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off topic: I went to a chasunah a few years ago where a 10 year old girl stood up and talked about all the wonderful things Hashem had done for the chasan and the kallah and she wanted to thank Hashem, then she said ‘Thank you Hashem’. The entire hall laughed at her and said that’s not really what you say. I still have not recovered from this experience.
When the Aruch Hashulchan was printed the maskilim complained that they thought there would eventually be no new seforim because people would run out of titles but now they saw they would just switch the words in the titles round. We could do the same here to solve this problem.
I saw a skver hechsher on a 7 day candle last week which was 100% vegetable oil. lichorah the naphaka minah is if the candle falls into your cholent. also lichorah if the candle was paraffin wax you wouldn’t need a hechsher in the first place
DaasYochid
– Highly doubtful – I think most people would feel very uncomfortable if they found out that you came home soaking wet in your shabbos clothes becuase they took your coat
– You’d have to find a source for that – this is a question of birur hametziyos
– it’s not “mistaver” – as per first point
duct tape was used on one of the apollo missions to tape up a fallen off mudguard. the astronauts found that if they didn’t have the mud gaurds then the lunar rovers quickly became covered with a layer of very abrasive moon dust
is it devarim shebeleiv ubeleiv kol adam that the person who took yours would want you to take theirs to stop you getting soaked?
according to the maharal in Menachos the midas hadin can sometimes include din on a person not doing all the mitzvos that they could have done (not talking about bitul aseh) but he doesn’t specify when. The kochvei ohr gives this as one of the differences between human law and Hashem’s din. I guess it’s also a difference between the relationship of parents / educators to a child / student and the law. Parents can get upset if a child is not doing as well as they could be but the law is happy as long as no-one kills anyone else.
we had our licence plates stolen so we put the new ones on with one-way screws, you need to drill them out if they need removing
the mesilllas yesharim says that the halacha was nikva like Beis Hilell ‘la’ad ul’olmei olamim’, this sounds very much not like a change le’yemos hamashiach
How do you get them off if you have a flat?
but unseriously focus on it before that as well
try yalkut me’am loez devarim 3:11
According to Rb Wolbe z”l everyone is part gadol and you can’t grow to be a gadol until you recognise that part of you which is already a gadol because if you’re not in the ballgame you can’t score
gadlus
this is a brilliant oppotunity for someone to import a container of waste paper bins from china and brand them as kedushas hamakom paper tissue disposal opportunities
igros moshe orach chaim 8 (i think) says that any version of lashon hakodesh spoken by a significant element of klal yisroel has a din of lashon hakodesh
contemplating sudicide is very commendable. One of the gerrer seforim (can’t remember which) says that really a person should want to die to be reunited with the Eybishter but it is a mitzvah to live. Reb Yisroel Salanter z”l says (Ohr Yisroel) that taavas hachaim is the yetzer hara.
Instead of commiting suicide they could just daven that they should die which we see is mutar from Yonah / Choni hameagel / Rebbi Yochanan
– Russian soldiers had rows of buttons sown onto their sleeves to stop them wiping their noses on them
– ?? ?? ?? ???? ?????? ???? ????? ?? ?? ????… ??? ?? ?? ????… ?????? ??? ?? ??? ???? ????? ?????
– Reb Moshe z”l would pick up tissues he saw lying about on the floor in the yeshiva (during the week) and put them in his pockets
lephi aniyus daati
1. They are not his ‘friends’ and that is not lashon hara!
2. He is angry and you are upset, that does not sound like a situation which is going to progress very far emotionally. The religious aspect of this situation is taphel to the emotional aspect. Therefore it is more important to address the emotional aspect of the situation currently. The missing ingredient is simchah.
3. It does not sound like you can directly affect your son’s feelings currently.
4. Your son has been turned off by religion so religion is not the answer to turning him back on again. Neither is benevolent parenting (making him his favourite foods etc.) a complete answer becuase this still maintains the parental aspect. You need to find something which you can do just for fun and that has no religious connotation at all and not involve your son directly in but which can be a subject for discussion.
5. Your son’s future lies not in his connection to Yiddishkeit directly but in his connection to Yiddishkeit through you. If you create a channel for this connection the other problems will resolve themselves.
Feel free to ignore all the above 🙂
generally speaking (no halachical responsibility accepted) –
– the blech should cover flame and controls (or controls can be covered seperetaly by alfoil etc)
– if you take a pot off and put it down on a surface you can not put it back on
– if the food is fully cooked then if you hold the pot in your hands while someone else takes food out of the pot you can then return it to the blech
– you can put cooked cold food on top of a pot which is on the blech to warm it up becuase ein bishul achar bishul
– you can move pots around on the blech so long as the area in which you are moving the pot around is over yad soledes bo (approx 70 celsius)
someone told me a story recently, they were in Gateshead kollel for hakaphos on simchas torah and rb kaufman z”l banged out on the bimah after the third hakafah that Rb Matisyahu was going to speak. He said that kol hamispallel be’ad chaveiroh ve’hu tzarich le’oso davar hu ne’eneh techilah – if someone cries for someone else with a child going through a difficult period then Hashem will answer them first
apologies for the preach but I missed my vocation in life. all relationships are composed of positive and negative. if you develop the positive which has nothing to do with religion (have some fun with him) then you will develop leverage in the negative
I think the baseline is that Internet access is dechuyah and not hutrah
don’t drink caffeinated drinks
will there be trains, cars and airoplanes after mashiach comes? probably. Why should the Internet be any different? Like someoen mentioned on another post, without the Internet most of the world would stop working nowadays. It’s not what you it does, it’s what you do with it, like Reb Matisyahu said
There was a nice picture of an old couple looking into a pot in my grandparents house and the caption was ????
when Rb Pinchos Kohn and Rb Binyamin Carlebach went to the Gerrer tisch during the First World War the Gerrer rebbe said – bring a knife and a fork for the Deutsche.
This is a raayah berurah she’ein alav teshuvah that if someone with a non-yekkishe minhag visits a yekkishe household that they should be catered for
that could be a problem
We don’t but I ate at the house of a son of Rb Feldman from Monks and we all washed before kiddush.
We just give the mayim acharonim to the guests and whoever wants to wash washes. I don’t think it’s a biggie.
I doubt it – we ask our guests if they do mayim acharonim and if so we bring it to the table.
BTW being a yekke and a sephardi are not mutually exclusive, on our yekkishe side we are descended from sephardim from spain
Huh – why are your guests bound to your minhag?
have a look in Me’orei She’arim (Rabbi Leib Gurwicz z”l) – sha’ar ha’torah
There is no way that the modern attitude to ‘self confidence’ has anything to do with anything that people considered a maalah or a chisaron in Europe in the 1800’s. There is not one of the classical baalei mussar who talks about the modern symptoms of what we call not being self confident. Just becuase you are in a society where people have set a certain norm and you do not fit into that norm does not mean that there is something wrong with you or that you can’t live happily your entire life doing what you are good at in the way that you do it.
There is a difference between having to reconstruct a human being and going into therapy becuase ‘I have low self esteem’
I saw a nice story about Rb Wolbe z”l in the mishpacha some time ago. His son (wearing army uniform and not yeshivish) was davening minchah with him, someone (nastily) walked up to his son and said to him – do you think your father is happy with the way you turned out. His son was upset by this so walked up to Rb Wolbe after minchah and said ‘ Abba, are you happy with the way I turned out?’
Rb Wolbe didn’t answer. They walked home for 10 minutes and then Rb Wolbe turned round to his and said ‘Yes, I am happy with the way you turned out’. He asked why didn’t you say that before. Rb Wolbe said – if I had said that when you asked me you would have thought I was just saying yes.
Stan Laurel
It is trendy to be self-confident, that does not mean that the Torah thinks there is something wrong with someone who is not self confident. Rb Matithyahu Salmon says if a child is embarrased to get up on stage we tell them don’t be embarrassed! He says, why not, shalosh midos ba’umah zu, rachmanim bayshanim gomlei chasadim!
The most any therapist will ever tell you at the end of the day is that you have to clarify your relationship with your parents. If you spend the money you would have spent on a therpist patching up your relationship with your parents you will be 6 streets ahead and be mekayem a mitzva in the process.
Most parents are not that crazy that if their child is trying to get along with them then they will slam the door in their face. Even if a person’t parents are deceased it is still possible to be machebd them by finding out what their minhogim were and trying to keep them, learning leiluy nishmas etc.
I am not spurning therapy all together but I think it is better kept for clinical cases (e.g. chemical imbalance etc).
I am opposed to therapy as I do not believe that we need to look for solutions for tachaluey hanephesh outside the bounds of the Torah (sorry if this sounds puritanical)
develop a strong relationship with your parents
Logician – I have no problem with that, but that’s no reason for a total lack of education concerning G-d
I have a big gripe about this – talking about Hashem to students seems to peter out about the time kids live kindergarten. A high school rebbe would be embarrassed to talk about Hashem
excuse me for waffling (I like waffles) – I think the problem is that life is too good before you are married and therefore there is insufficient incentive to pass the hurdles that start with marriage
The chareidim should agree to go to the army for 3 years al tnai that the chilonim in the army agree to learn in yeshiva for a commensurate amount of time
What’s the internet?
147 – as Rb M Miller z”l said – the first thing that people sacrifice when they get to shul late is the korbanos
you can’t have a king who is a ger – there’s a rambam (yad) about this applying to any position of serarah (e.g. parnas hatzibur etc)
Interlaken, then you can do grindelwald
– agree with yichusdik. Mind reading Hashem and saying “this is what Hashem means le’tovah (I mean this be’lashon sagi nahor)” is a dangerous game. The Chofetz Chaim has an entire perek in shemiras ha’lashon on being melamed zechus on klal yisroel. This means not only looking for zechusim of klal yisroel that should defend them but it also means interpreting events in a positive light and seeing the good that can come out of a situation and then saying THAT is what Hashem means.
– There has been far less anti-semitism in the world press for the last year and a half once the threat of the Iranian nuclear program against Israel and the free world became apparent.
– The biggest existential threat to the state is not Ahmadinejad shem reshoim yirkav but is rather the anti-semitic drivel that pours unabated from the offices of the leftist journalists in Tel Aviv. People do not understand the whittling effect this has in persuading the world that the Jews are evil and dangerous people rachmono litzlon.
– agree with the rabbi
– Israeli politics doesn’t make sense to chutznikim so there’s no point trying to understand it
– Part of the problem is the identification of religious Jews in Israel as “charedim” who comprise a political group. In that case non-conscription for “chareidim” becomes an unjustified preference for a political group as opposed to a sign of respect for some people who are part of greater society.