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zahavasdadParticipant
Surprisingly I rarely get censored or edited, I would have thought I would be censored more, but I am not. . The mods dont censor as much as people think they do. The only posts I ever get censored are ones where I suspected before I posted them that were a bit iffy.
Posting here you need to think a bit before you post and if you think a bit and dont rush to post, and post from your head and not your heart, you should be OK
zahavasdadParticipantThank you very much
Funny thing is , if you actually knew me I am a loose cannon in real life. Diplomacy isnt my thing
zahavasdadParticipantI do belive the torah is the proper roadmap, However When travelling between 2 places there usually is more than one way to go and each way might have reasons not to take that direction
One way might have more traffic and another might have no highways and a longer travel time
I think the problem here people are told there is only one way to get from point A to point B and all other routes are wrong. If the direction you are given does not work for you for whatever reason and you are told no other routes are valid, You just decide not to make the trip and give up.
And Unless we stop telling people There is only one route from Point A to Point B, nothing will change and for some people that might require a whole new route (New Routes arent wrong, just different and serves differnt needs)
August 14, 2016 12:07 pm at 12:07 pm in reply to: Should a frum girl be in Los Vegas by Herself? #1188207zahavasdadParticipantAs a side note, Its not clear to me how old the girl is in question, However it does seem to me she is at least 18 and probsably older. She can make her own decisions and the parents have less control anyway
August 14, 2016 3:08 am at 3:08 am in reply to: Should a frum girl be in Los Vegas by Herself? #1188203zahavasdadParticipantGambling is legal in most parts of the country and Vegas realized this. There was no need to go to Vegas to gamble when you could gamble in Atlantic City, New Orleans or even NYC
They realized if they were going to survive they would have to expand the business and offer things like shopping and shows. Atlantic City did not see this and the main focus was gambling and AC is dying while Vegas is thriving. Only about 60% of the income in Vegas is from Gambling
And finally there is a KOLLEL in Las Vegas from Chofetz Chaim, I am sure their rabbanim felt differently that you did and they are big talmidi Chachamin there
August 12, 2016 7:35 pm at 7:35 pm in reply to: Should a frum girl be in Los Vegas by Herself? #1188200zahavasdadParticipantThere is a Casino in NYC, Should we all move out of NYC.
Atlantic City is not far from lakewood and Casino Gambling is coming to the Catskills right near the Bungalos. Should jews stop going to the Catskills?
They sell Lottery Tickets in Meah Shearim with frum Lottery tickets tickets at these Kiosks that sell that lottery tickets
perhaps jews should move out of jerusalem as well
zahavasdadParticipantOnly Pink and Neon Green
zahavasdadParticipantI can’t argue that what you posted may be true in some shuls, but I cannot bring myself to post a general statement like that, especially so close to tisha b’av
zahavasdadParticipantIf you knew the story behind Project Makom, that is exactly what happend and was the inspiration behind it
zahavasdadParticipantubiquitin
Why would it rub you the wrong way? If someone doesnt want to be Charedi, why should they be forced to do so. They are not “doing Kiruv” but rather offering people who are miserable in the charedi lifestyle a way out rather than totally leave
zahavasdadParticipantI have seen him directly blog that he was not allowed to see his kids and he posted an entire pictorial of him crashing his daughters wedding (Which I think was very wrong).
He also blogged about his first kids wedding (Not sure if its a male or female) and how he wasnt even allowed to go and only got clandestine pictures
He doesnt seem like a very nice person, but that doesnt mean he should have been cut off
August 11, 2016 11:27 pm at 11:27 pm in reply to: Should a frum girl be in Los Vegas by Herself? #1188190zahavasdadParticipantIts not your kid, so you have no say, And certainly the way you said it was wrong.
And if you suspected there would have been a negative reaction, for sure not you should have said nothing.
August 11, 2016 9:08 pm at 9:08 pm in reply to: Should a frum girl be in Los Vegas by Herself? #1188186zahavasdadParticipantLots of Frum people go to trade shows in las Vegas, especially the CES show in january.
zahavasdadParticipantProject Makom is an attempt to keep some of the charedim in the fold (Its more complicated for many)
I think many of the Anti-Kiruv-nicks have been so hurt by some in the frum comminity that they are so angry a them , Its a tough battle. The Main propnent who has written a book, was expelled from new square and is not allowed to see his kids. He harbors much bitterness and even crashed his daughters wedding
zahavasdadParticipantThe Anti-Kiruv organization is actually telling some people to go to Project Makom
zahavasdadParticipantThis post will surely stop the Anti-Kiruv organization from doing their work
zahavasdadParticipantDY is correct
Project Makom was founded by a frum woman who runs a kiruv organization who was making Slick videos explaining orhtodox judasism to many in a way more palatable to the non-frum
Many people would comment on her videos and give their “criticism” however most of the criticism was just trolling, but one woman was a former chassidic woman who said, she left being chassidic because she couldnt take that lifesyle and tried to become a modern orthodox . However she could not integrate into the more modern community as they were not so nice to her and she totally left. The woman who runs Project Makom then heard about some similar stories and got some seed money to help those from chassidic backroounds who wanted to be frum, but just couldnt live the life as a chassid.
August 11, 2016 12:46 am at 12:46 am in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164911zahavasdadParticipantI dont know if this person went OTD or not , but I know of someone who was beaten and neglected by their mother and now lives in a Foster Home.
zahavasdadParticipantYou havent heard of the MLM Movement? (Mosquito Lives Matter)
zahavasdadParticipantThere is among some an attachment to pigeon German.
zahavasdadParticipantThe Bronx is where Yankee stadium is
The only sizeable jewish community there is in Riverdale where Avi Weiss is, I suspect any comments about the Bronx were related to Avi Weiss
August 10, 2016 2:08 pm at 2:08 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164905zahavasdadParticipantThere are such Takanas
August 10, 2016 1:54 pm at 1:54 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164904zahavasdadParticipantmany Chaddish women dont drive.
But I think you missed the point, there are things that are really takanas not Halachas and they do drive people away. We are not supposed to veer from the torah from the left or the right. People have no problem not veering to the left, but the veer to the right all the time and sometimes too much
August 10, 2016 12:15 pm at 12:15 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164901zahavasdadParticipantSome of the people who go OTD , go because they have no other option. They want to be relgious, but they dont want to be Charedi. for whatever reason. The men dont want to wear Peyos and a Beard and maybe the women want to drive.
By basically saying that more moderate versions of orthodoxt like MO are basically reform, you are totally chasing these people away.
One can be a frum man without Peyos and one could be a frum woman who drives , but according to some this is not the case and a slipperly slope ensures and they totally leave.
August 10, 2016 11:37 am at 11:37 am in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164900zahavasdadParticipantThere was really nothing wrong with the survey. Unfortunatly many are unwilling to accept the survey or its results.
Of course there are flaws, any survey has flaws. Its impossible to make a perfect survey.
You cant make a survey with the following question either, Its just as flawed
Q) Why did you leave Yiddishkeit?
1) I’m Lazy
2) I was abused
3) I want freedom
you will also get a flawed result
August 10, 2016 2:05 am at 2:05 am in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164897zahavasdadParticipantI had nothing to do with the survey. If you dont like the survery. You are free to go through the trouble and make your own survey.
Its easy to critize the survey. Its much harder to correct it of any flaws you perceive it as having
August 9, 2016 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164889zahavasdadParticipantit has to do with logic. Since it’s impossible to prove that G-d doesn’t exist, some say that it’s impossible for someone to “know 100%” that G-d doesn’t exist (kaviyachol).
We have Faith not logic. You have to prove a positive, not a negative. “Prove to me I wont win the Lottery tommorrow” . You cant prove such a thing. However I can prove to you that I won the lottery, if I show you a winning lottery ticket
We have emunah in hashem existance
I really dont want to defend the atheists position, I am only giving what their position is from people who have told me they are one
August 9, 2016 5:00 pm at 5:00 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164887zahavasdadParticipantThat’s why some say it’s impossible to be an atheist – because how can you be sure that G-d doesn’t exist?
Nobody can read anyone elses mind and know what is in their heart
August 9, 2016 1:23 pm at 1:23 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164881zahavasdadParticipantI said generally against relgion. its the Atheists who want to remove in god we trust from the bills. Its the Atheists who run Pork Festive meals on Yom Kippur.
Agnostics want to eat at home on Yom Kippur and go to the mall on Shabbos, not run a shuttle bus to the mall on shabbos.
August 9, 2016 9:57 am at 9:57 am in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164879zahavasdadParticipantMost people are not Atheists, they are Agnostic. There is a big difference
Atheists are generally anti-religion. Agnostics are just non-religious.
August 9, 2016 2:34 am at 2:34 am in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164877zahavasdadParticipantThere are people who are psychologically healthy who just don’t believe.
In general religion is on the decline in western civilization and trends affected the general popultion do trickle down to the frum population.
The fastest growing religion in the US is NO religion
zahavasdadParticipantGovernors Island
August 8, 2016 6:42 pm at 6:42 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164872zahavasdadParticipantBefore the Enligtenment (General enlightenment not Haskallah) it was illegal in Europe not to be religious. You had to belong to a religion. However In France the church was seen as corrupt and when Napoleon conqured Europe and you were no longer forced to worship in a religion as Napoleon conqured Europe. And unfortunatly not all Rabbanim of local towns were so on the up and up either and people left because of those who were not up to the job
zahavasdadParticipantCompulsive gambling is definatly real
August 8, 2016 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164868zahavasdadParticipantThe reason its a larger number than before is because there are more frum jews than before and another reason is that issues that might have been issues swept under the carpet and people lived with, they are not willing to live with anymore (IE abuse)
August 8, 2016 11:06 am at 11:06 am in reply to: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why") #1164864zahavasdadParticipantOTD is not 20 years old, jews have been going OTD since the days of the Golden Calf.
It did reach its heyday in the 19th and 20th Century due to external factors in the greater world (The Haskallah was just basically piggybacking on them). That 80-85% of jews are not religious today is a testament to that factor
There isnt much difference today than there was 150 years ago except because of technology we are more aware of things outside our normal sphere of knowledge. There is a video from 1933 from Munkatch of various scenes from Munkatch and one of them is the Munkatcher Rebbe giving Tochacha to american jews for not keeping Shabbos. You can see the video on Youtube.
If you think most are coming back, you are probably only fooling yourself. Most do not come back and unless we are willing to admit to ourselves why the left in the first place , not much will change
August 5, 2016 11:16 pm at 11:16 pm in reply to: Why the ashkenazi schools don't accept sefardi children #1164130zahavasdadParticipantNot that my opinion matters, but this is my observation
But it seems the Meshicsten’s are more in Crown Heights than elsewhere. You will see them in Crown Heights or nearby, but you not see them elsewhere.
zahavasdadParticipantPeople arent going to the Bahamas for the Culture there. People do go to las vegas for business as there are many trade shows there especially the CES where alot of frum people go
zahavasdadParticipantLots of Frum jews go to places without Minyans or Kosher food (THey bring it with them) , If you are only going to travel to a place with a minyan you will miss most places.
Lots of frum jews go to the National Parks (Grand Canyon, Yellowstone, Yosemite) for example, and there arent minyans and Kosher food there.
Its only very recently that you could go to most major European Cities and go to a Kosher Restaurant
zahavasdadParticipantBarefoot and Pregnant is an expression , not to be taken literaly.
zahavasdadParticipantIn Josephs Defense, there are plenty of people who like to go for a drive
Ever hear of the term “Sunday Drive”
They make plenty of vehicles that are fun to Drive (A 15 year old Mini-van with 50 dents is not fun to drive)
They wouldnt make Mustangs ,Camaros , or Jeeps if people didnt want cars that are fun to drive
zahavasdadParticipantIts obvious you are an expert on las Vegas, next time I go Ill remember to take your advice and allow 15-20 mins to drive to the kollel
zahavasdadParticipantThere is a Kollel in Las Vegas, Any city with a Kollel must have some Kedush to it. I think its associated with Chofetz Chaim, but Im not 100% sure
zahavasdadParticipantOf course there is a Beis Medrash in the bahamas, its run by Rav Sholom Bluming (You can google him…He is real)
zahavasdadParticipantI was in Petra, The tour guide showed us where Aaron is buried (Its high on a mountain)
We loved Petra, It was pretty awesome there, just have to watch out as the bedoins are all trying to sell you something, they all want money
zahavasdadParticipantHow is it possible to go to the Bahamas and avoid the rampant pritzus?
The same way people go to Miami Beach and learn in the Beis Medrash there
zahavasdadParticipantJoseph is just having fun at other peoples expense.
August 4, 2016 1:28 pm at 1:28 pm in reply to: An Israeli tries to understand life in America #1163825zahavasdadParticipantYou just register for the draft (Selective Service is the official name) , you dont actually have to go, its a crime in the US not to register. You just register and be done with it
zahavasdadParticipantIve been to 2 Muslim Countries Egypt and Jordan. Different experiences in Both. Very positive in Jordan and ok in Egypt (Just border guard was a jerk)
They even take Shekles in Jordan(They give you a bad rate for them though)
I only speak english in a Muslim country (Obviously I have an american accent) so I pass for an american
August 4, 2016 1:12 pm at 1:12 pm in reply to: An Israeli tries to understand life in America #1163824zahavasdadParticipantSouth Florida has alot of Frum people too (Miami, Hollywood, Ft Lauderdale, Boca etc)
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