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G’mara is full of details you can’t repeat in mixed company.
“Baltimore is too the south!”
A Balimorean may be a Southerner to another Balimorean, but to a Southerner, a Balimorean is no Southerner.
Hey, the Saath is gonna rahz agin!
Many times drinking from the bottle is a lot more sanitary than drinking from a glass.
Anyone know who Friedman was?
“drinking out of a bottle is really disgusting. In fact once on a shidduch I saw a girl do it”
If there was beer in the bottle, the maidle was perfectly within the bounds of proper etiquette.
It is proper for the chason to at least take some steps forward to escort hid kallah into his home; as is brought down and even many Askanazim do. And what do you mean by “Here she is already in his reshus”; the wedding rituals are symbolic of the way a Jewish home ought to be.
“The Kalla’s mother and MIL (or father) escort her to the Chupa, not the Choson.”
Wrong. They escort until the chuppa and the choson, who is there first, brings her into his home, which is the chuppa.
Joseph – “It is “etiquette” for the guy to hold the door for her, but it is not “etiquette” for her to hold it for him? Why?”
For the same reason that the choson escorts his kallah into his home, the chuppa, and not the other way around. It’s proper and b’kovedik.
You have to use some brains; whatever can be applicable, is. And indeed, you can also have legitimate feelings of love for your beshert, even prior to marriage.
So what’s the halacha if you know the answer to a halachic shaila and ask it anyway just to make Yiden into maizidim since they are not able to handle the truth? And what’s the halacha on lashon hara, or submitting a creative tax return; is it ok?
“that training should start even before actual marriage”
Daas Yochid – “Is that true for the ?????? ????? part as well?’
Care to explain?
RAMBUM: ????? ?????
??. ??? ??? ????? ???? ??? ???? ?? ???? ???? ????? ?????? ?????. ??? ?? ?? ???? ???? ?????? ??? ?????. ??? ???? ???? ???? ????? ????? ????? ??? ???? ??? ???? ??? ??? ????
The halacha also states that a man should be mechabeid ishto yoseir migufo (honoring your wife more than you honor yourself); and that training should start even before actual marriage. Anyone who doesn’t have the decency nor desire to hold the door open for his potential future wife is not worthy of her hand in marriage.
Except for the December holiday, our Rav and shul celebrate Sunday and national American Holidays by starting Shachris a half hour later than usual and by the addition of shiurim and refreshments on those days.
“I am sure that she would have been mortified to know what was showing, and would have fixed it immediately”
I too throw out all these PR letters who buy my name from lists, especially when I note names of g’virim that are on the “committee”. However, I keep all “gifts” and s’farim which are sent along with the purpose to induce me to give money; this is as Rav Moshe zt’l paskined since these come unsolicited.
“And are the new Roshei Yeshivos yet on the Moetzei Gedolei HaTorah?”
What I had actually posted was: One does not inherit an open slot on the Moetzes Gedolei HaTorah; one earns it.
Anyway, Rabbi Reuven Schepansky (son-in-law of Rav Shmuel Berenbaum zt”l) and Rabbi Herschel Zolty (son-in-law of Rav Shraga Moshe Kalmanowitz zt”l) are also Roshei Yeshiva of Mir.
Mod – You deleted my post because I said that Torah is not yarshined, you have to learn it in order to acquire it. Why?
So you say that you can’t go into a tavern, but you can own one? Yes, chazal were not as makpid on these things as we are.
What’s the difference between me buying a drink at the hotel bar or the baal simcha purchasing it for me; according to you, it’s drunk at the hotel bar which is the problem. Is this crass too?
Let’s pay attention again to Ravsholom’s post:
“For all those concerned, the SA specifically says that the issue is only if someone is ???? ???? ????? ???? ???? ???? ??????. This clearly refers to a situation such as a pub or a bar, not a date in a hotel lounge. Further, the Rama cites numerous Rishonim and Acharonim that beer made from grain (such as most beer on the market today) would be permitted, and that such is the minhag in ?????? ??? i.e. Ashkenazi communities.”
Not every bar and pub fall into that category either. The g’mara relates instances of chazal drinking at a tavern; where else did they quench their thirst when on the road? Let’s not disregard the Rama who cites that alcoholic beverages made from grain, i.e. beer, whisky, vodka, etc. is ok to be maikel
And what about getting drinks served from the bar at a simcha which is catered by the goyish hotel; is this assur too? Of course not.
Mod – If chazal expressed their feelings about a particular trait or behavior, then we know that it’s important and we can react accordingly; otherwise, like you sort of indicated, it’s a subjective opinion and chazal couldn’t care less about blowing your nose into the street. In fact, while I consider it quite disgusting, chazal felt it was ok as long as you rub your shoe over the phlegm.
“i dont believe however that Chazal made a gzeirah against every behavior that they thought wasnt ok.”
If they thought the general population couldn’t handle the g’zeira, they weren’t goizer. Sometimes they would float a trial balloon and if the people could handle the g’zeira, it remained; otherwise, the g’zeira was dropped. Same thing with Kol Korehs issued by chazal today; if the people can’t handle the g’zeira, the issue is dropped.
“The women drank the diet coke of the day, just as you posited that the men drank the beer of the day.’
Sages in the Talmud are recorded to have had beer and wine as the drink of the day; and I don’t think them women drank diet coke.
“here is a very frum boy (for example) who never looked at girls on his holiest day comes out of yichud room stands next to his kallah the doors open and he is standing in front of hundreds of girls and women”
And guess what, this boy who just tied the knot should be man enough to handle the situation; after all, he will be spending a lot of quality time with a woman he’s barely looked at before.
I would never allow this thread if I were the Mod because its premise is k’firah.
“you need to make sure the a/c has a feature (i don’t remember the exact name) that turns it back on after a power outage.”
I have that feature om my air conditioner; it’s called shabbos goy.
Wow! We are some holy bunch; much frumer than our g’dolim and ancestors ever were.
Ever hear of the yiddish expression, “firen tzim chippa”? It means to walk your children down to the chuppa. And they went with an entourage. Ever hear of the “kallah na’ah vlchasusa”, it’s what you sing when you see the kallah and observe and proclaim her beauty. You want “Rabbanim should gather together and refuse to attend such weddings”, well what do you think the Rabbi’s wives and daughters wore at their weddings?
Just about all universal Jewish and even non-Jewish wedding customs can be found in the g’mara. It was even customary to make weddings on erev Shabbos and have non-Jews play music at the seuda which took place ON SHABBOS.
So stop all your whining and try to work on your own midos before yapping off on time treasured customs.
There are other fine serious yeshivos but they are not looking for parents who straddle both sides of the fence.
“Since this thread is about Brooklyn, one there that comes to mind is Chaim Berlin.”
Don’t waste your time trying to get your boy into Chaim Berlin; it ain’t going to happen.
Why should he; he has the stupid Jewish vote no matter what he does. If Obama releases Pollard, he will antagonize the majority of Americans, who couldn’t care less about Pollard.
23 days of this stupid thread.
kaufman, gamblers are one of the few categories of people who are banned from testifying in Bais Din and for good reason; gamblers are charming conniving lying thieving cheats.
22 days of this stupid thread.
As a chizuk l’rabim, those responsible for the illegal sign postings should include an actual size ruler on the sign for immediate skirt/knee measuring, chas v’sholam no one should be oiver for a moment. And mitzvah goreres mitzvah: the illegal sign is off.
“is not mentioned in our circles at all and I think it is a growing problem in our community.”
What kind of pressure was employed to have Rabbi Dr. Abe Twersky’s wonderful video on the “Gambling Problem in the Frum Community” removed from the internet?
Pac-Man – “Even if only 10 people out 10,000 change after reading the sign, it is worth it.”
What if after reading the offensive signs some women started to wear their skirts above the knee, was it worth it?
“sefira tapes… the rov said that it is not permitted”
Some rabbonim hold that while the recording may not include actual music, the tape/cd player is a cli zemer when playing simulated music.
Osama is alive and is being nursed back to health. He will be put to sleep as soon as the USA is satisfied that we have obtained all the info that he is able to supply us. America did the same thing to Saddam but for obvious reasons, we needed a dead Osama with details presented to everyone in a neat package. No pictures, no body, no witnesses, kish mir, perfect crime.
Actually my feeling is observing a wife or daughter putting on her makeup is like watching an artist at her easel, but some people don’t appreciate it. Did you ever watch a fellow buying a poshit black hat, it can take hours; just the right shape, the perfect pinches, brim size, with,without stiching, etc. etc.
Actually, I missed that thread but I remember your shitos on CD coping which seems similar to using someone’s service without permission. I was told by an internet employee that piggybacking may slow down a system.
“As far as the first issue, there’s a theory that since it’s so easy to lock the signal, anyone who doesn’t is by default allowing it.”
So does that apply to coping CDs as well?
“assur to build muscles on Shabbos since it’s boneh”
..not Boneh because it’s not permanent. If it’s for health issues, then it might be assur for that reason. And normal activities, like walking, is not a concern.
As I said, new truths come out every day. It was in the AM and he was oisek b’mitzvah. 15 fully equipped SEALS versus one old man coward with a gun? Osama was no Rambo and hoped to be taken alive.
“I just cited the halacha”
Englishman, since you’re citing, why don’t you cite for the CR what the RAMBAM says are a husband’s obligations to his wife?
Is this permissible?
I pay for internet service and you latch onto my router with HIFI and without permission, thereby not paying for service.
Pac-Man, no I don’t hate kind, considerate, sensitive, giving, appreciative, loving husbands. But, you’re right, I do hate abusive husbands.
“cherrybim- bad advice to tell someone that you dont know. you want to cause shalom bayis issues there?”
ok, so tell him nicely that it’s none of his concern, and to shut up.
Nice guys finish last.