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You can’t love somone you don’t really know, be it
litvish, chassidish, Sefardi, Ashkenazi…
SHEESH Gumbo, you had one too many gumballs tonight!
Tomorrow is a new day. I thought you needed a ride or something.
I apologize in general If offended anyone with a post.
More specifically to a certain adorable individual to whom there was no intent, however, intent IN-SHMENT, I’m sorry!
Refuah Shleimah Bekorov!
yummy cupcake; you’re absolutely right! it should read
“Great Girls.”
Depot, 🙂 I chap!
I meant to say that I don’t know any guys (even heavy) that are interested in dating a 200 pound + girl.
So if that were the case i’d understand why they weren’t being redt shidduchim. Though that IS puzzling, cuz there are many really heavy dudes (as u pointed out) and I wonder why they’d have a problem with an overweight girl as they themselves are overweight?!
The sad fact remains though that
a) we have a lot of yidden who are putting themselves at risk in the health dept.
be that as it may
b)that’s no reason that heavy guys should be biased or even have a right to say no to a heavy girl.
If it’s ok for you, its ok for your partner too.
I agree, it is one of the nicest things to hear or say.
aside from having a son or daughter, grandchild, great grandchild,
and of course great-great grandchild. May we all be Zoche to that!
Why not? We are all necessary pieces in an amazing puzzle.
We need everyone. No matter if you are a middle or a corner pieces.
We need it all.
miritchka said; “I have a number of friends who have never dated! i have some friends who are 22, 23 and have never been redt a shidduch! they have been on the market since 19!”
I DON’T BELIEVE YOU!!!!!!!!
If what your saying is true, and they are not 200 pounds, or mentally or physically ill. I’ll gladly redt them Shiduchim
If I know anyone compatible, or hook them up with another Shadchan
that will.
I hope your not exaggerating. If that statement is true I find it inexcusable that they still havent been redt shidduchim.
Do they have parents? Do they live in the desert?
WHATS GOING ON?!!! Please explain.
It means all around. starting with Middos and ending with middos.
Intellectual Stimulation has nothing to do with going out.
Our greatest masterminds spent much of their lives indoors
shteiging over the torah.
Maybe social stimulation is what you should call it.
Any woman can be at home and get stimulated intellectually
by thousands of seforim in english, or books, or E’books,
or online in any field. It has nothing to do with being out of the house all day having your children raised by grandmothers, strangers, or goyim, just not by their Mommy.
It is an excuse wrapped in baloney.
Chazal Tell us by Dina
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That she was outgoing like her mother. That brought on the story
with She’chem who was M’fateh her.
It goes to teach us that trouble finds those women who roam the streets of the world with excuses of stimulation or enrichment etc.. I’m not knocking anything just stating the Torahs view
on where a Jewish Womens ideal place should be.
If they absolutely Must go out into the world, they should be aware of how Araiy it should be and rush back as soon as their task is over.
Mingling, exploring, roaming, flirting, these actions are dangerous for it is predetermined that it will end up causing pain and shame.
A fishes place is in the ocean.
There are fish that exit the ocean. Usually though, they remain anchored with most of its body in the water.
Even when it leaps out, it is only for a brief few seconds.
For it knows its place is in the ocean and if it does not return immediately, the results are fatal.
It really depends on their level of Emunah.
Age, and years dating, also hardship in finding someone they actually like should be taken into consideration.
I know guys that take it harder than girls.
Usually though shlishi is right. Girls take it harder.
Since they are more emotionally involved they tend to picture
or imagine futures way before guys would. This makes it that much more painful. Not to mention that they are very conscious about their appearance. Not so self confident by nature as men are.
When I was faced with decisions while dating It would pain me to say no, knowing sometimes what the girl might be going through.
However hard it is for them, they should know that their weakness is also their very strength, and it should be appreciated.
A strong Emunah in HB”H’s plan should allow everyone, guys and girls to move on to something better not being bothered by something that wasn’t for them. If it was, it will come back.
Always be aware of who is running the show.
Especially in Shidduchim, where HB”H allows us to clearly see his
hand in all that he does for us, if we were only look through eyes wise with that knowledge.
I am a vegetarian not because i love animals, I just hate plants.
BaalHabooze; where did u see this minhag or anything sharp?
I’m aware of not cooking with Vinegar or using, but anything sharp?
Can’t use garlic or black pepper? where did u see this mentioned?
Mesilas Yeshorim. Shmiras Halashon.
soliek; you sound like me 😉 have we met?
Since there is always some tension and in the winter a race with the clock, It was introduced to keep a calmness in jewish homes on erev shabbos.
The braiding which requires two hands, keeps Mommy’s hands busy from potching the kids. The intricate braiding process (which seemed to progress from 3 to four to six etc…) keeps Mommy’s mind and mouth occupied from shouting at Tatty.
Nowadays with all the commercial bakeries it is kinda pointless
to some, and the shouting and potching matches continue to be prevalent at those houses that don’t bake and Flecht Challah.
Rosh hashanah when the new year is upon us we are aware and busy with Teshuvah and Forgiveness, so we are not worried about this.
So to show our seriousness and achdus at this time of years we make round Challas.
I have been using Norelco/Phillips Shavers for as long as i an remember.
I take out the lift and cut which is pretty easy if you have a good pliers and patience.
For the past few years (more than few) I somehow never manage to get a clean enough shave. I buy a new one around every two years.
A friend of mine uses a specific Remington shaver
and it seems that he gets a closer shave.
His model is kosher. though I assume many Remingtons aren’t.
I also would love to know if there is any specific Kosher model out there that does a good job. I always figured my stubble
is more coarse than many others, hence a clean enough shave eludes me to this day. So I look to the future hoping my fellow CR
buddies will help me as well as “chaimss” achieve a clean shave.
P.S. Braun is not acceptable to me.
moderators,
maybe you can consolidate all these bracha questions posts into one post thread of any and all imaginable bracha questions.
Pure peanut butter is one thing, but have you looked at the ingredients on a regular standard peanut butter jar?
They are extremely against Zionism, so they would rather rub elbows with blood thirsty islamic extremists, than just publicly voice and protest their anti-zionist views w/o chumming it up w/ known Anti-Semites.
So it appears to the public (thanks to the NK) that these terrorists are not anti-semites, merely anti-zionist. Which is obviously a load of garbage. Though the general public is none the wiser.
Not to mention the utterly disgusting kissing up and groveling that NK does for these terrorists is a disgrace to HB”H.
They do not run the world! They never did and never will.
Our safety is not in the islamic fanatics hands.
The NK groveling has not resulted in any less attacks being attempted or carried out on Eretz Yisroel or on it’s religious anti-zionist Jews.
Where to start? E/t!
Not to be such a nice guy!
tab; thanks foe letting it out. It feels good doesn’t it?
You make a valid point! Some people just do what they know is right
in HB”H eyes, while others still keep worrying about what will the neighbors say. Personally, I’ve always Feifed Shtusim like that.
Good for you. As long as your measuring stick is halacha, not people, you’re good to go!!! 🙂
Sam2;
“as strong a language if he had ever seen a working platonic relationship.”
I am surprised at that comment from you. I’m sure you are aware that our Gedolim, have deep insight as well as foresight into every aspect of human relations.
It is comical to suggest as you did that Rav Moshe ZT”L was missing some info not having seen a working platonic relationship.
If your statement is even true that he had never witnessed a working environment. Which is ridiculous in itself.
These stuff are pashut even to simple folk of average intelligence. You on the other hand, (as well as others)
might not be aware of the required behavior of one, working in an environment with female/male co-workers.
There is a lot of personal banter (totally unnecessary in achieving any work required goals) that gets exchanged between male and female co-workers under the guise of just being friendly,
even dare i say “i’m just being a mentsch.”
(lest those work goals are getting chummy, being funny getting the girls to laugh (a must at work) being so overly caring.)
You can fool others, but not yourselves.
If every Ehrliche guy really did some introspection before every comment he made to his female co-workers (who I doubt are 80 years old coming in with walkers) the reason for his comments
is it REALLY necessary for business? Maybe his personal business.
You’ll find most of is chummy banter, with the hopes of appealing to opposite gender, getting a laugh, a smile, coming across as concerned etc..
Be honest with yourselves.
adore; tab; your welcome, it’s the least I can do after the gum incident. Did you try peanut butter? I hear it gets gum out of hair.
Tastes good too! Sorry about the chatty fellows.
I wud never instigate a chat with a girl aside for “Greetings!”
“How art thou?” It works great cuz they usually stay away from me after that. When i am approached, I try 2b a mentsch,
unless I feel they are flirty and non genuine, then I just answer their question curtly and get going.
This is my policy w/ frum girls.
When it comes to non jewish or non religious girls,
i am always careful to come across as kind, intelligent, informative. I believe every interaction that I have is for the purpose of being Mekarev the individual to yiddishkeit, or making a Kiddush Hsm. I try not to take these things lightly.
I am not suggesting any approach, merely promoting awareness of
the opportunities and responsibity we have to act in a way that
our behavior has a positive impact upon whom we come in contact with.
Adore; Sorry I’m not using real names. (at least not totally)
not fair to them, or me if they find out.
If u had dated a guy who said on his 1st date,
“Hi! Im Getzel Feivel Zurich.” You’d remember.
thanks feif, you erally should write a column. You have what it takes. I took your advice and downloaded
“the eye of the goat” AKA “the eye of the tiger”
before it over-went an extensive kashering process.
Next question;
1) How do I get a job as a Mashgiach in the particular field of Kashering Goyishe songs. It seems to be the future of
Jewish, I mean Goyishe, I mean Convert (Ger Tzedek) music?
2)Do you think the Rabbinical courts will disagree with the
Chief Rabbinate, as to the authenticity of the Geirus of these songs?
Sorry kapusta; I was afraid it wouldn’t be clear. lemme explain.
Rochel Baila Sara! is the girl, (his daughter)
Chaya Miriam Dina is his Aishes Chayil (his wife)
“Rochel Baila Sara” is the abbrev version.
Upon Leaving…. the father feels it appropriate to address his daughter in parting with her full name,
being “Rochel Baila Sara Mindle!” (as if three names isn’t enough)
It guess it wasn’t as funny if u missed that part.
btw, the wife has a fourth name too! I didn’t want to confuse u even more:)
Thanks Feif! how’d you know I have terrible games.
As for the cool ringer,any suggestions.
I’m afraid my idea of cool is the “Incy Wincy Spider” ringtone.
Thank you HLM! so there’s hope after all.
thanks miritchka; adorable;
btw I’m not saying you have to shove your daughter at him the second
he enter yelling Kach V’leich!
You can have a nice talk w/ the boy, my point was
a) don’t ask weird questions aside for making him uncomfortable
(It can realy backfire)
b)Don’t interrogate him (If he wanted that he’d shoplift)
c)once you’re finished, Don’t have a whole broken telephone matzav till the girl finds her way downstairs.
awkward 5min silence and stares. That’s when the really weird commments get blurted out. like “We just finished supper”
“we had chicken” “Do you like chicken?”
Me like Chicken! Chicken Goooood!
c)Don’t take forever! I have been detained one time for almost 40min. The father should’ve worked for Homeland Security.
Well, I guess it’s more of a hobby for him.
I was thinking of saying OH Kaaay! Let’s call it a night.
tomorrow same time, same place? You make chicken, I’ll bring popcorn.
but I was afraid they’d say… You like popcorn TOO?
I have this very frustrating love/hate relationship.
When I’m bored, and interested…. nothing.
When i’m not, like when i’m busy and so not interested, then I get bombarded. won’t give me a few minutes of peace anf quiet.
VM, Texts, Rrrring, vvvibrater, Rrrring, vvvibrater,.
When I look to you, I get you nothing?
Now that i’m busy here you go. LEAVE ME ALONE!!!
What do I do?
GM; After what you wrote on the other thread and your decision following it, I’m sure HB”H will send your Basherte, very soon!
May you continue to stand up for what is right.
One day you shall reap vast rewards for your courage.
I wish everyone had that resolve.
lovinghalacha; with opposite genders?
It cannot exist, without compromising Halacha.
It is like playing with fire.
Very dangerous and someone is bound to get burned sooner or later.
Even if it does not amount to action, it will still cause strife
among the people involved directly or loved ones of these people.
Not very wise….
cv; If you don’t like the taste or smell, stay out of the kitchen!
I wouldn’t want to offend your senses.
you spelled it wrong! Don’t they teach these words in school!
Pass, on the Cholent!!!
Thanks guys, I wish I could take all the credit.
But aside from hakoras Hatov to HB”H 4 my talents,
I must credit all the (wonderful) interesting parents i had to meet. Too many to list, and the hysterical stories I have.
You wouldn’t believe it even if i told you.
Lemme tell ya… there are some really wacky parents out there!
If everyone was nice and proper though, I wouldn’t have what to laugh about later.
Even what i wrote was so toned down, not clearly expressed
(unless u use ur imagination) and shortened.
It was much longer, with really weird question,
and failed humor on their part, border lining on being downright
offensive if it wasn’t that funny.
I had to bite my lip sometimes from bursting out ROTF.
People would’ve thought me to be Meshuga if not!
My sole consolation was that i’d get to tell over the stories to my friends who’d say “NO WAY”!!!! “I don’t believe you!”
“He said THAT?!!! “REALLY!!!!”
Of course I kept the names confidential.
All Smiles! A warm Shalom Aleichem from the father and a nice “hello nice to meet you” from the mother.
I never liked sitting down waiting forever till the girl was ready
getting all these weird question, not knowing what to expect from the parents.
If you want to sit the boy down and Shmooze, no problem. Make sure it’s just that. Shmoozing, not an interrogation.
Just be at ease, making him feel at ease.
Once when I entered a home, the parents had the body language of two people who just buried someone in their backyard. Needless to say I got a little worried, wasn’t sure what to expect.
When the father said I have something to show you, follow me, I found myself checking to see If I hadn’t left my cellphone in the car.
Ask normal questions, calmly, not like an interrogation.
How was the drive?
Nice!
Traffic?
No B”H
Found parking?
Yes! i’m at a pump!
How’s the parking in your neighborhood as opposed to here?
Tough, all the pumps are taken where I live.
“Thats why we live here! lol!
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Where do you daven shabbos?
in our shul.
Really? my husband too!
In our shul? I never saw him?
No, I mean he davens at our shul.
It’s a nice minyan, you should come.
It’s kind of a long walk.
Oh! Yeah I guess you’re right.
Rochel Baila Sara!, Rochel Baila Sara!!!!
She probably can’t hear me. Lemme go call her!
(upstairs)
“Is he nice mommy?”
Well he also davens in his shul, like Tatty davens in our shul.
He’s wearing a nice colored tie, I like his tie…Maybe I should buy Tatty such a tie.. Can you ask him where he bought his tie?
Meanwhile….(downstairs)
She’ll be here in a minute.
“No problem “
Her room is a shtickle walk from the dining room.
I understand.
(upstairs)
Ma, I’m not asking him where he bought his tie!
(downstairs)
Chaya Miriam Dina!!!
(upstairs)
Tatty’s calling! We’d better hurry.
Coming! otw!
Mrs shulgoer; Sorry! It’s a Shitckel walk.
So I’ve heard.
Bocher; Hi! How are you?
Girl; “Baruch Hshm!”
Are you ready?
Are we ready Tatty?
Yes were ready?
Nice meeting you Mr. “Shulgoer”
You too. Have a nice time Rochel Baila Sara Mindle!
Mrs. Shulgoer; Drive safely!
OK!
Were you see the stars ***above, that’s where the conversation should’ve ended with the girl entering the room.
I went to great lengths to let you see why. 🙂
What ever happened to ??????? ???????, ???????? ???????
Do we erase it when our pride or kavod, or make-believe frumkeit gets involved?
Frumkeit, is when someone acts according to the Torah and how Chazal taught us is appropriate.
Everything else is just bad middos and ends up causing a ?????? and
????? ???? ?”?
(first of all I apologize in advance for offense one may take, but this is an anti-sholom Machlokes, against e/t the torah stands for.)
It makes one wonder if this could be the reason as to why lakewood an “Extreme” Makom Torah, has so many youngsters otd R”L.
HE’S NOT TALKING TO THEM?!!!
Did he speak to a Rov? what he’s doing is Assur!
ONE WOULD THINK THEY WENT OFF THE DERECH!
Married a Goy or something. This makes me sick.
How do people who claim to learn the torah and respect it,
miss the boat so royally????!!!! Whoa!
It’s this type of mentality that caused HOLY CHASSIDUS to come down to this world and stay here for the long haul.
I am learning, and I support Bnei Torah, fully, always!
His attitude and behavior is “NOT” the attitude and behavior of a TRUE Ben Torah!
I am making a PUBLIC MACHO’OH!!!!
True Bnei Torah do not give the silent treatment to their children
or in laws, nor do they make fights and cause strife within their families or other yidden for not sitting in Kolel.
Please Daven for this father to do Teshuva and do the right thing before it’s too late.
An out of towner, after being aware that the light turned green,
would give the car ahead of them at least 20 seconds before politely tapping their horn,
as opposed to a New Yorker who would blast a full “Tekiah Gedolah” as soon the light turned green, having counted down the seconds till blast off themselves. 🙂
Tab; that’s why in addition to my application of my imported deodorant normally, I also spray some in my pockets,
having in mind all the little peeps.
just so u know Tab;
I have to sacrifice my safety though, and I hope you appreciate it.
When I have to pass dogs on the street, Especially Pit-bulls,
Rottweilers, and Dobermans i have to recite “as I walk through the valley”…
Also, sorry about the other week on the subway when I put my coke
down on that armrest…. imagine my surprise when it said “EXCUSE ME!” That was so embarrassing!
Especially since I had stuck my gum there, minutes before.
In the past, many such as Jax,(where is he?) mepal and
myself as well as others have posted some funny, moving, and inspiring quotes, in the thread labeled “Inspiring Quotes”
Look it up.
We are never really as wise as we think we are.
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reba; Omein! Yeah I thought is was subtle.
Me thinks that “methinks” agrees. Thanks methinks!
I hope that doesn’t sound confusing.
I believe Minyangal has said to be in your neighborhood.