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Toi- Ha! Thats the word on the street. I hear its a very good place that accepts guys from all backgrounds, not just the typical in-town yeshiva guy.
Davening with the shatz counts for something only if you daven mila bimilah with him (and the tzibbur’s amen is theoretically on your bracha as well).
NotaMod- Read what shlishi wrote. Tell them that you are Jewish.
shlishi- First of all there is still an advantage of davening with a tzibbur present. Secondly, as Sam2 pointed out, the Halacha is that if you start with the tzibbur and they are going to fast for you then you do not need to skip and you could continue to daven at your own pace.
Unfortunately he still has a decent chance of winning. There are millions of democrats who will blindly vote for him no matter what. The majority of college students are liberal thanks to all of the liberal professors.
Are you compiling a list for business purposes? Why do you need to know EVERY camp in the mountains? Is your daughter not a good fit for any of those camps?
aries & old man- Taos Akum is muttar. That means you can keep the money. Lets not get dramatic. Noone is going to lose their job over one mistake, especially today where everything is easily tracked by emails and electronic banking. They are not going to accuse you of anything or ask you why you kept the money. It was their mistake, not yours. I once received a duplicate deposit of about 2,000 into my account. While contemplating what to do, I noticed that there was a subsequent reversal of that deposit. No questions asked.
That said, it is definitely a kiddush Hashem to call them and return the money. BUT REMEMBER, you must stress that you are returning the money because the YWN CR directed you to… I mean because you are an orthodox jew and your religion stresses honesty etc.. Otherwise no kiddush Hashem was made.
1- We are not here to judge other people. Just be dan lkaf zchus that its appropriate for those people who daven at those minyanim at their current level of observance.
2- If you dont daven shmone esrei with the tzibbur you miss the value of tefilla betzibbur. I once heard that if you dont start while the tzibbur is still within the first three brochos you already lost tefilla betzibbur, but I dont know the source for it.
3- See #2 above. Davening with a minyan generally refers to shmone esre. There is a whole siman in shulchan aruch on which parts on pesukei dizimra can be skipped to ensure you start shmone esrei with the tzibbur.
yitayningwut- Its a shvacha raya. 1. Techias Hameisim is considered a miracle, just one that they had the ability to perform. 2. Since its a miracle it is a big deal. Hashem may not allow them to do it again.
Derech HaMelech- I dont think its quite the way you phrased it. Its not like they all had to pass a test to get into the Mishna. “Field trip to the cemetery. Whoever raise the dead gets in the book, those who cant… you lose!”
My understanding is everyone that is mentioned (I heard in the Gemara) is on the Madreiga that they could have been mechaye meisim if necessary. Its just pointing out the Gadlus of those Tanaim.
600 Kilo Bear- Why do you have so much anger in you? You seem to take this very personally. Why?
What does he know about this, or is he just ignorant?
ilovetheholyland- Thank you for validating my point of view 🙂
adorable- What gave you the impression that I am chassidish??!! I’m not!
shlishi- Agreed. But the girls that dont go are not taught independance. The Israel experience is also amazing.
Maybe we can start an informal poll:
Did you or your wife go to Israel for seminary, how do you think it did/did not affect her, and iyho is she too attached to her Mom.
My wife went to Israel, had a positive experience, is close to her mom, but in no way attached.
Gumball- Need to know basis. I see “honorary moderators” dont need to know!
workaholic- Does your family know you hang out in the CR? There are lots of men in here!!
Her Himmel- “For what”? To grow up and mature. The maturity level of the girls that go to Israel and of those that dont is different. These girls need to prepare for life and once married they wont be able to- and definitely shouidnt be- running back to Mommy for everything.
Go to the grocery and read the label!! (fewer calories, lower fat content)
Regarding taste- 2% has a richer taste, 1% less so, and 0% tastes diluted imho.
This works (somewhat) in the chassidishe velt where there is zero mingling between men and women. The only contact with a member of the opposite gender is their immediate family- not even cousins. They dont watch tv or the latest episode of the bachelorette.
As such, the only preconceived notions on marriage are what they are taught in yeshiva/BY, which are all Torah oriented.
Also, the amount of research and “checking out” that is done before they date is far more than anyone else. Prior to them meeting the parents have a pretty solid picture of the boy/girl.
When boy/girl meet, if something doesnt strike them immediately like looks, manner of speech, personality etc then time to break a plate. But there are times that in those few minutes one of them decides that s/he is not right for him/her.
taking a break, aries2756- If you are laying blame on the school, then you cant have a “tayna” on any individual girl. Also, I know for myself that I cannot stay home every day with my kids. Yes, I am a male, but its not entirely a gender issue. Some women dont either have the patience to stay home all day.
And as your friend wrote “I just cannot understand…” thats fine. You dont need to understand, you need to be dan lkaf zchus.
I agree with PBA. The more educated one is, the more the need for intellectual stimulation exists. Women today are a lot more educated than they were prior to the Bais Yakov movement. Do you want to blame Sora Schneirer?!
happiest- You must have been the perfect angel, but most of us as kids were not. On break, kids expect their parent to wine and dine them and go on elaborate and expensive vacations. The sibling bickering and kvetching is at an all time high because everyone is bored. Parents have a hard time running errands and taking care of things when the kids are home. But I do agree that parents should never verbalize the desire for school to start in front of their kids.
My driving pet peeves:
1. Use your turn signal!!
2. If you are making a right turn, please move as far to the right as possible.
3. The left lane is the passing lane. If there is someone behind you, move over.
4. When parking, please pull as far up or back as possible to allow another car to fit in as well.
On behalf of the NY’ers out there:
5. A 5 second stop in middle of the street to say hello to your friend can mean that the person behind you misses the light, bus or train.
If you find yourself saying before or during engament “its nothing, and wont bother me after we are married” or “why does that bother me, its not such a big deal” I suggest you dont keep it to yourself and discuss it with a Rov or professional shadchan.
I have a Norleco and after removing the lift I cant get a close shave unless I dont shave for a couple of days.
My quick answer would be to agree with shlishi. But that is a generalization. When you factor in age of each, maalos and chesronos of the one who said no, how many dates each has been on and how hard it is for each to get a date, etc etc etc the answer changes pretty quickly.
The sun does move as well, just not the same way the earth does.
Cant forget the mayor who did little during his term except have potholes filled in. (thats actually beginning of the 90’s… as was the dialing of the area code)
Seminary in E”Y is great for most girls and for exactly this reason. I know this sounds harsh, but an 18 year old should be mature enough to survive some time on her own. I know being away till Pesach is a long time, but for those who have been to sleep away camp then they should manage just fine after some difficult adjustment. And for those who have never been away from their parents for a night, then its about time. I dont know if starting off with six months away is the best approach, but the process needs to start now. In a year from now you will let her start dating and get married. Will she be magically ready to move out of her parents house then?
Are we pampering our kids so much that they cant survive without living in the same house as Mom and Dad? I am not knocking the parents or the children, but we need to raise our kids with the tools to have a life of their own.
I understand that every kid is different, and some are not ready at 18 which may be the case with AriG’s daughter, but I am generalizing.
Its definitely a very difficult adjustment, but the girls come out the other end much matured and more emotionally prepared for life.
See a Doc ASAP. Aries is right about the infection spreading.
To whom did you make this promise? If to your Rav, you can explain why she isnt for you. If you promised her, than I would be hesitant to say no.
pba- do you wash on a slice of pizza? Same would apply to a wrap.
The sefer Vzos Habracha writes that Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach told him the minhag haolam is mezonos.
Like everything else, its a machlokes.
Depends on if a wrap is considered pas haba bikisnin even though it doesnt fall under any of the three definitions.
Like everything else, you should ask your LOR, not your CR!
Learn anything and say Tehillim.
yovel- Exactly. Which is why they are all guilty of propaganda. (Not to say Fox News is innocent either)
These examples were found on Honest Reporting and other sites.
The Times/CNN/BBC are definitely guilty of propoganda and bias as is evident to anyone who reads their paper.
For example, after the recent attack near Eilat which killed 8 hy”d, BBC story headline reads “Israel pounds Gaza after attacks”. Underneath that it said “The Israeli military carries out air strikes over the Gaza Strip following a deadly series of attacks on vehicles in Southern Israel”.
Why is the headline Israel’s response?
“attacks on vehicles”? Who attacked? Why not say after 8 people were killed and others injured?
The Financial Times grouped the attack and the response into one: “Seventeen killed in Israel attacks” Thats outrageous! Notice it doesnt say what, when why or where. Just the who- Israel. Why didnt it say seventeen killed in Egypt attack?
Follow up article said “Israel and Gaza militants trade attacks”. What is this, like trading baseball cards? No mention of cause or who struck first, or of the word terrorist.
Daily Telegraph- Israel launches fightback after militant attack on Egypt border”. Couldnt they have AT LEAST said “Israel launches fightback after militant attack kills 8”? “attack on Egyptian border”???, no, attack on Israeli’s.
NY Times- “Ex-White House Scientist Pleads Guilty in Spy Case Tied to Israel” Israel was in no way accused in the case. The scientist thought he was giving info to Israel. But the headline misleads you to assume the scientist was spying for Israel.
NY Times- “Leak Offers Look at Efforts by U.S. to Spy on Israel”
This goes on and on and on.
Good question. The victims were not murdered because they were Jewish, rather because they were American. Unless the terrorists assumed that they will likely kill Jews and then they were killed solely for being Jewish, which may be considered al kiddush Hashem. (sorry, dont have any sources)
coffee addict- I happen to think NYC water tastes great!
There was a story in E”Y a few years back where a cleaning lady “cleaned out” the home of the family where she worked TTTO $100,000. (The homeowner was a money changer) He caught up with her at the airport before she boarded her flight to her homeland where she was promptly arrested.
Few shidduchim that I know of went through smoothly without a hitch. Most have some sort of roadblock somewhere. It could be an unwillingness to go out, no emotional connection, parents issue, something he/she said, the list goes on and on. The point is, have a Rav and/or a professional shadchan that knows you to guide you.
I also agree with Middle Path. (You see, MP, you should stick around!!)
If you are getting upset and frustrated, then maybe the CR is not healthy for you.
On the other hand, if you can express your opinion here without being attacked and are able to see the viewpoint of others, its probably a good idea to stick around.
I spoke too fast. Please disregard my comment and see Sanhedrin daf 99.
Thank you Sam2.
Loosely translated: Paskening or expressing an opinion which is halachically incorrect.
You should invest in the Encyclopedia Talmudis!!
shmoel- Are you using the CR as a dictionary/encyclopedia?
Baal Habooze- 3 pc suits was in style a lot more recent than the 80’s. As with all styles, its only a matter of time till the wheel turns and the next new/old thing is in style.
walton- ywncr is not twitter.
adorable- I’m not saying you should fool your boss, but if she sees you dont have any work to do she may decide she doesnt need you.
I with Baal HaBooze. I cant forget the station wagons where a dozen kids would cram in the back!
Loosely translated, this refers to doing something that is permitted, but not in good taste. For exmaple, if someone would be marry a woman to be allowed to live with her, and then divorce her, and then the next day marry a second woman and then divorce her, and again the third day etc…
Baal Habooze- Lay off the booze for a while! 🙂
The measles outbreak started with those that were not vaccinated.
The doctor that came out with the so called link between the MMR and autism Andrew Wakefield, was found to have had multiple undeclared conflicts of interest, had manipulated evidence, and had broken other ethical codes. The research was declared a total fraud and the doctor lost his license to practice medicine.
The benefits of the vaccines far outway and anecdotal evidence to a link to any disease.
Its possible that there were no ther instances. The Mishna says that according to one opinion a Beis Din that kills someone every seventy years is considered a murderous beis din.
ravshalom- Is not locking your front door also tantamount to hefker?!
less chumros & Sam2- The Shulchan Aruch is refering to sefarim from his time which were handwritten and easily ruined. Many Poskim today say its allowed because the sefer will not be runied and we have a rule that Nicha Lei L’Inish L’Aveid Mitzva B’mimona a person would like that a mitzva is done with his possesions. (Sorry for the poor phonetic spelling)