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ther halacha forbis a frum jew from joining because the force you to listen to kol isha”.
The need to protect E”Y is one of pikuach nefesh. Kol isha is not 100% clear in all aspects of the issur, and it certainly does not take precedence over human life.
I hope the people being quoted gave consent to appearing in the magazine, in case they were recognizable.
I like people to be real, non-pretentious, no swagger, just simple menschlechkeit. I never went for the “cool” guys, and certainly didn’t marry one. But I did marry the warmest, kindest,sweetest “nerdy” baal chessed on the planet. You can keep cool. I’m happy with what I’ve got.
And with the Arabs, it’s a recent thing”
Are you serious????? They have said REPEATEDLY, vociferously, and loudly that they want to throw every Jewish/Zionist man, woman, and child into the sea! They not only MEAN everything they say 100%, they cannot WAIT to show how much they mean it!
You honestly think that thousands of years of Yishmael is a RECENT thing? You are right that they have big mouths, big mouths and even bigger murderous agendas. Their total lack of respect for human life is scarier than anything else. They will push their own children in the line of fire, and then call Israel the aggressors. Dayeinu.
I was going to say brown rice also. Maybe you are using too much water???
Just because a boy has no zitzfleish for Yeshivah all day, does not mean he has to go OTD. The RIGHT derech has to be found for him, i.e. an alternative to the Yeshivah environment that he is in presently. Chanoch lanaar al pi darko means exactly that. We don’t come in “one size fits all.” Some kids need a different methodology, a different teaching and learning style, and cannot handle the structure of a typical Yeshivah class. Should they be thrown away because of that? How many neshamos have been lost because of the inability to recognize this?
Oomis
The crazy thing is that I used to love going on the biggest, fastest roller coasters at Great Adventure. You couldn’t get me off of them. Now, you can’t get me on them. Go figure! “
Gam ani. There was nothing that scared me in amusement parks as a teenager/young adult. The higher the better, the faster the more fun. Now, my speed is the Tilt-a-Whirl and the Carousel. Don’t even THINK about the Gravitron.
Thanks for the really nice words from you and Syag. I have always TRIED to maintain a pleasant demeanor, because I subscribe to the belief that one can disagree without being disagreeable. But I have on occasion made a gaffe or two, or possibly expressed my opinion in a somewhat more forceful (and maybe even a little judgmental)way than I intended to come across. I’m glad it wasn’t perceived negatively. 🙂
“oomis, does that mean you can get both feet in? How do they taste?? 🙂 “
SayIdidit- this just reminded me of something my 4 year old granddaughter tried to do one day when she was much younger…
Like Mommamia, I have developed (in recent years) a fear of going over bridges. It is irrational, and I used to LOVE going on bridges. Nothing ever happened to me on a bridge, I just basically woke up one day, afraid of being on one. It doesn’t stop me from traveling, but I also ask my hubby to drive in the center of the bridge.
Many of the fears mentioned are not unexplainable. There are sound reasons to fear lightning, certain bugs, snakes, and MICE (a biggie with me). What is more unexplainable might be a fear that inerferes with one’s ability to live life and enjoy it.
You know it is said that until a man is married he is not complete. After marriage, he’s finished!
I nominate…
EVERYONE!
When did you last read a good book?
Oomis, attempts to annihilate Klal Yisroel(c^v) were pretty much limited to the bnei Eisav”
Not certain I agree with that 100%. The muslim world are Bnei Yishmael, not Esav, and they want to drive us into the sea.
If yes, then you must have a “big mouth”!!!!”
yes, I have been told that on occasion! 😛
(zeeskite, seriously, you are so nice).
Chava was made (at Adam Harishon’s request for a mate like all the other creatures had)from his rib, because it was under and close to his heart, and so that she would always be by his side and his eizer k’negdo.
I nominate myself for occasional foot-in-mouth disease. 🙁
Thank you for this timely post.
Oomis: I suppose you have the same feeling for Italian and the Romans, considering what they did to the Beis Hamikdash and the Jewry they murdered in Yerushalayim. “
I would, if it had happened in my time. Today’s Italian is not the LATIN of those Romans, probably. But it is still far removed from modern history. The Holocaust is too close to home. And let’s be honest – there is NO nation of people, no group, no country that has not hated Jews and tried to annihilate us (maybe Swahili?). So basically, we should hate ALL languages but Hebrew.
Yosef did not wear white. His clothing was multi-colored. He was a Tzaddik.
The only way to make the army more “pure” is for pure people to join it en masse and lead by example. And I thought a milchemes mitzvah today was a milchama fought against sonim who want to eradicate Klal Yisroel. Would you not say that describes the Arab agenda pretty accurately?
I think the chilonim justifiably do not “get” why any Jew should be exempt from defending E”Y, simply because he is learning. My cousins who are ALL frum, served their time in the army in NACHAL, and the girls did sherut leumi. I would only concur that girls should not be forced into army service when they could be doing something to help their country that does not require military training.
Learning unfortunately did not save the boys who were slaughtered a few years ago in their Yeshivah. Had those bochurim all been trained militarily, perhaps the story would have had a happier outcome. At the very least, they would not have been sitting ducks. There is no dishonor in knowing how (and being prepared) to defend oneself and one’s country. Quite the contrary. And yes, the learning is also crucial for that.
And, from what I understand, girls get a two week vacation before Pesach. And yes, they help their mothers. But they do have a nice amount of time for themselves as well.”
Ours never did. Two days before Pesach (three if erev yom tov was Monday, so they were given Friday also). Otherwsie they had school, and I was really ticked off because I needed ALL my kids’ help.
What made it even worse, the schools always scheduled PTA conferences within the week before Pesach. Like I had nothing to do but sit in school all evening just before yom tov, waiting for a five minute conference telling me how sweet my girls are. Why thery could not do this the week AFTER Pesach, is beyond me. But no one ever asked my opinion.
For boys who are taught not to look at girls, it seems a little hypocritical to have them looking at PICTURES of girls.
Why do boys get off from school for two weeks from Yom Kippur through the end of Sukkos, and girls get off Erev Sukkos?
Pirkei Avos, Shammai said “Receive each person with a cheerful countenance.”
What he said!!! (I just posted a reference to that in another thread)
I am a Happy Bubby, 5’2″ brown eyes, brown hair (under cover). BIG special smiles on my face for my grandkids, seiver panim yafos for mostly everyone. I am a former editor and shul secretary and I love to write grahmen and parodies. I especially enjoy my time spent in the CR with all you fascinating people!
If all we needed to win was the Torah, then Hashem would NEVER have sent Am Yisrael into ANY battle. But he did. Time and time again.
It is naive and foolish to say that we don’t need soldiers to fight, all we need is Torah. Of course we need both. That is part of our hishtadlus. Yes, we need Torah learners, but those same Torah learners need to know how to defend themselves properly. The point that was made about if an Arab stormed a Yeshivah, would you arm yourself with a Torah or pull out an Uzi to shoot him, was an excellent one. Moshe Rabbeinu was at the forefront of every battle.
Don’t start and you won’t have to worry about how to stop and whether or not it is muttar. You will also save a BOATLOAD of money, be healthier and cleaner, and not turn people off with your yellow teeth, stained nails, and stench (one, which smokers tend to be oblivious to, just like dog owners never notice the doggy smell in their house). Better yet, you will probably live longer, and help keep the air you and your loved ones (as well as the rest of us) breathe, cleaner. It’s a no-brainer.
I think it’s a great idea but with no practical application at this site. The whole point of the YWN site is that it is anonymous (not a good thing when one is trying to meet one’s bashert). Try to work on the idea a bit more; it has potential.
JHF, 🙂
“I think it’s weird to make such a big to-do over shirt color or “wacky socks.” It’s actions and middos that count. There wouldn’t be such a “shidduch crisis” if we taught our children to ignore the fashion and focus on the personality. “
This excellent observation bears repetition.
I am retired but have been the primary caretaker for my granddaughter and now B”EH for my grandson, when my daughter was in school and now that she will be working part-time.
I wanted and offered to do this, because frankly and chauvinistically, I believe that no “fremdeh” will love my grandchildren unconditionally the way I do, and why should a stranger have the nachas of watching the baby grow and develop, when I could be the one? What babysitter, unless frum (and they are hard to find for one on one babysitting here) is going to “daven” with the baby from Day One, as I do, saying Modeh Ani and the Shema, making a point to eat something when the baby gets a feeding, so he can hear me make a bracha? Sing Torah tziva lanu Moshe every day (it really WAS the first sentence I taught my own children to say)? My time is free, I’m filled with love and excitement at the thought of spending quality AND quantity time with my grandkids, and it will save my daughter and son-in-law the money they would have had to otherwise shell out for a nanny. Win-Win situation. It’s even part-time, so I have ME time as well during the day. Can’t wait.
Limiting, but not totally depriving them of sweets, preferably healthy ones. Making sure they get enough sleep and not over-stimulated in the two hours before bed time. Giving them nutritious meals, teaching them proper hygiene, working with them but not for them, when they need homework help,and giving them unconditional huge amoutns of love, especially when one does not feel especially happy with them for some reason.
Above all, IMO, BOTH parents must be equally involved in their children’s upbringing, even when the mom is the primary caregiver. I am disturbed whenever I see fathers who have little or no time to spend with their children, even on weekends. Dads who will not make the time to come to the PTA conferences, or who think kids’ sports activities are shtuss, so they don’t need to watch them play, are missing out on a fundamental chance to bond with their children. It is wonderful to learn with your kids, but what do you do until they are old enough to open a Gemarah with you?
Zk, you are well-named. TY (and who says you are a silly personality, I’ll deal with THEM later!) 🙂
Nowadays, only when I am with my aineklach and want to play with them and make them laugh. Then, I will do virtually ANYTHING childish!
Chocolate and or cheese danish. Cheese cake (nothing better than a really terrific marble cheesecake), and any meringue.
Different strokes for different folks, I guess.
My son used to drive a real clunker. There were in fact some girls who looked down their noses at that. B”H he is not seeing any of them anymore.
Yes, I would like a guy to have a nice car rather than an ugly one, but only if he can afford it himself, not from his parents, and if the appearance of the car is reflective of the beauty inside HIM, then it is fine by me. A nice car does not automatically mean a nice guy.
So that we can live our lives FULLY the way Hashem truly wants us to in E”Y, with no worries about the Goyim, or where our parnassah is coming from, or how Jews will get along with each other.
Forgive me for being naive but why do daughters get nothing? “
The Torah presupposes that the eldest son will financially look out for his family. In this day and age, that might not be such a certainty. Bnos Tzelafchad came before Moshe Rabbeinu with that issue, and it was a stumper all right. The decision was made that they should marry men within their tribe only, and the Yerusha would go to each husband, so the property remained in the tribe.
I do not know a thing about how yerusha is supposed to work, but I would tend to think that nowadays it would be equitably distributed. A rov should be always be consulted on what is proper, if there is any question.
Ummm… I think we have done that already. Many times. But go for it – there are some terrific people here who could use a shout out!
“We are not supposed to feel comfortable in the galus”
Sorry but that has nothing to do with the special quality of gehenom that is Germany vis a vis modern Jewry. While on an esoteric level, you are right, your point does not speak to the issue at hand. I specifically hate hearing German spoken because of negative feelings it evokes. English is the language of the country in which i was born, and I have many happy memories associated with it.
Love it. But I am married, so my vote doesn’t count. it certainly would not bother my girls.
Here’s a question for the guys:
If an intelligent girl expresses the desire to be a Stay At Home wife and mother, would THAT be a dealbreaker for YOU? If not, why not, and if so, why?
B’chor is b’chor. B’chor PETTER RECHEM needs a pidyon, whereas a C-Section b’chor does not. But he was still born the ben hab’chor. If there are 7 children and he is the eldest, the Yerusha would likely be divided 8 ways, and he would receive two shares. Double doesn’t mean twice as much as ALL of them put together, or half the worth of the estate. He just gets twice what his normal share should have been had he not been a b’chor. At least that is how it was told to me in Yeshivah. Sure hope I don’t have egg all over my face right now, for being misinformed…
Poster “Oomis”
Really? What have I done to deserve this? TY
it’s SUPPOSED to mean warm and homey, but it has come to mean a totally different connotation strictly from an hashkafic perspective, and personally I am not sure what that perspective is supposed to be. One speaks of a heimish hashgocha, and I am pretty certain they don’t mean a little old gray-haired lady is standing by with a plate filled with hot cookies, giving her OK.
Any language that is spoken too quickly, bothers me. I don’t like hearing Chinese, because of the ups and downs of the inflection. German bothers me from a strictly emotional point of view.
ARABIC MAKES ME SICK. Period.
Other than English and Hebrew (or Aramaic, which is beautiful also), my favorite language to hear spoken is Italian, because it is a melodic language, and I agree with “babytalk” because I’d love to hear ANYTHING my new ainekal will babble when he is able. This, above all.
Mod42 that is actually something I was taught inr ecent years. We all would do a version of “Kadosh, Kadosh, Kadosh,” at the end of Shemonah Esrai after bowing to the right, left, and front, and no one knew why. We just did it. The three steps back and then three forward at the beginning of the davening, we were taught, was that in order to approach Hashem kivyachol, we had to first take three steps back, then go forward.
More_2, I would let it cool off first, and wrap it well, otherwise it will get freezer burn and smell off. If it is not cooled completely and is wrapped while even slightly warm, it will produce condensation in its wrapping, which will make the challah soggy. Cool it on a rack, then wrap airtight and freeze.
I bake in advance and freeze ( or even when I buy challahs in bulk), sealing tightly in giant ziploc bags and squeezing out the air. Then when I need them I put them in the oven right from the freezer and bake for about 10-15 minutes at 350, then turn off the oven and leave them in until I need them on the table. They come out like fresh baked.
Mekal melamdi hiskalti.