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Very nice guy. Has several kids and I believe one or more are married. Lived in E”Y for a while and moved back to Flatbush.
Lakewood is approximately 4-5K, excluding building fund, fundraising obligation etc..
avhaben- yes- I can even drive on Shabbos to get there if necessary. I have yet to here a response – why doesnt your husband just run down the block to the nearest midwife/obgyn/hatzolah member?
Use more than one of the above and use POISON. I had a picture of R’ Yeshaya but the segula stopped working after a while. Traps are good but mice reproduce often and several at a time, so you never know if you got them all. When using glue traps, make sure you buy quality ones- not from a 99 cent store- as the mice can get off of those traps.
rabbiofberlin- “our “hetter’ to cook from yom tov to shabbos is based on the possibility of receiving guests before shabbos (“dechozo le-orchim”)”
I have not learned the sugya of eruv tavshlin so please educate me. If you are worried that you may have guests on yom tov then you should be allowed to cook on yom tov regardless of the eruv tavshilin or the next day being Shabbos?
One possible explanation (assuming the husband wasnt doing things he shouldnt be doing) is that women are emotionally inclined and need to have a strong emotional relationship. Many men are just fine with coming home, having dinner and watching football for 2 hours. Women need more time to talk and connect and have their emotional needs attended to. Women tend to forget less and if the husband does something wrong they immediately remember the last time similar situation happened.
This is a generalization so dont YELL AT ME if you are different. (Read John Gray’s book)
“how in the world can you demand a jew to do something against the torah?!”
What are you talking about? Did you follow Pirkei Avos which says to get married at 18? Nowadays men are not ready for marriage at 18. BMG’s opinion is IMHO that for the bucherim’s ruchnius its best if they sit and learn for a few months before starting to date.
Everyone knows the freezer rule. So why dont you tell every bocher to come back from E”Y or wherever a zman earlier??
Has anyone ever asked their LOR about a home birth???
Avram in MD- Again, giving birth is sakonos nefashos- which is why you are allowed to be mechalel shabbos to drive to the hospital.
“In a birth center or home birth attended by certified nurse midwives, oxygen and IVs are readily available, and the nurse is trained in infant resuscitation”
Do you really want to rely on one or two midwives for infant resuscitation? What if medication is needed? Who will treat the mother in the mean time?
“if you object to my use of the term “safe” for home birth on the grounds of sakanos nefashos, then you must also object to calling a hospital birth safe.”
In case of sakanos nefashos you go to a hospital- not to your local midwife.
“I see the debate here as not about whether birth is a sakanos nefashos, which is a constant yes, but whether a planned home birth is preferable to a hospital birth. “
Lets define “preferable”. To the comfort of the mother- maybe for some, and only if they dont want any pain relief medication.
For the infant- doubtful. Midwives in your home do not have the equipment to adequately treat a newborn if something goes wrong. IV?? Not to helpful if the infant needs medication.
So a women who decides on a home birth, is most definitely increasing the risk to herself, and exponentially so to the infant.
Why would you want to do that?
sof davar & shtusim- Many are machmir and dont eat Gebrokst because its a chshash chometz. The above mentioned psak doesnt appear to reflect this reality.
FYI- Many Litvishe Rabbonim will give you a similar psak because they dont hold of gebrokst themselves. The Chassidisher Rabbonim and others that dont eat gebrokst will most likely tell you that you cannot make it on erev shabbos.
ontheball- If you dont eat gebrokst then you shouldnt be making gebrokst either. Therefore you will have to make your kneidlach on Shabbos- which is probably not halachicly possible.
Avram in MD-I have several of my own children and am quite familiar with childbirth.
I’ve never heard of a great delivery. Deliveries are extremely painful even with an epidural- which a midwife cannot administer. You can freely leave the hospital 4 hours after delivery to go home and rest- that is if your newborn isn’t fussy. In the hospital you can tell the nurse to feed the baby formula at night and let you sleep. The story with your wife is an exception not the norm.
SupportSurvivors- “They have mechanisms in place if something unexpected happens, and I was comfortable with them.” Do you know what the mechanism is- DIAL 911. If c”v the mother starts hemorrhaging or the baby lacks oxygen what exactly are they going to do?
“When you get pregnant, you can choose your birth plan. Til then, stay out of mine.” I am not telling you what to do. We are all trying to give the OP some advice.
And to both of you- Please respond to Health’s post- he make a very important point.March 22, 2012 7:06 pm at 7:06 pm in reply to: Biting Fingernails, Cutting nails, pregnant women Halachot #1035053
Sam2- If I recall that gemora correctly, it says there was an Amora that bit his nails in bais medrash and threw them on the floor. The Gemara says ??? ???? ??? . Biting nails is not disgusting, nails are only mazik in the place where they land and I forget the third.
Giving birth is a sakanos nefashos- We are mechalel Shabbos for both mother and unborn baby.
SupportSurvivors- “Out in 4 hours after delivery which was great”??? Hard to believe. Did you head straight to the pizza shop for lunch too? If you want to be out in 4 hours after birth in the hospital you can sign an AMA and leave too.
“With a qualified midwife present, they are very safe.”- Its very safe with an unqualified midwife too, as long as NOTHING goes wrong.
Be smart and safe, rather than be sorry.March 22, 2012 2:05 pm at 2:05 pm in reply to: Pollard in light of Missouri v. Frye, 10-444 and Lafler v. Cooper, 10-209 #861740
pba- Is this pask ?? ????? ??March 22, 2012 2:01 pm at 2:01 pm in reply to: Biting Fingernails, Cutting nails, pregnant women Halachot #1035047
Sam2- I have a question on your pshat.
The halacha is that the nails only pose a threat when a pregnant women steps on them in the place where they landed. If a nail falls on the floor and you sweep it to the side, they no longer have a koach to be mazek. This is based on a Gemara.
My understanding is that this is one of those type of things which we dont understand.March 21, 2012 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm in reply to: Need a list of Gedolei Hadoar and Mekubalim in Israel #861605
rawdata14- Why? are collecting rawdata for ??? ??? ?
Why dont you ask R’ Yakov Hillel Shlita for a list of mekubalim?! LOL
notedaskan- Why do you ask? Are you going to change your profile to increase your odds?
And your question is…..March 9, 2012 3:01 pm at 3:01 pm in reply to: Sephardim, Marriage, Gittin, and Cherem Rabbeinu Gershom #901453
sushe- I will speculate that Sefardim have different leaders and they didnt institute this ban, and/or that Sefardim lived in a different country than Rabbeinu Gershom.
I highly doubt anyone can make a cherem today like it was done back then.
I believe the expiration date was 500 years from inception which has already passed, but klal yisroel accepted it further. (This was recently mentioned in another thread)
You dont necessarily make two brachos, and it could depend on what you are eating. It can also depend on if you want the mezonos or not. When you would make two brachos you make them one at a time and eat in between. You do not make two brachos one after the other.
In some cases you would just make a mezonos and no other brocha. Ask your LOR.
Shalom bBrooklyn- “Without insurance coverage, contraception can cost a woman over $3,000 during law school” Direct quote from Fluke.
Firstly there are pills for 10-20 bucks a month. So either she lied to Congress, or neglected to mention that there are generics for a fraction of the cost.
Rush’s point was that someone that needs to spend that much money a year is exactly what he called her.
yitayningwut- Can you post a source for that? I didnt see it on their website.
I did see on their website that Red Bull shots do not have a hechsher.
Also, hard to believe that all are kosher and only some have the symbol on the package, especially with all the different artifical flavors they have.
You’ve pretty much answered your own question.
Its a way to keep in touch with friends you wouldnt normally keep in touch with.
BUT its also an easy way to meet people of the opposite gender, and see inappropriate content.
Facebook has led to many divorces- in the frum community as well. (I heard this first hand from a marriage counselor)
Not all flavors and varities have the Star K. Check the bottle before purchasing.
So I wanted to give matanos l’evyonim. And I wanted to do it online or over the phone. So I went to vaad harabbonim’s website, and then called them.
Why vaad harabbonim? Why not. Brand name recognition.
So I called and gave them my credit card number, and told them to charge up some money.
So then they asked if I wanted to submit a name for a bracha.
I said yes.
When they asked for the name I said….
Popa bar Abba
Love the part where Haman (Memuchan) says Your majesty, although your servant is not worthy of speaking before your more worthy advisors etc… You can hear someone whispering “bigshot Haman… the king must be a complete fool to listen to him… i knew it ec..!
Oh great. Another one of these “mashiach is coming on such and such date” threads.
Good Morning! and in case I dont see you later, Good Afternoon, Good Evening, and Good Night!
bekitzur- If the chiropractor gets the tilt down to normal and you dont need surgery let us know. Otherwise…
Sam2- Because the Rema says it is.
That said, the Mishna Berura is of the opinion that we should abolish this minhag, and perhaps if it is only one garment and the gender is clear we shouldnt protest. (read: we shouldnt burn garbage cans, throw rocks, or pour bleach on them.)
Unfortunately appearances and perception have tremendous weight.
But are you looking for the right type of guy? For example, if you are chassidish and are looking for an MO you wouldnt get anyone to say yes.
The sixth sense…
sushe- Read Sam2’s comment again.February 29, 2012 2:56 pm at 2:56 pm in reply to: Rabbeinu Tam's Later Shkia and Shabbos (and Mincha) #857076
besalel- kudos to you for rising above the intolerance you were taught by “orthodox” rabbeim.February 28, 2012 7:03 pm at 7:03 pm in reply to: Rabbeinu Tam's Later Shkia and Shabbos (and Mincha) #857070
besalel- You should go back to your Rebbe and tell him not to be motzei laaz on klal yisroel. There are many chassidim that hold Rabbeinu Tam for shkiah. But they hold Rabbeinu Tam 24/7 354. They dont end fasts earlier or other such kulos.
sushe and more2- Would you be mechalel shabbos and drive to the hospital for your wife in her ninth month? You can interrupt shemone esrei too, assuming she knows not to call you unless it was urgent.
Did you ever see a hatzolah guy stop in middle of shemone esrei? Next time tell him to continue davening cuz Hashem is babysitting.
more- “The American government is bankrupt and that’s why there is a higher percentage of dietry problems.”
Higher taxes leads to more govt dependance and less revenue for the govt. Look at whats happening in England, they raised the income tax to 50% and guess what, liberals, revenue has fallen!
I wonder if this author had his holocaust survivor grandmother proofread it for him?
You idiot, thats precisely why. Since it was on a grand scale is why its singled out and special.
What makes anything an historical event if not for its scale and intent?
Regarding holocaust denial being a crime, he may want to look some more on Wikipedia- he may actually learn something. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laws_against_Holocaust_denial
“One cannot be punished merely for denying the truth”. Thats correct. They are not being punished for their denial, they are being punished for publicizing their denial. The countries that have classified it as a crime do not offer the same right to free speech that we enjoy in the US. They have criminalized hate speech as well.
His argument has been rejected by the European Commission of Human Rights, the European Court of Human Rights and surprisingly even by the United Nations Human Rights Committee.
To end- I hate these articles with all these questions in it. If you are looking for answers then go ask your LOR (Maybe not one from YU if they approved this article, but lets not turn this into a YU bashing thread).
If you are not looking for answers and are only looking to espouse your uneducated opinion, just say so.
Do you mean 2012, or are you first going in january?
Please tell me that you know moishy’s list isnt quite the liat of the first 100!
I hardly belief this story is true. Even though its being reported on “YWN”.
AWOB- He should follow whatever his fathers minhag is. Now if his paternal granfather had a sephardi nusach then he should ask his LOR.February 15, 2012 8:25 pm at 8:25 pm in reply to: Move to Eretz Yisroel Without Accepting Citizenship #943717
Wolf- Tzum Drite Muhl- A child born in Israel to parents that are both not Israeli citizens, IS NOT AN ISRAELI CITIZEN!!! aargh!February 15, 2012 6:34 pm at 6:34 pm in reply to: Move to Eretz Yisroel Without Accepting Citizenship #943712
Wolf- The link you provided refers to renouncing citizenship.
I understand the OP as asking about a non Israeli citizen that lives in Israel. No need to renounce (as I stated above) because they do not become a citizen. Children of US citizens are automatically US citizens regardless of where they are born.
uneeq- What in the world are you talking about?
“a machloikes-inducing language” HUH??February 14, 2012 7:21 pm at 7:21 pm in reply to: Move to Eretz Yisroel Without Accepting Citizenship #943695
m in Israel- My opinion is based on personal experience, not on hearsay or “belief”.
Wolf- Well actually, the tune Kohanim sing on yomim tovim during birchos kohanim is a minhag and I dont think they can change it.February 14, 2012 3:07 pm at 3:07 pm in reply to: Move to Eretz Yisroel Without Accepting Citizenship #943683
Doswin- You dont become a citizen just by living in the country.
If both parents are not Israeli then the child is not Israeli either. HOWEVER, its in your best interest to go to Misrad HaPnim soon after the baby is born and renounce citizenship. When they tell you that its unecessary, reply thank you very much and please give that to me in writing.
That said, the law can always be changed retroactively, so you never know!
Avi K- This conversation has gone way off topic. Strictly speaking gebrochts is muttar. Many have the chumra not to. Its a moot point.
The topic here is adopting minhagim, and you didnt address my post.