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What’s your point?
We follow Bais Hillel in most instances and even though their decisions are kulos when compared to Bais Shamai, these decisions are considered Din; not kulos. The opposite of a chumra is not necessarily a kula; it is the ikor din.
Depending on the situation, at times Rav Moshe’s p’sak was universal, at times for the USA , at times only for Manhattan which was his location, and at times only for the individual asking the s’haila.
What a waste of $.
The shadchan should receive a hakaras hatov phone call once a year, every year, from the married couple.
The shadchanis gift for suggesting a shidduch is such that the shachan feels satisfied and good with it. Of course, it should be given before the wedding and an invitation goes without saying.
It is unlikely that a commercial food establishment is going to cut fruit with a knife used for other foods since that knife even when clean, will impart a strange unpleasant flavor to the fruit.
“That’s why many poskim in Eretz Yisrael have an issue with married women wearing pony shaitels.”
Like who?
And why have not the rabbonim/poskim in the rest of the world done the same?
“R’ Moshe did not say you should not machmir.”
And Rav Moshe zt’l did not say that we should wear pants.
“Plus, he was not the only Posek out there.”
A little kavod hatorah please.
Complaining about New York and want to move out-of-town? By all means, please do.
New York is not for everyone and towns in chutz l’aretz should get its share of complainers and relieve our burden, ’cause we sure get tired hearing you guys yapping off all the time.
If you don’t like New York, don’t talk about it, just leave.
And we don’t need you visitors either if all you’re going to do is complain all the time.
Interesting that the vast majority of G’dolim, Rebbes, Roshei Yeshivos, Rabbonim, frum national agencies, and the list goes on; are all here and when there’s an opening for a Rav, all the out-of town Rabbonim compete for it.
There’s no mitzva to be more machmir than our poskim, who have not assired it.
A shomer Torah u’mitzvos gets 27 years.
Chev, v’al taiseh.
“everyone should invest in a full length mirror as well so you know what you look like from top to bottom.”
I couldn’t agree more, especially for men who leave the house with pants and jacket from two different suits; shirt tails out of their pants; pant zippers down; stained clothing; etc.
Heard this from a Rav: One remedy for men who have tznius issues is for them to take off their glasses in problem locations.
And if you have perfect vision, wear glasses for distortion.
And also a leitzanus crises.
There can be a number of unfortunate circumstances where m’ikor hadin a woman, whether a BT or always frum, is required to cover her hair altz b’ula. But I doubt there is any heartless Rav who will enforce it.
As for your question concerning a posek; how about Rav Moshe zt’l for starters.
M’ikor hadin, only a b’ula needs to cover her hair, married or unmarried; but there are some poskim who will matir an almana and maybe even a g’rusha, if it will help her to remarry.
Also, while it is noble for a married woman to have her hair covered at all times, there are poskim who hold that m’ikor hadin a married woman can have her hair uncovered in her own home and if unrelated men happen to be in her home while her hair is uncovered, so be it. This practice used to be more prevalent in the times of yesteryear’s g’dolim.
Joe, I can’t say that I know what you are talking about.
“According to some poskim women do not have to cover their hair all the time, even in front of non-related men.”
Joe- “ONLY if the woman is unmarried.”
Do your research Joe and you’ll discover that there are poskim who hold that married women do not have to cover their hair all the time, even in front of non-related men.
I think there is a tznius crises in the CR.
Humorous display is not leitzanus; as we imitate Hashem who also displays humor.
Joe, even if for whatever reason she is still a besulah?
Joe – where is the psak halacha found for when a kallah covers her hair?
“decorating or hanging”
Public display is not appropriate. No one holds decorating is a problem.
Also a woman in need of chalitza.
That’s a knee jerk reaction.
Non-active kesuba, no problem. Active kesuba is not advised.
Non-active kesuba, no problem. Active kesuba is not advised.
There are numerous reasons why not everyone should get married; you could start a thread that would include many posts under the title “Why it is assur for certain people to marry”. Anyone with a little seichel can figure it out.
I’m pretty sure the Rebbe’s wife had a red Mustang.
“Even if there are hundreds of other Jews entering the place at the same time and not removing their signs of Jewishness?”
“If you were driving and you had a child in the back seat who was complaing they had to go to the Bathroom.”
I would remove any possible Jewish (frum) identifier before entering a treif establishment for anything.
Marriage is not for everyone.
Shlishi – “Chazal say otherwise.”
Wrong.
Oh, thanks.
What about a younger brother waiting for the older brother?
Marriage is not for everyone.
“Because they know everyone”
Also plumbers.
“If you get RAW SALMON (ONLY Salmon as its very indentifiable – No other Fish looks like it) and give it to a chef and have them double wrap it, they can prepare it for you.’
I’m sure there are details left out of this simple solution:
Since this thread deals with Opposite Gender Friendships; in light of the pending Toeiva legislation, it may be a good place and time to warn about Same Gender Friendships.
The Rabbonim today have issued a proclamation for us to call our elected officials and voice our concern and opposition to the immoral legislation dealing with same gender marriage which is before them.
So Brooklyn and Queens residents, please call the office of Congressman Anthony Weiner and let him know our feeling on this vital issue which deals with the corruption of the moral fabric of our society.
“I don’t understand why so many men are spending time looking at women getting in and out of cars…I have no idea if this is an issue since I don’t look.”
Well, after reading this thread, it seems that there are quite a number of frum men who do look. And good thing that they do, how else would we know of the car tznius crisis.
Keep it up guys and Tizcu l’mitzvos!
“signs that were not clear”…”parking there for 20 years it seems like it was a public lot”
What was not clear about the signs?
And you’re right, if I have been stealing from you for 20 years and have gotten away with it, I should be able to continue to steal from you and get away with it.
And a good Yam Tov to y’all.
Newport News was blessed with fantastic Rabbonim in the 50’s and 60’s who were m’kariv the community over a span of years. For the most part, the men, while belonging to the Orthodox shul, were not Shomer Shabbos in terms of parnossa. Many had business in real estate and retail establishments. This was the situation in many Southern towns.
The eventual success of these Rabbonim, however, was the demise of the future frum community of Newport News. The Rabbonim (Rabbi Efrayim Kolatch, Rabbi Nachman Bulman, Rabbi Allan Mirvis, Rabbi Herschel Horowitz) had worked hard to start NCSY and a day school (Henrietta Kurzer Hebrew Academy) and most of the day school graduates stayed frum and ended up going to out of town yeshivas, i.e., Baltimore: Bais Yaakov, TA, Ner Israel; New York: Stern College, YU. But they married and didn’t return; so end of Newport News frum community and end of day school. The Rabbonim had a vision and now these kids are located all over America and Eretz Yisroel and are involved in Kollel; Chinuch; Kashrus; Rabbonis; and other worthy endeavors. They have created frum families and now have children and grandchildren who continue to grow. And all because of the mesiras nefesh of a few individuals and a community of very special women who wanted more out of Yiddishkeit for their children and themselves.
Every Jew in Newport News knew each other; and for that matter, the frum youngsters knew every other frum kid in Richmond, Norfolk, and Danville; all through NYCY.
How ironic that Mrs. Anthony Wiener is a chief adviser to Mrs. Bill Hillary Clinton who is well qualified to console the jilted wife.
Why should he resign? Because he is a lying, m’nuval, sleeze, and an embarrassment to the people he represents. Anyone elected to office from these heavily Jewish districts will have to be “good for Israel”
“until you ask a shaila if kibbud av applies here.”
Let’s at least get the concepts right. Our case is not a question of kibbud av which is Service related. Our case is Moras av which relates to heeding a father’s directives and not causing him tzar, anguish. And Joseph is also right, it takes a bokie in shulchan aruch to decide what to do in this case. There are good reasons on both sides of the issue and a competent Rav is needed to offer a solution.
My wife; so that makes us mechutanim.
gefen – what part of virginia those yehoodim all from?
“In your community some women also participate in the rabbinate.”
Joe, that was a good one. Sorry Charlie.
I love to collect souvenir benchers at affairs and always take home two; they are probably the cheapest expense at the simcha. Before the minhag of souvenir benchers, people would provide inscribed and color schemed: silk yarmulkes; menus (in French); match boxes and even cigarettes. Ah, those were the days.
You’ve got to admit, the funniest thing is to hear a Southerner make the beerchas Hatorah in their special drawl.
I have spent much time in the real South, being married to a Southerner…loads of fun.
“What’s the point of pareve cheese cake for Shavuos?”
What’s the point of falshe fish for Pesach? Or decaffeinated coffee?
By the way, Pressers Bakery makes a wonderful pareve cheese cake all year long.