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Reb shienberg would always say if one is learning they can wait till 24.
Although I think everyone will agree the right age is when ur ready…
It’s a shame the world looks at markets like gambling. Do they not realize that almost everyone on the planet is only able to retire with money in the bank because of markets whether Bond or stock. Obviously excluding crazy times like 1930 1987 & 2008 ur ALWAYS on top. And even in these tough aforementioned times waiting 1-3 yrs brings u back to where u were. There’s no guarentee for anything in life but the reward has to outweigh the risk and investing smartly does that. Putting $1000 in a bank account when ur at the prime investing time of your life is jut silly. Right now u have no debt no bills and a steady salary it’s perfect timing. No gamble ever returned on average every year 8.5% of your money. The stock market has since 1925… Don’t confuse ignorance with gambling. Trust me I’m not making money on you either way, but don’t pass up an opportunity, in 35 years you’ll be happy you didn’t
I’m sorry I misspoke. It would be about $1000 annually that would give u about $250,000 today…. Just $1000 would be about $12,000. Still not bad… just not 250,000:)… But still the best investment choice.
Joseph is on the money pun intended. Leave it there till retirement. If you would’ve invested $1000 30 years ago in that fund it would be 250,000 today. The ticker (acronym for the fund)is SPY. Don’t worry about risk, its not. Its investing in the entire stock market so the risk is about as low as it’ll ever be while investing in stocks.
Would u consider it a eating addiction/disorder cause if u know what it is a whole new group of people may be able to relate to you (eg;addicts even in other areas)bec u may not find somebody with this exact issue but still these ppl can give great support
I hate to sound like a philosopher here but happiness is totally the wrong word. Money can bring u pleasure and not having money can bring stress but neither one can make a person happy or unhappy. Happiness is a feeling of emotional peace and tranquility, serenity if u will, a feeling of acceptance of everything and anything that u have, and its not easy to REALLY be happy! eg; small children aren’t happy they are in a state of pleasure when that runs out they cry… same with money its not the cause of happiness it def makes u “pleasured” while u have it but dont mistake that for happiness bec if god forbid anything really bad happens to u in life u won’t be equipt to handle it and all ur “happiness” will go right out the window and even if ur a billionaire it won’t make u feel any better…
Bh no but its sounds like ur going through alot of pain I would suggest two things 1) continue to seek advice from ppl who have gone through something like this 2)a therapist could really help u identify the underlying issue at play here and give u tools to fix it seeing one for even only one or two sessions can help a tremendous amount. Hatzlacha!
What’s red and smells like blue paint? …Red paint
What’s brown and sticky ?…. a stick
A man had a very nice wooden car with a wooden roof and wooden engine but there was one problem… it wooden go!
How do u know ur done growing? I myself was very short and I went to a doctor bec of my height he took some tests and x-ray of my palm (yea palm wtvr long story) anyway turned out I was two years behind in my growth rate so if I was 18 then I was only 16 regarding my hieght and thatt would catch up anyway u should find out if ur done growing.
Hint: It has a lot to do with puberty
What do u want most in life peanuts?
First siman in mishna Berra chelek bies “nesiyos kapyim” or as we know it birchas kohanim
I don’t understand… what’s the question? Genetics? Halacha? Attraction?
i don’t use them and am not sure but they should have stats you can look at that will tell u how much return they gave for the past few years. regardless I saw they were advertising a 4% return rate which in my humble opinion is nothing so exciting u can get almost that return from govt bonds which are completely safe and u wont have to pay any fees, do some research before u invest your money know the basics
i wanna give a big thank you to all my fans, :). just kidding,
but i appreciate the positive feedback. i was afraid that i was gonna get some flack for some of the things i said.
no longer need sem help- a puller is someone who realizes that her skirt is too short (when she sits) and needs to keep on pulling it so that it covers her knees. this probably means that when walking the skirt is EXACTLY by her knees which is fine, but a girl who is careful about tzinus would only buy a skirt that would also be good in a sitting position (bec the laws of tznius arent only for standing or walking) so nothing to do with attention rather l’fi aniyas daiti (in my humble opinion) i think she doesnt want the guy to see that her knees arent covered and give a no bec of that, while most guys when they see that chap right away what her level of tznuis is. mainly bec however a girl dresses on a date that is usually gonna be more tznius then how she dresses regularly. for obvious reasons.
ok this gets a bit complicated so bear with me.
firstly I am a guy (I believe that was the qualification)
u should try ur best to just be regular, tznius also means not standing out in anyway so if people will look upon u because ur too tznius then u kind of missed the whole point.
second its a hard call with guys some guys find some things attractive others find other things. hair down or hair up most of the time wont make so much of a difference unless ur hair is flamboyantly displayed or very obviously untzinus like the very long shaitels or the hair only covering one eye (sorry if I offended anyone but facts are facts)
I know in regards to dating that many guys (and I’m not from a particularly yeshivish circle Im pretty much avg. I know its relative but I have friends from almost every yeshiva in bk and many in isreal ie: mir, torah temmiah, chofetz chaim, and brisk so I covered my bases) will automatically say no to a girl who is a “puller” or a girl who while sitting needs to consistently pull her skirt so that it covers her knees, that’s a no no. period. again not for everyone but for many guys.
also when picking clothing make sure the color isn’t a flamboyant color, I don’t mean u should wear black and dark grey but use ur saichol, don’t wear a bright red or bright orange shirt and wonder why people are looking and/or saying its not tzinuis. im not bashing anyone who does, rather just answering the question u posed regarding urself.
I don’t know what else to tell u ur question was pretty general but the main point is don’t stand out either way just blend in and ull know ur fine. (obviously stand out if everyone around u is very immodestly dressed).
I feel its inappropriate to go into other factors regarding the way women dress (bec I am a guy) so ill stop here but I must say its very impressive that ur willing to take measures to be more tznius its something people don’t really do today and from what I hear its the hardest nisoyon that women have so good for u!
i would assume any gemach but i cant tell u where to find them a rov could probably help with finding a gemach that can lend money interest free
I don’t understand, its perfectly normal to view it as a burden we say every morning in birches hatorah “veharev Na” make it sweet for us… I belive it was abaye who said something to the effect of there isn’t any enjoyment in learning and that it isn’t easy… ill have to find the exact language the orchos tzaddikim quotes it in his shar hatorah
Newhere women aren’t chayiv in shachris or mincha per se they are chayiv in teffilah that could be taking any min in the day and davening wtvr they want shachris tehillim or their own words, and even if they were chayiv in shachris they wouldn’t be held to the time restriction bec again they aren’t chayiv in ma”sg. Plus if they did raven it past zman teffillah it would just be mincha no?
I may have exaggerated on the price of teffilin but they are expensive.
Jewishfem: u make a good point about the broches in the morning I concede to u on that point
By the bridges/water are really nice have some friends set up a something nice and they can bounce before u come
Newhere- Are women not Patur from any mitzvah shasey Shehazman grama?
And teffilin does have to do with what time u wake up just go to the Diras in e’y and ull c what I mean 🙂
I don’t understand u could wake up wtvr time u want every day without ever having to worry about shema zman teffila or TEFFILIN do u realize what a luxury that is?? I love the mitzvah of teffilin, but seriously chill, why would u want another reason to never be able to sleep late or go places where a minyan is required?!
U wanna wear teffilin go ahead they cost 2000 bucks and have to be put on EVERYDAY not just when u feel spiritual, and can’t be kept just anywhere eg; sun heat etc. . Oh and a bag and accessories are like another 150$. U wanna tallis also?
My advice: enjoy the mitzvos u were given its alot easier for women to connect to god then for men they dont need all the extra stuff, maybe that’s why they weren’t given them, who knows
You’re all saying good, I honestly hear both sides. I do sound like I know the answer but to me what the answer is, isn’t necessarily what it really should be, but I thank u all for the input. Its good to know what people think.
So where does the world stand on mistakes that taka aren’t who that person is but a mistake they fell prey to… disclose? or not disclose? It may change a potential spouses view and make him/her drop the person but it really isn’t who that person is, its a real mess up a blunder if u will and one they regret.
Ok so to understand u would say that a mistake that a person makes be it big or small as long as its a mistake and really isn’t who that person is wouldn’t have to be disclosed, on the other hand if a person was consistently doing these things then the potential spouse should be informed?
You’re saying good
Feminist, because it was a major life event for one person doesn’t automatically mean that it must be shared. Again, the reason it could be a major event in that persons life is simply because of guilt or anger or whatever. When people do dumb things that are intense for them that doesn’t mean that it is important to share with another person necessarily.
And haleivi I hear what you’re saying, and I definitely understand in the context that you’re saying it in where a person has a whole history that’s shady, but what if she fell into something that was bad, call it a slip or mistake or anything u like but that wasn’t the type of person they were they happened to have made a doozy mistake would you still think it should be shared?
Poppa,very cute story but really that’s the argument for telling someone… a person grows up in their lifetime and what they do is part of development, ur not gonna tell ur spouse every time u sucked ur thumb or that u wore diapers as a child or numerous other things that people do that are part of developing As a human being… so in short yes it should make a difference what u would or wouldn’t say, especially if the spouse will gain nothing from it.
And haleeivi, we are obviously talking about a case where a person makes a mistake and then respeccted opinions agree that they are past it like a therapist or a rebbe or teacher. They don’t make that decision on their own. But regardless, murder? Really that’s what ur comparing a mistake someone makes throughout their life too? A mistake that harmed nobody except themselves compared to an action that ended 3 lives ?? I understand it was just an example/joke but it has to be in congruence one hurt others and one did not.
Ok and therefore?
Why is it a secret if u didn’t even know her when the thing was going on or happened? Why should marriage mean that every mistake someone makes in their life before getting married must be examined, ur marrying the person ur dating not who they were 2 weeks ago 2 months ago or 2 years ago.
aliens, mars , abducted etc.
ok firstly redleg.. wow thats awesome i never thought of it that way…the only queation is, can a date of 14 dates be held to the same trust level of a person thats married or even engaged, is it fair to ask that of them? maybe they are or should, i dont know just asking…
2nd softwords ur saying good and its true but may i turn u to redlegs first paragraph where red says very truthfuly that the past has a annoying way of popping up at the most unoppertune time.
3rd sam2 i understand that u cant tell bec of lashon hora but what if they themselves told their future “spice” would that be suggested? or the point is that nobody should say anything at all including themselves?
and to all people: isnt it difficult to have a full relationship with someone if u know that there are things that ur deliberately not saying BECAUSE ur nervous they will not accept u?
Well that’s not ambiguous at all
u guys are saying good but from an outside perspective as a klall what is considered the avg age to start or the avg time that is considered late to start, obviously if one feels he isnt ready to be a good father or husband he shouldnt begin but from an outside view what do people consider late
…Arbitrarily engaged in skepticism
All great answers thanks guys, but more precisely at what point does it become a question of “why hasn’t he started dating yet”? Is more what I mean.
look at this from the yeshiva guys point of view. he is in yeshiva all day, all year, assuming he is a good guy he is also learning. when does he have a chance just to have a good time with friends and let it all out? goyim have parties every weekend, when does a nice jewish boy have a chance to have a good time… from a baal teshuvas point of view u guys are taking this way to far, relax as long as he isnt hurting anyone leave him be, he’ll throw up once or twice dance his heart out cry a little to his rebbe and sleep like a baby for two days and before you can say petes potato pie he’ll be back in yeshiva learning again… chill klal yisroel.
i never read any jewish books until the will bec i heard it was really good and thats not true… its awesome. definitly read the will
blueridge really built up the last few years its really nice. very main stream types of families and a nice shul and rov. and not to mention really nice houses. its really a nice place to live. the chisoron is that there arent stores there, you would have to drive to waterbury, about a 4 min drive.
wtrbry also has greatly expanded. they just started a girls high school and the community is really constantly growing.
they do get a nice amount of snow in the winter though. although this year they got less then brooklyn but so did alaska so…
ok jokes over… u impostor! u aren’t the real rocky zweig…I AM THE REAL ROCKY ZWEIG… ask me anything !
rocky ive told u this before and ill say it again u gotta start a twitter account (not sure how many people have told u that but i told u in person, that should make it a bit easier to identify me)
depends if you go to gehinom or gan eden 🙂
U MUST UNDERSTAND ONE THING BEFORE YOU ASK PEOPLE- the high school and bies medrash are TWO DIFF THINGS. and many people dont chap that. i noticed passerby said that most people who enter are at risk type kids… thats specifically talking about the high school. i have many many friends in the b”m there and they are really awesome awesome guys. so unless youre dating the high school kids… of course like in every yeshiva it all depends on the guy but there are some top notch guys there.
and on a side note one question; didnt you say that you got redt to good guys from there? if thats the case so what are u asking exactly? who cares what yeshiva they are from if they are good guys then they are good guys… but thats for a different thread 🙂
I totally hear what u are saying about loans and jobs that require immediate entry and there are ways to deal with that issue maybe stop school a semester early that solves both issues I know that was my eitza that way loans don’t take effect till 6 months after u finish school and a job isn’t required till u full finish
2)where did I imply solid earner learner don’t exist actually quite the contrary I said that adam3 seemed better then many guys I know
Good post I believe the reasons are as follows
1) nothing is wrong with you if you are a working guy in fact you sound better then many yeshiva guys I know! BUT u must understand that a learning guy is going to be more preferable for reasons that aren’t our discussion right now but they will be, that’s simply what girls want.
2)people understand that they won’t have a shver to support BUT that would give one leeway to go to school while in yeshiva but to go to work I think across the board ppl feel is unnecessary bec even if u are in yeshiva till the day you get married you still won’t starve if u get a job right after you get married and the plus is you were in yeshiva till then! and another plus is not working as a bachur which brings us to …
3)the reason girls will ask if you wear tzitzis is simply because many many working guys DONT (I hate to burst the bubble) but if they are working and aren’t married its easy to drop and fall in Judaism. When one is married they simply won’t fall bec they are “set” in their ways and held there with a spouse
P.s. I don’t think the girls want Rosh yeshivas but many feel a learning guy will be stronger in his yiddishkiet whether that true or not is up for debate.
But I do commiserate with you, you sound like you have ur Priorities right, I”yh you will find the right one bkarove!
Your username should be more then skin deep “the little I know” ,of course nothing personal, but by you saying that “troubling to hear the pronouncements coming from the position of ignorance” that’s pretty rough don’t you think? I mean you have no idea, since we are all anon here, if popa is a psychotherapist or if anyone else is for that matter, maybe popa is very well versed in cbt, maybe they have a personal friend whom it hadn’t worked for after all popa brought proofs that it doesn’t work, I haven’t checked those but still I think you are coming with the presupposition that we are all typical close minded frummies and have no clue what cbt even is and I for one won’t stand for it, do not hold yourself on a higher standard if you don’t know what the other actually knows
Honestly talk to a rebbe that u trust and then make ur next move its not an easy road to go on alone, good healthy advice helps a tonDecember 4, 2013 7:05 pm at 7:05 pm in reply to: Surprisingly, the more I hear about Obamacare, the more I like it. #993886
its like the forbidden fruit, ur not supposed to want it so u think you really like it the more you hear. Unfortunately this can very likely be the end to Americas lead in having some of the best physicians on the planet.
Take it anyway u want
I cooked someone’s goose today