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Wow that’s a great story Haleivi..just read it..shame it doesnt fit in with my purpose so i’m still searching for this other story about the Dalai Lama…can anyone help me????pleeeeeeease????
LAB – i didnt get u…are u saying chaim walder has that story in one of his books?
Yes i think i came across that story as well but i’m particularly looking for this one. Thanks anyway!
Wow thanks people! these are great points. LA – that was my exact problem, we as jews feel proud because we know what the torah is really about and because being jewish is so intrinsic to us we just do feel proud, and cant necessarily explain why, but we cant exactly say to them you dont understand it because you dont understand th torah.
Mod 42 – i love your point about supporting the teams, its a great mashal.
I did come across a great article on ikehilla which had a list of 18 reasons why it’s great to be jewish.
So i’m trying to work along the lines of jewish values, jewish families, jewish communities, though they are not unique to being jewish they originated from the jewish people (refer to Ken Spiro’s book it’s excellent) and by virtue of being jewish they are automatically a part of the “jewish familY”, and families feel connected and responsible for each other and in the dynamics of family relationships, relationships are about giving in order to love and i’ve focused on the multitude of chesed organisations created by jews, the concept of gemachs etc,
what do you think?
ps – anyone heard the shlockrock song – the tug – it could be from Abie Rotenberg originally, it’s a great song which really encompasses what we’re trying to say.
It’s a Masters program..ok thanks but i just thought i’d try YWN rather than check hundreds of reviews from random people..but thanks for replying!
I have a mac laptop and i love it, but i’ve had it for a while and it’s starting not to work very well and i cant afford another one so my next one will probably be a PC for lack of other choice. Mac is designer so you’re paying for the design in addition to a good computer, but there’s so many great apps and programs that only work on mac that i’ll really miss if i get a PC so i’m still holding on to my mac..
oh so the reason why i don’t go and work is because i dont trust the babysitter to hold my baby as much as i would when they cry.
MorahRach i understand u totally but i can completely agree with Mercury too.
Bh i can stay at home for the moment and look after my kids, and i’m so happy that i’m able to and that i’m there to watch them grow and watch them take all their firsts, but at the same time my babies cry so much i wish i’d have a job just for a couple of hours just to keep my sanity.
I’d love to be able to play and cuddle them all day but its not so easy when they’re screaming. It also gets difficult just to do basic household things when ur babies cry all day which is why in a way its easier to get out and work and then at least u feel like your doing something useful by earning some money.
Just curious morahrach – how does ur baby behave – has he always been an easy baby or more on the difficult side?
TOI – all aspects except for the kids he’s trying to take pics of..would you not think kids would be more relaxed outdoors?
Wow that sounds pretty insane i’m surprised u havent farmed them out for good π just kidding but firstly a parenting course really really helps!! seriously..i’m not saying at all that this happens because ur not a good parent, this happens to many people, but in parenting courses (if it’s a good one of course) they give really useful tips on how to get kids to listen to you..there really is a way…and charts, routines, prizes etc all work very well to getting kids to calm down a little bit.
There’s no reason why u should spend hours tidying up every night when u have kids who are old enough to tidy up after themselves. yes the kitchen etc is your duty, but all their toys etc they can do themselves. They can be taught when tehy get undressed where teh laundry hamper is. Kids are very easy to teach and they actually really love feeling useful if you give them enough attention for doing their jobs right.
There’s much more to say but i think you’d get a lot out of hearing a parenting course as mra suggested – i’m saying that because i just started a parenting course myself a month ago and i’m absolutely loving it, it’s so useful and it really works π
where u going next week????
it had potential to be good..sickening how they embarrass people tho!
This is funny there’s like 61 posts advising frumscientist what to do but he/she seems to have disappeared
wow thats so good…and yup so well said!
why on earth would anyone put felt tip on their face??? I’d hate to imagine what the chemicals in long lasting felt tip would be doing to the skin by your eyes! I’d prefer to look “bad” without makeup than use long lasting felt tip as eyeliner….!May 29, 2013 7:29 pm at 7:29 pm in reply to: #1 things a girl should know or have before going to seminary in Israel: #958459
Shopping613 u live in israel?
If u were coming to live here for like 3-6 months then you’d have a problem fitting it all into one suitcase, but just for a month – it’s cheaper to buy takeouts and plasticware than to buy all the stuff or bring it with you.
Essentials are clothes for a week or two (i hope you’ll have a washing machine), anti-perspirants (still havent discovered where to buy that here) and i cant think of much else that’s ESSENTIAL that cant be bought in israel….
if you’re subletting u should be able to use their bedding and towels etc
I hope i’m not touching on any sore points but do u have any friends..why dont u go out with your friends..before i got married, unless i got bored in work because there wasnt enough work to do i went out with friends or went shopping but u just seem really really bored……
Gosh i thought i was bored!! now after reading through a couple of topics in the coffee room – u for sure beat me hands down Shopping 613!! How old are you – you sound like you should be in school still but you’re not..why dont u find something useful to do?
We had Od Yeshvu at our wedding it sounded amazing! my husband has sang at quite a few friends chuppas..is there any particular reason u want to know – are u trying to find a tune for your wedding? Let me know if you want and i can ask him he can probably name you quite a few nice ones….May 20, 2013 5:25 pm at 5:25 pm in reply to: Ten things your teenage babysitter wishes you knew #1098602
I used to babysit as a teenager because i liked the extra pocket money..now i’m married with a couple of young kids and i’ll say a couple of rules/tips that i think make sense after seeing both sides of the story: –
(1) if you dont want the kids to be awake, ask the parents beforehand if the kids will be awake. If you don’t ask, don’t take for granted they wont be and dont get annoyed if they are – it’s your fault.
(2) Regarding food – as a teenager you don’t realise it, but now that i’m married and on a tight budget if you sit all evening and nash on packets of crisps and stuff – you’re adding a few dollars onto my bill for the night which i can’t afford. I get babysitters when i need to go out and i don’t expect to have to provide you with refreshments. If you’re hungry bring your own food with you. I very willingly provide drinks and a few biscuits but sorry – that’s as far as it goes.
(3) i always make sure to tell my babysitters whether they can use teh phone or not.
(4) If i am going to be more than FIVE MINUTES late i will call my babysitter beforehand. If i am on time i will not call before i am going to arrive because they should expect me back for the time specified and make sure to pack up and wake up beforehand.
(5) I always ask my babysitter what is the latest time they can stay till in the event that i may be a little later.
(6) If i know my kids have been difficult i will give a bit of extra money because even though i’m paying them to look after my kids i do want them to want to come back again and not be put off from me for life…good babysitters are hard to come by..
(7) I never did this and I dont expect babysitters to do this, but i did have one babysitter who used to clear up all the toys after the kids went to sleep. It felt amazing to come back to a tidy house after being out all evening. So babysitters if you’re ever really bored, you have no idea what a mitzva you are doing by taking 5 mins just to pick up a few toys and make the place look presentable. Again, i repeat you don’t have any chiyuv to so no need to get annoyed at me for making the suggestion but i’m just teling you how much mothers would appreciate it..
If you need calls to abroad it’s worth your while joining Golan or HOTon their plans that have free calls abroad. Even though some of the contracts are for 10 months to a year it probably works out cheaper than joining some american company who charge you per day or per month exorbitant amounts.
yes its quite shvach nowadays isnt it..usually posts that i start disappear within a day or two..now 5 days later they’re still there πApril 30, 2013 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm in reply to: Separate Times For Bochurim & Sem Girls In Gateshead #1029729
Yes i completely agree with you git meshige.
Before going to gateshead seminary i thought the place was crazy! why should we have times for the shops they dont have that anywhere else in the world?! but when you go to gateshead and you see two small little grocery shops basically next door each other, where the WHOLE of gateshead does their shopping, including the thousands of yeshiva bochurim and hundreds of sem girls – there is no choice except to make different times.
And a few times when i went to the shops and there were a bunch of boys who hadnt kept to the times it was quite uncomfortable as you can just about get down the aisles without brushing past these boys…
I once heard a top speaker, who’s been speaking publicly for years, he once commented that his worst speeches are the ones he wasnt nervous for. I think it’s something to do with the nerves creating adrenaline and once you’re on stage and you begin talking, the words begin to flow and the nerves will transform into confidence and you’ll do great.
I’ve spoken publicly a couple of times and yes i was so nervous i couldnt eat for hours beforehand but i know that once i actually start talking the nerves usualy start to go. I dont think the nerves are such a bad thing.
You’ve almost got it right syag! u read in between the lines and you picked up on some very good points. Don’t get me wrong, i love my kids and i wouldnt swap them for anything, and bh they are gorgeous really happy kids (once they get older) but for many reasons, which i cant be bothered going into in a public forum, it’s difficult to switch shift, number one reason i’m up to three years of lack of sleep (I havent had a normal night’s sleep for three years now) and I just don’t see too straight when i’m so tired. There’s a lot more that i could say on this topic but at the moment just thanks for the chizuk and i could probably use some more of that sort of chizuk π
YES!! they’re so annoying! I know they bring in a lot of revenue but by the looks of the amount of adverts on already on the site they should be pretty ok! I wish they’d stop trying to make so much extra at our expense!
reading is a good idea i just don’t have much to read..I havent got enough time to sit down and focus on a shiur otherwise i would try, so i go out to a shiur twice a week…
syag – i’d bake or cook but my baby doesnt leave me along long enough to get too much done so i dont bother – got any good ideas for hobbies i’d love to do something…
yytz..ur right it does take discipline and that’s what i should be doing, but for lack of what else to do i just keep checking again so that as soon as there’s something new i’ve got something new to read π
yes that’s very rational of u frummie π
So if i’m holding the baby i could daven but he takes the siddur away from me, i don’t watch movies, i cant do exercise if i’m holding him..i could try play with him but he just kvetches and sorry i’m just not really the type to write poetry (and that would be if i could hold a pen without him taking it away).
So yes my boredom is not really leading to anything destructive because i’m not doing anything essentially wrong, but it’s really not constructive at all for lack of choices and lack of energy to be bothered doing much…which was why i started the thread referred to above..
Torah613Torah – i’d love to be bored in that way – i’m bored because i’m stuck at home babysitting my kids, not able to do anything productive because my baby is unpredictable and kvetchy and as soon as i start doing anything productive he wants to be held and entertained….so yes here’s some ideas..have a baby who just wants to be held all day and then you can entertain yourself by holding him and playing games and posting crazy topics on yeshiva world while he sits on your lap π
I remember that thread..wow thats amazing π
I’m not sure how many cups it is but it’s 1 kilo of flour..i’ve got a great recipe that works perfectly in it if anyone’s interested.
I guess the bread machine wouldn’t work for oomis if she wants to use 5lb’s of flour. Though the machine is so easy to use that you could just do a 1 kilo recipe twice (which comes to 4.4lb’s). My mother in law actually does that – if she doesnt have time she does a quick one kilo batch and if she wants to make a bracha she just does the 1 kilo batch twice.
Well i actually use something completely different which works amazingly for me.
I use a bread machine to knead the dough. You can put in up to 1 kilo of flour (which is fine for me I dont have time to make more than that) and if i want to make a bracha i just do the batch twice.
It takes 5 minutes to load the machine, add all liquids, then add all dry ingredients and turn on to mix. It has a 20 minute mixing cycle and then leaves it to rise in the warm machine for about an hour and the dough comes out amazing. (you have to try your recipe a few times until you get the perfect amount of water so that it’s not too sticky but once you do that it literally takes 5 minutes to make the dough.
Another advantage is that the bread machine is pretty cheap compared to the other machines but you can only use it for dough’s like pizza, challa etc. If you need the machine to whip up eggs etc then this won’t work for you.
I use a handheld electric whisk to whip up eggs etc. in a bowl.
100% worth getting one. There are hospitals where the midwives will not present all the time if they are very busy and will spend their time going from room to room and will sometimes leave the woman on her own. I know someone who’s midwife went out the room thinking she still had time to go, the baby came out and had the cord wrapped around it’s neck and because she was on her own and it wasnt removed immediately on delivery the baby suffered from lack of oxygen and is now severely brain damaged.
Obviously that it is an extreme story, but these things happen and a woman should never ever be left on her own during labour. Besides for the fact that the midwives are not always able to be there emotionally for the woman and emotional support during such a difficult time is very important which is why i think a doula is so important. If someone can’t afford a doula and can take a family member instead then that’s also ok but there should always be someone who will accompany and be there at all times.
From my own experience, I was told beforehand i’d need the doctors in the room during my labour and delivery because of a known complication and when i got to the hospital and the labour started progressing fast I kept asking where the doctors were, and all i got from the midwives was they’re busy they’ll be here soon. It was very worrying as they were supposed to be there already and this was where my doula came in very handy – she realised how important it was that the doctors be there and threatened to press the emergency button if they didn’t call the doctors immediately – I probably would have just continued worrying but relied on the midwives – something i shouldnt have had to do as it was complicated delivery and the midwives were not experienced at all. So because of my doula the doctors came immediately and bh all went smoothly.
I really like Torah Tavlin it’s got short easy divrei torah, mashalim, remazim, stories etc
yes i think so, but either way bochurim need a visa while studying in israel. But it will help them once they get married for bituach leumi. another thing that’s useful to know that it said on that website is that once someone gets engaged before they go back to chutz la’aretz for the wedding they should make an appointmetn at misrad hapnim for their wife to get a visa so that she doesnt have to wait another 2-3 months to get an appointment once she arrives.
once u have a visa u cant claim tax back
Thanks for the info.. actually found a really good website which has loads of this sort of useful info – its called welcometoisrael.net if anyone’s interested.
ps 6hrs is for functioning normally with feeling tired – that feeling is just part of life π
i get 5-6 hours right now which gets interrupted like 3-4 times by my kids..definitely not enough!i try sleep as much as i can during the day but itsa kinda crazy life because i spend all my spare time sleeping instead of running my house…i think i cud manage on 6hrs if it wasnt interrupted but thats just sweet dreams for now :-/
7 hrs shud be enuf sleep try taking vitamins cud be ur lacking stuff..
Pleasure just let me know when ur accepted π
Ok so here’s my reply again. I dont think u can do a course in any other university except for what the sem organise. You should call up the sem and ask for a prospectus and they will send you a whole booklet with all information about all the courses etc. So yes the french girls used to study in the sem in the afternoons.
and yes it did exist when i was in sem – i said before i was good friends with two french girls. I think you have to apply by chanuka but if you know of a rav in france who has connections with gateshead you should try and talk to him because it may be difficult for you to get in on your own if your parents dont really want you to go.
I replied to this post but it’s not showing, did it get lost in cyberspace or did Mods stop it for some reason??
Which university do you want to go to?
i’m not sure what studies they did – i just know alot of the french girls used to spend all afternoon studying for french exams so that they could continue with their french studies when they got back to france.
No not at all – everything is mixed, classes, bedrooms, courses – everyone is together with everyone, but the french who dont speak english well just dont talk to anyone else except the french girls.
and yes the kodesh lessons are in english..
pleasure and good luck π
My pleasure to help π
-Yes i went for two years. Loved it, it was amazing.
-They dont like it when u only come for on year because then u dont finish the studies. Majority do two years and they are very unhappy when girls leave after one year.
-when i was in sem it was 200 girls – 110 in first year and 90 in second year.
-of course i advise sem – it changes your whole outlook on life, made me a different person.
– 8.45am-12.45pm is 4 shiurim on chumash, hashkafa, parsha, tznius, mesillas yesharim, 13 ikrim etc etc etc all amazing shiurim by amazing rabbanim. 12.45-2.00 is lunch. 2pm-6pm is courses in college – any courses like fitness, beauty, hair, child development, special needs etc etc. 6pm-7.30pm is supper. 7.30pm-9.00pm is more shiurim.
for tzniut u need any skirt 4 inches below your knee, it doesnt have to be pleated.
and yes that was what i meant – except only the french stick together, the rest of the sem mix. but there are french girls who mix as well i have a few very good friends from france. Not sure how many french girls are there now.
If your parents want you to do french exams you can do that as well in sem – many french girls studied for their french exams while in sem.
And in reply to all your questions
– If you tell them when you apply that you want to just stay for one year they will not accept you.
– They accept every single nationality in the world as long as they’re jewish.
– The best thing is to first apply and then talk about the money.
– I dont know what kind of girl you are to advise you which sem would be best for you and there’s too much to write about each of them – so you’re best off telling us what kind of place you would like to study in for people to advise you which one to go to.
Hi, i was in the new gateshead sem. There were LOADS of french girls!! if you’re a good girl and you’re really coming because you want to learn then you will do very well there. In the new gateshead you will not be the only one who’s family is not so frum – Rabbi Katz accepts girls for who THEY are, and NOT who their family are. As long as you are really serious and can convince rabbi katz that you are serious you will be ok.
And one more thing – if you do go – try not to be like the majority of the other french girls who are there and try to get to know girls who are not french as well!
i’ve been to gateshead and i’m from england so know lots about all the sems. depends what sort of college option you’re looking to pursue?
i think most useful would be a recipe book with all your mother’s best recipes and decorate it with family pictures – it’s very useful and personalised i’m sure she’d love it!
Well i actually noticed one of my (single) friends wearing a wig recently. I didnt say anything because i wasnt 100% sure because it was a really good wig, so i asked another friend and she said she noticed the same thing. I’m not really sure why she’s started wearing a wig because i know she hasnt lost her hair or anything but i just found it really strange…..