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  • in reply to: Who said it #1660015
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    and then what? someone says trump and you would say…..?

    in reply to: Who said it #1659735
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    1. chuck schumer
    2. obama
    3. hillary clinton

    in reply to: Shul on Shabbos During Blizzard #928525
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    for the record, brooklyn is NOT part of li….

    in reply to: Seminary Group Flights: Pros and Cons #944663
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    its usually cheaper than getting your own flight, and there is usually a seminary rep at the airport in israel to meet you and keep everything organized.

    in reply to: Boots Wielding Women #911219
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    what does it say? (sorry, im not a daf lady)

    in reply to: Would I be considered being "picky" if I #912086
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    when i was dating (both shidduch and on my own) i never went out with a gu who was more than a few inches taller than me. i have spent enough time around tall men (im 5′) enough to know that i would be uncomfortable, so why even bother going out? does a tall girl have the right to say she doesnt want to go out with anyone shorter than xxxx? if so, a short girl has the same right, in reverse. if not, why in the world not?!?!

    re:size

    size and dress size are two different things. is she small, a little bigger, overweight, etc. is one thing. is she a size 0-2 is another. whats so great about size 0-2 anyway? lots of women dont lose all the weight after a baby, so just because she is a 0-2 when she gets married doesnt mean she will stay that way. (been there, done that) there are some women who are larger who carry themselves very well, and some tiny women who look emaciated. 0-2 is not always beautiful….

    in reply to: first baby…advice?!! #1019214
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    i have a 7 month old (not my first- my 3rd b”h). for my oldest i got everything graco- travel system (stroller plus car seat that attaches to it, in the same pattern) pack n play, swing….cant think of anything else, but i was a real graco fan. i planned on nursing, but got bottles because i was in school at the time and planned on pumping. i got avent and he was just fine with them. i bough pacies for him, and i tried a few different brands, but he didnt want them.

    when number two came along, i needed a double stroller, so i got the city mini, cuz its what everyone had- even though i dont usually get things just cuz everyone else does. I HATE IT!!!!!! my second did not take a bottle, but she loved (still does actually) her pacie- and she ONLY takes mam brand.

    now, when number three came along, i needed a new single stroller, so i started doing research all over. i ended up getting the valco baby latitude, and i am THRILLED with it. it has an adjustable handle, you can get to the basket VERY easily (even with a sleeping kid)its very easy to push and fold, and it folds flat. he also loved the hospital pacie, and preffered that to everything else. (unfortunately for me, he stopped taking it a few months ago) he doesnt take bottles either, so i didnt need to get new ones. im trying to get him to take bottles now (pumped, because i work) but hes not so thrilled. i borrowed a carried from my sister (baby k’tan) and i absolutely LOVED it. hes more mobile now, and doesnt constantly need to be held like he used to, so i havent gotten a new carrier that is more age appropriate for him. if i did get a new one at this stage, it would probably be a mei tai.

    i also got a new car seat this time around. i got the safety first car seat that goes up to 35lb (dont remember what its called. its a great seat, high safety ratings, but ive got two problems with it. it has a lousy canopy, and it doesnt fit onto the universal srtoller bars (like the bar for the city mini) he now weighs about 16lbs, and i dont have a problem carrying him in the car seat. i also got a winter bundle me, which is perfect because its warm enough that he doesnt need a snow suit, which is not really safe to wear under car seat straps anyway.

    ps- i DONT have an odyssey. i test drove one and didnt like the way it drove. i have a town and country. so not EVERYONE has an odyssey….just saying… 🙂

    in reply to: Boots Wielding Women #911209
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    really? seriously? wearing boots is a problem? must have been a guy who asked that question, and another one who said theres something wrong with it….

    i dont know about all of you, but i cant fathom how those barely there womens shoes are supposed to keep your feet warm in the winter. i have snow boots, really nice boots for shabbos (that someone gave me, otherwise i would not have them) and a pair of warm boots to keep my toes warm. when my toes get cold, the rest of me gets cold, and i cant warm up. and no one has ever told me that boots are a problem. please do us all a favor, and stop making up new laws and restrictions. there are really enough out there already as it is, and its hard enough to just keep the laws as they are. please dont make it harder on us…..

    in reply to: Mrs. Husband Name #909642
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    most of our invitations say “mr. and mrs. yyy and xxx lastname”….

    in reply to: What do women Upstate do all day? #892228
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    maybe im missing something, but why is it any of your business what someone does to keep herself busy all day? why is it any of your business if they are going out for lunch in expensive restaurants on any given day? why is it a problem that they are out on the street?

    in reply to: Started Shiduchim & need help with Seminary Facts #901959
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    i dont know anything about those seminaries, but i do know something about seminary in general, and this applies to yeshivas too. dont focus so much on the seminary- its the PERSON that is important. every school has a name and a reputation, but there is obviously a mix of girls who goes to each school, so you really need to find out what kind of person she is, more than where she went to school.

    in reply to: ADD (ADHD) is it real? #874221
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    AD(H)D is very real. i know cuz i have it. it is also over-used as a diagnosis because its easy. medication is NOT always the answer, but dealing with it is 🙂 a child or adult who really DOES suffer must learn how to cope, how to focus, how to manage their life. my sons teacher tried to push me to medicate him this year, but i absolutely refused (among other things he only JUST turned 5 on pesach so he is REALLY young) thank god we didnt, because he has really matured in the last few months and he is doing really well on his own. we are really working with him on strategies for success, and that seems to be really working.

    having ADHD definitely affects my day to day life….im a procrastinator, i forget to give my son lunch sometimes, im very bad when it comes to follow through so things like taking medication and vitamins EVERY day is really hard for me….

    it really bugs me when people confuse “its over used” with “its not real.”

    in reply to: Woman Should Always Wear Her Wedding Ring in Public? #873615
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    “The wearing of the wedding ring is actually a goyish custom which serves no function since in our community married women wear distinctive clothing (head coverings) that serve the function of indicating if they are available.”

    many many married women do NOT wear a head covering, and many head covering are only noticed as such withing the frum community. (how many discussions have there been here about sheitels that look so natural?)

    “Practically, since in our community almost all women gain weight shortly after marriage (when they get pregnant, which, Baruch ha-Shem, is routine among us), I doubt most married women could get their wedding ring on very easily unless they have it re-set (and since our rings are plain gold – unlike the goyim’s which are much fancier, that’s not too practical).”

    that is a VERY big assumption, and a terrible one to make at that. so many women DONT get pregnant right away, and even for those who do weight significant weight gain is NOT a given. many women suffer from SEVER morning sickness, to the point that they need to be hospitalized and cant function. for those who DO get pregnant right away, there is no reason to assume that their fingers will swell up. i b”h have three children and have only had to take my rings off during one pregnancy for the last month.

    in the future please refrain from making assumptions like the ones above which could really (inadvertently) hurt someone.

    in reply to: Pesach is almost here! #858045
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    we are usually away for the entire pesach, so i only clean one room and do the bedika in there, and then we sell everything else. this year we will be home for the second days, as i am due a few weeks after pesach and dont really want to be too far from the hospital. i had my cleaning lady come 1 extra day a week for 2 hours starting a few weeks ago, and we are slowly cleaning everything together. my bedrooms are done, and today she is doing my linen closet and bathroom, and then i will be done. she comes anyway twice a week, and no one takes food upstairs, so im not worried. (i asked, and was told this is fine, because she cleans anyway twice a week so if they DO manage to get chametz upstairs it will get cleaned up) the next major project is going to be cleaning out my storage shelves in the garage so i have a place to put everything from my kitchen and basement (i plan to do this with my husband on sunday) and then i will do the basement/playroom with my cleaning lady next week. my kitchen will not be turned over until the sunday before- i dont have any cooking to do, and i am getting new everything for my oven and stove, so it wont be THAT hard.

    i started early because i know from past experience that the last few months of preganncy can be very hard for me, and i didnt want to leave all the cleaning until i had no energy left.

    in reply to: Serious Segula for Child Birth #843134
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    is it something that should be said only in the 9th month, or should it be said throughout pregnancy?

    in reply to: Best Classic Songs #833972
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    personally, i love the sound of silence. i also like moonlight sonata and the music from phantom of the opera.

    in reply to: Question about being a guest #833136
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    i sometimes prefer if my guest DONT strip the beds, because if im not washing it right away i prefer the room to look nice and made up. unless they are going to take the sheets down to the laundry room, i would prefer they stay on the bed until i am ready. when i am a guest, i always ask.

    in reply to: Black Friday 2011 – Please post here #830742
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    how about boots? i need snow boots and regular boots. ive seen online, but if i can a better deal by waiting until the end of the week i will. (please dont suggest the stores on central ave in cedarhurst- their SALE prices are still more than i would spend)

    in reply to: Tanach Trivia #1217501
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    aharon and elisheva

    achashveirosh and esther

    if i think of more, ill let you know

    in reply to: Sukkos menu #816106
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    i would love to go light, but my house is usually pretty busy simchas torah night…..

    this year i am making:

    marinated honey beef kabobs (without the sticks) over rice

    pastrami

    cranberry chicken

    garlic broccoli

    shallots

    pastrami fried rice

    sorbet and ice cream sandwiches

    anyone who is in far rockaway is more than welcome to stop by!! just make sure you know how to control yourself if you will be drinking 🙂

    in reply to: For those non-trillionaires out there #813176
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    a mamin- why are buses with two doors a must have? my son comes home on the bus every day, and his bus has one door. most buses have a “bus counselor” or matron (sorry, cant think of a better word) who gets off before the children and makes sure they cross safely. if your childs bus doesnt, THIS is what you should be spending money on, not totally new buses. by the way, doors on both sides is not what prevents people from going around a stopped bus.

    i also want to say that i agree with 600 kilo all the way. and whoever it was who suggested cutting the national safety budget, please think for a minute about just how crazy that actually sounds. we have countries around the world who would love to take us out in a milisecond, but we shoould cut our defense budget…..

    in reply to: Engagement Ring!!! #813419
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    if i were getting engaged, i would hope that my chasan would be honest with me. i dont care if the diamond is real or not, but i DO care if the man i intend to marry is honest. its not the ring that matters, its the guy behind it.

    in reply to: Do Married Guys Do Laundry? #1074873
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    shmoel, why is doing laundry a womans job? and what makes something a womans job?

    in reply to: Do Married Guys Do Laundry? #1074840
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    no and no, but in his defense, he is never home to do laundry, and most of the time he eats and runs.

    in reply to: Anyone Familiar With Royal Custom Sheitels? #810433
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    adorable, to get this thread back on track…..

    i had a royal when i first got married, and i loved it! it held a curl very well, unlike my sheitel now, which needs to be redone every two weeks, not that i do it every two weeks….(that might also have s/t to do with the person i take it to though) the hair felt very soft, and it didnt really know or tangle, unless it was ready for another washing. i liked that it was multi directional, cuz then i could play around a little.

    in reply to: Spending Shabbos Nachamu Where? #797143
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    my husband is leaving on sunday for a week, so we are going to be home for shabbos just us and the kids- no company

    in reply to: Yavo Song – Terrible Mistake #794590
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    “Carlebach and other’s ‘ Hinei yomim boim neum Hashem v’hishlachti ro’ov bo’oretz lo ro’ov lalechem v’lo tsomo lamayim ki im lishmoa divrei Hashem’. This was one of the severest and harshest nevuas that there will be nobody who will be able to teach Torah (see meforshim there)”

    im probably wrong because i never learned it inside, but i thought it meant that the hunger and thirst will be for EVERYONE to hear the words of Hashem- that the entire world will recognize Him.

    in reply to: Working Wives #793502
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    i was working part time out of the house for the past three years, and this coming year i will be working from home, while my children are out.

    in reply to: Ami Magazine – Controversy #794819
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    i didnt read this whole thread (im way too tired for that) but here is my take on the hashkafa issue.

    i remember learning that Hashem determines a plan for the world, but not who will be the one to carry it out. our actions are up to us. it was the plan for leiby, a”h, to die, but it was not determined how it would happen or who would carry out that plan.

    in reply to: whats your worst word?????? #790299
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    alls….as in “alls i said was…”

    geshmak….cant stand it!!

    retarded offends me, unless its being said by an australian who says “thats retoded” (pronounced tod, not toad)

    in reply to: WE NEED TO EDUCATE THE MASSES!!! #795145
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    my daughter is only 2, so i am not at that stage yet, but my son is 4, and i have taken him in with me quite a few times. he stands with his back to me and faces the door. usually i have both kids with me, so i go into the handicapped/diaper changing stall, and then theres a little more space.

    “That works if the adult needs the restroom, not if the child needs the restroom.”

    “If the child needs the restroom the solution is even easier. You ask a frum person of the child’s gender to take him into the restroom, while you wait right outside the door the whole time.”

    is that really your solution- send your child off with a stranger? if my son needed to use the bathroom and i was alone, i would take him into the womens bathroom with me. i dont think i would get any stares- i have actually seen quite a few “big kids” in the womens rooms. if i got any looks or comments, i would just explain that i am alone with my children. i wouldnt take a 15 year old boy in, but maybe a 9-10 year old. it would depend on the child and the circumstances.

    in reply to: Two questions about bike helmets #780958
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    thats easy- you just say it will be easier to get the kids to do it willingly if they see you doing it. also, tell him that just because he is older, that doesnt mean the risk of serious head injury is any less should he fall.

    in reply to: Two questions about bike helmets #780956
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    1. put his hat in a shopping bag and hang it on the handles, and he can wear his jacket or fold it and put it in the bag also.

    2. my 2 year old rides a tricycle, and although it was hard to find one that fit, even SHE wears a helmet. my 4 year old still has the training wheels on, and he wont go on without a helmet (on his own he will say something, but i guess it is because he knows i wont let, so it is ingrained in him)

    in reply to: yeshiva or public school? #811693
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    i guess this is just something we are just going to disagree on. chinuch begins at home, not at school, and yes, it may be hard, but it is by no means impossible to do. to make blanket statements like the parents are selfish and they are killing their childrens neshamos is wrong, unfair, and quite hurtful.

    how can you all be so quick to condemn? mod, i know you said no one condemned, but calling someone selfish and saying they are messing up their childs neshama are pretty strong fighting words. deciding to send a frum child to public schools is, in most cases, a very hard choice to make, and it involves a LOT of back and forth with a rav.

    in reply to: yeshiva or public school? #811679
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    “anonymrs, you seem to justify your position a lot and have a lot of contempt for the Jewish preschools. any guilt?”

    i am not justifying anything, and i dont have any contempt for jewish preschools. what i dont like is when people say that the only way to educate a frum child is by sending him/her to a frum school, where the tuition is astronomical. it is very possible to give your child a wonderful frum education at home while they attend public school. when i was growing up, the public school near my house had more jewish kids than not. its not my first choice, but if thats whats best for my child, then that is what i will do and i will duplement to the best of my ability, be that myself and my husband, or hiring a teacher or rebbi or tutor or whatever.

    if parents decide for whatever reason that public school is the best option, why must they be made to feel guilty about it?

    by the way, i dont understand the guilt comment- what would i have to feel guilty about?

    in reply to: yeshiva or public school? #811673
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    “My nursery child can make brochos all by herself without me telling her which one to say knows the parsha sand by the sedar and sings shalom alachem fri day night just to give a few examples is it expensive yes would we trade it for anything in the world no chinuch starts at age 3 it says…and who will be there influences…”

    so does mine….he learned it all from him mommy and daddy. he made a lulav and esrog and succa, menorah, had a tu b’shvat seder, made a grager and megilla, made a hagada, made lots of flowers and a sefer torah for shavuos…..and he is NOT in yeshiva.

    as to who will be their influence, all of the negative language and behaviors that he has picked up from school this year have all come from the frum kids in his class. i know this, because when i ask him who taught him, he tells me their names, and i of course follow it up with the teacher to see whats going on.

    in reply to: yeshiva or public school? #811672
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    “We sent our son to the JCC for nursery and pre-K. It was basically like a public school with many who were not Jewish or religious. He was the only religious kid in his class there. He felt quite uncomfortable and out-of-place, and he did not do well. At 5 he had the personal and social development of a 3 year old. He was very insecure and mistrusting.”

    this is not typical though. your child was unhappy, and for whatever reason the way it manifested itself was in stunted social development. a typical child will do just fine in a public school setting.

    in reply to: yeshiva or public school? #811671
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    oh and one more thing. i would much rather have a sem graduate as an assistant in my childs class rather than as the teacher. i dont think that a sem graduate has enough knowledge or experience to be the one calling the shots. a college graduate, on the other hand, has spent many many years in school, and also usually has MUCH more classroom experience.

    in reply to: yeshiva or public school? #811670
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    “There is a huge difference between a siddur party and an xmas party, making a lulav out of paper and making a tree out of paper etc etc. And if you don’t think there are books like “Heather Has Two Mommies” in grades K-4, think again.

    And there is a huge difference between a sem graduate who comes from a large family, and a secular graduate who has one or two brothers or sisters and a dog, teaching nursery school.”

    there is a difference between all of those things, you are right, but these days many preschools wont make a christmas play or tree precisely BECAUSE many of the kids in the class are of other religions. as for the books, no matter where your child is, you always need to check out what they have access to BEFORE they access it. if you are uncomfortable with something, bring it up to the teacher. i have dont this quite a few times, both in my son’s class and in the classrooms in which i have worked.

    in reply to: yeshiva or public school? #811669
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    “i feel bad for the kids. 🙁 they will miss out on so much if theyre not in a Jewish preschool.. Morahs have a such a big responsibility i wouldn’t trust the public schools to give over the right values to my child, and isn’t that the most imp thing to be careful of when they’re young?”

    its true, morahs do have a big responsibility, but mommy/emma and daddy/abba/tatty have an even bigger responsibility. your job as a parent is to instill in your children the right values, no matter where they go to school. THAT is the most important thing.

    in reply to: yeshiva or public school? #811668
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    “Just like we pay the price for kosher food, we have to pay the price for education. One feeds our body the other our mind. We have all done it, of course with Hashems help. I’m sure your friend can find a school who will work with them. I do not regret one penny I paid in tuition, my children are now grown and I am enjoying the nachas. I feel that Hashem has rewarded my husband and myself for all the years of self sacrifice, many years we were late on rent, or mortgage, had to work with the utility companies not to shut us off etc., but we made it! we made for our kids.”

    not everyone can afford the price of kosher food. i know lots of people who will skip out on some things because they are just too expensive (and im not talking about special treats, im talking about things that would go into a regular shopping) also, this is one of the reasons why i almost never buy jewish brands- i have a hard enough time affording the regular kosher brans, im not willing to pay the inflated price for a jewish brand.

    not everyone lives in a place where there are options, or options which they would be comfortable with. for example, lakewood has tons of schools, but for the life of me i cant find one that would fit my children’s and my family’s needs.

    in reply to: The geography game! #1203334
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    i dont want to sound as smart as wolf- i googled places that start with “x”

    in reply to: The geography game! #1203333
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    Appomatox

    Xinzhu

    in reply to: Pony sheitels #778354
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    “If there is a prob, should we be walking round with tichels all day?”

    why are you asking about wearing tichels all day as if its a bad thing? there are many people (myself included) who prefer to wear tichels or ONLY wear tichels.

    “That’s not a bad idea.”

    i already said that i prefer to wear a tichel, but i must admit that i am much more covered up with a sheitel than a tichel. i am not so makpid to pull it forward if it slips back, and the hair at the base of my neck is not covered, whereas both are not an issue with a sheitel.

    in reply to: Do They Know Too Much? #811438
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    i dont get the problem…..

    in reply to: NYS Regents Examinations #777120
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    so you cant get a hs diploma if you dont take regents? that seems a bit unfair….do you have to take finals also, or are the regents your finals?

    in reply to: NYS Regents Examinations #777117
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    im not originally from ny, so maybe someone can clue me in. what exactly are regents? what is the point? what happens if you dont take them/do well on them?

    in reply to: What are you all doing today?? #772458
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    i actually accomplished quite a lot today with my kids, on my sons day off from school. we did some stuff for shavuos, did some stuff for zaidy, did some errands, and we even did some laundry too!! 🙂

    in reply to: Do you Celebrate American Holidays? #1114324
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    “600kilobear returns, the Shoa was a gezeira because everybody was going off the derech there. A German victory in WWI would not have averted it — doing teshuva would.”

    who in the world are you to make such an accuzation and cheshbon? do you have a direct line to Hashem that HE told you this?

    as it so happens, i very much believe in at minimum recognizing the american holidays. (new years and christmas are not american holidays by the way.) my grandfathers were both in the army during world war two- should i just forget that fact? americans liberated many people- should i just forget about that too? as someone else said, george washington was a great friend to the jews….but lets forget about him too. july 4th celebrates the freedom that we have to even have such a conversation…but lets just ignore that too.

    i am probably going to be yelled at for saying this, but rabbi forst (if thats who you were talking about) is NOT my rav, so i dont have to hold by what he says. when we went into the city yesterday, we thanked everyone we saw in uniform. why is that a bad thing? where i come from, hakaras hatov is a commendable trait.

    in reply to: What are you all doing today?? #772448
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    http://www.intrepidmuseum.org/The-Intrepid-Experience/Exhibits.aspx

    you can check it out here. my kids are 4 and almost 2. the 4 year old liked all the jets and helicopters and stuff. we were on a guided tour, so we got to see more things than if you just go by yourself. we also didnt go above or below deck, because it was too hard with a double stroller, and also by the time we were done with the tour we were wiped. its actually really cool and interesing.

    always here, both of my grandfathers served in the army in WWII, and whether i agree with these wars that we are involved in or not, they are risking their lives every day for MY freedom- how could i not say thank you? (i think my husband was a little taken aback when i started talking about the importance of memorial day with my 4 year old….)

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