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  • in reply to: The process of asking for money for a wedding #2111748
    ujm
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    Mentsch1: In America the Kallah’s side is expected to fund the bulk of the wedding costs and the engaged couple’s startup costs for housing needs, etc. In Eretz Yisroel not; so it more or less is about the same.

    in reply to: The process of asking for money for a wedding #2111747
    ujm
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    Why does anyone else have to know? Tzedaka is supposed to ideally be done anonymously.

    in reply to: How to enforce Tznius guidelines in a Kehillah #2111746
    ujm
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    Dov, why do you feel it is better that way?

    in reply to: Philanthropy for Kavod #2111573
    ujm
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    On a slightly related note, is a Hatzalah member (or any Chesed service volunteer) selling their Mitzvah by accepting retail discounts offered to members?

    in reply to: Philanthropy for Kavod #2111501
    ujm
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    Organizations promote to potential charitable donations that they’ll put the donors name on the building or wall. So, clearly, donors are happy and looking to see themselves promoted in return for their donation.

    in reply to: Philanthropy for Kavod #2111490
    ujm
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    I always donate anonymously. If any organization publicized a contribution I made, I’d be very upset.

    I don’t even like those online GoFundMe type sites that try to get you to have your name displayed online, with the amount you gave.

    in reply to: Philanthropy for Kavod #2111472
    ujm
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    I have the same feeling everytime I see a plaque with a name of a donor on the wall. Or outside on the building.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2111411
    ujm
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    Menachem made an excellent point. There’s no discernable Halachic difference between a frum woman putting up a YouTube video of herself singing than her putting up a YouTube video of herself swimming in any swim outfit.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2111393
    ujm
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    BaltimoreMaven’s approach, where the ladies dancing videos are kept on a separate DVD from the main wedding video, is pretty good. Combining that with only female photographers/videographers for the ladies, is a pretty effective solution. Obviously no men, including the Choson and other family members, should ever be watching the ladies dancing DVD.

    in reply to: “Frum” female singers on YouTube #2111334
    ujm
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    Avira, I would be interested to hear if you know of any heterim for photographers in this regard. “Shmiras Haloshon”, above, wrote that in Eretz Yisroel it frequently is the case that they hire women photographers specifically to avoid this problem. Yet, in America, that is usually not the case.

    That said, my primary concern regarding videography of women dancing at Chasunas was the issue of who will be watching the wedding videos later. I made some comments above in that regard.

    “Shmiras Haloshon” wrote that by him they skip the parts of the videos showing the women dancing, when the family watches the Chasuna video. That’s highly commendable, of course. But the professional video editing usually inserts women dancing and men dancing, switching back and forth between the two very frequently and many times. It would seem to me that it would be rather very difficult to properly skip the women dancing every time by fast forwarding it again and again and again. And even if you tried that, you’d still unavoidably see it the beginning of each time the video starts playing it, until you get to fast forwarding it. (And even during the fast forwarding you’d see it again in fast motion until you find the place where it ends.)

    Additionally, let’s be honest — does everyone fast forward to skip those parts of the Chasuna video? Do most people do it?

    in reply to: How to enforce Tznius guidelines in a Kehillah #2111324
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    CS, Hadorah: Had this been an old discussion regarding Rabbeinu Tam’s tefilin or a discussion on what bracho to make on various cereals or a discussion on what your favorite flavor ice cream is, the fact that the thread was from 2013 would not have merited your meltdown decrying why revive such a dated discussion. The issues are still present and applicable today as much as then. But since this involves the uncomfortable discussion of tznius, oh no, how can I tell my wife and daughters that their skirt is too short or tight!, therefore let’s bury the issue under the carpet and pretend everything is well in Holland and there’s nothing to talk about and no issue to discuss. Yet we all know there is an issue and it is the responsibility of fathers and husbands to insure that it is rectified.

    takah: Why would you even think the problem is with the Rebbetzin rather than those she needs to correct?

    in reply to: Yeshivos #2111232
    ujm
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    Is 614 a typo?

    in reply to: Israeli concerts during Aug 2022 #2111158
    ujm
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    Syag, let’s bury the hatchet. It’s been going on forever. I’ve felt at times that you’ve made unwarranted adverse assailings to me that were outside the issues under discussion. I’m sure you’ve felt similarly about myself. Nevertheless, I shouldn’t have taken this antagonism to unrelated discussions, and for that I sincerely apologize. I don’t think there’s any need for me to wait for Elul to do so. I hope you’ll be forgiving. I’ll try much harder not to make barbs in my comments even when I strongly believe you’re wrong on issues. Being human I may slip up again, but know even if I do that in my heart I never mean it personally, even if it unfortunately comes across as such. I love every Jew in the world with a full heart, even if conversations go awry or way off track into misunderstanding territory. I regret those comments rather quickly. To conclude, you have no need to ask me for any form of absolution or express any contrition; whatever imperative may have existed for that (if any), I absolutely grant in advance unconditionally. Thank you and I wish you and everyone, an early, shana tova.

    in reply to: How to enforce Tznius guidelines in a Kehillah #2111133
    ujm
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    You need a good, strong, Rov who isn’t afraid of the gevirim and is ready, willing and able to stand up for Halacha.

    in reply to: Predictions: Democrat Rout 2022 #2111113
    ujm
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    ramat: Which country do you propose or believe will assume the US’ current role as superpower, within the next 25 years?

    in reply to: Liz Cheney for President #2111079
    ujm
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    Moishe, Jack, are you card-carrying Communist Party USA members? In Venezuela, Cuba, North Korea, Iran, Egypt and Russia they might jail you if you “watched t.v. for over 3 hours”. That’s called a political prisoner. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. If you think Democrats can get away with totalitarianism by throwing their political enemies into prison under the pretext of prosecuting the law, they shouldn’t be surprised when they lose the next election they’ll find themselves behind the slammer.

    in reply to: Israeli concerts during Aug 2022 #2111033
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    What can be more entertaining than declaring she’d “consider it an insult” being identified as MO, “if it had a semblance of truth”… after having admitted she grew up MO.

    in reply to: Liz Cheney for President #2111006
    ujm
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    If the Democrats attempt to make President Trump into a political prisoner with trumped up charges, they can certainly expect payback after the Republicans win next time, with Clinton, Pelosi, Schumer, Obama and Biden being arrested, incarcerated and charged with similar trumped up charges.

    in reply to: Inflation Bonanza~! #2110810
    ujm
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    And the result is the president’s party suffers political losses.

    in reply to: Israeli concerts during Aug 2022 #2110793
    ujm
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    You’re not a woman?!

    in reply to: Liz Cheney for President #2110792
    ujm
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    Countdown to Lizzie being put on the unemployment line… 10.. 9… 8…

    in reply to: Israeli concerts during Aug 2022 #2110787
    ujm
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    … said the shrill MO woman.

    in reply to: Israeli concerts during Aug 2022 #2110781
    ujm
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    This must be a terrible struggle. We hope you’ll be able to overcome it.

    in reply to: Talmeidei Chachamim with kids not like them #2109737
    ujm
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    Based on what the OP is describing, if a Ben Torah or Yeshivish person or Talmid Chochom has a son or children that are also a Ben Torah or Yeshivish or Talmid Chochom, then none of the criticism cited in the OP is applicable to him, since his child/children ARE like him.

    in reply to: Brooklyn Sephardi Shuls Non-SY #2109644
    ujm
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    Avi: All Syrian rabbonim fully support it.

    in reply to: Liz Cheney for President #2109608
    ujm
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    A new third-party was created today, called the “Forward” Party, led by Andrew Yang and Christine Todd Whitman, with dozens of former Democrats and Republicans.

    akuperma?

    in reply to: Monkeypox — The new AIDS #2109578
    ujm
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    Besalel: HaGaon HaRav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv ztvk’l was, also, a very nice pulpit rabbi of a small trailer Shul.

    in reply to: Target:DNA #2109575
    ujm
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    Why would it become a reality if it hasn’t been one until now?

    in reply to: Monkeypox — The new AIDS #2109572
    ujm
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    HaGaon HaRav Avigdor Miller ztvk’l was one of our generations Gedolei HaDor.

    in reply to: Inflation Bonanza~! #2109476
    ujm
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    Reb Eliezer, it is my recommendation that you be appointed Chairman of the Federal Reserve Bank. 😃

    in reply to: Monkeypox — The new AIDS #2109464
    ujm
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    Menachem: These are mostly nochrim.

    in reply to: Summer and Winter #2109459
    ujm
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    ubiq: Which questions of mine are you referring to?

    in reply to: Monkeypox — The new AIDS #2109363
    ujm
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    Jack, hopefully, like COVID-19 and it’s everchanging variants often more severe than the previous, monkeypox will have newer variants with ever greater onshim for these deviants.

    in reply to: Brooklyn Sephardi Shuls Non-SY #2109360
    ujm
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    I don’t want to share which one me and my three wives are due paying community members of, since GodolHaDofi will then start picketing outside every Shabbat that we are there.

    in reply to: Food Boxes-Brooklyn and New Jersey #2109337
    ujm
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    Which neighbourhood?

    in reply to: Lakewood #2109276
    ujm
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    CH: We don’t accept toeiva “marriage”.

    in reply to: Summer and Winter #2109270
    ujm
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    RW: Because that’s what Hashem set and created during maase bereishis. It’s been that way since Day 1.

    in reply to: Brooklyn Sephardi Shuls Non-SY #2109258
    ujm
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    In any event, there are countless non-Syrian Sephardic Shuls in Brooklyn.

    in reply to: Brooklyn Sephardi Shuls Non-SY #2109257
    ujm
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    The SY shuls are just as happy as anyone else to have geirim. Their takana is only against members marrying a ger and against their rabbis conducting conversions. Nothing else. Geirim are more than welcome to join SY Shuls.

    in reply to: Lakewood #2109166
    ujm
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    Who needs conveniences??

    in reply to: JINO #2109168
    ujm
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    I differentiate between the Yidden and the Goyim who think they’re Jewish.

    in reply to: Monkeypox — The new AIDS #2109149
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    lakewhut: The CDC recently, grudgingly, openly admitted as much, after covering it up for weeks.

    in reply to: Monkeypox — The new AIDS #2109133
    ujm
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    Besalel: The Tosfos Yom Tov attributed the terrible travails of Tach V’Tat to talking in Shul. Others have attributed various tragedies, including the Holocaust, to other specific reasons.

    That said, your last paragraph is absolutely true but it doesn’t negate my former point.

    in reply to: Inflation Bonanza~! #2109114
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    huju: Six months will put it past election season. Apparently, then, there’s a silver lining to it, after all.

    in reply to: Lakewood #2109111
    ujm
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    Amil, do you have some connection to New York City?

    in reply to: JINO #2109110
    ujm
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    Menachem, I do not have my own opinion. I simply follow the Gedolei HaPoskim and my Posek, as I mentioned. And they paskened what I told you. You aren’t in a position to tell anyone that they cannot follow certain Gedolei HaPoskim and must follow the ones that you choose or identify.

    As far as the second point, I very much deal with non-Orthodox “Jews” very frequently. And I can tell you with a great deal of certainly that a large portion of those who self-identify as such or are affiliated with Reform and Conservative congregations are, in fact, Halachicly non-Jewish.

    in reply to: Liz Cheney for President #2109109
    ujm
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    Jack, akuperma’s point was that when the Republican party was new, the two major parties were the Democrats and the Whigs. The Republicans, then, were a “third-party” that nevertheless won the presidency.

    in reply to: Liz Cheney for President #2109035
    ujm
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    Aside from that Lizzie would be disqualified for high office, or any office for the matter, even if she were a man, additionally of course there’s the undeniable fact that women shouldn’t be holding office or political leadership positions altogether.

    in reply to: JINO #2109031
    ujm
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    Jerry Nadler had a frum education. He became an apokorus later.

    in reply to: Lakewood #2109029
    ujm
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    AAQ, please share with us that information.

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