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Goq- We had Krunchers in NY a while back. Very good, but hot!
Syag- I want to head straight home for some vanilla ice cream with cookie dough!!! I’ve actually bought raw cookie dough and just mixed it with the tub of vanilla ice cream. Cheaper than buying a cup for 5 bucks at Carvel.
Aaron Chaim- I think the heter is only if Shabbos is Rosh Chodesh, not if Shabbos is on Sunday like it is this year.
Sam2- So how does one who regularly shaves start growing a beard if it will look scraggly the first Shabbos?
Who said its not kavod shabbos to have a scraggly beard? If Halacha says something then that is kovod shabbos. (not to be dramatic, but how far can you take this?)
Does an avel shave erev shabbos?
Have you asked your LOR?
Sam2- Why wouldnt that be ????? ??? if she is aware of his intentions?
I had a chat with a prominent psychologist regarding your thesis. He disagreed with your thesis and has not seen or heard of any evidence supporting it.
The closest idea to your thesis would be based on analytical theory of psychology. It would be that someone who had any particular need as a child that was not fulfilled then as an adult they MAY aggresively pursue that need. For example, if I child never received confirmation and recognition that they are capable of completing a particular task, then as an adult they MAY be obsessed with accomplishing the task and getting recognition from everyone and anyone and ignore others around him.
This is not because they were too busy focusing on “what Hashem wants and needs from us” and are unaware of their own needs.
This is one of many psychological theories and cant be used to explain every case of emotional detachment.
Emotional intelligence.
I dont have a clear explanation for the love, other than the root word of Ahava which is to give. (The root is not self awareness of ones own needs). I dont mean to cop out but it may just the the nature that Hashem created that a parent loves a child. (I may have saw this somewhere).
I disagree with your fundamental basis that people do not have self awareness of their own needs.
You can email the agudah or buy online at mysiyum.com.
Sam2- explain please!
Csar and Think first- If I may answer for Sam2, I dont think he means physical pleasure per se. He means you are you using the physical- your eyes- to have a hanaah. It clearly says “Hamistakel” looking, which is explained as looking for the purpose of pleasure. Touching for enjoyment without looking is assur, but not because of Hamistakel etc..
If you would dream about an etzbah ktana that you never saw you wouldnt be oiver on hamistakel either.
freeze after braiding.
Can you use your thesis to explain the love for a child?
“I believe that if an emotional bond exists then its a feeling that is with you 24/7,in ones subconscious and does not need a reminder.If time gets in its way that proves that it never existed in the first place!!!!”
I couldnt disagree with you more.
Did you ever have a toy that you liked? A favorite doll? Did you feel an emotional attachment to it? Did the feeling fade after time?
Ask any woman how she feels after a hectic week where she had a disagreement with her husband and did not spend any time with him in a positive way. Ask her how she feels after a week of vacationing alone with him. Are you saying these feelings are hollow and artifical??!!!
awarenessvaad- You started with saying that people are unaware of their needs and as such have been ignoring same. Then you agree that they are focused on their needs “BUT they are consciously unaware of this. Accordingly they become “needy people” steadily involved with satisfying their needs even at someone elses expense.”
According to your logic, this emotional detachment should start immediately. If “GIVING is the foundation of a marriage” -which I happen not to agree with- and “its impossible to give my spouse their needs since I am not in touch with the concept of NEEDS!!!!!!!!” then actually, the emotional bond should never have been created to begin with!
Most newlyweds have an emotional bond because they ARE giving. There will be frustration and disappointments on both sides as each learn what they need to give, but the bond is there/
I would venture to say that a reason for the emotional detachment that exists in some couples married for more than several years is that life itself gets in the way. We are too busy with trying to find enough time to daven, learn, work, eat, take care of children, sleep, relax a bit etc… that couples forget that an emotional bond needs time and work to keep it strong.
Btw, giving is the foundation of love, not marriage. The ???? of ???? is ??, which means to give. Your giving to your children causes love, not marriage.
awarenessvaad- I cant say that I agree.
I would say that a cause of marital strife is when one is TOO focused on fulfilling his/her own needs.
Wow- To be fair, you can exactly walk into an amusement park and claim that you wont go on any ride and therefore shouldnt have to pay admission fee. If you walk into the park you pay admission. Period. I dont think they have a way of ensuring that you dont go on any ride. Your claim to sit in your car the entire time may be true, but they have no way of knowing that. I am sure they have been burned numerous times by people making the same claim.
That said, after spending $1000 they should have let you in.
shmoel- Care to provide examples?
nfgo3- you assume the posters have had a decent english education. Dont assume that. Writing a book report in 6th grade isnt going to teach someone how to write.
eliezer- You are entitled to vent. But dont think that a kolel couple with 4 kids is living larger than you are. While they may have most or all of their rent paid by section 8, and be on welfare, foodstamps etc.. that does not pay for tuition, clothing, car, summer camp, or vacation. regardless of how much time “off” they have, they are not exactly vacationing.
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shmoel- I think its fair to say that wikipedia is 99% accurate.
pba and the wolf answered you quite well.
There is no law that requires one to work and be self sufficient.
A big part of Bitachon is ?? ?? ?????. Everything happens for a reason and is for the best.
Either dash is very knowledgeable or he got his information from here.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beneberak
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bnei_Brak
Either way shmoel, does your compouter access restrict google?
Sam2- ?? ?? ???? ? ? I hear.
Flatbush Dude- ???? ????? ???? ???
happiest- Allowed
I heard the same. He kept everyone in line and gave a torah’dike feeling to the camp and all of the Shabbos meals.
I hear R’ Motti Karfiol is taking his place. He will have no problem keeping everyone in line!
shmoel- You are aware that some say the story did not happen on pesach night, right?
stick- cRc says that liquid deodorant, cologne, perfume, hairspray, shaving lotion may contain denatured alcohol which should not be used on Pesach.
I heard the same. But that is not called verification.
Go the OK website or call them.
Its hard to tell you to not say anything to her, but the same way there is a mitzvah of ???? ????? there is also a mitvah to not say anything if you wont be listened to.
pba- No comment on the appropriate punishment for someone who mistreats their husband?
Imho the gabbai gets his percentage of the winnings and the remainder the lottery comission keeps until Eliyahu HaNavi comes.
cshapiro- I second logician’s post, although I recommend checking the cRc.
A moser cant not be punished by us unless they are going to be moser again. The heter mentioned above is permitted to prevent a moser from giving over information. But if you know his mesirah is a one time deal, after he was moser we may not take matters into our own hands.
You should talk to a doctor if you are having menstrual irregularities.
If your eating habits are such that you are not eating a specific food group( e.g. no starch, sugar, dairy, meat etc) that may be the cause. You should slowly ease back into eating all food groups in moderation. But again, talk to you doctor!
True or false, that is a terrible statement to make, and has caused many people to abandon yiddishkeit.
3) Is it attached to the ground?
One of the most egregious examples is the Non Gebrokst cereals. 3 or 4 dollars a box in the supermarket and 99 cents in the 99 cents store.
I’ve made the same mistake in the past- giving a real phone number.
BIG MISTAKE
flyer- “there is no reason it should cause shalom bayis issues. “
There are actually very good reasons for it to cause shalom bayis issues, but its the husbands responsibility -albeit a difficult one- to prevent the reasons from causing shalom bayis issues.
lovebeingjewish- Every women is different, but abundant patience and understanding will be needed.
1- Yes
2- ????
The Goq- Correct. Most people take the immediate payout which for a 500 million lottery is approximately 300 million. After taxes you are left with approximately 150 million.
pba- LOL!! I was waiting for you to inject some levity into this emotionally charged conversation!
“Ok, so what you are saying is that if I can prove to you that getting married is indeed toradig, you would understand my case?”
No, because we all know that it is. Prove to me that when someone chooses to not get married at 18 and instead waits until 22-23, and BMG asks them to wait an additional 3 months and learn without any distractions if they want to join the yeshiva, that BMG is the bad guy and is not acting torah’dig.
We are more than happy to hear everyone’s opinions. However, without any logical or halachic support (depending on the nature of discussion) backing the opinion not too much credence is given to it.
You keep on saying its not torah’dik, but you don’t back it up with anything.
a.d.m- From R’ Baum’s response it seems that he didnt tell you if you should or shouldnt but if you are then at least you are using someone that is good.
Secondly, R’ Baum could qualify as your LOR, but I wouldnt put him in the category of the gedolei hador that anyone in the CR could blankly rely on.
2scents- I am still not sure what battle you are fighting.
Why are you against this policy? You should be against anyone who starts to date later than 18 years of age. Or, against anyone that freely chooses to go to BMG.
And as yitayingwut quoted above, it appears that it would be torah’dig.
The Goq- Oh heavens! It has little to do with him. I was just giving some background information on him and imply that he is at least in his mid 40’s. I think he is closer to mid 50’s.
Ouch!
2scents- “In my opinion, whatever paper a bachur signed regarding not getting married for a zman, might be invalid as it is a Massneh al mah shekusuv batorah.”
I dont recall where the Torah says one must get married within the first 3 months of starting to learn at BMG.
Also, “You have not addressed what I said.”
I said: “Everyone knows the freezer rule. So why dont you tell every bocher to come back from E”Y or wherever a zman earlier??”
Would this satisfy you?