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Wolf: See the Rambam who explicitly states that this doesn’t apply to one’s wife.
True, true.
But you can also make the case that if you’re not allowed to talk with your wife for pleasure (see: Al Tarbeh…) then certainly you can’t look at her for pleasure.
The Wolf
Again you’re harping on this topic… boy, you must really enjoy this topic.
The Wolf
In times gone by, the new mother would stay in hospital for a number of days following birth, and would generally not be in a position to light ??? licht the first ??? following the birth of a child. Therefore the mother has a din of one who forgot to light, for which the ???? is that they must light an extra candle every week for the rest of her life!
I’ve always had difficulty with this idea.
The general rule, of course, is oneis rachmana patrei — if a person is in an unavoidable circumstance, he or she is exempt from the mitzvah — and there is no punishment. A classic example would be someone who is stranded on a deserted island and cannot get matzah for pesach. Since he cannot get matzah, he is an oneis and is patur.
I would imagine that being stuck in the hospital is also a situation of an oneis, whether it’s because one had a baby, or for any other life-threatening situation. As such, I don’t see how she should be subject to a kenas for failing to light.
Furthermore, the mitzvah to light is primarily on the household, not on the woman herself. If a man lives alone, for example, he is required to light. As such, if she’s in the hospital and her husband lights for her, I furthermore cannot see how she should be liable for a penalty.
That’s not to say that the practice of adding an additional light when a child is born is not proper. It is a custom that has gone back centuries or more. I think, however, it’s possible to look at this phenomenon of adding a light for having a baby or forgetting to light as two separate events:
1. There is a custom that if a woman forgets to light (through negligence or willful misconduct), then she should add a light as a penalty/reminder.
2. If she has a baby, she should add a light — not as a penalty, but rather because there is a custom to do so.
The Wolf
I’ll take it one better… who says that this doesn’t include one’s wife as well?
Yeah, you’ll tell me that logically one should be able to look at one’s wife, but the statement as quoted seems absolute to me. Perhaps one should not be allowed to at his wife as well.
(And, no, I don’t seriously believe this myself. I’ll continue looking at my wife, thank you very much.)
The Wolf
I think that using characters from guiyish subjects is wrong
So don’t do it.
The Wolf
I noticed that the OP has decided not to answer my question. Very interesting…
The Wolf
it is based on some kind of minhag
Which is based on one incident in Ya’akov’s life while disregarding all the rest of the times he traveled.
The Wolf
I know someone who never flew on an airplane in her life, due to fear of air travel.
I don’t have a problem with that. There are any number of things that I don’t do due to personal distaste or phobias.
My issue is the OP’s friend who travels a certain way because Ya’akov did so at one special occasion while ignoring all the times that he and his family *did* travel together.
The Wolf
Who was sarcastic?
About road travel and yes a fire in the house c’v
If you feel they were sarcastic, please enlighten me about it. My questions were 100% sincere and not sarcastic.
The Wolf
kosher lipesach chametz
If it’s not made of any of the five species of grain, it’s no more chametz than an apple or a potato is. Your labeling it “chametz” implies that one who does this is violating an issur. Despite your preference not to use such products, they are not chametz and are perfectly permitted.
The Wolf
Everyone who jumped up with their sarcastic comments
Who was sarcastic? I thought my question (especially the one that pointed out that, that specific episode aside, Ya’akov’s family traveled together) was a valid one, as was my pointing out that the dangers of a fire at home are far greater than those of traveling by plane.
The Wolf
Is there any good that can come of this?
The Wolf
I have a friend who said that someone we both know – his family when they fly somewhere don’t go all together but rather in two groups because that was what Yaakov did in preperation for the showdown with Eisav, meaning that the whole family shouldn’t be wiped out.
Do they all sleep in the same house together? I’d say the chances of the family (God forbid) being wiped out by a fire is far, far greater than their chances of being wiped out in a plane crash.
In addition, it should be noted that there is no indication that, during their other travels that Ya’akov split the family up. It was only when he was *actively excepting a confrontation* with Eisav that he did so. Does he actively expect a crash (and if so, why travel by plane)?
The Wolf
it sounds like the royal family. They never traveled in the same plane together. If one plane crashes the people on the other plane will survive and their will still be an heir to the throne.
Are you talking about the British Throne? The line of succession to the British Throne is about five thousand people long. Even if the entire (current) Royal Family were wiped out in one fell swoop, there would still be an heir to the throne.
A scenario, such as was depicted in the movie King Ralph (where the entire Royal Family is wiped out and they have to *search* for the next in line to the throne), is completely impossible. (Yes, I know it was a comedy and not meant to depict reality.)
The Wolf
Today, I am older than I have ever been.
Tomorrow is likely to produce the same.
The Wolf
But i was in a hotel lastnight for a concert, its not normal what they have there. They served for supper hamburgers and BUNS that tasted like chometz! They served macaroni for lunch one day that was BETTER then chometz (someone there told me) and there is so much cake!! you wouldn;t know its pesach!
“I was in someone’s house for a Shabbos day meal last month, it’s not normal what they had there. They had hot food, just as hot as if it were cooked right then. It was even better than the cold food that we’re accustomed to eating on Shabbos afternoon. You wouldn’t even know it was Shabbos!”
That’s what I assume I would have heard when modern methods for keeping food warm until the Shabbos seuda became available that didn’t exist in previous times.
The Wolf
has the texting by bochurim gone out of hand???????
Why don’t you tell us what you think on the matter, and why?
The Wolf
(I vote we get Artscroll to bring out a book on this guy!)
I don’t get it.
When I post in a self-deprecatory manner, I get greeted with sarcasm about being a “tzaddik”. And now I see that when I post in a non-self-deprecatory manner, I still get greeted with sarcasm.
In any event you needn’t worry about my comfort. It wasn’t uncomfortable — everyone there was either a blood-relative, wife or an in-law. In addition, my father-in-law (who was there) does not wear a kittel either, so I wasn’t the only one.
The Wolf
1. Anybody out there that does NOT wear a kitel by the Seder.
My minhag is to wear one. However, by the second seder this year, I left it at home by accident. Rather than be matriach everyone by having them wait while I went back to retrieve it, I simply did without.
The Wolf
Maybe he carried exact change? Maybe he gave the rest as a tip to the clerk?
Or heck, who says he bought the items at 7-11 to begin with? Maybe he brought them from home.
The Wolf
Do you think that this is really the place to post the private things you do with your spouse?
Maybe, maybe not…. but that’s not the topic of conversation here.
Besides, swimming isn’t a particularly private activity. Would you also object to my saying that I ate dinner with my wife? Or played Scrabble?
(Then again, that same poster objected to my playing Scrabble [or any game] with her as well, so who knows?)
The Wolf
How can anyone ever even think omer muttar on mixed swimming??
It depends on how you define “mixed swimming.”
When Eeees and I went to St. Thomas a number of years ago, we had our own private swimming pool and went swimming together. There were some posters who took me to task on it saying “how could you go mixed swimming?” Apparently he felt that swimming in private with your wife is mixed swimming. Others on these boards (myself included) disagreed.
The Wolf
so low as to steal from a government
While I find it disturbing to find individuals who receive welfare and willingly don’t work, I am likewise disturbed by your choice of words. If it is legal, it is not theft, and you should not call the act “stealing.”
The Wolf
For the same reason Chana’s youngest (of 7) son refused to pick up Antiochus’ ring.
Oh, please. You’re comparing a case where (a) the intention of idolatry was known and (b) where the idol was right there to this case?
The Wolf
If a marriage is in such a state that one person has to have “control” of it, then that, IMHO, is a very sad marriage. “Taking control of a marriage” should not mean taking control of a spouse.
The Wolf
Because God said “Don’t eat chometz on Pesach.”
The Wolf
I will not compete.
The Wolf
Find a dog and see if he eats whatever it is you have a question about. 🙂
The Wolf
Wolf- did you read my post or quickly jump to argue? I obviously meant on pesach
Not so obvious.
Your complaint was about tarfus, not chometz.
Furthermore, if you can be sure that the feed has no chometz, then there is still no problem buying it and giving it to animals, even if it is 100% traife gamur.
That being said, it wasn’t obvious at all that your post was referring to chometz and Pesach.
The Wolf
If the Israeli settlers are truly interested in settling in all parts of Eretz Yisroel
If American Jews are truly interested in the mitzvah of pidyon shevuyim, why don’t they take up arms against the American government and storm the prisons where Jewish prisoners are kept?
The Wolf
Of course, of course. From a massive anav such as yourself I would expect no less. Virtually all our tzadikim never acknowledged it. And very many of the greatest of the greats actively denied it or even admitted to being something else. (There is even, at least, one famous story of that effect.)
An anav does not harp about his sins as I do. An anav simply doesn’t proclaim his greatness.
Mods: Can you please change Reb Wolf’s subtitle to “Lamed Vov & Humongous Anav”, please?
Please don’t.
The Wolf
I see way to many yidden buying treife animal food. It’s horrible!
Why? Assuming it’s not Pesach and the kids aren’t eating the animal food (but rather, giving it to the animals) why is it horrible?
The Wolf
Who isn’t makpid to say Erev Shabbos or Leil Shabbos? Almost everyone I know is and does.
If I told my boss that I would check my email or run a stored procedure on Motzei Shabbos, she would have no idea what I was talking about.
The Wolf
For a tzadik and talmid chochom like yourself
I never claimed to be a tzaddik or a talmid chacham. On the contrary, I have often claimed to be the very opposite of those things.
The Wolf
I would have thought that to be obvious.
The Wolf
Heh heh… very cute.
Seriously, however… who worships keys that you would think it’s an avoda zara? What if someone asks me to pick up an empty candy wrapper — do I have to suspect that that’s an avoda zara too?
The Wolf
Yes, that is correct. I eat there on occasion.
The Wolf
Why is a picture of a cross not avoda zara? They worship that also.
Christians do not worship the cross. The cross is a symbol that represents something for them, but they don’t actually worship the cross any more than we worship a sefer Torah.
The Wolf
Who worships keys?
The Wolf
May this be the biggest problem you have in life.
The Wolf
Wolf my trolish post was deleted, guess there’s some truth to every lie;) LOL!
I have no idea what the heck you’re talking about.
Wolf, if someone’s name is Yeruchem Elchonon Katzenelenbogen that would work. If it’s David Katz, it wouldn’t work.
Granted, an uncommon name makes one easier to locate. However, I believe that even a “David Katz” can make himself found if he wants to be found.
The Wolf
Now that I lost, I know Hashem doesn’t want me to win, and I won’t play again.
What if He just didn’t want you to win *at that time?*
The Wolf
I also have a website with my name. In addition, I’m on Facebook and other social networking sites.
Trust me… if you know who I am, I am *very* findable.
The Wolf
How can someone make their email easily findable?
If you google my real name, you will find several ways to get a hold of me.
The Wolf
BUT, in a world where everything is run by Hashem, the odds that something will happen are un-knowable to us, bc we don’t know what Hashem wants to happen. Anyone who says they know what the odds are, has to preface it by saying, “In a world run by teva…”. As far as we can see, it should be that everyone’s odds of winning the lottery are 50-50,
You’re still wrong. Even if you don’t know (or can’t know) the odds, that *still* doesn’t make all probabilities equal.
If you *truly* believe that, then I suggest you plan your entire retirement on the basis of lottery winnings. If you *truly* believe you have a 50% chance of winning the jackpot every time out, then there really shouldn’t be any need for you to put aside any money for later (or even really to hold a job for longer than a few months).
The Wolf
Are you too busy to listen to the Megilah? Or give shalach manos?
Oh, please.
Firstly, I don’t believe that getting drunk is a mitzvah equal to the other mitzvos of the day. So, the other mitzvos (such as the ones you mentioned) take precedence. In addition, I believe the mitzvah of davening Ma’ariv (in a sober state) also takes precedence.
In addition, I don’t really wish to discuss it here, but suffice to say, I’m sure that if you ask any rav to decide whether I should get drunk on Purim or engage in the activities that I do that they would say that I should engage in my activities rather than get drunk.
You’re under no obligation to believe me, of course… but I’m also under no obligation to listen to you. 🙂
The Wolf
Why don’t you keep in touch?
High school was a very unpleasant experience for me (although, to be fair, the cause of the unpleasantness was NOT my classmates). When I graduated, I was eager to put the whole affair behind me and move on to Beis Medrash and college.
By the time I was older and wiser, I had already lost touch with everyone and had no real way of getting a hold of anyone.
Every now and again, I google a name to see if anything pops up. In addition, it’s very easy to find my email address (the one associated with my real name, not my nom de blog) if you know my name. If any of them every googled my name and wanted to get in touch with me, I’ve made it very easy for them to do so.
The Wolf
I have not seen any of my classmates since I graduated high school with one exception — the one who became my son’s 6th grade Rebbi.
The Wolf
Sorry, I’ve got too much to do on Purim to get drunk.
The Wolf
Its a mitzvah to be as drunk as possible on Purim.
Completely and utterly false.
Even if you subscribe to the opinion that one should get drunk on Purim, it’s only to the point of ad d’lo yada.
There is no mitzvah to keep drinking to the point of getting physically sick or being unable to stand or perform any of the other mitzvos that need to be performed (such as davening Ma’ariv, for example).
I am proud of the fact that I have never been drunk in my life — and that includes Purim.
The Wolf