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November 25, 2013 7:28 pm at 7:28 pm in reply to: What Do You Remember For Longer: A Compliment or an Insult? #988875
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@Shopping613 Nope, I started a few years ago… When I was nineteen… That’s 3 years ago.
This is my story…
But it’s not all bad and horrible.
It’s a letter I wanted to send to my high school friends who abandoned me.
I realize that those who stay in your life regardless those are the people you WANT in your life; those are REAL friends.
I sent this to a few of my single friends and they all said that’s exactly how they feel.
yes! I think its a beautiful thing to do and a kiddush hashem!
THANKS far east, Astrix, Isreali Chareidi
You guys really clarified things up.
So many great points. I’m not big on psychologists myself but i have been speaking to a few pple involved w/ teens on drugs/substance abuse and some rabbanim.
Thank you all so much!
WIY and Jewish Source
I really do agree with you, but maybe you’re living in a little shteltle somewhere in yehupitville, i dont know. but i know where I live, in New York- EVERYTHING is OPEN, and all our kids see and hear all the psychotic stuff that goes on and all the garbage. Do i think Lipa poses as a controversial issue- yes. but thats my own opinion. Is he doing something wrong, i don’t know; im no posek. Do i think he looks dumb and want my kids to watch him, not necc. but i would MUCH rather them enjoy his shtuss than to go and sit and let their minds gets absorbed with such stupidity and immorality the TV and Internet has to show!
Uneeq- love ur post
And seahorse; ur one hundred percent right
I have Facebook
I was worried about the same things as u
It is true fb destroys marriages relationships and friendships
And a lot of photos are misleading and comments misunderstood
But if U know it is not for u then u can go without it
I went private, blocked ppple I knew would wanna “stalk me” and not all my friends can see my photos and statuses bec I am afraid ppple have noooo life- which they do and they live thru other pples pages, which is pathetic!?! What can I say. And pple get jealous and think everyone’s life is all Rosen and happy and awesome. That’s y u shud b careful who ur friend and wat u post.
Pleeeeeeez- u ppple needs calm down; if u don’t find lipa appropriate for your kids, no-problem, they don’t have to see a grown man making a fool of himself and making pple laugh!
But no one here is one to talk, I’m sorry!!! Start focusing on the pple in our community even trying to make entertainment in the Jewish community a little more hip than all the garbage tv and the Internet has to offer, excuse me, but I don’t see u using ur talents to benefit our kids education in entertainment form; like uncle Moshe and Shmuel kunda zt”l.
U wanna see inappropriate go on to utube and check out the viral video already at eighty thousand of a concert at a wedding all the guys high and drunk off their faces singing gangnam style.
Lets stop making fusses- just make changes in ur own life!
As a norm single girl from I’ve tried some of these sites; mostly for the fun of it but in all seriousness- you gotta have lotta seats dishmaya!!!
Jdate- terrible, meshuginaz
Jwed- unless you have an exceptional photo if yourself no ones talking ya; and costs u thirty but a month
Saw you at Sinai- never tried it
Zivug Zone- prob ur best bet bec everything is filtered I think; and the chuchma behind it is good; it’s more difficult not as easy access but its alright
Went on all for a day- week max
But try ur luck
Best bet is saw u at Sinai bec ur dealing w/ real shadchanim
Wisey; depends on the guy and the girl
If the guy is thirty then yea, kiiiiinda weird- but what’s wrong?
Before anything , as much i feel davening is crutial and beatiful; start with the small things
begin your day with modeh ani
make small changes in your life
buy a book
visit someone who will touch you- an old friend, grandparent, s/o sick or elderly
open you life to the possibilities
and most IMPORTANTLY -be GRATEFUL…when you take evn just a few SECONDS to verbally thank Hashem for the good things he gives you, it will change the way you feel and live- and daven!
wow!! yummy cupcake; ur AWESOME!!!
well if you really wanna shteig- bring a sidder, two skirts, two shirts, shabbos dress, shoes, nightgown*;), stockings…and bring your daddys credit card too;)…JK- i prob dont need to bring any o that stuff- with all that shchina…:)
well im back!
This kid is a sensation- a real kiddush hashem- look around and see whats going on in our ‘frum’ communities and everything- if you want to compare to anything then i think you have no basis of saying he’s a chilul hashem or any of that nonesense- he has talent, he acts refine with respect and i think he sets a positive example!
also- one of my friends was engaged- and sent her chosson some mushy love email- and to ALL her email contacts as well!! mhm!!! we all got to see it!!LOL- well not so funny!
OMG- that totally happened to me!
So basically my friends father was really sick and she had asked me to send out his name to all my contacts via text. So i sent out like [email protected] a time to literally all my contacts- like people i would never text; my friends mother; my moms friends and so on.
all of a sudden i get a text from a close friend of mine
“RedNails- I think you sent me the wrong text”
i wrote back
“OMG- What did i send you??”
she fwds me a msg
“hi ma, i just wanted to tell you i broke up with so-and-so…i feel bad cuz he didnt see it coming, but i know i did the right thing…..(and A LOT more personal stuff)….”
i was freaking out- somehow a msg i had sent mooonths before somehow saved and sent to her…and now to all of the pple i sent the ‘tehillim’ text to!
i literally felt like i was gonna [email protected]#$%^&&!! pass out!!
i sent out a retrieval txt; saying some bogus stuff that s/o go a hold of my phone yadda yadda yadda..
through some miracle of my doing a chessed it was ONLY sent to her…
so now; when i send out a mass text i am super careful!!
writersoul- GOOD POINT!!
I agree, when the time is right it will happen. It has no difference as to what age you are. Im almost 21, nearly 79% of my close friends are married (from Lit/Heim?chasidish/ some sefardic and MO); with babies- some onto their second one…etc etc and im seen as an “old maid”?! Not at all!!! When its b’znamo its b’zmano!! Do your hishtadlus- and all that other garbage about being old maid and depressed- PA-LEEZ- live up your single years- you only have it once!!
african american- LOL!! Good one!!
I rcvd an email earlier quoting ur joke!!
Kapusta and PE- thanks!!
i not much of a poet- i usually write random stuff and i usually makes people laugh…
aright- here goes one very embarrassing one-
you can close your eyes and ears if you dont wanna be traumatized by a bad poet
When your feeling low ,
lower than the floor.
And you feel like you ain’t got a chance.
Don’t make a move till your in the groove.
And do the Peter Panda dance.
Just hop 3 times like a kangeroo.
Side step twice just like those crabs do.
3 Steps forward, one step back.
Quick like a turtle lie on your back.
Roll like a log till you can’t roll no more.
Better jump quick like there ain’t no floor. …
Hold your breath and jump to the left.
And that’s the Peter,
I swear that’s the Peter.
Thats the Peter Panda Dance.
—-well..na…i didnt make that up-
although i wish i did!
Good Shabbos all!!
Thank you Yossi! i see I have been missed; since i switched jobs i dont have a spare minute to shmooze on CR!!
So- once in a while i do like to look thru it…like the good old days, and i have to say- you guys ROCK AND ROLL the CR!!!
Keep it up- just cuz i dont always answer doesnt mean i dont always read!
i want a hug too!
my brother in special ed yeshiva four years ago it was $44,000.00…today even more!
Queen Bee- your point you made in invalid.
If you had worked many years in a mine, and spent day after day toiling, using every last strength and every bead of sweat- and discovered this BEAUTIFUL and PRICELESS diamond/stone that is beyond value on our market- and that belonged SOLELY to YOU. Would you flaunt it and show it off with no regard to thieves, and your enemies? I think you would announce the great discovery you made, but not over flaunt it- because human nature is not one of-“oh yea, im real happy for you. You found this beautiful and rare gem- and i want YOU only to keep it”
Same too with a shidduch, after all that work, and all those years- you FINALLY found that PRICELESS gem; yea, you would announce your happiness etc and celebrate- but flaunt- only a dumb or insecure person would do that.
Yitayning- wow, geniusly said!! I agree with that whole thing you wrote there in the beginning of the thread!
Its so true how many relationships/engagements and even marriages were compromised and even destroyed because of couples misusing FB and texting.
TAKANOS are there for a reason!!!They don’t just tell you to be careful and to have limitations for kicks.
People need to either ground some security in their relationships or learn some boundaries- if they want a successful relationship!
nuff said, I think I made my point!
Thank you Health!!
and thanks you all for your responses…
ill have a detailed resp; later- @ work now
and all the nurses are enjoying this thread!
and haviong a good laugh @ the expense of skiaddict!!!
Probably our Gedolim from the past 100 years up until now- not that we would compare them to the Rishomin/Achromin/neiviem etc- but through the trials and issues of our times they still remained strong,good leaders to klal yisroel, THERE for us, treated each individual with respect W/O any ulterior motives, were sincere, and were of EMES.
i find it hard to find such chachamim these days and actually make the time to listen and guide us.
thats the role model i want to become- actually BE there for klal Yisroel, make the time, go out of my way, and be sincere about it-without ulterior motives (im not saying there r chachmim like that necc, but there r times when it seems that way).
ITS 100000000% CHEATING!!!
Any form of dishonesty is considered cheating- in any shape, color or form!
whats the point? really!?! ad mea vesrim your gonna have to answer to that- is it REALLY worth it?
i remember in HS there were girls cheating- blatently and some more quietly..it was so disgusting to me- like c’mon this is so not worth it! id rather fail than cheat!
R’ Wallerstein, Our Place..
I use DKNY Green Apple and Pink Diamond Versace!!! both fantastic!!!!!
lol….Kapusta…I am going onto RedNails21 soon…i tried to update it but it didnt go…so im still RedNails 19…we should def meet up!
How bout….lol…SHNITIS!!! lol!!!!
Im in Flatbush too…OOOOH…PAR-T!!!!!!!!!!
WOWOWOWOW!!!!! A THREAD IN UR NAME!!!
(APPLUASE APPLUASE APPLAUSE)
WE- SCRATCH THAT- I LOVE U ‘KAPUSTA’!!!
You’re on my top 15 Favorite Persons List!!!!!!!!!!
CUZ UR MA BESTIE!!!
I have NO clue what u guys were sayin aboot chicago- but yeer a New Yowka- maybe an out-of-towna in heart….
LOVE U KAPUSTA!!!
bomb- I had a GOOD laugh!!!! LMTO
But lately a guy who was setting me up- was like
“RedNails, none of the guys need to see how pretty you are- just send your resume- no pic”
so I’m taking his advice and saying bye bye pic- if u wanna c me- either go out with me or go and say hello to the other 400 resumes you have sitting in your mothers kitchen cabinet…
But I agree there is a fine line….
I say, to each his own.
bein_hasdorim- I dont even have a good comback line- because you just said EXACTLY what I’m trying to convey here!! Wow!! Thank you SO much for your input!!
mytake- Terrific Point!! Your 100% right!
And isn’t it sad when these children dont grow out of this “staring” business and do it and teens and unfortunately some adults!?!?! Then the whole cycle continues…
Chein- I would definitely take a glance- but and continue moving along- not stand there like some crazy person with no proper etiquette!! But thanks for your point!!
The Goq- Thank you Goq. What you said, def. DOES have relevance, and I’m sorry you were stared at in such a manner…sometimes when their mouths are open, and heads bent low ina monkey-gaping-drooling-position- ya gotta just laugh…they look pretty dumb lol
MichaelC Thank you for that beautiful piece. Very much appreciated!!
always here- I know??!!! Isn’t it ridiculous??!!
MiddlePath- WOW!! I am struck with such awe, amazement, inspiration, and a tremendouse amount of respect for you!! I am SO SO proud of how far you’ve come, and you did all by yourself- With the help of Hashem- and the fact you aknowlage that as well!! I am really blown away by your story!! You give so many people who are/were unfortunatly in your position- hope and chizuk!
I am so thasnkful you shared your story and again, Im so impressed and so proud of what you made yourself and how you faught the many injustices you were consistantly faced with.
You show a tremendous amount of gevura, emuna, bitachon, middos, anava, endurance, intelligence and simcha!
The girl that b’eh has the great fortune to marry you- will see that, and see how truly lucky she is to have found such a beautiful neshama like you!
Again, I thank you so much for sharing your story- it really touched me.
Oh- btw, pple on YWCR- this is my farewell post!
Life goes on, people go, people come- but the (snicker:)) memories will be everlasting so…When you see RedNails…it just might be me!
Good Luck to you all.
i wonder….btw eclips says hi!
sammy- I think its totally fine…i see no reason why it wouldnt be allowed..Ive also been in the BY systen where the preached the whole music affecting you nishama thing (WHICH IS TRUE) and how the song- here were talking music can penetrate you neshama- and I quote (my teachers) – why is it so bad to listen to even classical music? becasue we dont know what the machshavos were of the composer and if it was through machshavos raaos etc…then it can badly affect your neshama- I dont disagree but thats a VERY VERY VERY high level to live by….
in all honesty using it for productions/backround music/ calming etc..i see no reason why classsical or even yanni should be issur/a problem!
adorable- i feel like I know you…
I’d love 2 c that…
I should really quit smoking too…
this is very interesing (and weird) to me…. inviting his Kallah?!! (sigh) who eva hoyd of somthing as funny as this, i tell you…oy…lol
coffee addict- not eactly
The Goq- thnx
adorable- ur so sweet. well, i might leave bec of a similar reason…
The Wolf..i feel like pple from the YWCR are finding me..in the “real world” and i really dont appreciate that…what goes on in the Coffee Room- stays in the coffee room…if i happen 2 bump into onayou guys- that wud be great, but not if people are finding me..
other than that I love bein in the Coffee Room…its just something I;m considering..
Thank you all for your enlightening points!
I really enjoyed reading this thread…I never learned any of this stuff…!!
SHUT OFF YOUR PHONE DURING DAVENING!!!!!
END OF STORY!!
DAVENING IS SO PRECIOUS!! USE THE TIME 2 TALK 2 HASHWEM!!!
I heard its a very bad neighborhood, lotsa drunk low lives…some of my friends went to Gatehead for Seminary..and they had some pretty scary incidents…
Downtown bklyn, fltabush Avenue…