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Kohanim in the same room as women. *gasp* It actually does happen, believe it or not…
(Don’t worry, the camp hosts children as well.) The above would be an example of poorly constructed sentence….
Geordie, really creepy, but chickens DO eat other chickens, whether or not they eat eggs. And I’ve seen it live…
Having spent a summer in a camp that hosts chicken, I noticed plenty of times the little children feeding the chickens leftover drumsticks from supper…
Something about that just makes me squeamish…
I think the answer is very obvious:
Women like to look good, and they are allowed to look good, al pi Torah.
That being said, however, there is a fine line between “good” and “not tznuisdig.”
The yetzor hara is so strong in our generation! But the truth is, even a scarf wearing woman can look inappropriate at times, while even a woman wearing a custom-made $10,000 sheitel can wear it in an appropriate cut and style. I don’t think there can be a blanket statement made about headcoverings. Each person has to evaluate their own self, community, and goals. And of course, follow their Rav.
As for me, I don’t understand the human hair thing for many reasons… But most people don’t have my sensitivity in this area.
I can’t imagine why someone would want to wear hair that was cut off of dead body! (Most sheitelech come from cadavers.)
And then, that begs the question: Doesn’t cadaver hair cause a problem for Kohanim???
Popa bar abba, not really active here now, but I pinkt just popped in today and read your original posting.
Does your baby still have a vomiting issue?
If yes, there is something called FPIES (Food Protein Induced Enterocolotis Syndrome), and the main symptom is vomiting. These kids always present with delayed reactions, like two or more hours after eating the offending food, and can become allergic to foods even 10 days after first trialing.
Most kids DO outgrow it, like my own son. But the vomiting, while they are still allergic, can lead to rapid dehydration and shock. These kids can vomit until bile and be in tremendous pain. In bad cases, the bp drops and the child can go into shock, lo aleinu.
If you think your child might have FPIES, I would suggest you look into it.
CHOP is the best place for FPIES btw.
If you kid is okay, I hope so!, then just disregard…
syag: “Best would be if we didn’t have our names in the news in the first place.”
Because, you know, every time a Jew is in the news for bad, it MUST be truth. I mean, blood libels and everything, right?
Syag- my point is that proper haskafic outlook is as follows:
1) I have no personal insight into what did or did not happen in each business/yeshiva; therefore, i have zero right to look at them negatively. This is the time that the Torah commands us to be dan l’kaf zechus.
2) Have you never, ever in your life done something wrong?
Everyone has, and nobody appreciates others pointing it out to the entire world and judging them. No matter what did or did not transpire, our job is not to make accusations, judments, and critical comments.
Our job is to say that hey, “that’s my brother!” and love them, even IF, and i do say IF, they did something wrong.
(BTW Loving a brother obviously does not mean supporting wrong doing.)
So, what should you daven for your brother that may or may not have done something wrong? Nothing, and everything. Hashem is big enough to come up with exactly the right ending, but we still have to show Hashem that we care for our fellows Jews and trust him to bring about the least painful ending.
Hashem is the ultimate lawyer and judge. Why mix in and offer your ill-placed two cents and try sentencing your brother?
In honesty, the “best” way, in anything in life, is relative.
While for some the “best” way may be to slave over their mishloach manos for days, making something exquisite, for others (think: many mothers with young children), the “best” may mean the simplest mishloach manos to make, leaving them un-frazzled and calm for their brood.
That, to me, is the “best” way to do the mitzvah.
But its all relative, as long as you’ve fulfilled the halachos.
The best best best mishloach manos? Contains food, but is mostly comprised of money.
That’s quite the megillah.
The freezer is great for any flour, corn meal, oats etc.
Wash your sifter after each sifting session.
Speak to your local Rabbi.
Or just knock on my door.
Six cameras are watching your every move.
But ahhh, the power of the comma.
I didn’t write:
The person who posted this on Seder night.
The person who posted this, on Seder night.
In other words, the creep who eats matzah on Pesach.
😛 just joking!
I can only assume you are not creepy. Not yet confirmed though…
btw I hate to hear that you interrupted night seder for the coffee room.
Even better, find a POOR person you are not on good terms with and send them mishloach manos…
LOL is surely a place. How dare you assume otherwise?
It is the Land of Laughter.
Tidbit: The people there are always happy.
The minhag really goes according to two things: your father or your chasidus.
Chabad, for instance, wears a modified bekeshe with one of the corners rounded (at the back split). It also appears slightly different from the other mainstream chasiduses’ bekeshes. Chabad calls it a kapote.
The rest of chasidus, usually wears a regular “suit”, consisting either of a short jacket or a long bekeshe, which they can then go and choose according to the pattern that they like.
Just walk into a G&G or G&B in Brooklyn/Monsey, and they’ll help you find whatever you’d like. There are so many patterns to choose from, and they’d be able to offer guidance. But if you are REALLY looking to put on a bekeshe, think twice, and ask your Rav before jumping.
Going out on a fence here…
But looking at everything from an outside point of view, I don’t think its so radical for a Presidential candidate to endear himself to all different sorts of people. He wants the votes from anyone and everyone – even if they have a shady, disgusting following.
Okay, you can stone me now – but use only small pebbles please.
What’s a beksihe?
Well… At least I thought about it, before posting it!
Matzah creeps – the act taken by a piece of afikomen in a dirty home; usually several days after the Seder. (In the case of highly infested house, even the matzah on the table may be found to be creeping…)
The person who posted this thread, on Seder night.
Home to 200 people and about 10x more cows.
Dov, you made my day! Thanks for the info!
Back to bowling…
Am I the only one here that sees a problem with bowling in general?
I mean, think about it…
Put together a guy and girl, and send one of them to bend over and throw a ball down a lane… I can only imagine that the other one will be staring at the most prominent body part of the other… In the case of the boy throwing the ball, not so bad…
But, umm, basic tznuis???!!!
Kosher Gardens has a frozen strawberries? Yippee! (That’s the one with Rabbi Vy, right?)
I haven’t used strawberries in the past several years unless they were completely peeled and washed. Yes, I PEELED strawberries. (You can imagine how rarely I bought them, simply because of that!)
Dov, be aware that even according to those that permit cutting off green part, they caution that you should be careful to not expose the hole in the strawberry before the stawberry is washed, as little buggies can quickly run inside.
Talk about … the Coffee Room?
“Interesting how Americans ‘run for office’, while in England one ‘stands for election’.”
Just goes to illustrate the difference in mentality between the two countries…
In America, everything is about RUNNING. The harried group of people that are Americans…
Whereas in England, everything is prim and proper as people “stand” around…
One of the Northen-most points in the US.
Home to to Timber Wolves and Native American tribes.
Do any of you know what a tremendous achrayus it is to be a moderator of such a forum, where there is such mud-slinging that goes back and forth?
I tremble for the person that reads each post and decides whether or not it is “bad enough” to not make it into print.
I mean, how can someone approve a post that a major kashrus organization should be ashamed? How can one not be terrified to allow random, faceless writers to gang up on a single person at times?
Oh the weight of being a forum administrator!
I pity you people.
Maybe we all should just be a little more careful and THINK before posting our negative thoughts???
I am chasidishe, and the only white on a regular Shabbos that I know of is white shirts and for some men, white socks.
Different colors, like silver etc, are usually reserved for Rebbes during special occasions.March 14, 2016 6:20 am at 6:20 am in reply to: Out Of The Mailbag: (Flatbush Kiddush: Tznius & Drinking Out Of Control) #1142576
The entire problem with the shul kiddeishim that spiral out of control is that people forget the very reason why they went to shul in the first place!
I have been in different communities where the physical tznuis was arguably worse than the worst Flatbush kehillah (hate to stereotype, but let’s face it, Flatbush as a majority is pretty pathetic in this regard), but they were always aware of WHY they came to shul and nothing spiraled out of control; on the contrary, there was a decent sense of respectful decorum.
Ay, now you wonder how it could be possible that women could be dressed terribly and not to have mechitzah, but yet comingling and kalos rosh to be rather non-existant?
The answer is thus:
Every human being is on a different level. Some people are going up. Some people are going down.
If you are not going up, the only alternative is down.
In Yiddishkeit, there is no such thing as being stagnant.
So, the bottom line is that the reason for the pritzus you saw, had little to do with the actual tznuis, but rather to do with the downward spiritual path of the people attending. Lack of tznuis, both in dress and action, is only a siman that someone’s spiritual world is out of whack.
So at the end of the day, the question is, do you really want to attend a shul with such people? (or did you only stop by as an obligation?)
They may be wonderful people, and even have moments of growth- but the downward surge can take you along with it.
Please consider carefully, and perhaps ask your own Rav before attending such events.
Just curious, why would a conflict resolution course help when the couple doesn’t yet have conflict?
Doesn’t really sound timely…
I think a year after marriage is the perfect time, after the initial charm begins to wane…
Better yet, once you add two kids into the mix. That’s when the going gets harder. Until you have two small people demanding you to be in more than one place at a time, you don’t know what stress is.
Until that point, most normal people are able to be calm and patient with a spouse, I think. Once the BP starts to soar however, every little thing gets blown up and stress is inevitable in a marriage. Hard work is the only way for everyone to be happy.
Grand Junction, Colorado
Nearly devoid of Jewish communal life.
It would go undetected by thousands, until someone has an allergic reaction ch”v!
Coming from an epi-pen family with super severe allergies to everything from milk to fish to peanuts, to a rare allergy disease caleld FPIES, I hav e been blessed to really appreciate what kashrus means.
It was pointed out here that non-Jewish cookies are usually made with dairy products. Can you imagine what its like to have to be terrified every time you or your child allergic to dairy wants to grab a quick bite to eat outside of the house? Restaurants, bakeries – all off limits.
kashrus protects not only our neshamos, but our bodies as well. I know that, b’ezras Hashem, a fleishig takeout or restaurant will almost always be safe for our family, since according to halacha, neither fish nor dairy will cooked together with fleish.
Isn’t that amazing? Just be keeping kosher, my blood pressure level and sanity are automatically preserved, as well my risk minimized.
Isn’t that just beautiful?
How about offer a ring? I was engaged by the second time I met my husband… (it was the same day btw…)
I see the mountain before me
Grower higher by the minute;
I see the mountain dip and sway,
I think that someone’s in it!
Where’s my little munchkin?
He stands at three feet tall.
But for some odd reason,
I can’t even find him at all!
Where are you little boy?
Are you in that laundry pile?
I should have known that it was a risk
to let grow to a vertical mile…
With a burst of energy
I rush to knock it over
and find with the mountain’s depth
My daughter’s little brother…
Whew! Now he’s safe and sound
But that mountain has dispersed!
And now with colored clothing everywhere
I can’t find the earth!
Sighing in resignation
I pick up the hanging phone
and call for backup help-
I can’t battle this alone!
Cleaning lady dear,
Why don’t you move right in?
I never knew that I’d love you so!
I think you’re my best friend!
Maybe, one day
I will finish that huge pile.
But until we’ve conquered that stinky hill-
I’ll have to learn to smile!
Who gets better marks in gemora? You, or your sis?
Leave the poor guy alone everybody.
There is a well-known problem with text based communication: its very hard to clarify exactly what you mean, and things are often taken out of context.
I am sure ocho is a normal human being, and should not be made to feel like some kind of ogre, just because you can’t understand exactly what he thinks and feels.
I’m not so much into politics, but I did notice that this year we have a very Purimdiga lineup running for the role of the country’s Head Honcho.
If these are our representatives, what does that say about the commonfolk???March 11, 2016 1:42 am at 1:42 am in reply to: Public Service Announcement: The CR is not a reliable source #1141781
Of course the CR is not reliable. I mean, the people here are people that obviously have nothing better to do than sit around and pound the keyboard, hoping that random people they’ve never met will give them the time of day…
And yes, I know, I am talking about myself as well.
(at least I get paid for pounding the keyboard) Not by the CR.
The funniest one that I ever heard was overheard outside of the Jewish Children’s Museum in CH.
Two girls were talking:
Girl A: Yoish! It’s almost shkiah! I forgot to do my blatt gemara!
Girl B: Quick, we have still have time. *pulls out a pocket-sized gemara and proceeds to learn…*
Yeah. Squawking radios come along with the man who is devoted to the rabbim. Think: Chaverim, Hatzalah, Shomrim, etc.
And then realize that when one volunteers, its usually for multiple organizations…
This is not a light issue for many reasons. The first thing to consider is that publishing that an organization is not reliable without knowing exactly who will read it, is for sure Lashon Hara.
Nothing in this world is black and white.
For a person living in Timbuktu, that doesn’t have access to Badatz and Velove products, the OU is perfect. For them to only eat from the highest standards is inconceivable. (think people on shlichus or someone newly observant.)
For somebody in Yerushalayim, New York, or Monsey, for instance, with a strong Jewish background there may not be an excuse to eat something with a simple OU.
I actually know of somebody who called up the OU to ask about a specific cereal. The Rabbi there asked her where she lives, and when she replied Williamsburg, he told her, “Shame on you. You live in a place where the highest standard of kashrus is available. This cereal was not made for you. Go buy a Jewish brand.”
The OU is a tremendous organization, providing the world with kosher products, but because of their tremendous size, it is very hard to have a mashgiach tamidi at every single plant. That is why mistakes happen.
I have respect for the OU, although I do not eat products with only the OU hechsher. Given my current situation in life, I have access to more careful “mashgiached” food, but i would never make away with the OU, and neither should you.
Sounds like somebody’s on a diet…
Once upon a time the chuson and kallah would move in with his or her parents…
How’s that for rent?
I am assuming that’s not what you actually meant…