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There is one thing that people struggling with obesity and people struggling with shidduchim have in common. They don’t need peoples condescending unsolicited advice!
To clarify, linen is expensive, but keeps clothing looking stiff. Putting it in collar or in lining gives your suit more polish. Generally speaking, it’s put into more quality clothing. If a cheaper brand runs out of collars, might they order linen to keep production running? Probably not, but possibly. Need to be concerned? Question for LOR.
Local shatnez checker should be able to give you direction. Italian and German clothing must always be checked, as linen is used often in these better made products. Cheap made in china or Vietnam might not, again check with your shaatnez checker or lor. I would assume that Brooks Brother makes better quality and might order items with linen.
AAQ: incorrect. We look to our gedolim for guidance.
Just wondering, why would you post YIM info on a yeshiva site? I’m thrilled to say the Mi shebeirach that they say in Vizhnitz, but a chochom is one who is maker es mekomo.
And who, pray tell, is this great philosopher, that we must all follow his directives?
Pray tell, why isnt it a risk to children with allergies?
Not to fast
There’s something that Chananya Weissman doesn’t get.
The frum yeshivish community isn’t interested in being lectured to by a kippah seruga YU graduate whose hashkafos don’t align with ours and wouldn’t even accept a shidduch resume at 45+ because of his “fardreid shittos!”Chananya YU Weissman has been spewing his anti “heimish” dating ideas way before the term shiddduch crisis was coined. The heimish / yeshivish community was never and will never be interested in his ideas. It’s no wonder that anyone that clueless never got married.
This thread should be titled no shadchanim no resumes. If you believe singles should just meet without a shadchan, then resumes are superfluous. Once you’re using a shadchan, resumes are extremely useful.
I’m not trying to convince anyone which way to go, but neither should chananya YU weissman.YO: it used to be that the shadchan would call and you had to get a pen and your shidduch notebook and write down all the pertinent information. Now it got easier, you write down your own information and just e mail it. All those who prefer to use kerosene lanterns instead of electricity are welcome to do so.
YO: A resume is who the parents are, what girl/boy are currently doing, information about schooling and references.
My response to Chananya Weissman: dating without research will lead to bad dates. Rather spend time beforehand, research that a date will be compatible and come with a positive attitude.
Wow, this is a new level of cluelessness.
Yes, shidduchim isn’t just dating. It is researching that both the children are compatible, and that they come from a home where values that you consider important are taught (yes, sometimes a child will be different from the parents, but information about the parents should raise a red flag). The mechutanim are usually my first phone call when researching. If you don’t think it’s important, then don’t call. But I don’t understand why you are questioning a fundamental, basic, easy to understand concept.Anyone who has been to Maimonides will have similar experiences…the ER is packed with beds in the aisles. No chairs for family cuz it’s a fire hazard. Drs aren’t available. Nurses are overworked. If you need x ray or sonogram you need to wait hours. When you get said test it needs to be read tomorrow cuz dr who reads it went home for the night.
On the main floor the doctors are great. Service is horrendous. Nurses are too busy with other patients. Try tasting the food. Come on, the whole hospital has to suffer with no salt to accommodate people with high blood pressure! Can’t they make a salt free menu for those who need it?Hyper focus. Do things that you enjoy and get absorbed. Find things to do with your kids that you find stimulating.
Why does it bother you? In what way are the competing shuls worse than yours that you aren’t sure if you should change?
Little Froggie,
Thank you for saying it so eloquently. You speak for a lot of us.A Jewish “meet at a bar” system isn’t for everyone. You need to know both who you are and what kind of girl you would meet at that kind of venue. It’s not something I would be comfortable with, but if that’s your crowd then go ahead.
You are the only who decides who you marry. You decide who you go out with. If you’re information system is broken, then you need to figure out how to fix it.
Wow, I’m at a loss where to begin.
A shadchan does not decide who you go out with. He will recommend a girl based on a few different variables. Your background/family, your yeshivos/education, and information you tell him and what he heard about you. Maybe you can ask the shadchan why he recommended a particular girl and why you felt he was off the mark.Ridiculous. When we disagree with our officials we respect our askonim who work tirelessly on our behalf. We should go outside 7:00 daily to applaud our askonim.
Joseph doesn’t know.
What makes you ask? Are you Jewish? Are you divorced? Then you know! If not, then who cares?
Joseph: based on your lack of basic mentchlichkeit, many of us are wondering about your parent’s parenting skills.
I agree with charliehall. In addition to suicide, people are suing for the right to be a rodef. It’s an embarrassment that a Rabbi joined the suit. I feel that Agudath should put out a letter that said Rabbi is speaking for himself and not the rest of the community.
Is this some joke? Aren’t your kids doing schoolwork and stressing about it? My kids would much rather be in a live classroom than phone conferences and tons of homework!
google it and use the recommendations of a reputable source.
Here is my experience.
Train with wet alarm. Have some natural consequences. Child does own laundry etc. Psych the child that he can do it. Set alarm clock for half hour before his usual time of bed wetting. Have child do things that are hard for him and tell him he can do anything that he sets his mind to. (Researchers included jogging in place until too tired and then adding one more minute.)As a Rebbes working from home, the workload is impossible. I create Kahoot games, prepare and e mail sheets, need to log on to Zoom and teach the same curriculum in less time to boys who are distracted. AND YOU WANT TO PAY ME LESS!?
You need to be proactive in shidduchim. Call and zoom or FaceTime with shadchanim. Network with friends. Get to know people. Hatzlacha.
Chicken and potatoes, onion, water to cover. Cook two hours
How are the bar mitzvah plans coming along, still discussing the invitations?
I strongly disagree with Joseph. I believe that there are plenty of moral non-jews. Their standards might not be up to Joseph’s, but he shouldn’t demean people in a public forum.
Joseph: an intelligent statement would b that you had spoken to mesader gitten and they said that there is no difference between age when it comes to gitten. Not that anyone would be believe you!
To say make a statement and then say just ask is irresponsible.Does trolling make people feel better? Is it apikorsus to say that people feel better after they troll?
Joseph, you say chassidim have a lower divorce rate. Can you back that with any factual research?
If all the boxes were checked, then why not? Why are posters stating their personal boxes that might not be checked? If they were, would you approve? I know people who were working for plumbers and electricians at that age. Others who are mature, but wanted to learn for 2-3 years with various means of assistance, including parental.
People need to understand that they can have opinions without denigrating others. That being said, I always vote for for both socially and fiscally conservative candidates.
The simple answer is, nobody embraces a loser. If he was polling at 30% it would be a question.
The simpler answer is, we aren’t socialist Russia! Their economy couldn’t sustain it’s people! We need to know that the harder you work and the better the product that you produce will bring for you economic gain! Getting free $$$ for doing nothing is a terrible idea!
I think it’s great that people learn in kollel. It means a few things.
1. Middle class and wealthy people have income that they can donate.
2. Parents have income that they can give to their children.
3. The young couple works. Wife can have income or husband can tutor in the evening. They need income as well.
Giving out free $$$ means that everyone will have less. Less people can hire a tutor. Lessbpeople can hire kollel wife. Parents will have less. Donors will have less.Those of us by the siyum learned it already. Remember what R. Grand said last siyum, you need to learn something every day! A dad, an amud, a mishna or halacha, but YOU MIST LEARN SOMETHING!
Personally, I don’t care to hear Rechnitz speak. I want to hear gedolim speak about the gadlos of Torah. I enjoyed the R. Lish and R. Farhi presentations about people who have mesiras nefesh for Torah, as well as R. Paysach Krohn. But I went to hear gedolim . Not wealthy baalei tzedokah.