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  • in reply to: Children are not here to “bring Nachas to their parents” #2266499
    user176
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    People are confusing things. A parent should not raise children in order to get Nachat. That would be completely self serving. A person should raise their children to learn Torah and do Mitzvot because that is what Hashem wants parents to do. Whether or not that will bring parents nachat is completely independent of their obligation to raise Jewish children properly. Of course all parents have a vision of how they want their child to turn out, because that’s their idea of an eved Hashem. Every child is different and every parent is different. A different “flavor” of religious Jew is always more favorable than off the derech. A parent has to use their sechel to know when and how to direct their child or leave them be. If they end up how you wanted you’ll be very happy and get “nachat.” But you didn’t do it for the nachat you did it because you are raising your child to be the best Jew they can be, because that is what Hashem wants from you.

    in reply to: Pesach Vacation 2024 #2261833
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    There is a kosher way to do everything. There are all types of trips at different costs. It’s really not hard to imagine how people can focus on geula while away. But if your really unsure, the answer is an obvious yes. It’s funny you mention Orlando. I wouldn’t exactly call Orlando partying. Many who rent a private home are basic doing the exact preparations for the holiday they would at home, just in a different house. Not sure what you think goes on there.

    in reply to: Why the Hostage Posters Are So Terrible #2249663
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    Hakatan you seem to be living in a theoretical bubble. You can’t ignore the reality of what’s happening in Israel today. When you actually consider the reality you can formulate a real opinion. Otherwise you can just repeat the same thing for 75 years and when a real question comes up simply shrug your shoulders because you are doing just fine in the US and what’s happening there doesn’t really matter to you except in theory. You just just know that Hamas supporters quote people like you all the time. They say “These are the “real Jews” that also hate Zionists just like us. They also think Jews don’t belong in Israel until their God tells them to go.” But unlike you whose opinion takes you no further then the coffee room, they conclude that all Jews should be removed from Israel. That is the natural conclusion of this mind set. Disagreeing with how the state is run is one thing. But denouncing it all together in order to escape blame for their actions is a direct Sakana to everyone living in Eretz Yisrael.

    in reply to: Why the Hostage Posters Are So Terrible #2248833
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    And to the one who said it is assur for the majority of Jews to be living in Eretz Yisrael, it seems you apparently don’t include anyone who doesn’t wear a hat and white shirt as Jews. Had you included everyone you’d know that the majority of Jews already live in Eretz Yisrael.

    in reply to: Why the Hostage Posters Are So Terrible #2248832
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    Not sure what complaining about what “Zionists” did 75 years ago helps. The reality today is that we have Eretz Yisrael and all of the Yeshivot there. Anti Zionism literally means ridding Israel from Jews. In the reality there is no other alternative to what we have in Israel today – government and all- aside from Mashiah. The next time you bash Zionism just remember that that is akin to a Jew chanting River to the Sea. Because that’s the only other option.

    user176
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    I’m sorry that you think that you and your piers make up “klal Yisrael” to the exclusion of every Jew who doesn’t fit into the bubble. Should you wish to expand your definition of what makes a Jew you will find that nothing about that letter says that the Rally will be negative for Klal Yisrael. Each of your 4 points are reasons why certain people should not attend, it says nowhere that the event will have negative results for klal Yisrael, unless, again, you think that you are all of klal Yisrael. And just to stress again, daat torah is not limited to these Rabbis. Even if they expressly stated that No Jew should attend because it would be negative and that every Jew should learn instead, like you pompously claimed, your case would not be rested. KLAL YISRAEL IS NOT LIMITED TO YOU AND YOUR ILK.

    user176
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    Not sure which letter you read but the one you rested your case in said no such thing. Besides the fact that there are shivim panim laTorah and a letter signed by a few Gedolim is not the end all be all. There were other Gedolim that remain in support of having gone. The fact that you think you’ve proven your point with a letter sharing your opinion just shows your arrogant approach to Judaism. With all due respect to these Talmide Chachamim, they are not the sole arbiters of Torah. It is your approach of elitism that holds back the Geula. You can learn Torah all day and it’s all worthless with an attitude that degrades anyone who think or acts differently.

    user176
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    UJM you said that going to the rally will have no positive effect on klaf Yisrael. No where in the letter did it say anything like that.

    in reply to: Speakers by rally #2239581
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    There should have been. But nobody is going for the speakers.

    user176
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    Nobody is forcing anyone to attend. It isn’t difficult to realize why it is beneficial. If it isn’t your speed you should understand that other Jews travel at a different speed. It should not be so hard to be supportive of the way others choose to contribute. Especially when it is heavily supported by religious organizations. Unless there is blatant transgression of Halacha no negative that comments necessary. If the only way you see this event is as “taking away from Talmud Torah” you’re just not understanding that this is an act of Hishtadlut. (Besides, what do you think yeshiva students are going to do in the bus? Watch movies? You don’t think there will be at least some Talmud Torah, Tehilim and singing to Bore Olam?)

    user176
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    UJM, has it ever occurred to you that there is a reason people protest? That they aren’t just fools with nothing to do? The original post literally have six reasons why it’s important: 1) to counter the many pro Hamas rallies. 2) it’s a kiddush Hashem to all come out together. 3) to show support for Israel. 4) to stand against anti-semitism. 5) the politicians will be watching. 6) the world will be watching. Would you notice the difference if 35000 showed up to the Siyum Hashas instead of 25000? The larger the number the more people notice and take note. Politicians care about public opinion. Thousands of pro Hamas rallies are taking place. We can’t do that. But we can have a massive rally where we show how much support for israel exists in this country and why they should care. US support for Israel saves Jewish lives. Aside for the fact that it’s a March of Jewish unity, an incredibly important aspect of these times, when our unified voice will play a vital role in our tefilot to Bore Olam. The fact that some of us choose to remain parush from the tzibbur and even belittle what they are doing is not a favorable way to stand before Hashem.

    user176
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    UJM, I guess your idea of travel is taking a break from learning? For many, 10 hours traveling is many more hours learning they they would have been able to otherwise. The real question is how can people speak negatively about showing support for Israel in a way that will most definitely make a difference. It’s tiring to hear the same people who constantly make rifts in am Yisrael once again rising to the occasion to divide and speak down on others during this time of supposed “unprecedented unity.” The real question you need to ask YOURSELF is what have YOU done. Frankly, no one needs to know that answer besides you, and you need not comment on others answer. Don’t be the person who won’t accept Mashiah if he doesn’t align perfectly with his Hashkafa. And if you say, “we’ll that’ll never happen because my Hashkafa…” that should tell you something.

    in reply to: More Torah being Learned than ever, yet more Troubles #2235258
    user176
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    Need more Torah lishma.

    in reply to: Frum women and hats #2232550
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    Akuperma- the question was not addressed to frum women outside the frum community. But even in that circumstance any woman with confidence could and should dress as she pleases, and there never has been an easier time to do so. And yes, the question is clearly assuming that hats are a more tzanua option.

    in reply to: Frum women and hats #2232354
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    My wife wears scarves. It can be difficult at times but Hashem always sends her someone who praises her and tells her how good she looks whenever she needs it. If it is more tzanua and you want to do it go for it and don’t worry about others.

    in reply to: The End Game for Israel #2232236
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    They want to eliminate Hamas and leave Gaza.

    in reply to: The Jews Control The Weather… #2229232
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    Being able to fulfill the missva of sukkah is a big zechut. Apparently not everyone had the zechut this year. Hashem set it up so that some people got to do it, and some didn’t…

    in reply to: The Modern Orthodox “Mesorah” #2216063
    user176
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    Modern orthodox are simply Orthodox Jews who became less observant and adopted the surrounding culture. In typical Ashkenazi fashion, when the group became large enough they earned their own label as Modern Orthodox. People who ask these questions are incredibly lacking in ahavat Yisrael and choose to further divide rather than bring close.

    in reply to: Stem cell donation #2186240
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    Zetruth. If you were referring to me, that’s not exactly how it went. The first time they drew blood was just to double check if I was in fact a match, and I was. The second was to test my health and if I was a proper candidate to do the procedure. It was after this second time they drew blood that they saw that my platelet count was low which can make donating blood in this quantity dangerous. I recommended to them that they may as well collect that data from the first blood test and don’t drag on the patient with high hopes.

    in reply to: Stem cell donation #2185333
    user176
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    I was a match for someone about a year ago. They explained to me that to be a match you must be a relative in some way although they would not reveal the persons identity. I took an initial blood test to confirm whether or not I was in fact a match, I was. I was planning my trip to Florida, where they have their facility. I had to take a day off of work to travel a distance to an office affiliated with Gift of Life for a physical. I waited several hours in the waiting room only for the physical to be just a few minutes, after taking blood again. I was of course extremely excited to literally be saving a persons life. I also was very curious who the distant relative might be. Turned out my platelet count was too low and the procedure would be too risky. I could not stop thinking about the recipient who was hopeful to receive his treatment only to be let down by a factor they could have determined way earlier from the first blood test. Sorry I could not share a full experience with you but if I can recommend anything it’s to make sure they take as much data as can be useful from the initial blood test in order not to give false hope to the donor and recipient.

    in reply to: Is every Rav now a Gaon as well? #2181809
    user176
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    Can you name me a source that says to call people Reb? Would love to see it inside

    in reply to: Is every Rav now a Gaon as well? #2181626
    user176
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    What’s the idea, why does being married make you a reb – on the same level as someone with semicha?

    in reply to: Is every Rav now a Gaon as well? #2181557
    user176
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    Ashkenazim have this thing that everyone is a rav. Everyone gets. “R.” Before their name. Ever been invited to a wedding? Somehow always the children of rav this and rav that. When everyone is a rav a real rav must be something else.

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2169807
    user176
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    When everyone accepts that Mashiach may come from a group that they don’t identity with or even may disagree with well surely see him sooner.

    in reply to: Medinah #2167700
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    Avirah you are clearly very knowledgeable, you’re ability to list the negative that the State of Israel has brought to the world so eloquently is impressive. So for you not to be able to think of at least one positive brought about by the State for which to be makir tov is beyond imagination. Especially since you postulated that Israel is a net loss implying that there is some positive. The only explanation is that you didn’t even give your mind a chance to go there lest your mind waver towards the Zionist snare. If you should choose to venture out you will find that there is a Torah Renaissance happening all over the world. The amount of rehokim coming close to Torah is immeasurable. The Jewish community at large is a lot greater in number than those already committed to Torah. If you believe in the power of Torah to influence the world and you recognize that the Torah of Eretz Yisrael has an effect beyond imagination than you’ll realize that the ripple effect enabled by the State of Israel has a tremendous influence on world Jewry. If there is something to learn from yetziat mitzrayim for this topic it is that geula is not dependent on total dedication to Yahadut. Hashem chose to give His Torah to a group of people who not long before were at the lowest possible levels. It is obvious that the bad can’t be ignored but don’t let it blind you from the good that Hashem has bestowed on us. Don’t speak so negatively without anything good to say. I wish there was more I can do to contribute to making Medinat Yisrael a better place and it aches me that such unspeakable things could be happening there, but instead of doubting the Creators plan and complaining that it isn’t how I think it should be, I choose to recognize the good that He has done and see the larger picture that in the end it’s all part of the master plan.

    in reply to: Medinah #2167452
    user176
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    Comparing the “nisayon” of the State of Israel to that of the holocaust is preposterous. Had the state been run by yere shamayim youd been singing a different tune- despite its being founded with not the most pure intentions. But it didn’t work out that way. That Eretz Yisrael is in our hands is probably the greatest gift Bore Olam has given us as a nation since the last time we received it. Calling that a nisayon is simply kefiyat hatov. No one asked you to support it, just to recognize that it isn’t your greatest enemy, and in fact is a step in the right direction towards biat Hamashiach.

    in reply to: Medinah #2167243
    user176
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    Yaakov Avinu “stole” the berachot from esav which was not ideal, but that’s what happened. Sometimes decisions of individuals are not ideal but they happen and Hashems plan will always work out in the end. The benefits of having the State of Israel are undeniable. There is no question that the last 70 years are a huge turning point in Mashiahs arrival. Did it have to happen this way? Is it the ideal path towards Mashiah? Those questions I can’t answer, but Atzat Hashem Hi Takum. Vile speech against Zionists can easily instead be Hakarat Hatov for the good that has come about, and continues to be possible, through their actions while recognizing that it isn’t or wasn’t ideal. The two perspectives are identical – recognizing the bad and appreciating the good – just one is expressed in the way of the Torah and one is expressed with hatred. For all we know Hashem is testing all of us to see if we can get along when He gives us such a huge reason to disagree. This very idea could be the Yest of Achdut that is needed to be metaken the sinat hinam that sent us to galut. I guarantee you that words of negativity and hatred towards fellow Jews – regardless of whose shoulders you’re standing on and how sincere you are – will not contribute to bring mashiach any sooner.

    in reply to: The עולם השקר #2165234
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    Very true. This is something very new and that will get worse with time. You definitely should not trust random videos forwarded on WhatsApp. The biggest problem is stopping these sources from spreading to those who will believe them. Public opinion can be easily bolstered by fake videos. People generally don’t fact check sources that prove what they already “know.” Videos and pictures without context spread on social media like wildfire. Great efforts will be needed to stop this from happening.

    in reply to: Pandemic amnesty #2137811
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    Curious, those of the opinion that Covid vaccines are poison etc., how do you believe we reached this point when the Pandemic is pretty much over? Did it just go away? Did vaccines have anything to do with with it?

    in reply to: Should Tanach be Taught in Cheder? #2135240
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    Avira, these mussar books bring pesukim from tanach to supposed every line. Have you learned hovot halevavot or shaare teshuva? I’ve never seen anyone dance with a Gemara on simchat Torah. Studying torah shebichtav is literally studying Gods word. Maybe you are worried about maskilim etc. but there is no denying the importance of learning Tanach. It’s sad that people just skip over the pesukim in mussar books and even Gemara. Just see what the artscroll says and move on…

    in reply to: Anxious parents before Yontef #2127593
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    Inspiring. I may check it out. Just one thing, yontef is not a word. It’s Yom Tov. I have a very hard time taking seriously people who don’t know how to pronounce basic Hebrew. A pet peeve of mine that I hope you can appreciate. Shabbat shalom and Shana Tovah.

    in reply to: At first I thought, what are the Libs thinking (or are they?) #2126446
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    In addition to what jack said, democrats say that border states receive millions in funding to build infrastructure to receive these immigrants.

    What they don’t realize is that there is nothing inhumane about taking an immigrant who dropped themself off in a random city whose infrastructure is too overwhelmed to properly handle them and dropping them off in another random city. The point is being made very loudly and clearly yet many choose to remain deaf eared to the source of the problem. The borders are open and the US can not absorb the about of people entering with any semblance of dignity. If the lesson learned here if that Republicans are evil you simply blindly feeding your bias. Democratic leaders need to wake up and understand what the issue is because until they do this will not stop.

    in reply to: Poll YU is at fault for this club #2125022
    user176
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    Would have.

    in reply to: Election 2024 #2105943
    user176
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    GH an TRT, you should get together. A lot to discuss about these rallies.

    in reply to: Election 2024 #2105642
    user176
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    Actually, I answered the OPs question directly, while still respecting the way others spend their time.

    in reply to: Election 2024 #2105636
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    While gadolhadora has watched enough of Trumps rallies to know all his lines and even get familiar with the attendees and their attire, typically Frum people find watching a trump rally to be a total waste of time.

    in reply to: Panama (country) #2105637
    user176
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    Yes there is a big Syrian community

    in reply to: Kesuba vs Kollel #2096323
    user176
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    If there is no “food” on the table a husband is responsible to quit kollel and make it happen. A son should not choose to join Kollel with and leave his parents no choice but to support him. It should be a discussion. If there is food into the table I don’t see the issue.

    in reply to: Losing weight? #2089651
    user176
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    Because that would be very strange. You can’t get skinnier without losing weight.

    in reply to: Real Learners #2089360
    user176
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    In terms of fulfilling the mitzva of Talmud Torah, sure.

    in reply to: Glorify Learning on Lag Bomer Night #2089300
    user176
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    The people who value Torah learning are not interested in watching people learning on the news. They were probably themselves learning then. Parenthetically, I was involved in a “learn a thon” that night and my wife enjoyed watching the live stream.

    in reply to: Real Learners #2089260
    user176
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    I think the UJM approach is the “problem.” Hashem creates every individual with varying ability. To paraphrase YO, the gifted are yechide segula. Even those who learn seriously, usually will not fully understand let alone remember what they’ve learned. (I’m sure with more effort we would have more serious learners but even still, a minority). But with the push nowadays for every individual to learn Torah (which is truly amazing) a great value has been placed on the quantity and the quality has become less important. In truth though, I think there are a large number of real Talmide Chachamim, and the fact that there are so many “not serious” learners just means the Rabbis are doing a good job at spreading Torah to the masses. A great alternative to leaving the Torah to yechidim and everyone else remaining ame haaretz.

    in reply to: Shidduchem vs real estate #2085496
    user176
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    Shiduchim does require hishtadlut

    in reply to: eretz yisreal #2085204
    user176
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    I find it sad the Mr Klein did a great job of answering the question and you are all doing the exact opposite. Arguing over “Eretz” or “Medinat.” Talking down on other Jews because they are “Zionists” or “Anti Zionists.” Calling each other out for misrepresenting the truth. Denying that The tragedies even have anything to do with us and our actions, but rather Hashems plan. These past 15 posts should be an eye opening example as to why we are suffering as a nation. We are living in 5782. Every Jew reading this has an obligation to go ask their Rabbi “How should I feel about the Zionist who does tremendous things for Am Yisrael?” “How should I feel about the ultra orthodox who rejects Medinat Yisrael?” “Should I love him as a fellow Jew even though we disagree? Or should I speak negatively about him and make sure everyone knows that he doesn’t represent the true Jew?” This right here in this thread is exactly the type of sinat hinam that the Rabbis talk about. WAKE UP. If you think that shambling Zionism or Anti Zionism is going to bring the geula you are forgetting the great principal of Ribi Akiva.

    in reply to: Bibi Netanyahu נ׳י #2084592
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    Very often in halacha poskim will come to a crossroad of opinions without any clear direction of how to conclude the Halacha and the solution is to see what people are doing and establish Halacha accordingly. As well, often there is a particular “minhag” which the poskim try to understand how it developed despite being halchically questionable. When a large community of people is doing something questionable the first option is to be melamed zechut and see if there is any way to justify the minhag within Halacha (even though the posek might not agree to it lechatehila).

    In the case at hand there really is only one nafka mina; whether or not these people are considered Jewish. If a posek learned the sugya and came out clear a certain way with no room for an alternative understanding, I understand why he is posek that way. If it isn’t clear, or there are multiple psakim of equal weight, I would imagine in this case they would be mekel. Although, I am not a posek…

    in reply to: Husbands Rights & Responsibilities #2084538
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    If you measure responsibilities by number of missvot the answer is clear. Otherwise, while it may be nice to know, Baruch Hashem both men and women have plenty of responsibilities to keep them both occupied constantly. Usually we don’t count our rights in Judaism.

    I once heard from Rabbi Akiva Tatz that marriage is not a division of responsibilities, it is two people coming together to do everything they can to help the other. Definitely something to strive for.

    in reply to: Bibi Netanyahu נ׳י #2083927
    user176
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    Puk cha-zeh mai ama davar…

    in reply to: Bibi Netanyahu נ׳י #2083871
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    mdd1
    I am not a posek. Halacha is not always clear cut. When a posek is faced with an ambiguous Halacha and one way will make thousands mechalel Shabbat and the other will make them in line with Halacha, a Talmud Chacham who cares about am yisrael should choose the latter. How often do we see the mishna berura quote a minhag and working hard to justify it within halacha.

    in reply to: Bibi Netanyahu נ׳י #2083776
    user176
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    UJM, don’t be so quick to write people off during this time of year. There is nothing heroic about drastic statements. If there was ever a time to be posek Halacha l’kaf zechut it’s now. Koah D’hetera Adif. There are other opinions.

    Also, there is a reason kiruv Rabbis are louder than the cut throat opinions publicly. Im sure you can figure it out.

    in reply to: Bibi Netanyahu נ׳י #2083666
    user176
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    The big IF.
    All I’m asking is to look at the big picture, how have we benefitted. That’s the way Hakarat Hatov works. Looking at the details you’ll find a reason not to thank anyone. “G-d created me, of course he should provide for me.” This thread is not about what we think about Netanyahu, it’s about owing him gratitude. Failing to recognize the good people do is another form of sinat hinam.

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