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Since when is 18th and 66th not Boro Park?
( I don’t live anywhere near there so I may be generalizing..)
Starbucks on 18th and 66th?
Dunkin Donuts on Coney Island and 18th Ave?
seeallsides:
“You should also try to be practical and accept the reality that you have to meet someone else, and the best way to be a desirable shidduch, is by being b’simcha and showing a warm and together picture to the world.”
Absolutely. It took awhile to realize that, but thank god I have.
oomis1105:
“It is painful, can even feel like a death (it kind of is – the death of a relationship, the death of the potential for a life with the other person).”
Interesting, that’s exactly what my therapist at the time told me. That’s exactly what it felt like. Something inside me died along with the relationship.
SaysMe:
“nomtw- scroll up, i posted after purim :). Thanks so much for asking. Itturned out really nice in the end though it had a slow, late start. If i’m still here next yr, i wanna go visit that someone earlier and longer to get that geshmak for longer. How was yours???”
Glad to hear!
Eh, could’ve been better :-/ My family has a really ‘cool’ way of creating drama from nothing…
As a proud MO I’m sure you know what my vote is…
I was speaking to a chassidic co worker today who just recently got married. She told me her parents did research on her husband FOR A YEAR & they had two B’shows, 4 hours apart.
Oy…not for me..
LOL! Good one, Goq.
‘Wicked’ works too, or maybe ‘Are people born wicked, or do they have wickedness thrust upon them?’
Hey! I’m relatively new here, but you’re like a celebrity.
Welcome Back!
Glad to hear things are better now.
So….any chance I’ve earned a subtitle yet…?
1)Realizing the problem.
2)Figuring out constructive solutions.
3)Taking action even if it means doing things you aren’t comfortable with.
(i.e- going to therapy, taking medication, cutting off unhealthy relationships..etc)
I’m *bumping* this thread up because I just discovered it and it hit home. Next month it’ll be two years since my engagement broke. Everyone told me the pain would decrease with time. The memories are slowly fading, but the flashbacks are still there.
I just wanted to give a pat on the back to all those that are suffering the pain of a breakup. It’s not easy, not for guys and not for girls. I was told that one day “You’ll look back at this time and laugh”. That’s ridiculous. I will never laugh at a time when I was in so much pain, I will look back and see why I had to go through it.
Stay Strong Everyone! (Talking to myself here as well..)
Bytes & Chips
+ 1, What bpt said…
I’m not the “Lakewood Type”, but I have a few friends who met with Rabbi Shloime Lewinstein in Lakewood.
Stock Trader:
Well thanks for that Ego boost ๐
I have some friends who have a fb and rarely use it, others (like myself) became addicted very quickly. As smartgal pointed out, the app on my phone allowed me to access it 24/7.
“The boys in the frum community are wonderful and being brought up beautifully.”
When was the last time you were a girl and dated?
(& if you are a girl and just have a deceiving SN, My apologies..)
Aren’t you describing half the guys in lakewood?
Gabi: “How does a gallstone attack feel?”
In my experience it was kind of like having a blockage right under the chest. The symptoms mimicked that of a heart attack (god forbid) chest pain, nausea, labored breathing, INTENSE upper abdominal pain…
Not a pleasant memory.
“NOMTW: Sorry, our posts crossed. No, I have not. Why do you specifically suggest that as a possibility?”
Sometimes when you feel incredibly anxious it is impossible to focus on the task at hand. The inability to focus can make you irritable and breed even more anxiety. I’m not one for throwing the term around loosely which is why you might want to talk to a professional about it, but it was just my instinct when I read your post.
Feel Good!
SaysMe:
How was your Purim at the end?
Just checking in..
“ha my teacher used to tell us to hold our breath for 20 minutes so we wouldnt hiccup again!”
Hold your breath for 20 minutes & let me know how that works out for you…
smartgal:
Pretty much exactly the reason I deactivated as well. The amount of drama it was causing in my life was unhealthy. I found myself constantly refreshing my page and unfocused in my schoolwork. It’s completely addictive.
I deactivated 4 months ago & have never looked back since.
Goq, are you referring to a maaras ayin reason or just because it makes you hungry?
hershi:
I am NOT insinuating anything, however- have you ever thought about the possibility of an Anxiety Disorder…?
soliek:
Good One! I’m referring to emotional/mental pain. & if mosquitos cause you emotional anguish then no, what would I have to gain by belittling your pain?
soliek:
Being that the 100th anniversary is coming up in April -(coinciding with the re-release of the film) I would think Titanic jokes are not thaaaaat appropriate. IMHO- a joke about a subject that caused someone pain is never appropriate…
SaysMe:
You don’t have to force yourself to be continuously happy all day long, try to find small things that make you happy (Even if it’s just snagging the last slice of pizza :P)
One step at a time, right?
Feel Better ๐
Welcome thefinalhorcrux! (U made it, eh?)
I’m glad we’ve established this was a joke bec lord…
yossi z.: Looking Forward to hearing good news soon ๐
AinOhdMilvado: +1
& how exactly does his “friends” determine who he should go out with? The prettiest picture wins the prize?
Syag Lchochma:
“No One Mourns The Wicked – What awesome chizuk, thanks. And you are so right about going through the motions, loved that! As an aside, my sister LOVED Wicked and your screen name makes me think of her and smile. So thanks for that too.”
Pleasure ๐ Taking each day as it comes is what really helps..I’m glad the advice I give myself each morning has helped you too ๐
Aw! Glad to help!
How you feeling?
“R’ D. Goldwasser writes in his book about a guy who broke up with his fiance on facebook, rather than in person!”
My fiance chose to do it over a text message…
I had mine removed laprascopically at 15 (I had lost over 90 pounds b’h and that was my body’s reaction).
I had over 1000 stones that were heading towards the bile duct. Aside from a few tiny scars and general weakness for about a week-it was the smartest thing I did…don’t be scared ๐
Free Therapy: No One Mourns The Wicked ๐
Free medical advice: yentingyenta
Good Shabbos everyone! Thanks for the advice on my thread! I will reply after shabbos (got to run and get ready!)
Know me? Hmm…
*insert paranoid thought here* ๐
Health: They teach the same in the Psych field ๐
yentingyenta:
What a beautiful post! I especially liked this line: “….rather than sympathize with my patients, i can empathize with my patients”
Not many people understand the true difference between sympathy and empathy..
Shkoiach!
I had a slipped disc and sciatica. I was extremely skeptical of Chiropractors so I tried every method in the book (PT, Acupuncture, Muscle Relaxers..) before dragging myself into the office…believe it or not…I’m back and better then ever ๐
Cost about $80/session
(well that and Vicadin lol)
coreytothecup:
I’ve been watching the YU purim shpiel for a few years now and a lot of their jokes are targeted at the faculty. At first I had the same reaction as you, but then I noticed President Joel sitting there in the front row laughing harder than anyone else…so perhaps they clear the script with the faculty first….?
“Unfortunately appearances and perception have tremendous WEIGHT.”
ohhhh you hit it right on the button…
Laffy Taffy!
Used to be Twerpz until they discontinued it ๐
Imaofthree: Yeah ๐ We’re doing the ‘usual’ baseball themed stuff (CrackerJacks, Beer, Hot Pretzels, & Peanuts)
soliek: LMHO!!!!
This year we are giving hot pretzels as part of our baseball theme & I made labels stating which hecherim I used..
Syag Lchochma, That’s an incredible poem. In it’s own way it has given me tremendous inspiration. Thank You! Hope you feel a bit better each day. No Rush. Go through the motions..
“Because no matter how far you walk or how low you sink, you never leave the palms of His hands.”
*Sniffle* Best Line.