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HaLeiVi “What you call seeing is actually ‘knowing’ based on sight.”
this is not exacly on thread topic but i just heard a great line on an english song on kol berama do not ask how big is the man in the fight but how big is the fight in the man
idk if he can speak but i am sure he can postFebruary 7, 2013 8:45 am at 8:45 am in reply to: Dressing up as a Nun, Munk,or Santa Claus for Purim #927341
A Nun, a Priest, and a Monk walk into a bar.
“Hey what is this,” cries the bartender, “Purim or something?”
DaasYochid -“Because you’ve given over part of yourself to that person, you love that person, who is part you. It’s really an acceptable form of self-love.”
Since posting the question I was told to look into the Michtav Mei’eliyau and he says exactly what you said-you put it down very well.
golfer-“Acting in a giving, loving manner towards another person, will therefore make us feel inside the love we are acting out.”
That makes a lot of sense, since this is a basic concept in hashkafa-now that you mention it, I am surprised that the Michtav Mei’Eliyahu does not state this reason. He does point out that a person does not give because he loves-rather, he loves because he gives-but not for your reason-he mentions what DaasYochid said.
I’m thinking of another possibility. Part of a feeling of love is an overwhelming desire to protect and care for the person you love. If you feel that person is vulnerable, you feel more important and needed in their life, and therefore a part of their life. If however, that person is self sufficient, you don’t feel needed, and therefore do not feel part of their life. When you give to some one you are filling their need. You therefore are, and want to continue to be an integral part of their life. I haven’t really thought this through yet, but I think there is something to it.
avner-“Your true self is the decisions you make to overcome your nature.So by giving, you are overcoming your nature, and building yourself. But when the giving is brought on by the other, they become part of your self, thus you love them.”
The idea that your self is the decisions you make, and by overcoming your nature you are improving your essence is very profound-and I feel like you are on to something, however I do not understand the connection between that and that the person who brought about this betterment in you becomes a part of you. If some one were to give you constructive criticism(tochacha) or advice on how to shteig, does he too become a part of your self?
Used my home phone to call my cell phone because I couldn’t find it. Heard my cell phone ring and ran like crazy to get it so I shouldn’t miss the call.
Called some one while multi-tasking, and by the time the person picked up I couldn’t remember who I was calling.
Here’s an embarrassing one. It happened decades ago. I was 13 or 14 and I stayed up shavuos night in Lakewood Minyan. I was so tired I was like a zombie. During chazuras hashatz, I got up and went to the bathroom. When I came out, there was someone standing at the sink holding a full tepple of water kind of offering to pour on my hands. I was thinking how nice of him. He gave me a look like naah, and I shook my head like yaah,and he poured for me, (and then for all the kohanim waiting in line behind me.)
truthsharer-LOL. I can relate to that!
Fell into a deep sleep and then reminded yourself that you didn’t daven maariv yet.
Ahhh MorahRach, that was you in front of me. And you didn’t even hear me honking!
Yeah-the last thing you need is an ayin harah lady putting an ayin harah on you.
Nudder idea. Smoking has been banned in public areas since forever. Convert all the no longer in use phone booths into smoking booths with built in ventilators to suck out all the smoke. No one should have to freeze off their hahum just to catch a smoke.
daniela- Are you from Iceland?
Hello golfer. Feel better now?
ZD-LOL-and what hechsher does the gator use? Human-K?
PBA-LOL! Thanks for a great laugh!
“Just thought the olam should know that the phrase is “every lid has a pot”
How about every Yid has a pot.
Is it brought down anywhere that it has to be striped? I’m just waiting for the producers of Spiderman yarmakus to come out with action figure talis gadol.January 21, 2013 8:13 am at 8:13 am in reply to: Having kids while having a history of genetic disorder #924811
Chiskiyahu hamelech saw binivuah that he would give birth to menashe-who would be a choteh umachteh es harabim on a grand scale. He chose not to have children. Chiskiyahu got sick, and the navie came in to inform him that he would die as punishment for his sin of choosing to not procreate. Chiskiyahu did tshuvah and Menashe came from him ( and another son who was a great tzaddik)
Amram-the gadol hador- separated from his wife due to Paroh’s decree of killing all male children. His entire generation followed suit. He accepted Miriam’s rebuke and got back together with his wife Yocheved-knowing that the rest of klal yisroel would do the same. Moshe rebbeinu was saved, but countless other yidden willingly had children, knowing in advance that if it’s a boy, the infant would be thrown into the Nile and die by drowning-as indeed so many did.
I am curious to know what the din is and would it make a difference if they were already mikayem pru urvu. Also would the couple have the option of getting divorced in order to avoid this issue, especially if they can each get remarried to someone who is not a carrier.
“unemployed 18 year old high school dropout.”
The only truth in this statement is “18 year old”. Please check me on that.
“.but right this second you are basing this on a NY Daily News article..”
…and the girls mother who had a lot to lose(husband losing job, neices kicked out of school, son-in-law losing hechsher for his eatery etc) and nothing to gain.
…and the frum therapist who testified that it was her idea to have the victim report it to the police and that she showed signs of severe post traumatic stress syndrome
…and the victim who withstood 4 days of intense cross examination by a top attorney-who could not catch her on a single inconsistency
…most damning of all IMHO is the admission from Webberman himself that he was misyached with women in a way that is assur midioiraysa lichol hadaos.
Regardless of all of the above, assuming that we do not know whether or not Webberman is guilty, Ami is guilty of silencing all victims of these horrible crimes by granting an interview and front page coverage to Farkas.
Ami is also responsible to explain how this story pertains to a magazine that targets young orthodox readers. It has no place there-it is inappropriate and shows a lack of sensitivity on their part. Ask yourself honestly:Is this the kind of material you want your young and impressionable children to be reading?
I was very bothered by the Ami that had Farkas- the attorney for Webberman on the front cover. Firstly, many families do not want their children exposed to this whole topic, and I can’t see any positive benefit in bringing this story into our homes. Secondly, it gives a voice to Webberman, but no opportunity to R’ Horowitz to respond. If it turns out that Webberman is guilty, than Ami is complicit in silencing and farther intimidating the ability of victims to stand up to their oppressors. Is there any redeeming factor in that article? Did it serve any positive purpose?
The banana tree is a machloikes rishonim because as several posters mentioned, the stem either dies or is cut down each year after harvest and it regrows the next year from the original roots. It can grow up to 40 feet in one season, and looks like a tree but is actually a vine (the thick foliage around the vine make it appear thicker than it really is) Scientifically, bananas are actually not classified a s a fruit, but as a berry. The gemara classifies a tree for halachic purposes as something that the avzasah remains from year to year. There is a machlokes between Rashi and the Rosh whether this refers to the stem or the roots. We make a huadamah misafek as this satifies all the shitas at least bdieved. If one made a haetz by mistake on a banana, he may not make a huadomoh, because he was yotze according to one shitah, and as far as the other shitah, we say safek brachos lehakel. The same shailah applies to strawberries-although it does not look like a tree, it has the same issue as a banana and may be classified halachikly as a tree. See R Bodners sefer on hilchos brachos, and R’ Felders tape on the topic who raises an interesting nafka minah lihalachah.December 12, 2012 8:52 pm at 8:52 pm in reply to: Yasher Koach to Rabbi Horowitz of Project Yes, for protecting and not punishing #912588
Health “I grant you these are all problems, including the taking of Tzedaka money to purchase women’s undergarments. But e/o knows he wasn’t on trial for these things. He was on trial for molestation and nothing I’ve seen so far is even close to a “smoking gun” that makes the circumstantial evidence against him very strong.”
Point well taken. I was addressing your point that there was emotional bias involved and that antisemitism played a significant role in the verdict. I am merely pointing out that this was not necessarily antisemitism. Bullying is universally despised.
Bear in mind that she was cross examined for a combined total of 14 hours by a highly competent, well paid attorney, and he could not catch her on a single inconsistency.
iced-Just out of curiosity, throughout tenach and jewish history there were despicable people-some of them wearing all shmoinah begadim (literally). On what basis do you state with such certainty that he is innocent beyond a shadow of a doubt?
“So the extra Chasidish boys can marry the extra Litvish girls.”
You may be on to something. Now we have to iron out the kinks:ie His shtreimel and beard, her hair 🙂
“I usually check Amazon and find a book to read “
yeshivanet does not allow access to amazon. I’d appreciate if s/o can recommend a book this way I can request it at the library. Thanks in advance.
who can say who copied who.
mommamia22-“These statistics also breed hopelessness and may cause some to give up. That is not our way.”
Facing reality by identifying the issues and addressing them accordingly should not breed hopelessness so long as we do something about it.
N.G-“It’s up to G-d if 1 in 10 girls will not get married.DON’T LOOK AT STATS.”
There is always the question of where bitachon ends and hishtadlus begins. If these stats are accurate- and it makes sense that it is, then it should be our achrayus to address it.
Who knows, maybe there are hidden benefits in men marrying at 21. Learning in E.Y., which has become a given, might not be beneficial for all bochurim.December 11, 2012 5:44 pm at 5:44 pm in reply to: Yasher Koach to Rabbi Horowitz of Project Yes, for protecting and not punishing #912565
“It is the judgement that is given by instinct- the jury- like unthinking animals. May Hashem avenge the injustice soon.”
Although there was no forensic evidence, the circumstantial evidence is suggestive. Establishing a court system is one of the 7 mitsvos bnei noach.
“It seems juries in general are basing their decisions on emotions rather than on facts.”
There are issues that upset people-yidden and goyim alike. It does not reflect well that he did not have a license, his office was in his house rather then in a professional office(and he admits that he kept a bed in the office), she did not have a choice-neither about going to counseling in general nor about choosing Weberman in particular. The menahel decides which girls must go to counseling on threat of expulsion, and they dictate which therapist they must go to. Weberman is a first cousin to the menahel. They must give $12,000 up front. This presents itself as bullying, and would upset anybody.December 11, 2012 3:18 am at 3:18 am in reply to: Yasher Koach to Rabbi Horowitz of Project Yes, for protecting and not punishing #912549
“The verdict is a great tragedy and an insult to the Jewish people”
The Satmar community is a chashuvah kehilla. I have a lot of family there, and they are among the most special human beings you can find. Bikur cholim does amazing selfless work etc. etc. Satmar is not under scrutiny-an individual is.
“The 14 hour trips as I understand were with his wife. there is nothing wrong with that”
The accused never denied being alone with her on those trips.
“But to believe this was a fair trial is absurd.”
The accused hired a well known attorney who crossed examined her extensively. He attempted to destroy her credibility but was not successful. The jury was unanimous.
“She has been a highly immoral person since at least 15 yeats old, before she ever met him.”
She met him at age 12 and continued until 15.
“others have testified that there aren’t three lacks on the door.”
The were several therapy sessions per week for 3 years each lasting 4 hours in duration. He does not deny this-nor that the door was closed during this time. If there were no locks that may make it halachikly ok (?) but there are still hashkafic ramifications.December 10, 2012 10:35 pm at 10:35 pm in reply to: Yasher Koach to Rabbi Horowitz of Project Yes, for protecting and not punishing #912538
It is reasonable to be skeptical of the accuser especially since the accused is a well known, established member of the kehilla, while the accuser is a heretofore unknown girl who is no longer part of the kehilla.
However she has a few saving graces.
Yanky Horowitz is extremely street smart-you cannot get one past him. He is also a very respectful person. If he endorsed her it’s because he verified independently that her claims are indisputably true.
Her parents,who are part of the kehilla, backed her.
A frum therapist took the stand and testified that she advised the accuser to press charges. Coming forward was not her own idea. She moved on with life. She holds a job and goes to college.
Either one 🙂
rabbiofberlin-“Just for all those on this thread that keep on saying: “we are only making fun [of YCT]” you should all know that one of the worst sins -‘chatoim chamurim’ is “laitzonus”
Rabbi Betsy from YCT came out with a heter.
Happened to me recently. I thought I heard the “click” of when it’s done (must have been from the adjacent pump) and I pulled the nozzle out and got it all over my hand and shirt sleeve. It smelled awful and I was on the road on business. I had to go into a restroom and wash it in soap, wring it out, and keep my hand out the window the entire drive.
Mickey Mouse will be great for the economy. Who should be vp?
Mordechai is from muruh dachya which is targum’s translation for one of the besamim in the ketores.
Baila- spelled bais yud lamed alef-is an acronym for baruch Hashem leolam amen.
Yes! Do I get a membership card?
I’ve been wishing for such an invention since forever. Let me know when you have it out-I will be the first to head out and buy one…as soon as I find my glasses and car key.
nitpicker-I spoke to a mechaber of a hilchos pesach sefer who told me exactly what Shticky is saying-It can be used on paysach even if it is edible since it was changed and designated for play dough. It may not be advisable but it is technically muttar.
The Goq-“I dont like how they used a 5 year old picture of this “sweet smiling kid” hello?”
Why not level the playing field and post a picture of Zimmerman as a toddler?
oomis1105-“the ability to read body language so well”
I once read a fascinating book about body language. It claims that a person communicates 90% with his body language and only 10% verbally, so that if he is lying, his body is not in sync with his words, and when you get a sense that he is lying it is because you are subconsciously noticing the inconsistencies.
I can just see it- A few yeshivah guys sitting on the bus going over a ketzos, and some lady in the back pipes in and stumps them.
The feminine version of Kolel is Klalah.February 22, 2012 2:05 am at 2:05 am in reply to: New news story- OTD Lakewood woman with 4 kids wants custody #857184
New news story- OTD Lakewood woman with 4 kids wants custody
The title is a dead giveaway to what this post is really all about. It’s about YENTAHS. The attempt to present it as a sincere question and all this talk about gedolim and arvus is pathetic. Do yourself and your neighbors a favor and MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. And next time be nice and try a more tactful title.February 21, 2012 3:33 am at 3:33 am in reply to: New news story- OTD Lakewood woman with 4 kids wants custody #857127
The problem is we are all too busy with everyone else’s life. Mind your own business and you will be better off, and so will everyone around you. YENTAHS!
“my mom told me to go to school”. Assistant principal says,”call your mom to pick you up.” Student-“She’s not home”. Assistant principal-“well, for being chutzpadik im sending you to the 5th grade.
They punished an innocent child to get back at his mother.
Humiliating a child goes against every school of chinuch-it is simply not a constructive or appropriae method, aside from being retzichah.Bunch of bullies. Yesh din viyesh dayin!
Rumor has it he got into a fight with his wife, and she donated another 40 years of his life.
Anyone else on the shopping list?
He talks about it like it’s casual conversation, gets it broadcasted on the media etc. I’m sure he means well, but is in dire need of a refuah shelaimah bisoch shaar cholei yisroel.
greatest-Based on your sn, I would venture that you and Wolf are polar opposites-which may explain your antipathy towards him. It also puts him one over you-toeivas Hashem kol Gevah leiv.February 14, 2012 6:35 pm at 6:35 pm in reply to: The Koach of our Gedolim: A Story with Rav Chaim shlit"a #851437
nishtdayngesheft-“your shtick is definitely incredibly annoying. No redeeming features to it at all.”
You sound like a very unhappy person. My heart goes out to you. Maybe Wolf can offer you some counseling.
Any one else with bar mitzva ideas ?