Always_Ask_Questions

maybe start with SA YD 240:
nor refute his words nor contradict his words in his presence, even to say ‘Father’s words appear to be,’ nor call him by his name, neither in life nor in death, but rather say ‘Father, my teacher.’

RamaH – not even support Father’s position [possibly, without proof, or better to argue with someone who argues with the Father]

Beer Hatev
סותר. בין שחולק עליו בין שאומר להחולק עליו נראין דבריך הוי סותר את דבריו ונראה דסותר את דבריו אסור אפי’ שלא בפניו עכ”ל הש”ך:

Be’er Sheva (Sanhedrin 110a) it is permissible to disagree with a parent, but it must be done in a respectful manner. Not contradicting a parent means, one should not say, “Father, you are wrong.” Rather, one must always speak to a parent in a respectful manner.

Prisha (YD 240:3) it is only forbidden to contradict a parent if one does not have proof. You should not argue with your father just because you feel that he is wrong. But if there is definite proof that a mistake was made in religious matters, then one is obligated to point this out

Chayei Adam (67:8)
Aruch HaShulchan (Yoreh Dei’ah 240:13)

P’sakim U’T’shuvos (240:7) cites the ruling of the Chazon Ish and the Sheivet HaLevi that a child can argue with a parent as long as the child raises his objection as a “suggestion” or “possible thought” and not as an outright objection or disagreement. Likewise, the Aruch HaShulchan (ibid) writes that if a parent asks a child for his opinion, the child may disagree with the parent, even to the parent’s face and even a complete disagreement.

> there are also times that true respect calls for a shorter and more direct statement

this is fine theory. In practice, most cases call for more respect. But as usual, somehow the first instinct in bein adam l’havero is to find an excuse why not. Not healthy. If you train yourself to always talk properly, then you will struggle to shout about fire at your parent. This is akin to Igeret Ramban: train yourself to speak quietly at normal moments, and then you come control yourself in a moment of anger.

Forsh, I was flippant a little, what I meant is one starts with analyzing halachic concepts and see if they are applicable before going further. Halachik reasons for dealy is informing relatives, publicizing the event. One is praiseworthy speeding up a burial, unless it is for a parent when it is not proper. considering that T’Ch is a teacher for all and in this case, clearly participation of those who want to come requires preparation, there is reglaim l’davar – and this is what I would start discussing if I were bothered with the issue like you are.

An interesting note: Moses Mendelshon corresponded with R Yaakov Emden regarding possibly abolishing speedy burials. A local Duke ordered everyone to keep bodies for several days after there were cases of live people taken to graves. Kahal asked MM to intervene and he helped to stop the decree, but later discussed with YE. YE’s position seemingly was that Chevra Kadisha pays attention and would not bury live people, like goyim might.

I suggest that after passing a bill to fund Ukrainian air defense, Congress debate DST until the elections and not pass any more bills giving taxpayers’ money to their supporters. At the end, they should make it so confusing that low-informational voters come one hour late to vote in November, reducing D- vote by 10%. Oops, forgot the mail-in vote, but still ….

Avira, do Briskers not teach that hakol b’yedei shamayim except hot and cold?! And when you learn tuma & tahora, you never thought how this is applicable? Please teach your students a simple rule: do not touch mouth, nose, eyes without washing your hands. My Father O’H taught me that, so I thought all learnt Jewish parents do.

Generally, persistent infections are not good for the guf. For example, research shows that untreated dental infections lead to heart problems. Not just statistically speaking, the mechanism I think is already understood. Someone at Touro College is involved in this research.

too many people learning Zohar instead of kitzur shuchan oruch. Oilam hafuch.

A way to check for coincidences is to make a prediction before an event and then see what happens. This is both basic statistics and Torah’s test for a navi.

Absent that, use a machine learning approach. Divide your set of possible coincidences into two sets. Use one set to deliver the pattern you think might work. Do not look at set 2 while doing that. Then, apply to set two once and see if it works.

> to soak it in whole milk

does it have to be cholov isroel or is it ok to put goyishe milk on tzitzis?

At least half of Ukraine is not sowing right now and Russians should have some problems getting things done. Worldwide shmitah.

So, there will be less wheat – and sunflower seeds and oil, if you are into that. But this is next year harvest, of course. So, keep some of the matzos for the next year …

I presume things like fertilizer would be easier to substitute. Also, there will be less mystery buyers if you plan to sell a NYC apartment or a yacht.

> I don’t fully understand why it is such a big deal to have one’s schedule disrupted by an hour,

Circadian rhythm is a big deal. When you have millions of people disrupted on the same day, things will go wrong. Increase in accidents and deaths from accidents seem to be in 5-15% range for 2 weeks, this seems on order of 100 people. Judging by how society approaches much higher covid deaths, nobody will be in a hurry to change the law for “just a hundred people” despite Gemora Sanhedrin saying that one who save one life saves the whole world …

I think you_all are answering the wrong question! You seem to be comparing Purim to YK, as if Purim is caleed v yom kikipurim! We don’t need to clarify what Purim is, we need to clarify what YK is and how it is as holy as Purim! L’Chaim.

Mishna Berura suggests that the father reads Megilah at home to his young daughters instead if going to woman’s section where people are talking and you can’t hear anything. If the same is happening in the whole shul, then, would this logic apply? The difference is that men should listen a a community, so is it better to read at home and hear everything or be part of the community and miss a lot? Mayb e do both.

She must have been at least 21, as Ahashverosh incited her to the drinking party, as it says that drinking was “according to the law”
Unless you want to say that she was under 21 and that is why Vashti refused to come.

But you would not think that the king, who did everything legally, would violate the law?! The tirutz is that she was one day before 21 and they had a healthy machloket whether to count previous night as the day, Vashti following a goyishe minhag of starting day from midnight hatzos. So she lost her head exactly at hatsos, otherwise after that she would have been able to come to the party.

So, we know her age exactly – one hair before 21.

Ok, so airplanes are out. What other investments put you into risking your funds and neshoma by being implicitly invested into Russia? Or is it already too late – oil companies are dis-investing from Russia, MSFT is out .. Any companies buying nickel? gold? what else do they have?

Anyone invested in airplane leasing companies? Russians just got a new “law” taking ownership of the leased airplanes total worth $10 bln.

While acknowledging risks of escalation, it is not clear how to define a boundary. I heard someone saying: “I am tired of Russians defining what is ‘offensive'”. Why is sending them stingers ok, but planes – not OK? Why is shooting missiles from Russia to Ukraine – ok, and from Poland to Ukraine – not OK? Russians are now saying that supplying weapons is also not OK (and bombed near the Polish border).

We can do something small first, like send a humanitarian convoy to one of the surrounded cities by land or even by sea and have it protected by force that can shoot in self-defense.

Great, gadol, we found common ground. Call your D- senator to achieve this. Maybe Trump can visit Kiev like the brave Polish/etc Presidents did today.

Syag, and again – I am talking about people actually doing chumros: respecting their teacher, gadol hador, unity of Pesach seder, to the immense. I am not calling on people in their own houses sitting and eating dry matzos for a week to start enjoying kneidlach, even if I have rachmonus on them.

Is there a heter to trade with reshoyim?

There is, for example, an isur on selling weapons to goyim. Seems like it could be extended to providing economic support to the aggressor, especially as the world is counting on boycotts as the main means of stopping aggression.

How much would you need to be paid to eat a piece of pork?
How much would you expect to earn to buy a discounted Russian bond?

Avram > Esther did not invite Achashveirosh to a vodka party.

it is a very good point, I am glad I saw it on time!! But what do I do with all previous 70 Purims – are they all posul? Do I owe 70 korbanos hatat?! Talking about herd … I don’t have a place to keep that many goats.

I can only say that drinking was according to each ish’s daas, so maybe I am yotze from vodka and bourbon.

> I think that if you fall for it, it’s on you.

Nobody is using tricks that do not work! If the trick does not work, the trickster escalates. So, at the end, if someone is within say lower 10% in resistance skills, he is the mark.

Avram> Brand and location also play a big role in the price.

yes, this is marketing 101.

Gadol > We have builders who have provided 5x to 10x more homes that are also affordable,

Ergh, “they did not build that” as your posek said. It is a false canard to disregard good things because they benefited from the act. If someone does a good thing for you, even unintentionally, you owe him gratitude. Also false preference for unprofitable hesed, often performed at healthy “non profit” salaries at someone else’s expense. Trump hired more poor Hispanics than Obama did.

Gadol,
Building houses is a public service, even if these are expensive houses.
Running a show that teaches people business is a public service.
Making peace between Israel and several Arab countries is public service.
Pressing Europeans to increase defense spending is public service
Pressing Europeans to exclude Chinese from their cell services and Russians from gas is public service.
You are free to have have your issues with Trump, but ignoring obvious facts will not get anyone to listen to you

Gadol, looked up what R Twersky is saying:
he suggests either side accomodate if possible, for example, skip gebrochts at a particular meal. Then he calls out sitting at separate table as a problem. Korban Pesach, the first mitzva was to be a family one. “For the family to be separated by a chumrah .. seems to me to be defeating the spirit of Pesach”.

And the story was about 2 Sanz chasidim at Chasam Sofer’s seder. When they came back, Sanzer said that the one who ate gebrochts got Olam Haba, and the frummer one should stand near him in davening while the Rebbe will try to get him forgiveness for trying to be frummer than the gadol hador.