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yenta: There’s no problem with a woman walking behind a man. (In fact someone has to be behind if she isn’t his wife.) And there is a problem with a guy walking behind whether it’s diagonal or not.
What’s worse, social awkwardness or Chillul Hashem? You decide.
I remember my mohel.
mikehall: you probably don’t want to know.
DY: IOW, the halacha (that you cited from S”A) prohibits ever drinking alcohol in a (non-Jewish) bar.
Then you’re up the creek. Maybe fast for 40 days, and have only a slice of bread with one cup of water at night.
Just give an apology to be on the safe side.
The mothers, and especially the sisters, wearing gowns at the wedding is a relatively new (and unfortunate for the reasons discussed in this thread) phenominon in the frum community.
How can you “feel” a stare?
So if the barber snips off the right peyos of a Satmar guy by mistake, the poor fellow needs to walk around with a one-sided extra long peyos for the next 6 months?
BTW, how do people notice when they are being stared at? Rarely will someone stare at someone else when that person is looking.
golden: so natural beauty starts to wither at about age 50?
Excuse yourself that you have to leave, as soon as you smell the conversation even might veer into loshan hora.
How does the Chupa work in Eretz Yisroel? A few posters mentioned it is done differently.
What is the Israel style?
The better question is why do I sometimes see otherwise frum men without peyos?
Mayan: Going TO the Chupa with her hair uncovered or FROM the Chupa? In the latter case she is already an eishes ish with a chiyuv to have covered hair.
A previous poster indicated “walking down the aisle” stems from church weddings.
And what is the non-excuse for the mothers and sisters of the groom and bride to dress in these inappropriate dresses?
Jewish culture, actually law, is not to look at an opposite gender.
Josh: Many are pushed away by a teacher who misrepresents a mandatory halacha as an optional minhug.
The OTD issue stems from the lack of proper parental and school discipline and the breakdown of proper boundaries and the resulting laxity where children are allowed inappropriate contact with people they should not be with (i.e. opposite gender, and teens who are not fully Torah observant.)
Sac: that story from girl22 IS mortifying, like she said. Obviously it was a mistake, but there is shomer negiah. So yes it was a mistake, but no we are not happy or proud it happened.
Can’t.
I know of no girls thinking they have any chiyuv to learn Torah, or even that davening maariv is mandatory for them. They do know not to wear jeans.
“That is not remotely true.”
Why not popa?
San Fran is Sodom on the Pacific.
If you’re the type of girl whose husband (or, if unmarried, father) goes aroud in jeans, you probably will wear wear jeans. If you’re the type of girl who doesn’t appreciate your husband in jeans, you wont wear jeans.
popa: And why do IBM executives wear suits and not jeans?
Please still explain why Rabbonim don’t wear them.
popa: Please explain to us WHY Rabbonim and Goldman Sachs execs do not wear jeans.
popa: Do executives at Goldman Sachs wear jeans? Do Rabbonim wear them?
They’re the same as a guy wearing jean pants.
Popa:
Zchus Avos works for 13 (?) generations.
There is no right or expectation to privacy when one is involved in a shidduch. And rightfully so. (Between the parties to the potential shidduch.)
It isn’t appropriate to explain why.
So looking for someone with a good sense of humor would not be a consideration for you, since it is more important to find a healthy person?
Why a sense of humor yes, but zchus avos/yichus no?
Wolf: who said at the expense of something else?
Would you want to marry a person with a sense of humor?
Is your response going to be “not at the expense of marrying a healthy person”?
I thought only Chasidisa women shave.
“not personal to you”
adorable – so you are not happy you aren’t married to me?
s2021 – women shave?
apy: Isn’t it obvious?
adorable – the feeling is mutual!
I like my beard. I think I will give up shaving.
esther, what will stop someone from harming them on the street, as they file in or out of school in the morning and afternoon.
tomim: I don’t know the appropriateness of having adult conversation with someone other than your husband.
Taking a day off (or even part thereof) of Yeshiva, for an extracurricular activity, is the purest form of Bitul Torah. You are actually scheduled — no less your regular schedule — to learn Torah, and throw the opportunity away??
Is introvert the same as anti-social?
It’s vital a woman be immediately identifiable as married. It would be nice for men too, but not as critical. Sinning (even “innocently”) with a married woman is a doomsday scenerio; a married man is bad too, but different.
Can some of the introverts here please describe how you are introverted (and if it bothers you)?
Do you think these guards will catch the tefillin bomber trying to sneak into a shachris minyan, like that airline caught red-handed some months ago?
Actually it is the right that is accepting, whereas the left is anything but accepting. While the left will constantly hammer the right for everything (take a look at any number of blogs in the “jblogsphere”), folks in the right are most welcoming to the most fanatically leftists anti-religious with open invitations to their homes, bikur cholim, and a whole host of love — all without a single string attached.
popa, I specifically explained already in my comment why it IS a very good idea.