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So Right –
“Driving is natural for boys.”
Is that why Male & Female given the same age, the Male would have higher insurance rates?
sof davar – ideals and desires dont feed and clothe the kids.
oomis – it says on their brochure what they check for. Its not realistic to expect them to check every gene out there.
WIY – I dont doubt that making ends meet in todays day and age is hard.
However, all to often there is this attitude of “tell your kids tuition committees to fly a kite”. There is almost nothing you can do for your child like a good quality Jewish education.
So pay the tuition, have Hakaras Hatov and pinch the budget somewhere else.
Someone –
“Regarding your point about making kids suffer”
Actually, I wasnt making the point about OTD kids, it was about the soldiers. The 18/19 year old kids who are being killed and injured and scarred emotionally by what they see. I just don’t know that it’s all worth it.
chesed – I believe your example would fall under my statement of “should we feed them every shmutz in the world? No”
I have one word for you. Balance.
Growing – “but i guarantee you the music in their stores would have only been jewish”
I am going to disagree with you. The Jews in Egypt were applauded for keeping 3 things: names, dress, language.
They were cited for visiting the circuses and theatres of the Mitzrim. I think it would be safe to say they were enjoying their music.
WOW! what a story. I envy your Olam Haba.
In term of Shidduchim I would probably stick with Baalei Teshuva. They probably understand what you have gone through and can relate. Are you “bound” to that? Not at all. But I think it will be easier on you in the long run. I would suggest you get in touch with the Rebbitzens, and tell them exactly what you want. There are a lot of great Baalei Teshuva out there who are big Talmidei Chachomim, believe me its not “settling”.
Hatzlocha with everything!
“It is ok to work a normal job and tell your kids tuition committees to fly a kite”
Why is tuition the first thing to go? How about driving one car?
I dont think that keeping your children so sheltered that they dont know what is going on in the out side world is the the best method of Jewish parenting. Does this mean that you should feed them every shmutz in the world? No.
At the same time fortify them with knowledge. Teach them the beauty of yiddishkeit, what it means to be a Torah Jew. How lucky WE are! Sheltering children to the point of ignorance is what usually backfires.
“opposite s*x”
Dude! really?!
Squeak – I wasnt questioning science.
Disclaimer: That was satire.
BPT –
“move to the moon”
Well, technically you still weigh the same there is just no gravitational pull.
Whereas, you dont have to move to the moon, you can just tell people that you really dont weigh all that much the earth just has a stroner gravitational pull on you.
The best diet that always works… Close Your Mouth And Put Down Your Fork.
Probably…
squeak – thats a cute joke.
80 – “golgi apparatus”
I didnt know you were a fan of Phish 😉
blinky – Cheesecake and donuts arent a Jewish food.
Matzoh Balls are bland unless you dump a load of spicy into them, bit traditionally they are floating balls of bland.
“cholent with onions and garlic
chicken soup floating with schmaltz and a strong leek taste
pickled or matjes herring
gefilte fish with pungent horseradish
moo goo gai pan”
I think I just threw up in my mouth.
But yes all those wouldnt be tasteless if that was your point.
Why dont you use your regular recipe but instead of using eggs use egg-substitute?
not I – congrats!
“but apparently my taste buds are”
Thats just because most “Traditional Jewish” food is really bland and boring. What you probably tasted had some spice and depth of flavor. Not what most people are used to.
SJS – If you have found girls that find practical hashkafa and mussar from a textual Rambam I’m not going to argue, In my experience that isnt the case.
“boys today are taught very different than in Europe.”
Um, I thought we were discussing girls.
Pascha – The only reason why people care is because we are trapped in a society that is obsessed with “Perfection”
If you are of European decent there is a good chance that you have a recessive gene somewhere, or else they wouldnt have started the program because it wouldnt have been an issue.
My Great-Aunt married her first cousin and they had four children who had and died of Niemann-Pick.
Do I have the gene? Maybe. Do I care? No. As long as you dont have the disease, who cares?! We now have this incredible orginization that will hopefully make these dreadful diseases obsolete in the Jewish Community.
Arc –
“we arent discussing how to raise our grandparents we are discussing how to raise our children in America.”
Shaal Avicha V’yagedchu Zkeynecha V’yomru Lach – so much of what we do is based on mesorah. And really, how is knowing a Rambam fortifying you against America today?
I am all for girls learning, but the need PRACTICAL hashkafic and mussar lessons.
SJS –
“I would rather my daughter know how to read a Rambam than bake a fancy cheesecake.”
Well then there is something wrong.
In Europe no woman knew how to read Meforshim and our Grandparents turned out just fine.
Someone –
“The Torah tells us that a man has to leave his father and mother when he gets married and cling to his wife”
1. This does not mean in a country 3,000 miles a way.
2. You are still Muchuyav in Kibbud Av V’em. If you think that can be accomplished with a phone call once a week and a birthday card, thats a whole diff issue.
“Why do we seem to view Torah and Olam Haba as obligatory, despite the yisurim, and Eretz Yisrael as optional”
Eretz Yisroel isn’t optional it was promised to us by Bris Bain Habisorim. Our forefathers have suffered a heck of a lot for E”Y. Do I think we should be sacraficing our young innocent children at the altar known as Israel? NO 1,000X!
Before the Zionists caused the massive flow of Jews to Israel there were hardly any Jews living there (ironically, my grandfather x10 generations were there). I forget which Gaon said, “Ki M’Bari Tetzi Torah U’Dvar Hashem M’Utranto” Do you think they weren’t aware of Kedushas E”Y? Is this suddenly a new thing? No! It’s the Zionistic movement E”Y isnt even a Frum state, it is as peverse as it is Kadosh (which is the most unfortunate thing of all).
“Hashem gave us this land to populate”
And He also sent us into exhile.
IY”H Moshiach will come soon and we will all come home forever.
Yoish – Yoish it was a joke.
80- LOL!
Should I be embarrassed that I’ve never heard of him before?
WIY – Absence makes the heart grow fonder 😉
“Everytime I leave Brooklyn, I see its like 95% goyim.”
All the more reason to live OOT. 😉
theprof1 – cute reasoning but not entirely correct (not entirely false either)
For example: Yavne Teachers Seminary (shout out!) granted that is meant to churn out some teachers, so you wont find any Home Economics there (or any form of fun for that matter)
BY Intensive – Is also a place to go to become a teacher. Home Economics? Prolly not.
BYA (E”Y), BJJ, Bnos Chava, Hadar…. They dont claim to perfect the craft of teaching. It is 13th grade (for 20K a pop). If you can spend a 1/3 of the year on Tiyulim certainly they can spend some time teaching the girl how to cook.
Are you chassidish by any chance? Sounds like a chassidshe pshat to me 😉
I recently came across another quote from the Kotzker:
“I would not want to serve a G-d which I can understand”
No, in fact they dont.
I guess I have one leg up on the competition in this area!
BPT – Meh, this is life ya gotta live.
You know what they say DIET is DIE wit a T
reb d – Whatever you need to be a successful Lawyer you learn in Law School. They re-wire the way you think and attack a problem. It doesnt matter what kind of BA you have, you can have it in Art/Music/Religion it doesnt matter.
BP Totty – Im going to disagree with you, the diff is in the oil temp (oven het? what donuts are baked?!) and the yeast. You have to get the yeast to activate perfectly (something I am still working on) and having the oil to be at a constant even heat and having the entire donut hit it at the same time is what makes the bakeries donuts come out so perfect.
asking – LOL. I just know that a lot of guys go to Law School on a BTL. I am a girl so this wasnt even an issue for me.
I have actually heard that Columbia is now being more selective, as they have have all ways been the #1 destination for the smarter Yeshiva crowd. It seems as if Georgetown has become the new Columbia in that regard.
“But don’t get me started on the topic of women drivers.”
Because men are so hot behind the wheel. I dont disagree that many woman cause problems in traffic but this usually because they are spaced out or multi tasking, agreed its annoying. Men can be just as bad. Dont get me started about driving in Boro Park its enough to turn you into an Anti-Semite.
I think the reason woman/men dont drive in Israel is because its actually Sacanas Nifashos to drive there not spiritual, physical. Unless you have reflexes like a ninja.
These are DAIRY (for Pareve swap milk for soy milk and butter for margarine)
For doughnuts
1 (1/4-oz) package active dry yeast (2 1/2 teaspoons)
3 1/4 cups all-purpose flour plus additional for sprinkling and rolling out dough
1 cup whole milk at room temperature
1/2 stick (1/4 cup) unsalted butter, softened
3 large egg yolks
2 tablespoons sugar
1 1/2 teaspoons salt
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
About 10 cups vegetable oil for deep frying
For glaze
1/4 cup boiling-hot water
5 teaspoons instant-espresso powder or instant-coffee granules
1 1/2 cups confectioners sugar
1 tablespoon light corn syrup
1/4 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
1/4 teaspoon salt
About 1/4 cup sanding sugar (optional)
Special equipment: a stand mixer fitted with paddle attachment; a 3-inch and a 1-inch round cookie cutter; a deep-fat thermometer
Make dough:
Stir together yeast and warm water in a small bowl until yeast is dissolved. Let stand until foamy, about 5 minutes. (If yeast doesn’t foam, discard and start over with new yeast.)
Mix together flour, milk, butter, yolks, sugar, salt, cinnamon, and yeast mixture in mixer at low speed until a soft dough forms. Increase speed to medium-high and beat 3 minutes more.
Scrape dough down side of bowl (all around) into center, then sprinkle lightly with flour (to keep a crust from forming). Cover bowl with a clean kitchen towel (not terry cloth) and let dough rise in a draft-free place at warm room temperature until doubled in bulk, 1 1/2 to 2 hours. (Alternatively, let dough rise in bowl in refrigerator 8 to 12 hours.)
Turn dough out onto a lightly floured surface and roll out with a lightly floured rolling pin into a 12-inch round (1/2 inch thick). Cut out as many rounds as possible with 3-inch cutter, then cut a hole in center of each round with 1-inch cutter and transfer doughnuts to a lightly floured large baking sheet. Cover doughnuts with a clean kitchen towel and let rise in a draft-free place at warm room temperature until slightly puffed, about 30 minutes (45 minutes if dough was cold when cutting out doughnuts). Do not reroll scraps.
Make glaze:
Stir together boiling-hot water and espresso powder in a medium bowl until powder is dissolved, then stir in confectioners sugar, corn syrup, vanilla, and salt until smooth.
Dip doughnuts into glaze, turning to coat well, then put on a rack set in a shallow baking pan (to catch any drips). While glaze is wet, sprinkle doughnuts with sanding sugar (if using). Let stand until glaze is set, about 20 minutes.
“but it’s just too much”
The chocolate ones are more fattening.
reb d – “If a husband is kovea itim and has a job where he is making let’s say $60 K and up per year, than a woman should not have to worry about working.”
60K? with how many kids? Not in this world, and not as a frum jew.
WIY –
“So for what you are saying you would need a boy with a good job or good degree, who is also a ben torah. Not a big pot to select from”
Jeez, Ya think.
Pascha – give me the oldest age of a guy that you would go out with and how tall are you (I may have an idea)
CC – Honestly, I went as a tourist so I was kind of surprised how close Hollywood Blvd (labachur,is this what you are refering to)was to the frum community (its like a 5 minute drive).
I liked the whole attitude of the city its very chilled, and very warm, on shabbosim you see a lot of Jews walking its really nice.
Then again I’m a NYer with a mutant gene who just loves out-of-town 🙂