I try to avoid people suffering from Maschalephidrosis and Rhinotillexomania.

Sorry zees didnt realize u had a similar thread.

Thank you shticky guy i will get over it.

ICOT here is a post of cherrybims from awhile ago

“In general, there’s a single’s mentality that become established and makes it all the more comfortable for singles to remain single.

There is a reason why the Ashkenazi custom is that a never married male does not merit wearing a talis, nor can he be a shaliach tzibor on the yomim norayim, and other instances where only married men are permitted to be included in Jewish rites. The point is that a male who has not married is not a completed person; not in learning, not in his avodah and not in his sensitivity to the suffering of others. And there is a selfishness and a “me” orientation with single males.

So no one is doing singles a favor by providing them additional comfort zones, such as: their own minyanim in shuls, special discounts in shul dues, their own thread in the CR, etc. They need to feel that their behavior is not ok and they will only find acceptance when they marry and become mainstreamed into the general frum population.

There are numerous fine frum women who would love to marry a frum fellow. Find one and marry her.

Amichai thank you, Kapusta thank you for making me aware of that i know there are people who are aware of who i am, wow i appreciate your post i know you are going through some tough stuff and something like this may seem trivial thank you for sharing.

“Did it ever occur to you that either he or his wife just doesn’t like you?”

You should have get to know someone to know wether you like or dislike them or so i thought his interactions with me make me very uncomfortable he just seems to have made up his mind about me either by prejudging or by hearsay (aka lashon hora) neither option is acceptable.

cherry they barely know me thought i dont doubt that he has judged me harshly in his mind. I’ve never met his wife

and frankly cherrybim the fact that you have no sympathy for older singles is not news to me you have displayed your unfeeling and harsh ways before.

“Do you still feel a barrier between you two?”

Being a never married older single male you get used to being excluded and not considered to be an adult and there unimportant or superfluous , example earlier this year at our Yeshiva dinner one of the honorees who knows everyone in the office made an effort to mention each employee by name in the journal one person wasn’t named, me i try to take these slights in stride but it can be quite vexing at times.

No worries byg93, good catch moski!