. And if you have one nice slice in each hand, that’s as balanced as it gets.June 15, 2016 1:37 am at 1:37 am in reply to: do seforim taste nice #1156288
Only if it’s Reader’s Digest.June 15, 2016 1:34 am at 1:34 am in reply to: Who's Worse – Trump or Clinton? #1190452
Clinton – LO mit an Aleph.
Trump – not my first choice, but he still Trumps Clinton.June 14, 2016 10:02 pm at 10:02 pm in reply to: Shavuos: Cheese-Cake Reason? #1156818
Thanks Homer, you hit it out of the park!!!! I loved all those reasons, some of which I KNEW, and others which are NEW. NU?
And btw, anyone who has ever had a piece of MY cheesecake (not to brag, mind you), has forgotten all about wanting any meat for Shavuos. All they want is MORE cheesecake. So now I make it in Milchigs AND Pareve, to satisfy all Shittos.June 14, 2016 9:57 pm at 9:57 pm in reply to: Why did the Bnei Yisroel eat milchigs at har sinai? #1155293
After the Torah was given at Har Sinai, the laws of kashrus became immediately incumbent on everyone, and they had no separate keilim for meat and milk, nor did they as yet know the halachos of shechitah and kashering meat. Only milchigs were ostensibly possible to be eaten at that point. At least, that’s what I was taught many decades ago. I think the real reason is that it was just a great excuse for Jewish women to make and eat cheesecake. I guess they had not yet heard of Tofutti.June 9, 2016 8:13 pm at 8:13 pm in reply to: Source for Upsherins #1154969
The Torah refer to man as an eitz hasadeh (hope I got that right), and just as a fruit tree halachically is not shorn of it fruit for three years, there arose a minhag therefore, to not cut the hair until age three.June 3, 2016 11:29 pm at 11:29 pm in reply to: Liability question, just interested in how people see things. #1154148
I am scared to admit it in writing, but JOSEPH MAKES TOTAL SENSE. (There, I feel better, now). Generally, unless otherwise stated, an estimate is free.The owner gave his laptop to someone presumably for tech repair,who instead of dealing with the issue, subbed it out to you. That is not the fault or achrayus of the owner. Your friend is the one with whom you have an issue, and even if so, did you inform him there would be an estimate fee? You have no legal right to hold onto the other guy’s property, IMO.May 29, 2016 3:29 pm at 3:29 pm in reply to: The biggest issue facing the Frum world #1154105
Lack of achdus. When all of klal Yisroel is unified, all of the rest will fall into place.May 29, 2016 3:26 pm at 3:26 pm in reply to: Do you come here to talk or to listen? #1195849
I do both, though I have not been here so often lately. I subscribe to the belief however, that Hashem us one mouth and two ears, so that we should listen twice as much as we speak.May 29, 2016 3:21 pm at 3:21 pm in reply to: Gee thanks, anti-vaxxers #1156257
I have no patience to read through all of these, so if I am repetitive, please be moichel me. If I am exposed to a child who had chicken pox, I can get shingles from him. I might get it anyway, having unfortunately HAD chicken pox as a child. Anything we can do to prevent a potential outbreak of diseases that were all but eradicated, should be done. The childhood diseases many of us had, had serious life-threatening effects on many children. Think about the Rubella babies whose moms contracted the disease while pregnant. No one has to get sick with these not so benign illnesses anymore, but for some ill-informed anti-vaxxers, who have single-handedly brought these plagues back, by believing their kids are more important than everyone else’s. BTW, if a newborn baby is exposed to a sibling who has the disease, if can have catastrophic ramifications, particularly if the mom never herself had the disease and was not vaccinated, as babies may get a limited amount of temporary immunities from their mom in utero, but it is of short duration. If she never had the illness, she has no such resistance to it to pass to her fetus.May 29, 2016 1:37 am at 1:37 am in reply to: im new, and is the coffee room appropriate? #1153789
We are not chatting in private or secretly. It is all out in the open for everyone to read. The MODS also work hard to make sure inappropriate things do not get posted. If you have any reservations whatsoever about the CR, this might not be the best place for you. If however, you are OK with it, welcome to the conversation.May 13, 2016 9:51 pm at 9:51 pm in reply to: The biggest issue facing the Frum world #1154024
About to shut down the computer, but I wanted to say that lack of achdus, to me, is the biggest problem facing us as a klal today.May 11, 2016 4:55 pm at 4:55 pm in reply to: Convert Becoming A Rabbi #1151563
It’s interesting that women are totally in charge of the kashrus of their homes and Taharas HaMishpacha, but are not favored to routinely be mashgichos.May 11, 2016 4:50 pm at 4:50 pm in reply to: What do these stand for? #1151498
woohoo! These are all of my dikduk pet peeves in one post!May 5, 2016 7:42 pm at 7:42 pm in reply to: What's going on???!!! #1150836
I also thought that was Kasich’s line of thought. For those who like Trump and/or Cruz, what do you think of a Trump/Cruz ticket?May 5, 2016 7:40 pm at 7:40 pm in reply to: Shiva question #1150831
OK. No problem. I am glad the typo was discovered. Auf simchas!May 5, 2016 7:38 pm at 7:38 pm in reply to: Decorum in shul #1151202
It is easy to tell someone not to daven somewhere. But it is also impractical. I cannot daven elsewhere, nor should I have to leave the shul in which I have davened for nearly 40 years, because some young punk with no derech eretz thinks it is his prerogative and entitlement to discuss the baseball scores, his business, loshon hara, or stupid jokes, within my hearing as I am attempting to daven with kavana. These inconsiderate louts talk in loud and raucous voices, directly outside the downstairs Ezras Nashim, in the vestibule right behind the area in which I sit.
I have gently made them aware that their voices carry inside, “I am sure that you are unaware, but we actually can hear your conversation inside the main Shul. Would you mind very much taking it into the main hall?” is what I usually say. What I want to say is, “You are a bunch of disrespectful laytzanim! Take your stupid and absolutely worthless conversation, and find another Shul where you can bother people who unlike you, actually came to daven. That is, if you can FIND another shul that will tolerate your boorish behavior!” But those of you who know me for many years on this forum, also know, it is not my style to talk to anyone like that. So I dont. Not even when their stupid, meaningless conversation interfered with me on Pesach as I was trying to say Yizkor properly, which clearly B”H none of THEM as yet have to do, and for which they should be thankful to Hashem.
I cannot daven elsewhere. My Rov is a wonderful person, and we are otherwise happy where we are. I cannot easily walk to another shul locally, and the one which is next door has a lot of stairs to get up to the women’s section. I need to daven where I am. And I also need to daven without feeling the anger that is aroused in me when these thoughtless fools carry on. OK, rant over, now. WHEW! I feel better…May 4, 2016 8:45 pm at 8:45 pm in reply to: Shiva question #1150829
If I am understanding your question, and I may be misunderstanding, this is what it is done. When someone is niftar R”L on yom tov or chol hamoed, the kevurah itself is as soon as possible, but the SHIVA BEGINS AS SOON AS THE ENTIRE YOM TOV is over. I just paid such a shiva call. The father was niftar and buried just before the second days of Pesach. The family went through yom tov and immediately began sitting shiva on Motzai Shabbos, which was the end of Pesach. If however, someone is niftar and buried even the morning of erev the first days of a long yom tov like Pesach or ANY erev yom tov, before licht benschen, then they sit shiva for only a portion of the day, and the shiva is over completely as of candlelighting.In that case, the yom tov takes over the entire Shiva. BUT NOT when the person is niftar on the actual yom tov or chol hamoed. Even if on the first day, they have to go through the whole yom tov and first begin a full shiva as of Isru Chag. I have paid shiva calls in each of these types of cases. Fortunately they have been rare in my community.May 4, 2016 8:33 pm at 8:33 pm in reply to: Where do you buy xanthan gum? #1151610
Most stores carry it these days.May 4, 2016 3:07 am at 3:07 am in reply to: Why not Radicchio ? #1150341
Romaine was always considered “bitter” because of the hardship in cleaning it from bugs. With Bodek romaine that no longer is the case. However, I learned in a shiur that romaine is the major of choice, because the Gemarah says what is chazeres? Chassa (lettuce). Within the name of chassa, spelled Ches Samech Hei, is found the expression of Chas Hashem. Hashem is chas (Meracheim) on us, especially in our most bitter times.May 4, 2016 2:46 am at 2:46 am in reply to: How can I find places to stay for shabbos? #1151591
Shabbat.com is a great idea.May 1, 2016 1:56 pm at 1:56 pm in reply to: Can't Eat By In-Laws Who Eat Gebrochts on Pesach #1150009
I think none of us is qualified to answer this question. It is very personal and nogeya to that person and should be discussed with one’s Rov.
On a brighter note, I just wanted to wish everyone a gut voch. I had a fabulous Pesach with my house filled non-stop with my noisy, delicious grandkids all yom tov. It was hectic and exhausting, and I loved every moment. Especially when my kinehora adorable three year old grandson asked me, “Bubby can I come live here all the time?” When I said that mommy and daddy might be sad if he did that he earnestly asked me to move in with THEM. Now, there is NO better feeling than that. I am truly sad that Pesach is over. (I know I do not speak for the majority of women…)April 26, 2016 4:37 pm at 4:37 pm in reply to: Do sefardim have Sushi at their pesach seder? #1149693
La Choy I believe is GF, and though we don’t use soy sauce on Pesach, that GF certified brand HAS to be grain free or Celiacs cannot use it. Kikkoman is not grain free. And as to whether Sefardim eat sushi at the Sedarim – only if they like sushi.April 26, 2016 4:32 pm at 4:32 pm in reply to: Burning Plastic Bags Along with Chumetz #1148897
Plastic is toxic to burn. Put your chometz in paper bags, then put the paper bag in plastic for safe transport. Take the paper out of the plastic, and toss in the fire.