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The mark of a Jew is that we control our desires and channel them into serving Hashem according to the Torah and our Mesorah.
For example, a Jew who has homosexual desires can be a Rabbi in a community too small to support a Rabbi with a family. Or he can learn Torah to the exclusion of anything else in his life. And every time he doesn’t do what he wants to do, he makes a kiddush Hashem and brings kedusha into the world.
Kollel wife,I’m completely with you. I personally wanted to tear kriya in mourning when I heard the news.
I called the person whom I like to ask for advice, and she told me to remember that this is not us.
From Avraham, who was me’eiver from the rest of the world, we Jews have always been separate from the nations of the world, and this is just a reminder that our moral values are not the same.
We have to just continue doing our shlichut in this world, doing what Hashem wants us to do in whatever situation He puts us in.
Gamanit, JK Rowling once said that they had a spell that did it I think. Unless I read that in a fanfiction.
Interesting about the jaundice.
Thanks everyone, I had no idea it was so widespread.
I thought people did it to accustom their children to feeling tahor… did I make that up?
Interesting. I was wondering what the source for doing it was.
How do you do it with smaller babies, though? I’ve done it once or twice but it always results in a soaking wet baby.
I think that Mazal is correct. Diabetes is a serious illness. Like lupus, severe food allergies, psychiatric illness, or deafness, it can be controlled or compensated for.
If you want people to date people with diabetes, you have to acknowledge that it is a serious issue that affects every day functioning in an all-encompassing way.
I would be more worried about my child dating someone with diabetes who had the attitude “It’s not a big deal, I more or less have it controlled, don’t worry about future issues.”
I would be less worried about my child dating someone with diabetes who said, “Look, I know diabetes is a serious disease. I live a life of self-discipline and have it well-controlled for many years. I hope this will minimize the long term effects and I check with a doctor every time I notice something minor. The rest is in Hashem’s hands.”June 9, 2015 9:18 pm at 9:18 pm in reply to: The real reason for the ban against chassidish women driving? #1086798
MDG, I do not live in a big city. We have to drive to get groceries.June 9, 2015 7:04 pm at 7:04 pm in reply to: The real reason for the ban against chassidish women driving? #1086782
I don’t drive and there is no bearing on being “controlled”.
In fact, of the women I know who do and don’t drive, there is absolutely no difference in terms of who does the controlling in the marriage.
This is what Belz chose for their community. You don’t like it, join the less strict Belzers, they exist. This is what the community wants.
Why do you want to marry someone who is in klei kodesh?
coffee addict, that sounds like an incredibly idiotic thing to do.May 21, 2015 7:23 pm at 7:23 pm in reply to: Should a doctors prescription be required for chewing gum? #1215839
It’s obnoxious, so yes. People shouldn’t chew gum unless medically necessary.May 21, 2015 7:22 pm at 7:22 pm in reply to: Women staying up all night on shevuos and being tznius all night. #1082629
I’m not a feminist and I’m up every night learning Toras Hatinokim
But Shavuos night, I’m going to let my husband learn instead.
Mrs. Plony, the problem is that gefilte fish in the gel is very expensive.
I’ve tried to make gefilte fish from scratch, but it doesn’t come out well.
The best, easiest and cheapest recipe is as follows:
Buy a loaf of cheapest gefilte fish, defrost for 20 min and unwrap
Take a 8 oz can of tomato sauce, pour 1/4 can into pan, cover bottom.
Put in unwrapped fish, cover with rest of tomato sauce, bake as instructions say to.
It is so delicious and so easy.
Reading the menu made me feel sick,but clearly there are people who are interested in this sort of thing.
When I turned bas mitzva, my parents took me to ChapaNosh, or maybe it was Chaval al Hazman. I had never eaten in anything fancier than a pizza shop, and was very impressed.
They talked to me seriously about how I have to keep mitzvos now and gave me a present.
It was very nice and IYH I hope to do the same for my daughters.
I think that what PBA is saying is that people who don’t have as many aveiros can have more kids because their babies cry less…lol
Bookworm, that makes sense. Sorry.
sirvoddmort: Women know perfectly well what is spring cleaning and what is Pesach cleaning. It’s just that while you’re doing one, you may as well do the other.
And PBA, it’s because women had to do men’s jobs, so they couldn’t clean like they wanted, and the Mitzrim’s homes always had crumbs in the corners. So now they are making up for it.
Because davening to Hashem is like talking to the one you love – you need to keep up the relationship.
And usually, Hashem does want to give us what we want, and He wants to be kind to us, and davening can make good things happen faster than they would otherwise.
But davening is not about what you get, it’s the connection to Hashem.
Imagine if the only conversation you had with your spouse was, “Could you please take out the garbage? Could you please make a lot of money? Could you please discipline the 6 year old?”
And you never just enjoyed being with your spouse and talking about your life. Isn’t that the wrong way to approach it?
I don’t know if it’s forbidden, but it’s definitely bad for children.
I don’t believe in telling children things that are untrue, even as jokes, because then they will not know when to trust you.
I love you!
Bookworm: I’ll let you know if I do! Here are a few more:
Little Menachem Warner, sitting in his corner, learning Mishnayos all day.
Twas no one’s suprise, when he won the grand prize, at the Mishnayos contest in May.
What are Jewish girls made of? What are Jewish girls made of? Chesed and tznius and everything zee-us (sweet), that’s what Jewish girls are made of. What are Jewish boys made of? What are Jewish boys made of? Torah and Yiras Hashem and good Middos to go with them, that’s what Jewish boys are made of.
Rockabye baby, close your little eyes, Hashem loves you more than you can realize. SO grow to be true, with TOrah your guide, oh Rockabye baby you are my pride.
In my dream shul, no one yells at kids for running around outside
Bookworm, I also want to protest your zilzul of Torah values.
Women have Yiras SHamayim and want to go lifnim mishuras hadin, more than the letter of the law. What’s the big deal?
Keep her busy with chessed and shiurim and davening and positive activities, and after a while she’ll have no use for it.
I like what nisht said here:
As far as saying the minhag should be abolished, the people who wish so, want to do so just to show that they can overturn a centuries old hangagah at their whom and not for any neccesity. There does not seem to be any pressing society need to change the minhag. There are way more options today for food than there ever has been.
Did they check that it has all red hairs?
There’s a word for “Exile Jews” – Diaspora Jews.
I was once in a women’s clothing store in Boro Park, when a man called and asked if he could come buy clothes for his wife. The Chassidish woman who owned the store said no, she doesn’t allow men in the store as the women will walk out.
About 2 weeks after that, I was in a specialty non-Jewish women’s clothing store that actually had a sign, “No men allowed past the cash register”, which was right at the front of the store.
I told them I like that rule, and they said that they made that rule because they noticed that women wouldn’t buy as many clothes if there was a man around.
I think people should be allowed to make rules about who they want to serve. It’s their business they’d be losing.
Oomis, my husband just made me eggs with peppers, and forgot to tell me that he used green chili peppers that were red.
It was actually surprisingly delicious.
Both bekius and iyun – you need to cover the whole story, and focus on a few details and lessons to learn.
DY, excellent poem, and I think the moth was most upset.
Jewish thinker, it was definitely causing me tzaar.
Rebbyid, my husband said there was no moth inside when he picked up the burp cloth, so it probably wasn’t too badly hurt. Which makes sense because I didn’t crush it, I only wrapped it into a ball.
Is this one of your perfect threads?
Also, it’s obvious that you’ve been reading Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality.
Also, are girls allowed to sing the Meine Tefillin song, or is that kol ish?
We know it’s a man
We know it’s not a Kohen or a Levi
Maybe it’s my husband!
You don’t make me fall?’February 27, 2015 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm in reply to: Why are there approximately as many boys as girls? #1063811
OP: Actually the more coins you drop, the closer the average will be to 50%February 27, 2015 9:20 pm at 9:20 pm in reply to: Why are there approximately as many boys as girls? #1063810
yehudayona: That is not due to biology, as a quick google search will tell you, but rather to female infanticide and abortion of females due to the one child policy.
nolongersingle: Both! Five boys and five girls.
What is third hand smoke?
Smoking marijuana is like a skunk spraying, if you’re a skunk, or picking your nose in public, if you’re human. Sure, you can do it for medical purposes, but it’s just a really bad idea.
pba = DY (pba’s serious side)February 25, 2015 10:50 pm at 10:50 pm in reply to: Popa's shidduch consultancy and shidduch solution center #1061127
FIF: How complimented would you feel if someone said to you, “You know, your baby isn’t the cutest baby, but I think it’s the perfect baby FOR YOU!”
If you think you wouldn’t be offended, you’re obviously not a parent.
Why? Do you want to fry out and take her along with you?
Because not enough people care about keeping kosher to support them?
Maybe having less children makes you rich. All the MO I know who are rich have very few children.
It’s just going to devolve into a no true scotsman argument.February 25, 2015 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm in reply to: #1061043
I don’t think YWN has anything to worry about. It’s pretty hard to maintain a news website and as long as YWN sustains its quality and accessibility no readers are going to be drawn there.
Akuperma, that’s not what I’m saying at all.
FFBT; Maybe your parents can’t afford seminary. Also, how much do your parents earn a year? You know seminary is very expensive.
Akuperma, your last line reminds me of this:
In Shir Hashirim 7:1, it says,???? ???? ???????, ???? ???? ????? ??”, “?? ???? ??????? ?????? ??????!”
The non-Jews see the pretty flags of the Tribes in the desert, and they say to us (see Rashi), “Shulamis (one who is complete in faith), return from following G-d! In exchange, we will appoint you governors and rulers. We will try to think of what greatness to give you.”
And we the Jews respond, “What greatness can you give me that will equal my greatness, or even the greatness of the circle of our camps in the desert?” (where each tribe and person was perfectly positioned to serve G-d to the best of their ability.)
The golden ring of the secular world, as you call it, has sadly led many Jews to compromise their Judaism in their search for “quality of life”. Seeing this, you can hardly blame any Jew for their reluctance to jump in.December 10, 2014 10:56 am at 10:56 am in reply to: #1060003
Rayoflight, it doesn’t sound to me like you have a spectrum disorder, it’s more that you grew up with emotionally unresponsive parents and therefore your brain didn’t develop as many receptors to understand emotion. (Not to criticize your parents, it sounds like they tried their best in other ways as you described earlier. It could be that they have aspects of ASD and didn’t realize what they were doing. But honestly, throwing it in your face like that sounds really bad, not nice and totally not constructive.)
I mean, I don’t have ASD, and I also need to sleep in a dark room at night. I don’t think that’s a serious enough issue for you to say, oh that’s the sensory aspect of the disorder.
It is possible to have one or two issues that make someone on the autistic spectrum, but then again we are ALL on the autistic spectrum by that standard, except maybe people who are exceptionally emotionally astute and responsive (and those people tend to struggle from depression because they are so aware of their own and other’s negative emotions.)
So what’s my point? Basically I think the whole labeling issue is pointless for someone like you who is quite functional. There have always been people who were slightly less aware of social cues and most of them find their place in society and a high percentage of them are very successful. Labeling is good for jars, but pretty useless for a human being.