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I actually answered the question directly. Because that is the only answer. When dealing with abusers, they must be penalized. When dealing with accusers, they must be educated about the effects of their accusations. After all, all they did is spread a rumor. It is a grave sin, don�t misunderstand me. But a lav she�en bo maase nonetheless. As per the accused, well, it�s up to the people close to them who love them to give them guidance. I think that is obvious.

I would like to hear your suggested answer to your question.

Thank you Syag. Let�s hear what he has to say to answer his own question.

UJM. Shechiach means common. The issue you presented is uncommon and therefore not being addressed specifically. In plain English.

The larger issue that you are referring to is lashon hara, which is widely addressed.

If you want to know what happens after the lashon hara is spoken. Well we need to learn more about lashon hara.

UJM. False accusations is not nearly as big of a problem as actual abusers. From time to time there may be a story but for a person falsely abused to take such drastic measures? I would not call that shechiach in comparison to the real issue at hand. If you think I am wrong please enlighten me. But, to answer your question, every shiur given on Lashon Hara and Motze Shem Ra is essentially what we do to ensure that does not happen. There are an infiniti number of �accusations� people can �accuse� others of. Falsely accusing someone or talking about someone who was falsely accused are just two examples.

Besalel- that the abuser is to blame goes without saying. Strange that you are offended that didn�t mention something so obvious.

I never mentioned blame, I said �responsible�. The point of this post was to explore what can be done moving forward to prevent this from happening. The first and best line of defense to protect children is their own parents. As a side, a Frum therapist should create safeguards for him/herself so as not to fall into this trap.

�The charedi community� are the least responsible. The responsibility lies first on the parents of the victims. Any �Frum� therapist with this type of yesser hara should create safeguards for themselves not to run into this mess. My assumption is that guilty Frum therapists don�t want to do these things but they can not avoid the temptation. But my opinion is that the parents really need to know better and not just ship their kids off and hope for the best. We�ve now learned a big lesson that you can never assume your kids �are in good hands� regardless of the therapists reputation. You need to be involved.

Do what your parents did. Or wtvr your rabbi said to do. Or wtvr you want. Anyone who judges your Shabbat greeting is just grumpy.

As for the question, I prefer Shabbat Shalom.

This topic mostly bothers those who struggle with it most. It�s a given that people need to set their own personal safeguards for whatever they struggle with. In this particular example spreading awareness and education may help in general, but a rant on YWN wont do anything to help. If a true yere shamayim knows the yesser hara is waiting for him at every red light he would avoid red lights. It�s often those who are incredibly makpid and the most concerned about keeping a Halacha that struggle with it the most. If those efforts were focused inwards instead of outwards a lot more would be accomplished.

AAQ which is why I prefaced that I don�t know exactly what these cases were. But in terms of the idea of �sending daughters to a male therapist� parents should be in tune with what�s going on, except for certain circumstances which they can�t be.

Quay- see the new article by zvi Gluck.

Therapists are not exempt from the laws of yichud. Without knowing the specifics of these particular cases, I would expect parents of girls going to male therapists or anywhere for that matter to be more aware of what their daughter is/was doing. Certainly someone with this nisayon should avoid being in this situation. The facts of this case seem pretty black and white. Even still it is a sensitive topic and needs to be addressed (when necessary) as such. �Maybe it�s not true� simply will not cut it for those struggling to understand �how could something like this happen?� Whether it be this case or others things like this do happen and effort should be taken to reach out to professionals and understand for yourself and learn how to walk others through this reality.

I agree. My opinion was formed based on my experience with my own children (whose teachers were mostly young btw) who are really moser nefesh for their students. I imagine that teachers usually do not do it for the money…. But some other here feel like some young people just need something to do so they become teachers. I don�t see the draw but who knows..

The more you talk the more you speak lashon hara. See perush harambam on pirke avot. I have no close if this thread is about something specific. All I know is that talking about people usually means you have too much time on your hands.

No, you should never presumably assume the opinion of sadikim, especially on such an issue like this one.

The line is drawn by the level of adherence to Halacha of the communities Rabbi. If the Rabbi does not keep Halacha properly the people stand no chance. If the Rabbi keeps Halacha properly he will hopefully inspire and educate his congregants in yirat shamayim and Halacha lemaase.

Him coming out now as a supporter of BLM changes a lot about what we might have assumed were his motives. I haven�t watched any of the trial but my understanding is that this is new information. Maybe he can still claim self defense but it seems these murders were not entirely lishma.

2 is worse. But in the end only the lyrics matter. If the tune reminds you of the goy version you should get less exposure to that music.

A man can have more than one wife, and the concept of pilegesh exists. Many religious men drink and enjoy cigars and are often involved in olam hazeh in other ways. Many religious men wake up late, don�t necessarily always go to shul, don�t necessarily learn. The line between on and off the derech can be blurry for men. Women are very forgiving and understanding. The line for on and off the derech for women is clear cut.

I was walking home from work yesterday and passed by a voting station. Outside were about 4 Russian men handing out flyers saying to vote for inna vernikov or however it�s spelled. As they were handing them out they said �vote for inna vernikov all of the rabbonim in Flatbush endorse her.� I had just read that article the day before and was surprised to see the sketchy tactics it action myself.

Obviously there is nothing assur about wearing shorts. It isn�t a very respectable way to dress. The answer depends on who you are and/or how much you feel you represent Bore Olam

All I know is I�ve seen plenty of articles about vaccinated people getting corona. I have yet to see an article about recovered people getting corona…

I was once buying a suit in a store that sells hats as well and a young boy asked which hats were in style. Whether one wears a uniform or not people who want to will find a way to express themeselves with dress.

It�s simply a uniform that has become known as �Jewish.�

Most Rabanim where white shirts because it is plain and respectful. Rabanim are supposed to invest in their appearance as those who represent the Torah. A representative of Torah must dress respectfully at all times. White shirts are the best way to go. I think all grooms where white, it�s simple and elegant, anything else distracts from the wearer.

No one will tell you Jews must wear white, although al pi kabala there is an inyan to do so.

Black suits are just neutral. There are Halachot about wearing black on Shabbat.

The birth rate among the frum does not seem to be diminishing. As long as everyone does their best to fulfill their obligation of peru urvu that is enough for Bore Olam.

I think Biden in at fault, but, his �support�, for Israel, in many ways standing in opposition to his piers, is pretty refreshing. When you see hypocrisy and utter blindness to what�s obvious you know that Hashem has masked those against Israel. May He remove the mask from all those who seek for our destruction just as he (partially) removed Biden�s allowing him to hold back from taking or demand action against Israel

Everyone has different emotional triggers. Try ignoring the why, it isn�t really relevant. In the end of the day lives of great people were lost. Something that helps me feel the pain is putting myself in the victims shoes. Imagine it was me who perished H�V, how would my family react. Imagine the pain of all those who love you. What if it was my spouse who perished H�V or another loved one. Think for a while, play it out it your head. Think of what their new day to day life will be like. Read their stories and hespedim and substitute yourself for them. Each person is an entire world, with a family just like yours. Think about all the thoughts that pass through your head daily, each of these people had the same amount of thoughts and feelings. Really imagine what it is like for a person to suddenly seize to exist. Think hard and try to cry. Sometimes we need to use our imagination to awaken our true feelings. Hope this helps.

A good rabbi will clarify for you the sedadim, help you understand the pros and cons, and let you decide on your own. Clearly both are good options. Your question is very vague anyway. We have no idea what this is even regarding.

Terrible idea. A website like this will do more harm than good.