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It is better for a 2 year old to go to a babysitter sometimes than always to spend all day at home with the father. Children need to learn to interact with other children their age, and there are probably other kids at the babysitter.
Strongly disagree! So not so. Kids at that age don’t need to get out and learn to interact with friends. And they certainly don’t need to be babysat. There is no better place for a 2 year old than with a parent unless that parent is not safe. People just like to believe that 2 year olds need to get out and be with friends so they can justify leaving them. If a two year old wants to play with a friend, he should do it under your care.
Why dont boys have yeshiva on erev shavuos, at the very least a friday schedule when most girls schools do?
to you and others above…THERE IS LIFE OUTSIDE OF YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD!!!!!!
did you mean to say, “why don’t boys in the handful of schools i am aquainted with have school on erev shavuos?” Cuz my girls didn’t but my boys did. And i would even go out on a limb and guess that there are OTHER communities where it may have differed from mine *gasp*
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Do you have specific information regarding Rabbi Aryeh Ralbag that he is not reliable?
yes
was referring to Breyer’s
Chof – K DE
Ben and Jerry’s made 4 flavors of dairy free ice cream using almond milk which are really good, but breyer’s one-upped them with two flavors of dairy free almond milk ice cream for half the price that are actually very close to real ice cream flavor. I was a huge ice cream fan and have missed it terribly since I stopped eating cholov company. The Breyer’s is more affordable than any options out there and really yummy.
…or we can just contact their heilige representative Joseph here in the CR
That’s very funny Joseph. You claim speaking out against the behavior of certain specific communities is animosity against Judaism. Well guess what, Judaism doesn’t advocate for the things he is speaking against. And your habit of misrepresenting halachos and minhagim to portray a discriminating and hateful Gd (ch”v) are much worse and much more damaging than calling out a handful of communities for something they shouldn’t do.
Joseph your refrain is so lame. Cancer and car accidents treif and common cold are such a stupid non-parallel and your throwing those in their are a diversionary tactic. Your effort to pretend that the issues he mentions are on the same level as those, your effort to pretend that the issues he brings up are not serious issues that COULD and SHOULD be acknowledged just weakens your stance.
Why doesn’t someone say, YES, we have this serious problem in those neighborhoods that we have chose to handle be sweeping it under the carpet and I don’t know why , but these people are still chashuv. Or they could try saying YES it is hard to understand why people would abuse, set fire to, ex communicate and destroy families who try to protect their children from abuse but I still respect them for other things.
Pretending brings no credibility to you, and not being able to give a valid, upstanding “excuse” just confirms that you too know that the behaviors are wrong and need to make them go away instead of answering to them.
CTLawyer -I am a 3rd generation American on my mother’s side. My grandfather and great uncle both served in WWI at the ages of 17 and 18 years old. My grandfather was shot and left for dead, dog tags sent home and a farm couple found him unconscious and nursed him back to health.
I try to imagine how my grandmother managed WWII with her son, son in law, and brother all fighting. My great uncle was there at pearl harbor and my kids were fascinated to hear him give a first hand account. When he died two years ago my boys were given a siddur he received from the chaplain when he served.im so sorry to make you feel that way! I just thought it was an emotional “outburst”, sounded like frustration talking. Didn’t mean to say you were lying, although presented your way it sounds like I was saying that, but I wasn’t.
So sorry.
I didn’t hear him saying that. And he doesn’t post daily as you may have noticed from an earlier post so I wouldn’t call it ignoring as much as he just has not yet responded.“because the CR participants are not worthy of discussing the psak. ”
I don’t think he said or meant that, and I don’t think you think he said or meant that.
“Agreed. Frankly, it invites skepticism that there was such a psak for this situation.”
I disagree. seeing how quotes get mangled, misquoted, misunderstood and disrespected (sometimes) I would be hesitant to put too much out there.
ubiquitin – exactly, I was hoping someone would point that out. Finding *A* rav and sticking with him is critical. To ask advice of a different rav in his “area of expertise” is an option but the importance of having and sticking with one rav for shailos is basic.
RY – I don’t get it. Is this supposed to be funny? Why add insult to injury? And I’m a bit confused about the sudden change in your online persona.
WTP – I cannot tell you how your post spoke for me. I am with you 100%. I felt the same way when I had to get a smart phone and really agree with all your fears coming true. I can tell you what measures I took but it is still so very difficult.
RY,Avi – I don’t get why you are throwing around those comments? Her feelings are very personal and deep, if you don’t think they are founded, why make jokes about them? Posters throwing in comments about horse and buggy and parchment is just disrespectful to her question and feelings on this. Nobody doesn’t know what type of technology she is referring to and nobody thinks she is talking about ink and parchment.I went through this the other day. It was my sister’s yahrtzeit and I was in a lot of pain. I thought about all the times I would post when I had those thoughts, talking about the emunah involved in getting past the pain and struggle, and sharing any chizuk or need for chizuk. And I realized I wouldn’t even consider it these days. The way people respond at times to pain or struggle, to personal struggles with life is not always conducive to sharing these things. It’s not quite so ‘safe’ here anymore and seeing these responses to WTP’s OP just reconfirmed it and made me feel really sad.
i was one of those stay at home moms and it wasn’t tuition that sent us to a second income when the kids were all in school, it was clothes and expenses attached to having older kids. Granted tuition is plenty but our kids wore hand me downs and last years styles and they rode $30 tricycles from target. Camp was a non issue- we played together all summer. Tzitzis for my young boys ran $7-10. The ones they wear today (and I am completely grateful they do!) run $35-40. There were little boys suits in a local store for $30 (pure synthetic) that looked beautiful. Haircuts – free back then. Except for the wahl haircutter I had to replace every 8 years or so. Hats? Shoes? Drivers ed? Car insurance????
Sure tuition is over my head and plane tickets to yeshiva and home (Thank Gd again) materialize from nowhere but I couldn’t peg that as the reason I went back to work.I know that when we wanted to implement a makeshift lunch program (before we had funding) we had a very tough time finding enough mom’s with that availability.
🙁“once you get a president you work with him;”
absolutely correct. And a lesson for appropriate way to handle principals, teachers, guests etc. Short of a shidduch suggestion I think it’s an important life lesson. Thanks for that.
CTLawyer – I know it’s an old overdone circular topic but it aint about looks. Superficiality has its place but… evil dressed well is still worse than incompetence with no table manners.
In my kid’s school the kids made a “hefker” table where they themselves will place things they don’t want that other kids will take. The staff are not allowed to “lay hands” on the food and leftovers go in the garbage but the kids themselves trade and ‘regift’ their food before it’s eaten. And technically the hefker food is “in the garbage” so if someone wants to take it I don’t know what they law would say. Anything left over in the serving trays has to be thrown out or used before a certain amount of time passes (4 hours?) when the food is considered expired and it no longer exists in the eyes of the state.
ridiculous story- sad but true – the staff is forbidden from touching or handling the children’s food for fear of them “pilfering” it. When the inspectors came to a school for the severely and profoundly disabled, we were not allowed to handle the food so the cartons sat closed before them, the containers sat unopened, the fruit sat unpeeled and the packages remained sealed. The students were only able to eat that which they could spoon or handfeed themselves from that which was unwrapped. It was heartbreaking.
CTLawyer – yes, you are correct. it is the chocolate that is fat free. But nobody wanted it. Instead of having three to five cases left over there would be 10-20 cases left over.
And yes, you are also correct about all the other regulations you listed. The lunches are measured out to each child regardless of how much they want. But they are not obligated to take all the options, they may chose 3 of 5, or 4 of 6 (I don’t remember). That is how the left overs ‘come to be’.
For the first year of our lunches (we have only had the lunch program in our schools for about 2 years) we threw tons of food away as staff members who had little to eat watched on. It was awful. It took a while to come up with a way to get access to the food that was perfectly legal, no loopholes or kulas but with Hashem in our corner, so to speak, we found the way.
There is also the issue of food from the kitchen that cannot be used again for lunches (menus cannot be repeated within a certain time frame) but is perfectly fine for eating.
B”Hcry all you want, it is still better than what could have been
**double shudder**
DovidBT- your comment may sound good but if you have ever sat in a lunchroom and watched children eat chips and soda for lunch you might think differently.
Also, I get the left overs from hot lunch and redistribute (that which is still edible) to others. What Michelee Obama did was make the food everything that nobody wanted to eat. The amounts of food left over from kids not interested in whole wheat pasta, fatfree white milk, squash soup and whole wheat bread was stunning. And you would be shocked at how hard it was for me to find families who had children who would eat it!I will be beyond grateful when lunches can go back to being edible. It is without doubt more healthy than having nothing at all.
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Oh please, bit of a stretch
surprising, or just amazing?
Rebyidd said that this was all said by an acquaintance. Where your responses to RebYidd, or to the acquaintance?
Is this an offshoot of your disagreement with Syag Lchochma over the shoes-Autism joke?
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“LeftySeferStam, based on his post above, seems to think it depends on the gender of the author.”
I didn’t hear that. He didn’t say it depends on the gender of the author, he said that women don’t write sefarim. And then you brought examples of books written by women that you said are referred to as sefarim and I jumped in to say I have never heard them referenced that way.
Point being, it isn’t about ability of women, it is about appropriateness and tafkid. Feel free to disagree but this is how *I* was taught and *I* believe it to be so. The idea that a woman would write a sefer and use a man’s name is very disturbing to me. To me. That is MY feeling and opinion. It does not feel honest TO ME and I see it as a lacking in she’asani kirtzono. That was not a psak I received, it is how I was taught AND how I feel as well.
I have no idea what you are trying to say.
Wow, lots of cynicism here. Was I not supposed to express a differing opinion or life experiences? Gee guys, so sorry. Or is saying “guys” offensive too?
WTP – I also agree that there are bright female Torah educators but I have never heard those books referred to as sfarim (in the manner you refer to). Not even when I was in a class where we were learning it!
side point –
“There must be more- probably some under male pen names.”
does not sit right with me at all.“The Star-K uses 600 Centipoise (cP) as the cutoff point. SAE 40 motor oil is about 600 cP if you want to do your own testing.”
I remember Rabbi Fuerst telling me anything from vegetable oil and thinner
It’s the scratching. Sound and feel.
ew, I hate thinking about it“I imagine if you ask an OT, they will tell you that one needs to press harder with a pencil than a pen. Which means they have to hold the pencil with a firmer grip. It trains their muscles so that they can write the letters properly. When they master that, they can use the easier to write with pen. ”
disagree. the pencil really does nothing for that and it is purely the erasability that makes teachers opt for a pencil in early writing days. When accomodations need to be made, it is usually in the opposite direction. Meaning, pencils are the default but if the child is legitimately lacking muscle strength we may offer a marker for increased legibility. Also, if they have sensory issues (like me and rebyidd and millions of others) and the pencil is torturous (for me this extends to fine point pens as well *shudder*) we go for the pen.
When needing to adjust grip pressure, usually the choice is a fatter pencil or marker.
just my two (professional) cents.Winnie The Pooh – we ordered a few online from china for pennies and they came, broke, and were replaced and the fad is still going!
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seriously tho, i happen to love them. i’d go for the fidget cube but i can’t afford it.couldnt agree more. my engagement ring is a saphire (like the luchos)
mw- i don’t believe for a second that you think the two are comparable. the question isn’t rational or even worth answering.
4 heaping tablespoons make a heaping 1/4 cup
yup, if you know the secret handshake
yekke – without reading everything i do know that if the askan publicly humiliated the talmid chocham, someone who witnessed it was allowed to tell you about it. When someone does aveiros in public their status changes.
Secondly, if someone tells you that a person wants to kill you (or cheat you or rob you etc) you are NOT allowed to be mekabel but you ARE obligated to be cautious, and look for signs with the understanding that it might be for no reason but that it might be true.
LF – you took the words right out of my mouth!! B”H for the privilege.
im guessing its about the same measurement as a heaping tablespoon.
Golfer – I love you (in other words I am enthralled with your response)
sent it…
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someone from the way olden 7-11 days in the ‘hood just lost his mom. don’t know if you know who i mean…i wanted you to know he always asks me how you are and thinks of you often. wasn’t sure how to tell you online without mentioning his name but thought you might be able to figure it out this way…<<end sidebar>>they are really good, goq. They are made from potaatoe starch and i use them (regular and cajun) all year long.
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Something is seriously wrong with the time stamp! I send things in and the stamp shows they were approved an hour into the future!
I was wondering about that too. bleh, dont like change.
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