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Dr. Hall:
You said:
‘If the union would agree that all future raises, including benefits, would be subject to a statewide referendum, and “right to work”, then Gov. Walker would probably be willing to move forward. ‘
In other words, if the union caved in completely. Not.
I believe the most contentious point was the union having to recertify every year, which Gov. Walker would probably (I can’t speak for him) be willing to compromise on.
Which point do you have an issue with? Right to work, or the referendum on raises, etc?
Right to work (IMHO) should be the law in all states. Someone should not be forced to pay union dues just to be able to work, especially if said union will be donating to political causes (on either side). If the union is creating value for them, they will pay. It is not a government entity that has taxation rights.
A referendum on raises (only on amounts higher than inflation) just transfers the power out of the hands of the potentially biased negotiators into the hands of the people, via direct democracy. Unless you believe the people are not smart enough to make a decision (which in that case perhaps only landowners should be able to vote), why should anyone who is not biased have a problem with that?
i dont agree with gavra at work-i think mofes should be a last resort instead of an accepted way of life….take the job for 10 dollars work hard get experience look at yourself as more than just an employee and a can do attitude and you will either move up or on to better things…..sorry for being sarcastic but the “es kumpt mir” attitude of the generation has brought many people with a low work ethic…..every immigrant who came here with nothing worked hard yes sometimes 14-16 hours a day but they were happy and able to put bread on the table…..granted with tuitions today its very tough but if you think its not worth your shalom bayis/self esteem to take a 10/hr job there is always the lottery
I’m talking Metzius, you are talking about an ideal world. Open up your eyes, we (i.e. the yidden, and specificly the non MO frum) have become dependents of the state!
Now if you don’t like it, that is one thing. But to ignore the facts is sticking your head in the sand, hoping it will go away by itself (which seems to be the prefered solution of the Klal at large).
Dr. Hall:
I believe the “union busting” action is only so that the union will not sit on both ends of the table. The union has no problem giving back, they can get back more from the next democrat administration. The key here is limiting raises (of all types of benefits, including healthcare, hours and pensions) to the rate of inflation, and requiring a referendum to go higher.
The union will still exist, even under the bill. If the union would agree that all future raises, including benefits, would be subject to a statewide referendum, and “right to work”, then Gov. Walker would probably be willing to move forward.
Let’s get something straight.
If someone is willing to do the work for $10 an hour, that is by definition the going rate for that job.
I have to disagree with stam36, though. As pointed out earlier, $10 an hour will only get 20K for the year, which is not enough to be worth working and possibly losing MOFES (which can provide for a decent sized family over 50K a year). That is why for many Yidden, it is a high paying job or sit home and learn, and get supported.
I live on 16th and 53rd, would there be a better place to live in the whole world.
But my life is different than it was before.
Because a new neighbor just moved in next door.
He looks and sounds different, a yichtege sefardi,
So I’ll ignore him, and he’ll ignore me!
Thought of it when I saw the title.
Even according to the Poskim who are matir it, my understanding is that they are addressing a bedieved situation — i.e. if a man is in the presence of a woman with this amount of hear showing, can he make a bracha. They are not stating that it is fine for a woman to intentionally show her hair. Also it is generally explained as this is an amount that often will slip out (as mentioned by previous poster, over the ears or if the tichel slips a bit), and is cumulative. Sheitels/ falls that are designed to “blend” with your hair to create a more natural hairline are certainly not in the spirit of this psak, and in my experience unfortunately don’t even meet the letter of the psak (i.e. much more than “one finger” worth is being shown). It is a similar issue for women who really on this to pull back their snood or tichel and show a sliver of hair: if you start out according to exactly the limits, what happens if your tichel slips back, or hair escapes over the ears — you have lost your “safety zone” and are violating halacha.
Let us get to the heart of the matter (once again).
There are two completely disconnected issues with tznius. The first and the one brought in Halacha (regarding Brachos and the sort) is Erva. It seems to be the consensus that at least some hair (whatever shiur you might want to have, even if it is lip hair) is not Erva.
Then we get into Tznius – the “non halachic/brachos” version (not to say it is not halacha, but the practial application for a male doesn’t really exist for himself), which is dressing in an enticing manner which will attract attention (which is against “halacha” (what I’m not getting into here) for women). This “shiur” is extremely subjective, with Poskim going from one extreme (such as R. Falk) to the other, as per “what will attract attention”. Ask your local Rov what in your area will “attract attention”.
For example, if a woman is completely covered in red (which is not allowed in halacha, due to it being the color of Zonos (Rema YD 178:1), it would not prevent a man from making a brocha, since it is not Erva (as long as he is not distracted, of course).
We have discussed this before, this is just a reminder for some and something new for others.
smartcookie: As are most things, including flowers. Unless you can tell me that you get no Hanaha from them, and buying flowers purely for the sake of Shabbos?
As per your Pasuk, I think you are getting confused with giving tzedaka, where it says Aser Bishvil SheT’sasher, or give so that you shall become rich.
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It is a mitzva to be Makpid on looks.
See Gemorah, Rashi Keddushin 41a.
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I don’t think I am bashing. If I have an “attachment” to weight, it is because I successfully lost serious weight, so I don’t really have as much sympathy for people who don’t.
Offen a Rashi that you didn’t lose weight. HOW DARE YOU ARGUE WITH CHAZAL!
On a more serious note, the most critical thing for a guy dating is that he be attracted to the girl. Without it their marriage is doomed.
ZeesKite: The gedolim disagree with you, what can I say.
Wolf- you do know that for anything you buy Lkovod Shabbos, Hashem pays you back double…
So if I buy Prime Rib for Shabbos, Hashem will pay me back double?
How about an Armani Suit?
No wonder why we are seeing more designer clothing. It because the buyers expect to make a profit on the purchase!
Do you buy flowers for Shabbos? Every Shabbos or only on occasions?
Costs too much. I have to pay tuition. Buying flowers and paying less tuition would be (IMHO) Gezaila.
I don’t like the implication that singles are somehow to blame for their single status. Singles have it hard enough! I know a number of single girls in their 20’s who aren’t being “redt” shidduchim because they are from divorced homes, or don’t want to support learning boys, or are not size 2. They are dying to get married, but no one wants to give them a chance. Now add to that pain by saying that these girls made a choice!
Of course they made a choice. They choose to look for something extremely rare (a boy who is a “yeshivish” Ben Torah who does not want to be supported, or a boy that can not reject out of hand due to his huge “list”). Blame that on society that pushes boys to be supported.
Then their parents (or the girls themselves) reject the boy they are actually looking for (a Ben Torah who is working) because he is working or YU type.
Of course you can’t generalize, but in many cases it is the choice made.
The gemara says “tav l’maysav tandu, mil’maysav armelu”.
Meaning a person prefers to be married rather than sit alone!
Interesting you mention that.
Big question if:
1: It is a Rov or a Chazaka (i.e. assumed to be true for most or all people).
2: It applies in all cases.
See the end of the 15th perek of Mesechta Yevamos for more detail.
Because getting married is not the end all, Boruch Hashem.
Isaiah 56:
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? ?????-?????? ????-????????, ?????????? ???-?????? ??????, ???????? ????????????? ??????, ????? ??????; ?????-?????? ?????????, ??? ????? ??? ??????.
? ????-??? ????? ??????, ???????????? ?????? ?????????? ???-????????????, ?????????, ????????? ??????????; ?????????????, ???????????. ? ?????????? ????? ????????? ????????????, ??? ??????–????, ????????? ???????????: ???? ?????? ??????-???, ?????? ??? ????????.
Tell them since they like you so much, you should get a 20% discount.
That will quiet them real quick.
Have to agree with vicpr here.
If you are going into social work, just be aware that it is not (From what I understand) financially worthwhile, and you are doing it out of the goodness of your heart. Social Work does not pay bills. You are better off (if you want to make a parnassa) going into something else.
Keep a roll of pennies for Rude Bochrim on Purim.
None less than Rav Chisda said that his daughters were better than his sons (as part of the Machlokes what BaKol means BB 141a).
Rashbam explains that Rav Chisda was Zoche to have Gedolei HaDor to be his SIL’s (Such as Rava the Amora), even though his own sons were Amoraim in their own right.
As such, whether it is a boy or a girl is not the “brocha”, it is the output of the Neshoma that counts.
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Re:37 seconds
That’s what we learned in halacha.
Just proves you can’t trust everything you hear. Look it up for yourself.
Can I assume you are a girl? A boy (generally) would not be taught “THIS IS THE HALACHA” without a source.
Also, Yichud with a non-jew (which Rov says you can assume) is a Gezairah of the Tannaim, not a Lav. Even a NIddah Yisraelis is questionable.
(From Avoda Zara 36B)
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Is an elevator yichud? (Why or why not?)
Most elevators (all that I see) have cameras to the security desk. Perhaps it is a question for old-style elevators.
I assure you, the magnitude of the aveira has nothing to do with how many counts you are oiver on.
It has to do with how hard the nisayon was, and perhaps how chamur the inyan is.
Famous Machlokes Rambam & Rabbanu Yonah!
complete with a mushy poem
I have an issue with a mushy poem by a guy in general, let alone an engaged guy.
However, there is a simple solution. Two flower arrangements. One for the general public, and the second for her private viewing pleasure.
Go back to two fingers.
You don’t need me to read the Shulchan Aruch.
And no, I don’t have an answer for the Olam that doesn’t follow the Shulchan Aruch. Perhaps they are not learned in Torah and don’t know it.
Because the question was asked.
Tums
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Remember that your family responsibilities do come first, but learning is of utmost importance as well.
Where did you get that family responsibilities comes before learning?
POster:
Any different than a cabinet full of silver or a Lexus in the driveway? At least Wolf has something to brag about, good Shalom Bayis (may we all be Zoche).
apushatayid:
(assuming you are talking to me , not Tums).
I guess you haven’t noticed yet, but in general I try to take no position in the CR, only lay out the facts and allow those who want to make a choice to at least be somewhat informed. I am not taking a position here.
It is Ha Lan Ha Le’hu, Rashi & Tos. in Keddushin. Other meforshim (supposedly) hold it depends if he can support while being away.
The Rambam on the topic (Ishus 12:14)
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SA says similar (EH 71:1)
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definition 3.
I’m just reading what the Rishonim say.
I believe the gemorah has been quoted before in the CR, do a search. Also see Rashi on the Gemorah Keddushin I quoted.
Yes.
But not for girls who are 20 (yet).
Where did you get that family responsibilities comes before learning?
I like your question. Are you asking rhetorically, or are you really unsure of the answer?
Tums: Unsure
You’re giving me indigestion with your questions!
Seriously, it is (as all Jewish things are) a Machlokes. See Rashi & Tos. Keddushin 29B, Gittin 6B. I also remember a Gemorah regarding an Amorah abandoning his family to learn, but can’t remember where it is (probably somehwere in Kesubos).
Where did you get that family responsibilities comes before learning?
I like your question. Are you asking rhetorically, or are you really unsure of the answer?
4) Perhaps he will teach spelling. 🙁
Have a Chavrusa or Shiur that you are expected to be at. Embarassment at not being there is a motivator.
Reward yourself for learning. If the shiur has Chulent in brings in people.
Rav Yisroel Salanter famously said “If you only have 15 minutes to learn, learn Mussar, because then you will find you have more than 15 minutes to learn”.
And maybe most critical, marry someone who believes that her husband should be Kovaia Itim. Numerous times the house has been hopping, and Ittisa (B”H) willingly wants me to go learn.
No.
As long as it is “in learning”. A Quiet Bais Medresh is sad.
But, at the end of the day, he has to decide if escalating tensions is worth the watch. As I said above, I’d bet dollars to donuts that ANY rav would tell him that making Shalom with one’s in-laws to be (and certainly not distressing his kallah) is worth far more than the minhag.
Where is that Obvious button?
Some Halachic backgroud:
One is not allowed to lain Megillah from a sefer (non Klaf). However just like a Megillah that is missing some letters or even words (or even an entire Pasuk) is still valid (SA 690:3), and one can read those letters and words by heart (ibid), one can also be read the megillah Via Shomaya K’One from the Klaf, and read “some words” Ba’al Peh. (catching up to where the Koreh is), as long as Rov is read from the Klaf.
However, an entire “Inyan” can not be left out of the Megillah, so it can not be read Ba’al Pah, so it can’t be made up either.
As usual, ask your LOR for actual practice.
I strongly agree with Moshe Rose (I am shocked).
A Pocket Watch is a Minhag Yisroel, brought down in Ta’amei HaMinhagim, to represent the Shalsheles of Klal Yisroel (continuation of the Jewish people), which is what the young couple is acting on by getting married. Why anyone would want to change such a beautiful minhag is beyond me.
Besides for that, there is no Chiyuv to buy anything. It is “nice”, but so is not nagging your SIL.
I don’t see a problem with what you did by leaving the shul. Had Ittisa told me a simliar story, I would probably do the same.