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You guys may joke about it, but where I live it has become legal, and I fear of all the societal ills that it will cause.
According to wikipedia white wedding dresses and veils are a relatively newer concept for the Western world:
The tradition of a white wedding is commonly credited to Queen Victoria’s choice to wear a white wedding dress at her wedding to Prince Albert in 1840.
Royal brides before Victoria did not typically wear white, instead choosing “heavy brocaded gowns embroidered with white and silver thread,” with red being a particularly popular colour in Western Europe more generally.
Although women were required to wear veils in many churches through at least the 19th century, the resurgence of the wedding veil as a symbol of the bride, and its use even when not required by the bride’s religion, coincided with societal emphasis on women being modest and well-behaved.
The Chazan at my synagogue uses ‘Amonai’
This is what haman was also saying:
The Gemara says Shahi Pahi in context of haman saying that we don’t respect his laws. But remember that the Persian word for King is Shah. So Haman was in essence saying that they make stupid rhymes with your name (Southern Persians who live in the Pars province still do that). Haman was saying that not only do they not respect your laws, they don’t even respect you name, and the make fun of you.
From the east coast (NJ) to Seattle to live.
Was there recently; here are few that I liked:
- Rampart walk – along the top of the Old City wall. Get tickets just inside Shaar Yaffa – to the left
- rebuilt Churva Shul – I think you can only go in for davening. I got lucky to be there at the right time.
- Har Hazeitim
- Ein Gedi – the cool waterfalls was much needed on such a hot day
- Kibbuts Sdei Eliyahu – Dati kibbuts that does natural agricultural methods
- City of David – just south of the Kotel. Possibly David’s own castle.
- Ammunition Hill – interactive movie with 3D model of Jerusalem that lights up
- I’m a Kohen so I could not go into the Maarat HaMachpela (yes I know there are those who are Matir, but the psak I got was ‘no’) But anyways, the pizza shop there has Great pizza.
- Speaking of food, the felafel shop across from the Cardo (where the columns are) is also really good.
- See other Yeshivot. I was glad to have brought my son the Yeshiva of Rav Yaacov Hillel. Unfortunately for me, he was giving shiur, but it was real powerhouse of hatmada. I’m glad to have seen that and show my son that.
- Don’t forget about the people there. See the specialness in them also.
Try this from the Seattle Vaad:
http://www.seattlevaad.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/03/produce-checking-policy-public-3-20-8.pdf
Here in Seattle, where the sun only occasionally shines, I heard the sunglasses are often lost. It’s been so long since you last put them on. I know where mine are, but I can’t remember the last time I wore them.
And here I thought that Navi was only half as good as the Torah.
I finally finished the shtender 🙂
I have a few notes (from my own experience) to tell everyone that plan on doing it.
I made the angle for the top of the shtender to about 41 degrees. While that is good for davening (which is my primary use), it is not good for learning when you sit and pull it back. A sefer will almost stand completely upright and may not sit right. For a learning shtender make it about 25 to 30 degrees, which means to make the difference between the front and back of the sides to about 3-3.5 inches.
ICOT suggested a circular saw, but I used a jigsaw. The jigsaw may have less power and a little longer cutting time, but I was able to make rounded edges on the top and the feet.
I used wood glue in the beginning, but found it not so easy to work with (maybe I need to be more careful and patient). I found that the main way that the wood holds together is by the screws. A problem that I had with glue is that where the glue is, the wood stain won’t absorb. There is stain-able wood glue, but I did not have it, nor did I realize the issue until staining.
I used a drill for pilot holes so that the screws did not split the wood.
I opted against making a door (see above post).
All in all, my first shtender was a success. If anyone is in the neighborhood and wants to see it, I’d be glad to show it.
Thank you ICOT !
Evil donuts should be destroyed. Give them to me and I will get rid of them 😀 <- that’s a pic of me with my mouth open to get rid of them.
ICOT,
I need help for making a floor shtender with a door in the front.
Can you give some instructions for the door?
Your detailed instructions above are good, but I’m not sure about making a door. I am in the middle of making a shtender following your instructions above.
I don’t like name tags. They are judgmental and lead to L”H.
Does anyone have a recipe for water challah – with minimal eggs, sugar, or oil?
According the Rambam, products of the above recipes would warrant a bracha of mezonot.
Miss L. Aneous, as far as I understand, according to some Ashkenazic views your challah would be mezonos because most of the liquid added is not water. There is a slight majority of eggs and oil (assuming that an average egg is 2 oz).
The Rambam writes that if you live in a corrupt world, then you should go live in a cave to avoid it. Rav Yoel said that a yeshiva is such a cave.
Maybe I did not present myself clearly when I said “what obligations – operational and financial- are required for the employer in order to get the tax credit?” As I mentioned above, the law has about 2000 pages. There seems to be an awful amount of stuff that was passed and many may not understand all the laws and ramifications. For example, the tax credit can only be used for two years. See the original text at http://docs.house.gov/rules/health/111_ahcaa.pdf see the bottom of p 319. The IRS also has that part of the law listed on the page http://www.irs.gov/newsroom/article/0,,id=227404,00.html
Therefore, as far as I’m concerned the tax credit is little more than a ruse to sound like there are great benefits for small businesses. In reality, it’s a short lived benefit that returns thousands of dollars back to a business while the same law obligates the business to shell out tens of thousands ongoing.
cleverjewishpun,
A few random thoughts, some may be critical:
I agree with others that your religiosity is about your connection with Hashem. But if rude comments about you hurt you relationship with Hashem, then maybe your relationship was based on peer pressure or should I say the rewards of a being called a “good kid”. No where in your original post, when talking about your religious life, do you talk about your relationship with Hashem.
You wrote “All I see is discord and hate and bigotry and mistrust of someone who has the slightest difference in either a hashkafa or a mode of dress” Again you are letting others define your relationship with G()D.
You wrote “I tried to be as closeted as possible as my father is a well respected memeber of the community and his business is tied closely to that.” Public image again. Not that I’m suggesting to hurt your father’s interests, but look at your perspective that keeps coming up.
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You mentioned that you and your wife split because of financial problems which caused other problems. It seems that you are working now (as you mentioned working late on Fridays). Does your job pay well now? Could there be a chance of getting back together? Don’t you think that she also had immeasurable pain when you two divorced? I know what I’m suggesting is unusual, but it may be worth a try.
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It sounds like you live in/near the community that you grew up in (you said that you don’t want to shame your father). Maybe you should find a different community to develop yourself. Lech Lecha – go for yourself and your own growth.
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I’d like to mention that I am impressed that you “still attend shuirim, still put on tephilin every day. [You] still managed to take off for the yamin noramim and other yamim tovinm.” But please don’t care about my being impressed.
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My suggestion is that you should pray a lot, but in your own words, your own feelings. Hisbodidus. Create and grow your own relationship with Hashem.
Charliehall-
Your list of benefits in the health care law sounds nice, but what exactly is the law, the whole law – all 2000 pages of it.
For example, what obligations – operational and financial- are required for the employer in order to get the tax credit? You make it sound like a tax credit is good for the employers, but is the whole picture good for employers?
I do not know what is the medicare “donut hole”, but I am sure that different people describe it differently. Consequently, there will be different “fixes” to it. How does the law address it (whatever it is) effectively?
I could on about how your list is just political grandstanding based on a craftily worded and biased poll. This stuff happens all the time in politics – when your ideas won’t sell then artificially create your support.
I just started reading the OnlineGelt 101.
I find it well written, to the point, and informative.
Thank you.
Mrs. Braun,
It seems that there is only one Menachem Braun in Baltimore, and
these are the links that I found about his marriage last year to a lady named Chaya:
http://matzav.com/wedding-of-menachem-braun-chaya-moldaver
http://www.onlysimchas.com/v4/index.cfm/fuseaction:simcha.view/simchaid:88019
http://jewbyte.wordpress.com/2009/08/18/new-engagement-mazel-tov-braun-family/
I apologize for any Motsai Shem Ra. I glad you found such conjecture amusing, but I am a bit embarrassed for being so silly. The world is not always so logical.
Just by a little googling, I found that she is indeed a real person that lives in Baltimore. She moved there last year because or her second marriage. Ok, she’s real, what about her program?
This is not the first (nor probably the last) time that some one has sold such affiliate programs. From what I read, there is money to be made, but it’s not so easy. Like apushatayid said above, you need to drive lots of traffic to your site, which is not easy.
Ben Torah,
I think that the far lower crime rate in Japan is due to their harsh punishment of criminals. The have no tolerance and, from what I understand, they apply their harsh laws “fairly” to all criminals. Not haphazardly like we do.
Place a couple tissues over the sink like drop-cloths when painting. When done, pick them up carefully and most of the hairs are cleaned up.
Maybe make them damp first so that the hairs stick to the tissues.
You can buy an inexpensive humidifier that makes warm steam for about $15-$20 at a drug store. They are the kind that you add a pinch or two of salt. When the water runs out, the thing stops working (until refilled), so it does not waste electricity.
I think it’s worth buying because they come in handy rather often. I find using a humidifier helpful during the winter even without having a cold.
One possible reason is that there is the concern that a BT does not know how to run a religious home. BT’s may be committed now, as an adult, but they never grew up in a frum community. Therefore they don’t know a frum way to raise their children (besides reading about it or occasionally seeing it). The same reasoning may apply to other parts of Jewish life.
I think that some frum people think that since they don’t live an immoral, hedonistic life because of the Torah, that others – who don’t follow the Torah – must have done all that. People may reject someone whom they fear as being previously a substance abuser, immoral, etc… The fear may not be rational, but it’s there.
real-brisker,
From you post, it seems that the wraps were made from apple juice. That being the case, I don’t see why they should not write that the bracha is mezonot. They are selling you wraps and not the whole seuda.
I think that they assume that you know your shita for keviat seuda and they are not going to pasken for you. Is keviat seuda a subjective amount (until one is full) or an objective amount (weight of 3,4,7, or 22 “eggs”)? How much does one “egg” weigh? Do you include the food eaten with the mezonot or not? I don’t think that they can include that whole discussion on the side of a box of wraps.
I think that technically, it would not be L”H, BUT it still is not a proper way of communicating.
It seems to me that if these topics are taught in school (in the right time, setting, from the right person, etc.) then one may approach them with a sense of kedusha. Otherwise one may get an unholy view about certain things, especially if they are exposed to various forms of media. Even rated G movies are loaded with many implicit notions of relationships, both emotional and physical.
I preface my comments by saying that I don’t know what is considered proper and tsniut for young ladies education.
IMHO, I agree with bymeidel that there should be more education in various tsniut matters.
bymeidel, please note that you don’t even have to go so far as the Shulhan Aruch to find out about dirty media being not allowed. You say in the third paragraph of Kriat Shema that we are not to be lead astray by our hearts and eyes.
Let me also inform you that a man’s hirhurim are worse that a ladies. Therefore it’s very important for a lady to not cause his hirhurim by non-tsniut dress, action, and speech.
Concerning G-d and the Holocaust:
It seems to me that is you are going to blame G-d for whatever bad that happened, then you are implying that G-d runs the world. At that rate, to be consistent in thought, then a person should have to praise Hashem for all the good in one’s life (from the simplest to the most complex). If one can really be that cognizant of Hashem, then the question won’t really bother you.
On the other hand, if one believes that the good that happens to mankind is a product of our own doing, then (in being consistent) one should see the Holocaust as a product of man’s doing. In this case the questioning of G-d is useless.
In short, the question comes up by people that are either inconsistent and/or ingrates.
Spontaneity won’t change the guys conversation. A yeshiva man should be deep into the yeshiva and his Rav.
Try a different venue for a date other than talking in a lounge – something that will challenge a person. Maybe doing a project together – like volunteer for a chessed org, an art class, or apple picking.
The Gemara in Brachot (32b) says that Tefillah is one of 4 things that need constant strengthening. I think that tefillah is to be looked at as an art form. It takes constant work to perfect it.
In general, people have the wrong idea that something in ruchniut should have effects immediately. Whether they do a mitsvah or otherwise, they think that they should be rewarded (or otherwise) immediately. I have to say that after doing birkat cohanim every day, sometimes I feel unsure of the benefits. But I remind myself that the Ribbono Shel Olam answers us with what we need and when we need it. Hashem knows whats best for us and the best time to give it to us.
The rabbi in my old shul said that if you are late (even 1 min) you lose your makom kavua.
According to that, The Wolf did not lie.
BTW, one is not allowed to lie for peace. The Gemara say Mutar LeShanot – one is permitted to equivocate; i.e. say something that can be interpreted as the truth as well as be interpreted otherwise and hope the listener will understand it the way you want them to.
Dear Moderator,
Thank you for moderating my post to a cleaner lashon without changing the ideas expressed.
MDG
I think it’s best to buy fresh broccoli and cut off the florets (where the bugs hide). Then wash the stems and branches. Works for asparagus also.
As far as raising kids (or adults), NYC can be an unhelpful place for development of middot. Your frumkeit comes with little effort and many of those services, like restuarants, are there to serve and develop your gashmiut. One can be a naval birshut haTorah while being heimish.