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I think i would have given a small gift on your own and told the boss you already gave something before you knew they were collecting, privately. maybe send a fruit platter to the home or something.
Better question: Why isnt the Jewish World in an uproar that a Jew was beheaded?
i am no Gaon, but the way i see it is, you’re in Galus. deal with it. Yes, the ceremonial part is a joke, and looks like one quite frankly, since its not a Jewish thing, they dont pull it off well, none the less, they are (dissapointingly) trying to be “like the nations of the world”, but since they have introduced this :moment of silence thing, it behooves all of us to respect it. I have no problem with chareidim living and acting however they please BUT if you take money and services from the medinah, then guess what, you’re meshubid to them, so play the game, or become self sufficient!!
so i agree with share the burden in the sense that, Yes, when you see all those chareidim in one place you certainly cant expect the state to foot the bill for all those people without getting anything in return. and while limud torah is a huge shmirah, the chareidim also need to contribute something else in addition. And no one has explained to me why the dati leumi, or hesder bachur’s life is worth sacrificing but not the yehsivish chareidi one. Let’s pretend that someone does need to actually defend the country, so you are saying its fine as long as he is not a chareidi? what happens when we are the majority and they depend on us to defend? what theN? do we outsource our military??? (thats probably actually what we will do!!) The real answer is , if you are ultra chareidi, and dont believe in the medina, then say i am not prepared to serve or contribute, therefore i will not take your govt money and subsidies..
I’m pretty sure they meant to say, “anybody out there in YW land live there” so they can weigh in!!!
i see it like this.. and i do not profess to be a baki in anything, (buy maybe common sense) there are two issues here and i see them to be separate issues. One is induction of charedim into the iDF the other is share the burden. I do believe the spiritual koach of learning is protecting the state of israel and the Jewish people. i do believe without it we will cease to exist. I also believe that the ENTIRE CHAREIDI population has been raised to believe that the state will provide all of your needs for you and asks nothing in return. That is an Israeli mindset that needs to change…If you live in the state , and get bituach leumi, and kupat cholim, and free tuition, and subsidized housing, and food, and arnona discounts, and garbage pickup, and ambulance services, and whatever else you depend on the medina for, than you should give something back. In the rest of the world its usually in taxes.. Well i wont go there but you know there arent any chareidim paying any kind of taxes…so taht brings me to my next point. if they want to sit in shalom veshalva, at whose expense is that security.? Well its at the expense of the poster above, who worries about his son’s service in the IDF and his welfare. I agree the IDF is no place for a “good Jewish boy” but if the nachal charedi and the hesder factions have found a system that allows them to serve and remain in the proper environment, then IMHO the charedim should show them the utmost kavod and respect. They are making a kiddush Hashem, and bridging the gap. I also believe that not every “charedi” sitting in a yeshiva should be there. and i also agree that the male charedi population should be providing for their families and not relying on govt. either thru kodesh work or other work in an appropriate setting. so the bottom line is,, if you wnat to protest and dodge the draft and not particiapte at all in share the burden, then the answer is be like neturi karta. dont use the govt at all. dont take their money for you mosdos, or for your healthcare, or for your subsidies. and then you can learn uninterrupted, with no one bothering you… just an idea…but i honestly cant blame the secular Israeli society for viewing us as parasites….
can anyone tell me how to successfully defrost a loaf and add stuff to is so it will taste like real homemade (sweet) gefilte fish… what to add, and how to cook it so it wont fall apart
men and women were created with different tafkidim in this world. Our modern society has flipped those roles and that’s why we no longer value the system the way it was meant to be.
A woman’s nature is to be tzanuah, to care for the home, for the children, to act in a supportive way. A man’s nature is to be out in the world, to do, to work, to deal with the outside world. There was a wonderful (goyish) you tube fifties video that was used in public schools in the fifties and it made so much sense when it was presented this way. Its basic premise was this, everyone in this household has a responsibility, when one becomes lax and fails to fulfill their responsiblity, the household doesn t function as it should. for eg. mother’s job was to clean and cook and do laundry, Brother’s job was to do his homework, and his chores, ie take out the garbage etc. Sister’s job was to help with dinner, prepare salad, set the table etc. and father’s job was to go to work and bring home the paycheck, when anyone of these jobs was not filled properly no one in the house could function. it makes perfect sense.
When you view it as a role or a tafkid, then its not a burden, or un appreciated title. Its what Hashem put you on this Earth to accomplish. Only one of those jobs is Ezer Knegdo. that doesnt define you as a woman, its just one of your many tafkidim. One of the reasons WOmen of the Wall don’t have a leg to stand on, is that the job of a jewish woman, is not to learn all of shas. or daven with a talis and tfillin. thats not what G-d requires of you. Your accomplishments are yours and yours alone, they are achieved when you do the Ratzon Hashem. They may sometimes reflect in the outside world by the accomplisments of your sons and husband, but in the world where they count, they are her accomplishments.
I assume when the Gadols book referred to a woman learning shas as being worthless what he meant to say is that its irelevant to her. its like teh olympic speed skater going to the olympics but competing in curling, it may be an added bonus to win at curling, but if he is a speed skater, and is trained as such, he would be better served by competing in the speed skating competitition.
Ny should get Pango like they have in Israel. its great , its all on your phone, and you can preprogram it to start when the meter starts!!
firstly, would you mind disclosing if you are a man or a woman, it might help in the suggestions. secondly i have a great rental to suggest on DiZahav, very close to Sanhedria, its 95.00$ per night. you can get my email from the mods and contact me if you like, i have pics and contact info for the rental.
@dash: well i guess “opinions’ dont really matter, but if the halacha really says it should be done immediately, I am trying to figure out why the Olam doesn;t do it that way.. I have always done it right after rising, and this is how everyone i have spoken to does it. So if the halacha says “right away”, then where does this “minhag” come from. ?? and should we change the way we do it… (which i realize is a question for a posek, not this forum, but that is what i meant by “opnions”
has anyone heard that the halacha says you should do it as soon as the dough is mixed so that you may not come to forget, or so that you may not come to eat it (taste it) or for zriszus lemitzvos…?? but lemaaseh , i cannot find anyone who actually does it that way…
dont stretch the dough when rolling your ropes and make sure it has risen properly,
I agree with From Long Island. I told my kids the exact same thing.
jewishfeminist02″ may i ask, are you a tourist or do you live there? Why is it up to the city to figure out how you and your groceries are going to get home in a snow storm. May i ask why, when they warned about the storm for days beforehand, you didnt go to malkha then to buy your shabbos groceries? I think the problem here is that you are placing your (NewYork? ) mentality on Israel which is not reasonable.
ok, i hear your point, i still dont think the lyrics make sense. It’s adults writing the lyrics, and it should be in proper English IMHO> the word as they say it wah nabbe, makes no sense, isn’t even cute slang, and even if they were pronouncing it properly, which they arent i still dont think the idea is conveyed correctly. That doesnt mean the kids arent cute.it just means the song is poorly written.
who wrote this song? and what is it supposed to mean? and why do they speak as if they are european with broken English? Are the words, “you’re a miracle, not a Want to be?” In English does this song make sense to anyone?
people who have been cooking since 7am and need a break!!!October 22, 2013 11:20 pm at 11:20 pm in reply to: Question for the nashim tzidkaniyos of the Coffee Room #983264
every day of the week, guilty as charged!! Including Shabbos and Yom Tov!!
you are soo missing the point. Reaching this girl is not the problem right now, getting you to become a better teacher is. That should be your goal, and by default, she will come around and learn to follow suit. Its a slow process, you may never even have the satisfaction of knowing whether or not you reached her..but i susupect that she will begin to respect you and your classroom, once you have her at that level you can begin to delve into her haskafic issues. First and foremost you need to investigate your teaching approach and ask if its working or not.(for all your students) And whether or not you have been in this field for ten minutes or ten years you should always be ready and willing to improve and /or learn new methods, if not I would say teaching is not for you.
Not running a tight ship is the reason you are having this problem.. IMHO
sounds to me like your new at this and probably not properly prepared. Go sit and spend time observing and talking to a veteran teacher who is a master at what they do, and learn from them. It takes time, there is no magic bullet, but the best advice i can give al regel achas is to find something positive about her and “run with it”. The best chinuch advice i can give you in general is “model the behavior you want the child to emulate”. It also seems like you are close in age or of similar age to the student in question ,and treat her more like a friend. you need to break that mindset in order to command respect in the classroom. THe place for advice though, is amongst your co workers who have been doing this (Successfully) for years, not here IMHO> although im happy to advise!!
I agree with your points. I always say i want to (respectfully) invite all the Roshei Yeshiva in Lakewood to look into who is raising the children… at what cost does this come?
I dont know about the compact. i assume for challah you need the universal. I have a brand new one in box frm my daughters shower she wants to sell it .. you could get my info from the mods if you are intrested. it is currently in five towns but can be in Lakewood too if needed….
i hear what youre saying, I’m not a professional, sorry!!
why dont you just tell us more about you so we can find you a shidduch!!!
Shabbos Robes (especially for children) are the BIGGEST ripoff ever!!!July 19, 2013 7:37 pm at 7:37 pm in reply to: LET US PROTEST: Major Kosher Supermarkets In Catskills Refuse To Use Price Tags #966753
just bring it all in from the city.!! that will teach them!!!
just a hunch, you sound British and it sounds like you live in Israel!!!
Well those issues BH are not nogeya for us. We are mainstream Yeshivish people who are choosing Lakewood because of the “protective” environment it provides. My question is more about making it finanacially. NOw that your kids have to add cars, tuition and insurance and health care etc to their budget, are they making it?
can i hear from the 5 year plus crowd, who stayed in israel 5plus years and then moved back to Lakewood. What were your observations>??? thanks
oh man… is it impossible to make it in the US? if you rent out your basement then theoretically arent you living rent free? And i wasnt looking to buy on paper, i was looking to buy something already established. The biggest deterrent to Lakewood that i am hearing, is how hard it is to get your kids into schools.
thnaks. can anyone recommend a real estate agent? also where do people advertise stuff they are selling. (like the Pirsumit in Israel)
thanks. i think im looking into givat zeev hachadasha, cuz the other one wont be ready for at least 3.5 yrsJune 10, 2013 12:41 am at 12:41 am in reply to: Most important Jewish (Torah) values to impart to your children #958254
IMHO there is only one yesod to chinuch….. Model the behavior you want the child to emulate.
i;m curious to know what you consider “middle America”
i think a life coach would be of great help
I do believe YOF should come out with a formal statement. Although flight attendants may have overreacted, there is no excuse for Jewish children not obeying when being told numerous times and then again by the pilot himself.
i think these “Brooklyn kids” have rarely. if ever, been on a plane. and therefore not aware of the severity of flight attendant imposed rules. I do feel however, if the kids were unruly, that a chaperone from the group or multiple chaperones should have been called to intervene and meditate between the two. I assume chaperones were dispersed throughout the cabin, and unable to get up at this point in the flight. The sad thing is that these kids will just probably think its really cool that they made the news….
its hard, its expensive, and im not sure doctors are making any money nowadays with Obamacare. might want to investigate that further. what about a PA?May 28, 2013 12:33 am at 12:33 am in reply to: #1 things a girl should know or have before going to seminary in Israel: #958441
That newly married couples need their privacy!! Call before dropping in. and leave when the husband comes home!!!!
i think middle aged or older OOT baal habatim wear this type because to them it looks the most :normal: to the outside world. It sits neatly on your head and blends in much better. its not conspicuous. it doesnt make a “chareidi” statement either. I think OOT , at least where im from, its what a regular good Jew wears. not yeshivish, not lubavitch, not YU, just regular baal habus..
Sam2 i think my explaination does work here, because if you maliciously break my arm then i am pasuul from the avoda until my arm heals it makes sense that at that time i am not Rauii to do the avoda because i am injured and cannot carry out the duties of the avoda the way they are meant to be carried out. just like if i would be a runner in the Boston Marathon, and i broke my leg the day before, i can no longer run. Its not the Marathon’s fault that i cannot run, The rules are not “mean” because they exclude injured or handicapped people, It is just a matter of circumstance. my explaination was simply that its not appropriate or helpful to apply our western views of political correctness to a Torahdik concept.
i do not know the halachic ins and out of people who are pasul from the avoda, but it seems to me that the person posing the quesion is applying modern day “political correctness:” to a situation which it does not apply. Everyone in this world was created with a tafkid. THe RS”O determines each person’s fate and what challenges they will face in their lives. It is also He who has defined the qualifications for those that do the holy avoda in the beis hamikdash.I am a housewife and mother. i too would like to do the avoda, but i am not “suitable” . is that mean? is that discriminatory? is it my fault that i am a woman? No , this is just not my tafkid, and i have to accept that. and i do happily…… I think we have to change our modern day perceptions, and realize that everyone has a job to do in this world. That by no means is the same thing as everyone has “every right” to do every job. Some are suitable and some are not. I find the same applies in modern day life when for example, the supermarket hires the elderly to carry out groceries, to show that they don’ t discriminate, but in the end, i feel dumb asking a 70 yr old man to lift my packages into the car. (or a pregnant lady for that matter.) so its very nice that you don’t want to discriminate, but the fact of the matter is, the job is not being carried out in the best possible way. Yes there is a very nice mentally disabled person who carries out my groceries from time to time, and i realize its important for him to have a job, however, i , the consumer, am better served having a young, able bodied, quick acting person do the job. it gets done faster and better. thats the bottom line. I am not saying dont give him a chance, i am just saying perhaps use him in the stock room (of course they would never do that , cuz the only reason they hire him is to show the public that they are politcally correct. see what a farce this all is?… hope my point was understood.
I love my magic mill. I also love the mixer bowl and the whisk attachment for all things EXCEPT a thick dough or cookies. i also have a kitchen aid. but i use my magic mill for most things..I think it does an excellent job with the challah dough~
i have one to sell you….
Bechavod Gadol Confucious, when these “frum” people start acting like Bnei Torah, the secular israeli wont mind them as neighbors.
if i were you i would put an ad in the Nshei of ramat eshkol email list or Janglo or Luach and see if some american has extra that they dont need anymore.