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“the Go’el Hadam according to one Tanna “
The Goel Hadam (family member who avenges the negligent homicide of his kin)doesn’t HAVE to kill the Shogeg killer, does he? It’s only that he is not punished for doing so. Therefore the Shogeg is sent to the Ir Miklat (refuge city of the Leviim), to protect him from the Goel Hadam coming after him, because he is not permitted to pursue and kill him there.
Yaharog, means “he will kill.” Did you mean “yehareig” (he will be killed)?
Yes, I think so. Good reminder for her AND for others, that she is married.
Who said they couldn’t?
Can we spell “hypocrite?” As soon as he thinks this is going to hurt his campaign, he will reverse himself (again).
oomis -is it any better to freeze the cabbage rather than boiling it for a few min. It seems alot more time convenient. also in plain water or salt water?”
I prefer freezing it. The advantages are a) I buy the cabbage davka because I plan to make stuffed cabbage, so I know to get it a week in advance and put it in the deep freeze immediately. b) I don’t have to potchkeh with boiling up large pots of water (an energy waster, also) and c) I don’t burn my fingers (as my mother O”H used to)from handling the hot cabbage leaves. It really (for me) is more convenient to freeze and thaw it. The end result is a limp cabbage leaf either way.
If I were to boil it, I would do so in slightly salted water, but it takes way more than a few mninutes, and as the leaves are separated, the cabbage has to go back into the water to soften the remaining leaves. It’s ana nnoying time-consuming process for me, so I prefer the other way.
As far as I am concerned, members of Hatzalah are probably among the Lamed-Vov Tzaddikim. The literally give up their free time and often their sleep, on a moment’s notice, and at no pay, to do a better and quicker job than most EMTs. Every time I have had to call them, they were there in two minutes or less. No one should ever bad mouthe them for ANY reason. If you have concerns about inappropriate parking permits, then address your local Hatzalah and tell voice your feeling. Otherwise, be thankful they are willing to be moser nefesh on behalf of the kehillah, and pray that you never need to avail yourself of their altruistic services.
“nurse i was working with asked me if all jews are circumcised”
No just the males. “
Goq, that is PRECISELY what my immediate response was!
The reform members of my husband’s family all used certified Mohelim and real Brissim on the 8th day. One of the mohelim was a Krohn, who really did an excellent job explaining the importance of bris milah to a crowd of people who were only marginal Jews, at best.
He was anti it before, was he not?
“Epis a friend i have who nebach wants to have mixed dancing at his chasuna. How can i convince him not to ??? “
Assuming this post is not a joke (which sorry to say it really sounds like a leg-puller to me), you cannot convince your friend of anything. It is his wedding, his family dynamic, and his business. You can, if you are truly understandably uncomfortable, attend the chuppah only, and if he asks why not the whole wedding, tell him that while you are very happy for his getting married and wish him mazel tov, that you don’t attend simchas where there will be mixed dancing. You cannot change what his family wants to do at their simcha (or the other side might be extremely modern and wants mixed dancing), but you can act according to your own conscience. If enough of his friends tell him they cannot attend the entire chasunah for that reason, perhaps he will try to change the plan for the mixed dancing.
BTW, were this my own situation, I would simply refrain from dancing. I would personally not seek to hurt someone’s feelings at his own simcha. For the sake of Sholom Bayis (with extended family members), I have attended my husband’s family simchas where the FOOD was not kosher, let alone the dancing! My husband and I wished the families involved mazel tov, and then sat quietly. And when asked to dance OR eat, we simply said thanks, that we would love to, everything looks delicious, but that we cannot, and that we do not dance in mixed groups. No big explanations, no pontifications. My in-laws truly appreciated our attendance, nonetheless. And in the eyes of the frei Jews who were there, we were menschlech (meaning, they didn’t think we were stuck up holier than thou-ers, and they respected us for it.
“While the wife of a King is a Queen, most Rabbis are not Kings. “
Nope, but all their wives are still rebbetzins, even when they don’t call themselves that.
Retroactively, Rabbi Rubinstein remarkably radically reasoned regarding Rabbi Rosenberg’s responsibly reading re: Rebbetzin Rosenberg’s Realtor’s really rare refreshing raw raspberry recipes, redundantly re-written; readily referencing Robert, Rebbetzin’s Rosenberg’s really remarkably robust roofer.
OY!
I just separate the cabbage leaves , either by boiling or by freezing for a week then thawing out for a few days until the leaves are wilted, then I make a mixture of chopped meat, minced garlic, onion soup mix, uncooked white rice, and egg (one per lb. of meat), fill the cabbage leaves and roll like a blintze. I put them into a pot with simmering marinara sauce to which I have added lemon juice, another packet of onion soup mix, more minced garlic, and brown and white sugar to taste. If I have extra cabbage, it goes in the bottom of the pot. Simmer covered on low flame for a couple of hours. Check for doneness. If I am really lazy (who, I???) then I will make meatballs and not stuff the cabbage, but rather throw a can or two of sauerkraut in the bottom of the pot. The key is getting the sauce to the right degree of sweet and sour. I never measure anything.
Cherrybim, you are SO right. It takes a lot for a woman to deserve the title as an honor. But whether or not qualified, the wife of a King is still the Queen, no? (The husband of a Queen, though, is not necessarily the King).
Yes, they put themselves in danger, but I nonetheless feel tremendous sympathy for Daniel Pearl O”H, who died Al Kiddush Hashem, in a particularly frightening, horrific, agonzing way, something which haunts all of us, and I am sure will never allow his family any peace of mind.
I would want to see everyone in camp. I can’t be a camp mother without camp children, can I???
A Rebbetzin is the First Lady of the shul”
Not every rebbetzin IS a shul’s first lady. The Rosh Yeshivah’s wife is also Rebbetzin. Any woman becomes Rebbetzin by virtue of her marriage to a Rabbi. Are all Rebbetzins deserving of the title as we conjure it up in our minds? Maybe not, but it is what they are.
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Is the husband of a rebbetzin a rabbi? “
Gotta be.
“or even worse dobby. “
THAT might have been more accurate :p
“severus snape is a creepy quuadruple agent wizard”
As to Snape, without giving anything away, anyone who has read the final Potter book, knows the emes about him.
All this being said, everyone loses his/her temper SOMEtime (except for Hillel HaZakein). We’re not talking about that type of temper. But someone who routinely loses it verbally and/or chas v’sholom physically (and especially when it is not really warranted), is a risky shidduch. One should investigate such a report carefully, to ensure it is not just L”H being spoken about the person, or even an exaggeration. But if it can be shown that the person has a continuing problem with controlling ire, then it might be better to look elsewhere for a spouse.
May we be zoche to walk to the Beis Hamikdash Hashlishi for Shavuos! “
Amein!!!
“Oomis: A unique blend of mother and grandmotherliness. Has all the time to give for anyone and everyone. Stylish glasses, medium height, with-it shaitel and general appearance. Up to date on latest technological gadgets, yet full of wisdom, experiences that time brings.”
That’s me to a T, especially the full of wisdom part, of course!!!!! (You are SO insightful!!!!) Actually, I am only 5’2″, and not so up-to-date on techno stuff, but otherwise, you got me down pat. Sort of. Well, I do wear stylish glasses and a shaitel.
And Mod42 – Mrs. Weasely???? Seriously??????? Actually, it could be worse – – you might have said Severus Snape.
Yes, people with bad tempers should NOT get married – until they have been through extensive anger management classes, and learned why they have such bad tempers, and how to control them. NO spouse or children should have to be subjected to such personality problems. If those problems cannot be controlled, that is someone who should not be married to someone whose life will suffer for it. Just my opinion. And if anyone get angry at what I wrote – I meant YOU!!!!!
Is that even tzniusdig??????????? Stop picturing us!
Rebbetzin is the title of the wife of a Rabbi, though we tend to think of it more as a shul rebbetzin. If she prefers, she can simply be called “Mrs (whatever).” Most Rebbetzins are referred to as such when their husband is the rov of a shul or Rosh Yeshivah type. It confers NO special talents or bina yesaira upon her (she could even technically be a total am haaretz, but that is not so likely that a rov would have such a shidduch nowadays), and she must ALWAYS ask her husband for any shailah presented to her. The title conjures up a certain image, but it really is simply the way one may address the wife of a man who has smicha and is called rabbi.
Many rebbetzins, who are learned women, give shiurim to the ladies in their shuls, but that is not a requirement of the title “Rebbetzin” (it might be expected, however, by the shul Sisterhood, when they hire the rov). Otherwise, a typical Rebebtzin might do little else but make cholent for the shul for kiddush, in a shteeble type situation. Her strengths might lie more in being an ear for the women, to relate back to her husband, when there are issues that need to be conveyed to him in a tzniusdig way. If well-educated or highly-motivated, the rebbetzin might take a more active role in community issues. I have seen rebbetzins on both sides of the spectrum, some very active, and some extremely passive and non-involved. Both were rebbetzins.
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2nd date? Still shmoozing. Save the heavy stuff for when you see the dating going toward a definite potential goal. Hashkafa CAN be discussed in lighter ways, btw. You’re not proposing on a second date, so don’t get into such nitty-gritty stuff before there is a real possibility that there will be a third and fourth date and beyond. Just enjoy getting to know each other. When there is a silence and you feel comfortable with it – MARRY THE GIRL! Otherwise, find something interesting to ask her about, like who she thinks would make a good President for the next four years.Then ask her to defend her position (just kidding).
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Are they black mens socks?! It must be them! “
That sounded racist…
What are you doing that might scare them away? You are who you are, and should not pretend to be what you are not. If it would scare them away then either a) you are doing something you shouldn’t or b) they need to chill a little, because they are overreacting, in which case it probably would not be the right shidduch for you to begin with. Based SOLELY on the way you expressed your question, I would tend to think you are aware that you are doing something you probably should not be doing, or you would not be worried about it having a negative impact.
Or I am overreacting.
Any diet that is balanced but lower in bad carbs, higher in complex carbs, and a nice amount of protein with fruits and veggies, is a good one. You need some fat (healthy fat like olive oil), just watch the amount and calories.
Mazel tov– I just read this now!!! Much nachas.
Oomis respect is a two way street, btw i respect you oomis.”
Ditto, and thank you for saying so. Mommamia’s advice was very good.
BTW, it is not a crime to be single. But I echo Kapusta’s sentiments.
Oomis are you an older single? have you ever been one? then you may not know that this behaviour is unending and extremely intrusive i should treat them with respect? what about me i’m in my forties and they treat me like a child i have tried the polite route it gets me nowhere i dont need their advice or input i am not married but i am an adult they need to keep their opinions to themselves. “
Nope. I am an older married. I was zocheh to have a wonderful father-in-law who was 94 when he died. I also worked with elderly people. I know a LOT fof elderly people. They all do what you are describing. Your best bet is to change the subject and walk out, if you really feel you cannot tolerate their opinions. BECAUSE – when you are elderly G-d willing, you will probably do the same thing as they, to some younger 40-ish person. I never thought I would do what all my aunts and uncles did, but we all turn into those senior citizens eventually (BE”H), and we ALL end up annoying ther younger generation in the same way. Because we can.
You still ought to be respectful. There is no excuse for disrespecting the elderly. You have the option of excusing yourself and walking away or changing the subject. And no, it is NOT pleasant to be treated as a child.
4) How Caesar (supposedly) hid his baldness. WREATH AROUND HIS FOREHEAD
5) A near miss with disaster is sometimes called this. CLOSE SHAVE
6) An audacious, dangerous and risky act is sometimes metaphorically referred to as this. HAIR-BRAINED
8) This garment is worn by religious fanatics to make them physically uncomfortable. HAIR SHIRT
11) Edward Teach was better known and feared by this nickname.
12) Recommended cure for a hangover. HAIR OF THE DOG
15) By law, food service workers must wear these. HAIRNET
16) This soldier’s safety device may not fit bearded men properly. GAS MASK
Goq, this is a typical function of older people. They may have very little going on in theior own lives, or little control, or as I said, it is just a function of many people being elderly. Thank them politely for their input, and then do what you want. You cannot reason with some elderly people, just as you cannot reason with some children.
BTW, does it ever occur to any of us who gets unsolicited advice, that maybe the advice is actually GOOD and we can benefit from the experience of an elderly person? Yes, you are a grownup, but a parent or “parent surrogate” never outgrows the need to worry about the young’ns. And if they chastise you for not going to your relatives for meals – maybe you could re-think whether or not your relatives are missing your company and maybe a visit or two might be in order. Of course it is not their business, unless they are your relatives.
Never be short with them about their interference. At worst, just ignore their unwanted advice. Personally, I have found such advice to be invaluable at times. I am sure it can feel intrusive and none of their business, but it’s what old people do. If it gets to be beyond the bounds of all good taste, or they are abrasive with you, then politely thank them and change the subject or walk out of the room.
I picked 37, my son picked 31.
Unless the person who took the seat his his direct supervisor or higher up on the management chain, IMO, that was extremely unmenschlech to do that, even if the chair is NOT specifically the other person’s property. A person’s makom kavua (usual place) has importance to him. At the very least, he should have been asked if he would mind if the seat were exchanged with another one.
If it is your car, you can ask the person not to eat it in the car. If not, you can try to talk to him in a non-confrontational way, and ask if it is possible for him to eat his yogurt before carpool or wait until after, because you are allergic to the smell. If that does not help, the only things you can do are put men’s cologne on,especially under your nose, or find another carpool.
With respect, seichel, and showing initiative.
Murder is one of the 7 Mitzvos Bnai Noach, so clearly murdering oneself would be assur, EVEN for an Amalek. We have the mitzvah to wipe him out. he has no such mitzvah.
I would hope to never have to have anyone named Mordechai, as I have a close relative by that name. But yes, I believe in using Jewish names that come from TANACH across the board (except those of reshaim of course).
Though some names might be Aramaic (or some other language, i.e. Persian)in origin, they are written in our Holy Sefarim. I just personally do not believe in naming children Yiddish language names (like Hersh or Faigel, rather than Tzvi or Tzipporah), as I see virtually no difference between doing that or giving them an English name (as English is the unifying language of Jews today in this country, just as Yiddish was in Europe). Much Torah is learned in English, certainly as much as Torah was learned in Yiddish in Europe. we have discussed this in the naming thread many times, and my position is that Loshon Kodesh is Hebrew, not Yiddish, and the zechus of Bnei Yisroel in Egypt was that they did NOT change their names to the local vernacular. In Europe, Yiddish was the Jewish local vernacular. I don’t speak for anyone else, though, and I DO get the sensitivity to the Alte Heim.
Very interesting shailah. She knows she counted without a bracha by day, but maybe said the wrong number. It being so early on in the sefirah, I would tend to doubt that she did it correctly the next day, because she is not used to the counting. I would continue to count without a bracha if it were left up to me, but that is why we have a rov to ask shailos.
1st timer, I heard the Adina substitution also. My aunt’s name was Yenta (called Yetta), and someone in the family has an ainekel who was named Adina for her, for just that reason. As Yenta is not Hebrew anyway, and I personally hold the minhag of only naming in Loshon Kodesh, that works for me. 🙂
Ken Zayn that’s like asking a wife what’s for dinner tonight, and her answering,”Well, LAST night, we had fish.”
“oomis: ?? ????? and ?? ?????? ???? are when one adds to the mitzva of HaShem”
ZK, repsectfully, that is exactly what chumros are. They add on strictures to the already perfect mitzvos that Hashem gave us, albeit with the best of intentions. If Hashem did not in His Infinite Wisdom seem to feel those chumros were necessary, then why do we presume kivyachol to think He did not do the job right the first time?
Do we know better than He, what Man is capable of doing? I am playing Devil’s Advocate here, just a bit, because when I hear certain thoughts expressed by many posters (whose beliefs and opinions I respect, even if I may have another opinion), it is clear that those posters believe that they alone have the universal clue and know what Hashem wants. That is a dangerous attitude that causes sinas chinam in Klal Yisroel, and we have not learned that lesson yet. While those harchakos may bring that one individual closer to Hashem, it potentially is a harchakah of a very different and undesirable nature, when it is marchik other Jews from Hashem and from the klal.
If you have a machlah, i.e. a strep throat, and your doctor prescribes one antibiotic pill per day of a certain dose, does it heal you faster, better, or even at ALL, to take TWO pills per day? And even if by some chance, you do get better, should you look at another person who also has strep, and demand that he, too, take two pills (because it was SO helpful to you) when the doctor told him the palliative dose is one? And worse yet, when he actually FOLLOWS his doctor’s instructions, should someone look down his nose at the other guy, because he didn’t do it HIS way??? That is essentially what I am seeing today among different factions of Jews, each of the opinion that THEIR way is THE way. Is this truly what Hashem wants?
Given the connotation, I would not use it to call the child by that name. It’s like calling someone Shlumiel (and that should not be a derogatory name as it was the name of a nasi, but it would be).
I dropped them at the babysitter on the way to work and picked them up on the way home “
Excuse me, but the babysitter is the NANNY. Whether she is in your home or you come to hers, it is the same difference, and that’s fine. You made my point for me.
Morah Rach – “au pair” is the correct term (it’s French) for someone from another country who gets room and board in our country in exchange for watching the kids and doing some housework.
else the adage ??? ???? ?????
It also says lo tosif. and kawl hamosif goreya.
“Oomis, they were walking-dancing in circles. It was not real dancing. “
Wow! You must be really old, kinehora, to have witnessed that! 😉
Even if it were only as you describe, that is still feels like this is a case of them parading before the young men and being ogled.( I’m sure it wasn’t, though).