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If men were responsible for pesach and women for sukkos, they would start on the same day.

Of course the husband has rights that the wife doesn’t – Miranda rights.

There were communist alternatives to Stalin. Some were possibly even worse, like Trotsky, others might have been better. Some claim that modern European socialists are the mild followers of Marx. A minimal test would be if their group was consistently against Soviet style of Marxism. Many of those mild socialists supported USSR in some form.

Gadol, thanks for the tip to not go low on gas. I presume you have a good mesorah for this. Are you sure this is still true in this century with new tech? I have this bad habit but most of my cars fall apart way before having engine problems

Call grandkids!? You raised them well if they answer.. How about Whatsapping them .. when I encourage youngsters to call someone they say it’s a weird thing to do

Ohio primary had one anti trumpian candidate and it got 25% 0f the vote. So, anti Trumpers here can only hope that Trump decides not to run. I suggest offering him some good business in Saudi Arabia and a Nobel for the accords now so that he feels he doesn’t need to run.

Avira brings a great point hashkafilly if not halachically: people who keep Torah are responsible for the rest of the yidden. As r Salanter said: someone not learning Torah properly in vilna leads to a professor in Paris to do aveiros….

This applies especially to Israelis who are so close to datiim, but often not really relating

Common, thanks, I was not aware about what share is for trauma. Still caution is required in professions where lucrative deals are questionable morally. Will you be satisfied to work for the trauma hospital, when your colleagues earn easy money the other way. Similarly, say, in jo s where you can get profitable business representing Russian or Chinese clients. Or construction where you may not even be able to compete without employing illegals. I am not a bokeh in these professions, just highlighting issues in choosing professions.

Syag > where do you see me saying they buy in bulk?

Deduction? It was mentioned $70 gas, so presumably a full tank, not a couple of gallons, but I did not check the prices for a couple of days (feels like Weimar)

Chofetz Chaim encountered someone selling newspaper (a blog advertiser in modern times). He asked how is parnosah, turns out it was so-so. So, Ch Ch suggested that his friend can offer a beter job. Which one? A friend is a priest and he needs someone to once in a while to ring the church bell …

The Jew was shocked by the offer, but Ch Ch explained that this is still more honorable than selling newspapers.

common, I hear you, but in that case the doctor did not give hard time to the “frummer” youngele, but turned out to be even “frummer” just in the closet (literally).

Gadol, similar comment – the gentleman has lots of zehuyot both in the Army and in world politics. I can’t say whether he borrowed some cigars or betrayed coalition partners, this is one big mess there, but you sound like you simply disagree with him and ready to throw any argument at it. We somehow find this permissible in the American context between a real estate developer and a senator from Du Pont. If if that is not asur, I don’t think we should use same brush with Israeli issues and people.

Gadol > and are now instilling the same values and practices in their own kids.

I think that is the point. Again, there are things that need to be done in many cases, such as keeping computers, not phones, and in the open, etc, but it seems that kids seeing parents using computers for work, learning, good comms – even posting on CR! – is the most useful thing.

ujm, I respect filters. I tried relying on them with kids and it did not really work – they find ways to go around. Even when I established a multi-layered defense at router, computer, and cellular level – they would find a free WiFi or, as a last resort, claim that my filters interfer with their legitimate work on the computer. Then, they will peak over my shoulder to see what I do to open that helicke website they need … Constant warfare … Somehow, soon after getting kids out of schools and making them do serious work on their computers lead to them using computers responsibly without any filters. It is not because they “grew up” as some are of the age that others were during the warfare times. I do keep basic network filtering and safety options in google search on all devices to prevent silly stuff appearing in the search results.

I am concerned as a couple of posters fashioned to refer to R Moshe’s S-I-L somewhat derogatory. I understand that you might disagree with him on some issues, or even doubt his veracity when quoting his F-I-L, suspecting that he puts a political slant.

I wonder – do you have any factual basis for your attitude:
– do you have evidence that R Moshe did not verify quality of the semicha of the chatan, so you don’t use R-?
– do you have cases, or even a pattern, of other witnesses contradicting R Tendler’s reporting of R Moshe’s words?

Also, keep in mind that people in the family tend to talk differently between each other. It is possible that R Moshe was focusing on the psak when talking to outsiders and revealed more of the underlying reasoning in the family.

Just a sevorah, I do not see a contradiction between a strong position against abortion and a position against government interfering in religious matters. R Moshe had Soviet experience with both murder and religious prosecution, so no doubt he understood policies here – and better than one-issue advocates in US.

with so many talmidei chachamim who live or lived in E’Y, could we agree that there are some exceptions to the Oaths?! Or it is not OK for Zionists to fight for E’Y, but OK for non-Zionists to arrive on El Al later on without fighting?

Also, is emphasis on E’Y or on fighting non-Jews in general (see example of Portugal above). In the latter case, maybe Jewish communists would be a prime example of what we should not do (see a simpler source than Oaths – Beitza 25 that Hashem gave Jews Torah from stopping us stepping over other nations).

that wife follows husband Igros Moshe 1:158

R Auerbach, quoted in Yom Tov Sheini K’hilchaso, pg. 188 – husband does NOT HAVE TO insist on his minhag – even possibly nusach or anything she wants. Maybe this could be part of a prenup?

someone suggests that this is coming from the klal of moving to a different place – husband’s house (YD 214:2). This matches Yevamos saying that a man should not live with in-laws (may not be operative now when most people don’t live with in-laws and wives are not always that younger than husbands).

Igros Moshe Even Ha’ezer 2:22 – a spouse can not force humros on others. R Ovadia Yosef quoted for the same (not using eruv). Some testify that R Moshe did not interfer with his wife drinking halav stam.

Rav Eliyashev – that some minhagim are nedorim and shoulbe kept (kitniyot)
For exceptions for candles, mikva, wig:
Igros Moshe EH 2:12
Beitzah 29b
R Auerbach, Halichos Shlomo, chapter 9 of hilchos Succah, footnote 37
Yaaakov Emden Teshuvos Ya’avetz 107.

I am wondering whether learning status of a woman might affect the decision. If the husband typically is the posek in the house and instructs the wife what to do – then, his minhagim should have weight. You don’t expect him to go to his M-I-L and learn from her! But if the woman is learned on her own, whether BY or YI, she might not need to ask her husband and he might not need to interfere.

ujm, women might follow their mother’s minhagim re: candles, etc.

I heard an “interesting” argument – yes, court has previously overturned previous decision – but they always did it “to expand liberties”, this is the first one “to restrict them”. In other words, it is OK to overturn decisions to make it more liberal, but not ok to make it more conservative.

To bring a religious angle here: one reason for avodah zara is people’s inability to connect things to the source – they are looking for some immediate source of fire or water or parnasa. So, among other middos, a religious person requires daas that helps him appreciate how events in the world connect back to the Prime Source. Without such daas, one might be ortho-prax just because he is trained to mumble brochos, bot not ortho-dox. So, when some people can not connect obvious things, such as government making oil business harder to increased gas prices shows that they can’t properly connect their life to Hashem also.

how do female doctors handle crazy med school and rotation schedules while having a family? any clues? The only one I saw have husbands who (even pre-covid) were able to spend lots of time at home – SW develpers or PhD students. (My daughters for this reason are looking into near-medical fields that are less demanding).

> I know of many many older frum people who are doctors and nurses.

indeed, a couple of decades ago, a friend went for an interview to a major NY hospital in a kippah, etc. The doctor he walked around with – who did not even “look Jewish” – at some point poured a cup of water, went with him into a small room, closed the door, took kippah out of his pocket, said shehakol …

RebE, Ashkenazi husband or ashkenazi wife?

Ballet pianist. I know someone who got a heter for this, but decided not to use it while he was single. I presume after he got married, it did not work out either.

Or we can reform the President – and make it a 3 people committee (like a beis din). This was one of the original suggestions, possibly one from north, south and the middle of the country.

Anyway, hopefully this tumult will take a month out of Congress timeline and we can save a trillion or two from last minute bills.