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Just a thought. Perhaps if people would pay for music instead of copying it from their friends and family, groups like YBC wouldn’t have to reach out beyond their core target audience to try and generate interest in their music.
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Here is the contact info for the Rav Hamachshir. Call him, have your Rav call him.
I dont disagree with the message, but, how is “you’re a shofech damim (you shed blood) if you leave a child alone when there is a burning light” an inspirational message? Timely and important, yes. Inspirational?
Best I can tell, Chazal were not choshesh for donuts shenisaleim min hayain, so, unless one had another halachic reason to require a mashgiach temidi in a donus shop……..
Rav Chaim Mintz is the Founder, Director, Spiritual Leader and Advisor of Oorah according to their website, on oorah.org
Does everything they do have his haskama, I have no idea. However, you can easily reach out to him and ask him.
PBA: shadchanim have fees for both genders. I know people, both male and female who have received calls in the last 30 days from shadchanim who to their credit told them my fee is “X”, if agree, will proceed shidduch and if not, I’ll be on my way. One shadchan had a fee of 15k, take it or leave it.
Jothar. Those were not, and are still not, protest marches. Those are marches to encourage shmiras shabbos.
“vast vast majority of shadchanim including the most prolific in the country have never told anyone any rate for a completed shidduch.”
I am married b”h almost 20 years. When I was dating EVERY professional shadchan I spoke with and met quoted me their fee. Perhaps things have changed in 20 years.
It might be a “clear minhag” in some places that girls don’t light. In my family the girls do light, my wife does because she grew up doing it too.
Chuck Norris jokes? Is he a comedian? I thought he was an actor (if you can call what he does acting).
In my family they will,
At this point the user claims he/she/they is/are not mechallel shabbos. What has trying to “prove” to them how smart we are by tracking time stamps and ip adresses (that can be spoofed) and “proving” the chillul shabbos accomplished?
Is the issue here the trolling, chillul shabbos or the combination?
Just curious. Do posts come time stamped? How do mods know the time someone hit the send button?
Yes, they are time stamped.
Rav Oelbaum gave a shiur, Limaaseh, to the Queens community almost 1 year ago. Listen to it on Torahanytime.com
So, Jothar and the moderators spoke to a Rav who confirmed there is raglayim ladavar to accuse someone of chillul shabbos?
Jothar. I am trying to understand what you are trying to tell us by opening this thread. Are you trying to warn us that trolls are lurking on the site? Are you trying to warn us that there is at least one mechalel shabbos who frequents the coffee room and to beware of the hashkafos espoused by this person? Something else?
Welcome to cyberspace.
Just curious. Why do the moderators care that someone is mechallel shabbos? Are they looking to help him start keeping shabbos?
I will say this much. If you are hosting bachurim and seminary girls for the same meal, definitely keep the booze away from the guests.
People quote “them” all the time. And lets not forget everything on this site attributed to “seforim hakedoshim” and “the poskim”. So, now something is attributed “the mods”. Big deal. On the news page there was a story yesterday that attributed a quote to Rav Elyashiv Shlita and today a story that claims in the Ravs name that yesterdays quote was false. Don’t believe everything you read or hear.
And if there IS a troll who is mechallel shabbos?
For those who cant get enough of Rabbi Rubenstien. Google him. Apparently the moderators wont allow a direct link to his website. Search for Rabbi YY.
“Of-course they do,”
I must have had girls from the other seminary for the seuda last week. They wouldnt even drink grape juice.
Has the situation really been miserable “from the beginning”?
do seminary girls drink?
Thank you.
So, the question really is. Should hosts serve alcohol to minors. Why would you want to?
Michael Savage has offered Gingrich 1 million dollars to drop out of the race.
The Huffington Post has an article on the latest going on with Mattisyahu. This is the final paragraph from their story.
“Across various media outlets — social and otherwise — fans and journalists jumped on the facial revelation, declaring Matisyahu’s Hasidic days over. But the musician maintains he’s on a spiritual mission.
So which is it? And how does hair truly reflect religious devotion? Not surprisingly, it’s up for debate.”
Thank you.
We recently hosted a woman well above 60 who told us she is a certified Zumba instructor. I dont know what goes on in her class, but if she is any indication, sensuality and provocative movements shouldnt be on anyones radar screen. She could barely lift herself out of her chair to wash netilas yadayim.
Like the ad says, give him a bottle of J and B.
What Newspaper stirred up the whole school bus “issue”on thanksgiving?
I would like to send a letter to the editor of said publication. For those who follow sports, the NBA season, after a lockout of the players that lasted several months is scheduled to begin their schedule on December 25th. Where is the outcry against the league for starting the season on a holiday and scheduling 5 games? Traditionally the league has had a double header on the 25th, but this season they scheduled 5. I am curious what the editorial staff of this publication feels about the fact that the arena staff (and in the case of some cities, additional mass transit to and from the arena, additional police to maintain traffic flow etc.) has to come in to work, on a day they normally would not.
If the Rav says they can make the bracha, then they have a source for the bracha. I personally dont know of any ashkenazim who have made a bracha at a simchat bat, but I do know several who have made a simchat bat, including the mizmorim and pizmonim, everything but the bracha.
The fact that the person mentioned by the OP made a bracha does not mean there are sinister thoughts of feminism, it could mean they are copying what they see their sefardi friends do and figure works for them too. not everything in this world is motivated by something bad.
“at a simchat bat they do make a bracha.”
In fact, the bracha is found in sefardi siddurim.
“Apushatayid- you’re right I should have rephrased the question- “Did anyone hear of ashkanazim making a simchat bat”? Happy??”
Yes. I have heard of ashkenazim making a simchat bat. some people call it a “kiddush in shul on shabbos”, while others do something during the week when the family can be together. there are many ways to thank hashem for the bracha of a daughter.
“The main problem is not that it doesn’t have a sufficient basis. The main problem is the reason it is being done.”
So, you are arguing that even if there is a mesorah for something in a community, it should not be done if people will question the motive?
DY. This is off topic, but I know you will read this. How do I find an old thread in the CR? It had to do with Lakewood and yeshivos requesting bus service on thanksgiving, dont remember the exact subject of the thread. If you find it, can you link it here and let me know how you found it?
“I’m starting to feel like a fool;”
starting?
“Because the boys are asking for the money after the chasunah, not before. :)”
The boys are asking for a guaranteed payday. This is no different than this new NASI initiative which is guaranteeing a payday to the shadchan. The only one who has no guarantees of anything, and it is her and her family who are putting up all the guaranteed money for both the boy and the shadchan is the girl and/or her family. At least use some of this money to guarantee her a date!
I am suggesting releasing some of that money to encourage dating. $5000 or $5,000,000 in a secure escrow account is meaningless if a girl doesn’t date.
I still maintain the best filter is the off button.
There are many options you missed. Where to begin…..
“You should agree that: Nothing the boys are doing is limiting the options of the girls in any way.”
a) Actually, it is their inaction that limits their options, dont want to say no, say maybe, but I am pusruing another opportunity right now, no need to put 5 names on a list.
b) It is the shadchan really that should be faulted. Why give Yankel the names of 5 girls, give him one, or two at most. dont let him tie up 5 or more.
“Since, when a boy is approached with 5 girls within one week, it would really make little sense for him to say “yes” to one, and “no” to the others.”
He can only date one at a time. Nobody asks him to say no, rather, say “im pursuing something else, or I’m involved with someone else”, not put it in his back pocket “just in case”. What happens as a result is that the girl is held hostage on his list. this is also on the shadchan. Dont give Yankel 5 names, give him one or two.
“The only adjustment I could see made, would be for a guy who knows he will never go out with a girl to send back a “no.”
You dont see limiting the number of names a shadchan gives as an option? You dont see a shadchan saying, “you said yes to shprintse, so baila, faiga, sara and chana are being redt to others and if shprintze doesnt work out we can look into others”? these girls dont belong to Yankel, but by a shadchan giving the name to yankel, they are all held hostage on his “list”.
“It would depend on whether girls like getting rejected by guys they haven’t even asked to go out with”
This happens already, only shprintze doesnt know how many guys said no to her, or if the shadchan even mentioned her to any guys. Are you concerned that shprintzes feelings will be hurt if she says yes to yankel and he says no? Then to chaim, and he says no, then to berel and he says no?
“Okay, I won’t take you seriously.”
Why is it any crazier than dangling money in front of a shadchan to get the same result?
KFB: Therefore? You have an issue with this persons Simchat Bat, fine. Not everyone who makes a Simchat Bat is a member of chovavei torah, a feminist or a sefradi. In fact, I would say that most people who make a simchat bat do not do so with nefarious intentions. However, your original question was, anyone ever hear of a simchat bat. Why not ask a sefardi for an answer to this question instead of assuming the one you attended is par for the course?
Actually, I do not believe that we agree. I do not believe there is anything sinister behind every simchat bat held while you appear to be inclined to think so.
Sounds like an Abbot and Costello routine.
“because the GOYIM think it’s nice.”
They also think Brooks Brothers shirts are nice. They think BMWs are nice. They think sushi is nice.
I have come to believe that DY ans AZ are the same person.
“we are criticizing their motivations.”
This assumes you know their motivations. Had the OP made no mention of Rabbi Weiss, would you have assumed something “sinister” about a simchat bat? I would have assumed the person was sefardi. It is a common custom, and is found in their siddurim. Does the OP know that the person who made the simchat bat is not sefardi? Conversely, I know members of his congregation who have not made a simchat bat for any of their daughters. I think the OP took a leap of faith and everyone has run with it. This does not mean that there are not feminists about who have created a ritual and coopted the name simchat bat for their ceremony, however, your statement that you know the motivation of those who make a simchat bat and that you take issue with that motivation is difficult to take seriously.
I dont take myself seriously, neither should you.
However, girls DO need a yes from a boy, or they can never go on a date because boys get redt the girls first.
The typical scenario is a girl meets a shadchan. shadchan promises to set her up. Several weeks go by, no call. Why, because the shadchan gave her name to a number of boys and either they said no, or they gave no answer. Girls have to engage a number of shadchanim, to get their name spread around enough in the hopes that a boy will say, yes (the old, throw enough at the wall and something will eventually stick theory). They are in fact being held hostage, until someone says yes (heaven help them they go to a singles event or try to meet a boy any other way, they will be branded and probably dropped by the shadchanim) they have no prospect of a date, nobody to look into, nothing. they are sitting around waiting and wondering. We have long since passed the point where people are nervous, hysterical and blaming everyone and everything. Hopefully the promises of cold hard cash will keep shadchanim plugging away, and maybe even exerting a little pressure on boys and their families to give answers, for after all, unless these girls get married, they dont see a dime. Unless these girls are dating, they are not going to get married. At this point, I would go so far as to suggest using some of the money to PAY boys to go out with girls. If a 27 year old has sent $7500 (or whatever the number is) to NASI, send $50 to a boy and tell him it is for a date and give him more after each date, perhaps reserve up to 10% of all dollars put in for this purpose. If we are willing to believe money will motivate a shadchan, why not believe it will motivate a boy to consider a girl (actually, given the monetary demands shadchanim already here from boys, it is quite clear that money does in fact talk to them – for sure their mothers).