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8) 18 holes on a golf course
9) 39 Books of the Old testament
1) 26 L of the A – 26 letters of the alphabet
2) 7 D of the W – 7 days of the week
3) 7 W of the W 7 wonders of the world
4) 12 S of the Z 12 signs of the zodiac
5) 66 B of the B
6) 52 C in a P (WJs)
7) 13 S in the USF
8) 18 H on a GC
9) 39 B of the OT
10) 5 T on a F
11) 90 D in a R A 90 degrees in a right angle
12) 3 B M (S H T R)
13) 32 is the T in D F in which W F 32 is the temp in degrees Farehnehit in which water freezes
14) 15 P in a R T
15) 3 W on a T 3 wedges on a triangle?
16) 100 C in a R
17) 11 P in a F (S) T
18) 12 M in a Y 12 months in a year
19) 13 is U F S
20) 8 T on a O
21) 29 D in F in a L Y 29 days in Feb. in a leap year
22) 365 D in a Y 365 days in a year
23) 13 L in a B D
24) 52 W in a Y 52 weeks in a year
25) 9 L of a C 9 lives of a cat
26) 60 M in a H 60 minutes in an hour
27) 23 P of C in H B
28) 64 S on a C B
29) 9 P in S A
30) 6 B to an O in C
31) 1000 Y in a M 1000 years ub a millenium
32) 15 M on a D M C 15 men on a dead man’s chest
that’s all I got so far.
“Needless to say, my rebbi was dead wrong. There is nothing wrong with skipping a piece of cake on Shabbos.”
If I baked it, yes there is! :p
This brings to mind the other urban legend I was told. “You CANNOT gain weight from anything you eat for oneg Shabbos.” Yeah, sure… I guess my scale didn’t go to that shiur.
“Isn’t it a big risk committing to marriage after only knowing the person for a few weeks? “
Yes
“is there any way of ensuring that won’t happen?”
No.
That having been said – all of life is a risk. You do your hishtadlus the best you can (due diligence), and try to make informed choices before you act. Some things are felt in the gut, not in the mind. I believe STRONGLY in getting to know someone more than just a few weeks before taking such a step as getting married. You would take more time picking out a new car than many people take picking a spouse. Soem people DO know right away, and they have wonderful, happy marriages. Others go out for months (and in some cases, YEARS) and the marriage is l’chatchilah not a good one.
Moreover, people can change with time. They grow, they are affected by life experiences in both a positive or negative way. They rarely remain exactly as they were when they were first dating.
We have to be able to adapt and grow with each other. There are NO guarantees of a happy marriage. But there is ONE guarantee in a Jewish home. Without a proper Torah foundation, and without the willingness to grow together, be flexible and willing to compromise, to be moichel on one’s wishes and kovod from time to time, a marriage has a very poor shot of lasting.
I had another thought. Are there any organizations, PTA, Sisterhood etc., that need volunteers? You could make friends by joining in a group with people of similar interests to your own…
I made one of my closest friends by volunteering to help at our shul BBQ.
MAZEL TOV!!!!!!!!!
REALLY? I have never noticed that anywhere. Maybe it makes it easier to put on tefillin in the morning.
Health, you may have misunderstood the intent of my post. I HAVE had cold female docs AND really warm and nurturing ones as well. I merely pointed out that when certain types of women are in the medical field, their demeanor is often perceived as “cold”, when the same personality in a man would be overlooked as being his professionalism, That does not mean it is ok for doctors of either gender to be unfeeling when treating a HUMAN BEING, not a set of symptoms on a clinical chart.
🙂 to those who responded so positively.
I don’t believe in not visiting loving and close relatives, regardless of their religious affiliation(I bring my own food). I don’t believe in disabling a computer in the absence of available filters. I believe in teaching my children from a very young age what they may and may not eat, what they may and may not watch, and what they may and may not do with a computer. So far, my kids don’t eat treif, they don’t watch porn, and my computer history tells me no one has ever gone to forbidden websites. If you knew my kids, you would understand how ludicrous that thought would be. And no, they are not Yeshivish. They are however, balabatish and eidel, bli ayin hara. There are many things that they (and I) could stand to correct in ourselves, but looking at inappropriate things on the internet is not one of them.
We live IN this world, and we have to learn how to navigate the ugliness that is in it and give our kids the education and tools to fight what they will inevitably see in that world. we cannot protect them forever from EVERYTHING, without closing them off to the beauty in the world, as well.
There is a lot of good on the internet, and the idea is to help our children learn to differentiate between the good and the bad, and reject the latter, while making great use of the former. Above all, we have to not throw the baby out along with the bathwater, and all too many people are doing exactly that.
Oops, didn’t mean to make you think I was questioning you. I wasn’t.
What are your neighbors like?
The family that matters should be the one we want our child to marry into later on. When shidduch season begins, being in touch with non-frum relatives counts badly against the prospective chosson or kallah, for exactly the reason that was proven here. In a nutshell, if they’re not frum, they’re not family. “
That is really sad. I feel sorry for anyone who has such a dismissive attitude about their mishpacha. Had I thought that way, I would never have had the truly wonderful relationship with my second set of parents, that I did. I believe you must be trolling with that remark. No one who is a mensch can possibly believe such nonsense. In fact, I would be leery of redting a shidduch with ANYONE who thought that way.
I have had cold women docs and amazing women docs. Problem is that the type personality needed for a woman to succeed in the medical field, often attracts women who are viewed as having negative traits (bossy, ambitious, cold, clinical, uncaring, too business-like, etc). When men have those traits, they are “efficient” and knwopledgeable. When women do, they are cold and unfeeling.
Yes, Nechomah, the fourth finger is the one next to the pinkie. Is the thumb not a finger also?
We cannot look at Kohanim during duchenin because the Shechinah is there. Giraffe’s have a carotid artery like every other kosher animal. Find it and it may be shechted (I would not attempt this trick at home and one would need a VERY big ladder).
The woman/beard thing I actually have heard, as well as sniffing the havdalah candle after it is extinguished is a segulah for your memory (something I do, but I forget where I heard that…).
We never touch muktzah items on Shabbos for FEAR of moving them. But I also never leaned against a car on Shabbos, either, and I see Yeshivish people do it all the time. They also let their kids ride trikes on Shabbos, something I personally never allowed my kids to do, for chinuch purposes. Go figure.
Hmm…
I wonder how this discussion would go if the subject were traife media instead of traife food. “
Meaning…?
To have a friend, you need to be a friend. The advice to invite people over is a good one. Engage in casual conversation with ladies whom you see after Shul. Go to the park with your kids, if they are age appropriate, or join some other group with them that encourages moms to meet. If you can find the time in what I am sure is a very busy day between home and outside work, join a ladies’ gym, if you can afford to, or get your nails done in a salon frequented by frum young women. personally I don’t go for manicures, but my friend does and she meets new people ALL the time.
Depending on where you live, if you go out walking for exercise, you will often see a number of women doing the same. If all else fails, strike up a conversation in your local supermarket, pediatrician’s office, or even Dunkin’Donuts (so many kosher ones out there). Take your little ones (again, if they are little) to the local library when you are off from work. I am a Bubby and I ALWAYS see frum women there with the children or aineklach. I have gotten into many enjoyable conversations that way.
I realize that not all frum women will make use of ALL these suggestions, but find your comfort zone and use it to make friends. I wish you hatzlacha rabbah.
Shlishi, that is not what family does. Non-frum family needs to see that their frum family members are open and welcoming. How do you think baalei teshuvah are exposed to frumkeit? Otherwise, all you are doing is reinforcing their idea that frum Jews think we are all too good for everyone else.
The frum family members have to maintain warm and open lines of communication with their loved ones who are not frum, while at the same time being extra vigilant over their own actions while in their company. It’s never a bad thing to make a kiddush Hashem, especially if one believes that the true K”H is in front of other Jews.
Your kid made a mistake. And I think you realize you did, too, because it really is a VERY bad idea to eat by someone who is serving both kosher and non-kosher food, though I am sure he was very well-intentioned to get a kosher grill for you. Whenever we visit my husband’s family, I always bring the main food. They buy fresh paper goods and plastic ware, which we open up, and any OU or other acceptable Hashgocha items (like potato chips, soda, etc.), and fresh fruit and vegetables, which we cut up with plastic knives.
At engagement, left hand finger next to the pinkie. After the wedding, it can be worn there together with the wedding ring, or transferred to the other hand, fourth finger.
Frumnotyeshivish – with all due respect, you could not be more mistaken. If you smoke, you smell like an ashtray. You may not mind the smell, but people around you do, plus your smell permaeates whatever place you go into, i.e. your car, someone’s home (not even your own where you smoke), the clothing you wear and so forth. You have every right to enjoy that smell, but most people do not like it, especially when the odor is STALE.
Children exposed to even small amounts of second-hand smoke have a higher incidence of respiratory ailments than other children. People who work in environments where there are smokers, have been known to devekop emphysema and even lung cancer, when they have never smoked. Look at the late Dana Reeve, the widow of Christopher Reeve (played Superman) who died of lung cancer. She was not a smoker, but was exposed to it at work.
Your smoke pollutes the air that I have to breathe, along with all the other people who make a conscious decision NOT to deliebrately hurt our lungs with this poison. You should put a bubble over your head to encase yourself completely, with oxygen to breathe, and I will never say another word about your smoking, though I will daven for you that you do not get a machlah from your personal decision. Death from lung cancer is quite painful and protracted. Imagine feeling like you are drowning with no end in sight. Stop kidding yourself, and stop trying to rationalize your dangerous habit to the rest of us. Admit that you are a yetzer hara that is very powerful over you (and I KNOW it is), and instead of trying to justify it, accept that your Y”H is in control of you, and try to take steps to get control over it instead. You will save a LOT of money, and possibly your life and the lives of those around you. You are less insurable if you smoke, also. I am personally shocked that Gedolim have not assered this outright.
BTW – you are mistaken – I happen to LIKE the smell of FRESH smoke, and in particular, the delicious smell of cherry pipe tobacco. I still would not want to be exposed to it anymore, knowing what every intelligent person now knows about the danger. But even as much as that smell might be pleasant at first, once a little time has passed, it STINKS and remains in the air.
If you want to emulate Moshe Rabbeinu, then strive to be a leader, a Rabbi, a communal activist,supreme court judge and a myriad of other occupations that he did ALL while learning Torah from hashem.
So cemetery bushes are now making music?
My Uncle, a fine frum Yid, died painfully, suffering with emphysema contracted after years of smoking. Don’t tell me irrelevant misdirected arguments about the teva changing. Who cares? You deal with the teva NOW, and the teva now is to get quite ill, possibly die, and take others with you as collateral damage from their exposure to your second-hand smoke. Plus, smokers STINK (and don’t know it, because they are used to their own stench, their fingers and teeth are nicotine-stained, and they tend to be very self-absorbed (who couldn’t be when they believe in their RIGHT to smoke and no concerns with anyone else’s right to breathe?).
As a woman who prefers female docs, but can rarely find any good ones in my neighborhood, I applaud ALL women who go into this very challenging field. I agree about the Hatzolah remark, BTW. Women in labor should have the option of a female medic with them, if that’s what they want. Trouble is, how many women are willing to drop everything (including their families) to go out on a call? (No, it’s not the same thing for the guys).
This is how my house felt all Shavuos. I would never move to Florida, just for the heat alone.
Never say someone is insecure. Who would ever want to date him? Perhaps he is “reflective, earnest, eager to please…”
I would have a talk with him, and try to get him a dating mentor/coach.
We saw that Moshe Rabbeinu was not allowed to be the one to hit The Nile River in Makas Dam, because it saved his life by keeping him hidden from the Mitzrim, as he floated in the basket. If someone has to be so careful to ashow hakoras hatov to an inanimate object like a river, how much more so do we have to show H”H to people who actually do chassadim for us. And al achas kama v’kamah, how much MORE so do we have to be makir tov to haKadosh Boruch Hu, who does the most chessed of all for us 24/7.
If you want to say that R’Moshe Zt”l or EVEN S.Hawking are smarter than I, I can totally live with that. But when you apply the same statement as a generality to half of the population, I have to question the integrity of the so-called statistics and who their compilers are.
face, dignity, youth.
For my hubby, it’s the keys and his wallet. Always!
Whoops! I need to get with the program!
“I never thought women were dumb. But then I read this thread where they are actually bothering to argue about it. “
And then I read this thread where men like Popa are posting these oh so witty remarks.
“Oomiss: Exactly what my mother taught me……”
Hi walton157. How are you?
tutoring is good, but won’t bring in a particularly good salary (unless one develops a wide fan base). It’s a great secondary job, though.
Black hat, people
It should be assur D’rabbanan for a shadchan, boy’s mother, or the boy himself R”L, to inquire about a girl’s dress size, or any other size for that matter. If she is overweight in an unpleasing way (to him), then he does not have to go out with her again, though he could be cutting himself off from a fantastic shidduch, if he would only give it a chance. Dress sizes go up and down (so do his pants sizes, btw, especially after a few really good home-cooked meals from a kallah trying to impress her new chosson).
We should be teaching our boys AND girls to be less concerned with externals,even as they have the right to feel a measure of attraction to their date. But do we have to make it EASY for them to be preoccupied with this naarishkeit, by making it a prerequisite, as it were, to being set up?
A relative of mine uses a flour mixture of tapioca, rice, and potato starch. It works fine in most of her cakes, but she never tried it for challah.
I think that during many of the testing years, women were brought up to believe that it is unladylike to appear smarter than a man, so they played dumb. They might have done the same in school, deliberately lowering their test scores, in order to not appear superior to the boys they were trying to impress. Though this may sound simplistic, it is not untrue.
Women used guns in the wild west, too.
First of all, I am very sorry that you feel these feelings. It cannot be easy to give voice to them, especially on a public forum. I think that marriage is a series of pleasant AND unpleasant surprises, because until you live with someone you cannot possibly know much about them. Especially in the frum velt, it is getting harder and harder to know what you need to know.
People get engaged very quickly, based on dating via resume, rather than simply meeting someone, liking him/her enough to want to date, dating for the express purpose of getting to know their personality (not relying on what some rebbie, morah, or neighbor has to say about them). If it looks good on paper, they think real life will look just as good. I am not saying that’s what you did or did not do, just that this is what I am seeing more and more.
Nobody is 100% happy 100% of the time. Unless your kallah has utterly misrepresented herself, it just sounds like the bloom is wearing off the rose. I think you should both get some counseling from a frum therapist and/or a rov who is sensitive and expert in marital issues (not every rov is, and many should NEVER be advising young couples on anything except whether or not the chicken is treif). Don’t just give up on your marriage. Sounds like you are going through a difficult adjustment. Realize that your kallah, too, may have tainos about things that unplesantly surprised her about you. No one but Hashem is perfect.
You would be surprised at how many young people feel as you do. What did I get into? Was there someone better out there for me? Why did I get married so fast? You got into a partnership, and you both need to work to MAKE it work. If there are serious problems (i.e., she is hashkafically less frum than you were led to believe, she has a really bad temper that she kept hidden, etc.)then those issues need to be discussed between you, and intervention by a sensitive professional may be helpful. I repeat. Don’t give up on your marriage. Grow from it.
Statistics can be manipulated, as we all know. Some males consistently score higher on mathematical portions of IQ tests. Females, however, consistently score significantly higher on the reading comprehension/verbal areas, Since we need to talk and comprehend what we are hearing, a lot more than we need to figure out how fast a train is going to meet up with another train travelling in the opposite direction, I figure that the need for excellent verbal and communication skills is greater. Hence (I LOVE that word), the seichel given to women is more relevant, IMO.
But – you are correct – to the extent that men traditionally were afforded educational and employment opportunities that were frequently denied to women in areas that test their mathematical skills, so that they were unable to discover and hone their innate intellectual abilities until recent decades.
I call it coconut juice, so no one thinks mistakenly it is milk.
I would sue, if it will not aggravate you even more to have to go to court. My husband and I were rear-ended by a guy who was behind us at a red light. We were behind another car. When the ligjht turned green, we waited for the first car to move, which he did not do immediately, but the car behind us misjudged and started to move as soon as the light changed. He went right into us and we were not yet moving.
So we called 911, to report the accident (we were not hurt, nor was our car, though the other driver damaged his own front end), but he lied to the cops and told them we stopped short. We could not have stopped short, we were at a red light to begin with. He just started to drive too soon. Fortunately, despite his lies, the law is on the side of the person who is hit from the rear. The irony is he came running out all apologetically that he was too close to us, he thought we were moving, he misjudged the distance, it was all his fault. I love honest people. BTW, I reported the accident, because I did not trust the guy to not report us as a hit and run. He looked sleazy to me, and it turns out my instincts were on the mark.
Based on how Hashem created us, He gave WOMEN Binah Yesairah. which gives us the edge, I think.
They only THINK they are, because we smart ladies let them!
It’s not muttar. It will kill the smoker, and it can potentially kill others around the smoker.
Leave the obese to their own devices. At least their problem does not pollute the air the rest of us have to breathe.
One tevilah after the bracha has been made (for women) is the halacha. Most women do 3 in some configuration (1 before the bracha 2 after, 2 before 1 after, 3 after etc. Many do 7 or 8. From what I have heard, women married to Sephardim typically have this latter minhag.
Younger than 37 or so, very rare.