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ubiquitin, you would think that Tintin’s prodigious “chup” would have been effective protection against repeated blunt force trauma. As it turned out, my own chup provided little protection from corporal punishment. In fact it probably increased the frequency of both frask and patsch applications to my personal space.
In all seriousness, I suspect the problems with Tintin in our community aren’t the adventures in the name of justice. While Tintin and his friends’ methods can be subversive, the results are positive for the people who were wronged and the bad guys who needed to be stopped. The real problem is that Tintin and his adventures glorify a goyish/secular life that is anything but Yeshivish. Why would anyone want to feed our kids an appreciation of a life off the derech? Would we want our daughters to aspire to marry former boy scouts or military men?
I never read Tintin, but I had a “chup” like his, which my Rebbe despised. Therefore his books should be considered a bad influence.
Batman, on the other hand, dresses in black and covers his head, so he seems more Yeshivish. Plus his gloves help him avoid N’giyah when apprehending Catwoman.
BDE. May the CTL family know good health, mitzvahs and simchas.August 29, 2022 4:50 pm at 4:50 pm in reply to: what advice do u wish you’d have received when you were younger? #2119519
AAQ > Far be it from me to argue with Chazal. While I think there’s merit to the logic that someone’s economic status can be a factor in compatibility, “character” is much more important. I know my wife, who comes from a family with higher economic status, appreciates and respects me more than someone else I could have been married to, with a lower status. “Same’ach B’chelko” is a large part of this as well as general Derech Eretz.
So not surprisingly, I have great contempt for the “Shidduch Resume”. Sure, I would counsel someone to look at a potential spouse’s location and education level but not much else. If I think there’s a POTENTIAL for like-mindedness, then I would want to meet the “candidate” and then the candidate’s family multiple times before making a decision. I really don’t think the Shidduch Resume would make that process more efficient. A Shidduch Resume would never reveal potential red flags which may be more critical than “Yichus”, so why bother.August 28, 2022 4:04 pm at 4:04 pm in reply to: what advice do u wish you’d have received when you were younger? #2119188
AAQ, I agree that like-mindedness is more important than nusach, money, or ivy status. It’s often the families that accentuate the differences and amplify the friction. My children married into different “statuses” and I respect them all.
As for the advice I wish I’d gotten, I got it instead from a short story I read in Hebrew Language class called “Same’ach B’chelko”, to be satisfied with what I have. So as far as material things go, I’ve always been content!
Das, I was glad to see what you wrote, it provides some balance to my comments:
As a parent, if my son was clearly capable and motivated to learn at increasingly advanced levels, I would support him. If my son was only learning 8-12 blatt a year, I would push him to excel at something else. I would like to think that Rav Aaron saw Lakewood as a place where the Talmidei Chachomim and future Poskim can thrive, and their brothers who are not so inclined can be respected for becoming the best plumbers, doctors, etc. that they can be. And for those who do well in their jobs or businesses, I wouldn’t deny them buying nice dresses for their wives, as long as they also are giving back to the community.
We could have a long discussion about the “excesses” both for the people who pay for them, and the people whose parnossah is dependent on selling them. The bottom line is that we shouldn’t waste time judging others on matters like this, it only spreads contempt for the community, and hurts everyone. We should all be happy with what we have and focus on our own personal yiddishkeit.
Would riding in an automated vehicle that requires no active controls or commands still be considered ho’tza’ah? If that’s OK, then I shouldn’t have to wait for the technology. I could have a shabbos goy pick me up in a conventional car and take me home based on the shul’s schedule, as long as I have no interaction (spoken words, hand gestures) with the goy.
And back when there were human elevator operators, were shabbos elevators necessary? As long as the operator recognized you on the ground floor, he could take you to the correct floor for your apartment. (But you’d have to walk downstairs when going to shul)
“he is just not for me” is exactly what it means. It doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with your son, just that something the girl wanted wasn’t there. Or she saw or heard something she didn’t want. Lashon Hara and Rechilus could be factors. It could be something silly like your son’s appearance or voice reminded her of someone with whom she had a bad experience – which has nothing to do with your son. Or her friend got engaged to a certain type of guy and she wants someone “similar”, whatever that means. It’s possible that that the entire circle of maidlach your son is seeing has skewed expectations for a choson. Also older girls (and boys) can become set in their ways with a very narrow-minded view of who their bashert will be. There’s nothing to worry about. Tell your son to keep dating – the dating itself is a learning experience – and the right girl will surface.
Shlomo 2: Excellent article! Reading it made me think past the alarm and the need to turn it off. Unless I can set Siri’s alarm before shabbos, and do it in such a way that I don’t risk illuminating Siri’s screen by telling it to shtil, I’m better off keeping it old shool and looking at the clock.
So a self driving car would have to be similarly programmed to ensure no verbal or physical interventions are required to control the car or its accessories. It would also need a sign on the driver’s door for any policeman that might pull you over. “Attention Law Enforcement: This is a Shomer Shabbos vehicle. Occupants have no control over its operation.” I’ll wait for others to try this first 🙂
It’s totally conceivable that by 2030 a self driving car will permit you to enter and take control with facial recognition, respond to “take me to Reb Pinchas’s shtiebel, but park two blocks away”. You won’t need to touch anything. Note I could have told the car before Shabbos to take me to the big shul, but I changed my mind.
Question for today – Can one ask Siri on Shabbos morning to set an alarm in case I get distracted, so I get to shul on time?
There are sensible FCC-regulated limits on cross-ownership by a single entity of a newspaper and television or radio broadcast station operating in the same local market. Social media companies that have overwhelming national coverage like Twitter and Facebook/Instagram should be subjected to similar regulation, unless their lobbyists/PACs are more powerful than the old media ever were, or they get displaced by the next new toy first.
I’d like to think Musk will mitigate pressure for regulation by having a truly non-partisan approach to governance. Kind of like the moderation we have here (cough, cough) ha ha.
AAQ, You’re right about Romney being owed an apology about Russia, but you’re missing the point. Romney is just one example with appeal for moderates who feel both the Republican and Democratic parties has been hijacked by extremists. But the media prefers Trump as the de facto Republican leader because his antics and those of his extremist followers attract more clicks, and he makes a moderate Democratic nominee more electable.
The problem is that Trump stories, good or bad, are the only stories about Republicans covered by the mainstream media. You might see Romney, Kasich, or Haley as more reasonable candidates, but they can’t get any traction. The media WANT to focus on the Republicans who are loose cannons, to make whatever boring candidate the Dems run seem more attractive. That strategy worked with Sleepy Joe Biden, and only backfired with Hillary because she was disliked even more than Trump.
While we enjoy quinoa in my home, and we don’t hold that it is kitniyos, we won’t go out of our way to have it on Pesach. We eat gebrokts and there’s already enough vegetables and protein to eat.
If I am a guest in someone’s kosher home, I would have no problem eating quinoa on Pesach. I would draw the line at quinioa “bread”.
It depends. FWIW I consult in the pharmaceutical industry. With the name brands you can assume they maintain strong controls on quality. But lots of companies can make generics. There are well respected generics manufacturers like Teva, and many more smaller players. Probably best to steer clear of manufacturers that don’t have much to lose in a lawsuit.
Has the dairy lobby taken over? Cheese is not that healthy, but OK every once in a while.
For sandwiches go with turkey, chicken breast or tuna on whole wheat or thinly sliced rye. Add lettuce, tomato and a light smear of mustard, horseradish or salad dressing depending on what your kids will eat.
Adjust portion size based on the kids’ physical activity.
Yes on the veggies. Baby carrots and celery sticks are easy.
For fun add a handful or two of honey nut cheerios (still pareve the last time I looked)
You shall not covet your neighbor’s house… nor anything that is your neighbor’s. This principle undoubtedly extends to honors. Making a big stink would be more shameful than the intentional stealing of an “honor”. Hashem will value your respective contributions accurately. However if the thief is a repeat offender I would offer him a strong mussar schmooze. And if that were the case I would hope the Gabbai counsels the offender accordingly before offering him another honor.
I was driving on the Long Island Expressway sometime in the last year and passed a car with the license plate “CHOLENT”. This made me both hungry and quite envious. I have since done teshuva by giving tzedakah to the Clean Air Fund.
This thread gives me comfort that I could apply for a vanity plate with one of the alternate spellings.
AAQ, your approach regarding who should test, and when, makes sense. But it also highlights a problem with the distribution model. Someone like myself who has limited exposure to people can get by with a few tests per month. This past month I tested three times, twice before visiting with family (everyone tested), and once more when I was feeling Flu-ish. B”H I was negative and am feeling OK now.
But what about people who engage frequently with people who also encounter many others on a daily basis? They should be testing at least once a week. What good is the government sending only 4 tests? It would make more sense for the government to subsidize the tests so they cost the price of a subway ride. Buy as many as you’ll use. And the Feds should reward people for logging the results. How about $1 per result that could go to Tzedakah?
Since the state won’t trust humans to cull the deer population, they can reintroduce natural predators – coyotes. Problem solved.
And unlike deer, coyote can be hunted legally throughout the winter in NY, once the deer population is under control.
Someone should develop an app that works like the traffic alerts on navigation apps. Users could report tzinius violations while driving, which would then become a warning to fellow travelers driving through the same location.
Getting back to the original post, I don’t believe the airline CEO’s factor the passengers’ health interests into their opinion about the mask mandate. Of course they would prefer not to be responsible for enforcing mask wearing. As someone else here said, you could get sick by sitting next to a sneezing passenger before the pandemic. HEPA filters didn’t change it then and still won’t change it. For now, I will wear a mask because it makes me feel safer, regardless of my vaccination status. I don’t give a rat’s tuchus about what other people do.
If I were an airline CEO I would continuously poll the public over whether they would/would not fly based on a mask requirement. As the flying public’s opinion changes I would rerun the numbers and change my position about masking based on achievable revenue.
If he had a legit conversion and he’s a mensch, he should have no problem. Since he was raised yeshivish, It does raise the question of why his mother never converted.
The city I live in? Here in Yehupitzville I have to snag three bears, five bucks and a turkey to make a minyan. But I’m close to Bloomingburg.
I can share from personal experience that “being looked down on” can foster resentment and push a yid further from yiddishkeit. When I was young I had a rebbe who looked down on me at a time that my emunah was shaky. While I may have deserved some of the verbal putdowns and dirty looks at the time, my attempts to be closer to Torah were met with contempt, not positive reinforcement. Needless to say my path back to Hashem took an even longer detour.
Reb E., your interpretations of Fiddler on the Roof are inspiring! But I suspect your wise lessons were not intended by the producers.
If we are going to tolerate some Pritzus to get a worthy lesson in Yiddishkeit, I would prioritize the Frisco Kid, where the hero gets back on derech, and The Mad Adventures of Rabbi Jacob over Fiddler. Okay, maybe not Rabbi Jacob, ha ha.
The MPAA ratings are not helpful. Fiddler on the Roof has a “G” rating.
The Frisco Kid was rated “PG”. Oy Gevalt!
The notion of using software to censor pritzus in movies is hilarious. It’s like trying to find loopholes that would allow the movies to be considered kosher. If the director/screenwriter felt that pritzus, or simply shtus, was integral to their story, then the whole film is shtus, isn’t it?
I would support an effort to provide hechshers for truly wholesome and heimeshe films, assuming we can allow ourselves a little entertainment. It would be more kosher than watching sports where you can’t avoid the pritzus.
Hmmm. I think I saw my last “Olomeinu” 25 years before I had an internet account.
So what happened to “Mendel the Mouse”? Did Disney’s lawyers make him cease and desist?
If one of the gas stations at Exit 130 has a hechsher, it wasn’t obvious from driving by. I wasn’t inclined to stop in every one.
I did get some nice fresh bagels at the Star Market in Bloomingburg. It wasn’t a full bagel shop experience as they only had plain ones, but they had a nice heimishe taste. I supplemented with O-U Everything bagels and all was good.
Thanks for your suggestions!
Nu, so where are there fresh bagels in Bloomingburg?
While this may be yenavelt, I can get O-U mass produced bagels which are satisfactory. But who knows where and when they were baked.
Always_Ask_Questions > I do earn enough to pay for the service myself, but you raise a fair point. If someone else was paying for my learning, and the car was essential to my learning schedule, it would be reasonable to ask my sponsor for financial assistance for an emergency repair. But I should have had enough income in the first place to cover routine expenses like fuel and oil changes, and enough basic car knowledge to deal with overheated engines, battery jumps, etc. Also, it would be totally appropriate for my sponsor to question whether I could afford, or needed, a car at all. An unreliable car can be a major distraction.
CTRebbe, do you actually disagree with me? It sounds like you are speculating about my “mindset”. You didn’t see my advice regarding unscrupulous mechanics? And honest mechanics are entitled to their parnassah just as much as you and me.
I’d rather see someone spend epes $30-$80 to do an oil change than spend an hour or more on it at home, not to mention properly disposing of the oil. If someone wants to learn how to do these things correctly, with the proper tools and practices, of course they can. I’ve done a lot of these things myself, including batteries, belts, hoses, lights, sound systems, exhausts, valve covers, thermostats and gaskets.
And what Gadolhatorah said is also absolutely right. Even changing some bulbs used to be easy and now they can be a major balagan. Yeshivish people have better things to do. I’d rather spend my time on my family, Yiddishkeit and my day job.
Your idea is a good one, since everyone who drives a car should have basic knowledge of what to do in an emergency, like mounting a spare tire, using jumper cables, etc. The owner’s manual for your car should explain these basic tasks you may need to do on the road. If you don’t have an owner’s manual it should be available online. AAA is also a good thing to have but you might have to wait an hour for them to come. Of course you should always have a fully charged cell phone.
Make the best use of your time and read the owner’s manual to know what preventive maintenance is expected, and leave the non-emergency repairs like oil changes to the professionals. If you are concerned that your lack of auto repair expertise makes you an easy mark for an unscrupulous mechanic, bring someone knowledgeable with you when going to the repair shop.
Participant, thank you for calling me out on my post and my apologies to DeBlasio. It’s actually Cuomo and the NY State Legislature I should be blaming for the meshugana bail law. You can find plenty of coverage and references about New York state’s laws against requiring cash bail unless a crime is a violent felony, even if it is an obvious hate crime.
Given the gravity and the number (42) of charges the court was inclined to set bail.” Burnette’s lawyer, told the judge that “according to the bail law, none of the charges in this case apply” and that “[t]hese are all nonviolent charges.”
What good is hate crime legislation if the laws cannot be enforced?
nOmesorah, the press was not all over this story until the crimes were repeated.
The Daily News reported Burnette was hit with 42 charges, including burglary as a hate crime and criminal trespass as a hate crime for attacks on four synagogues and a Jewish community center, during which he allegedly smashed windows and doused religious books in hand sanitizer.
The suspect’s mother, Sharon Burnette, told the Daily News on Monday she’s surprised by the allegations. “My son is a very good boy,” she said. “He always has been. He’s been one of my best children.”
“I think this is an area that we definitely should look at again because hate crimes are such a profound challenge,” de Blasio said. “But the important thing for us to do right now is to work within the law as intensely and effectively as possible to protect people.”
I get that NYC prisons constitute cruel and unusual punishment. But the fact that this guy could get a lawyer to have a second Judge lift his bail requirement show us that de Blasio’s NY is more interested in protecting criminals. The meshuganah bail law will only encourage more attacks since the risk of any meaningful punishment is minimal.
Find the cholent blog, there should be a link to the kugel blog. While you’re there, bookmark the greps vasser blog, you’ll need it!
NY Post: The vandal wanted for smashing windows and doors at Jewish centers in the Bronx over the weekend struck again Monday morning, cops said. Police said the unidentified vandal was the same person who threw rocks at the center and three other religious facilities nearby over the weekend. The center has a “very good security system” and cops were able to obtain and match surveillance video, the NYPD said. “We were able to determine it’s the same guy based on video evidence,” a police spokesman said.
Makes you wonder what kind of nebech keeps returning to the scene of the crime. Let’s hope they catch this troublemaker and lock him up soon.
Looking for answers for “why this happened” or “who is to blame” is at best an exercise that will lead to unproductive debates. Even if a Gadol asserts that the reason was a particular shortcoming of this generation in Hashem’s eyes, what is more important is how we respond to the situation. Whether it is the mitzvah of V’nishmartem me’od l’nafshoseichem, protecting the safety of others, tzedakah, bikur cholim done remotely, what matters is how we move forward. The world changes, sometimes in abrupt fashion, and we are presented with new ways to perform Kiddushay Hashem. We need to step up. That is all that Hashem, the Nevi’im and Gedolim expect from us.February 3, 2020 7:08 pm at 7:08 pm in reply to: Yiiddeshe Application for Robotics and Artificial Intelligence #1828584
Reb Eliezer, are you saying that If the AI is trained to respond to “It is Cold” by turning on the heat, that this is allowed?
Could I train my AI Car to respond to “I better hurry or I’ll be late for davening” by rolling up to my doorstep and pop open the car door? Of course it knows where to drop me off, two blocks from my shul, under the overpass where I won’t be seen, because it understands Maras Ayin.
Alternatively instead of training for these specific spoken observations and responses, the AI could be programmed to simply maximize my comfort, and respond to my whinng using its best judgement.
We are Zoicheh to live in a time when these questions need to asked.February 3, 2020 1:47 pm at 1:47 pm in reply to: Yiiddeshe Application for Robotics and Artificial Intelligence #1828431
Slippery slope, kollelman. So asking Google Assistant to raise the temperature on Shabbos is Assur, and if it obliges a person who remarks. It’s freezing in here!, Kol Beseder?January 31, 2020 2:29 am at 2:29 am in reply to: Yiiddeshe Application for Robotics and Artificial Intelligence #1827648
Shoyn. So how about 10 real daveners with Kavana participating on a videoconference? All can be heard, and all can see the chazan.
Good for you Dr. Pepper. I have also found that PayPal is very good at protecting the consumer.
“Note that if you allow an autonomous car are Shabbos, you are probably allowing any use of computers or smartphones and even electric lights.”
Let’s stick to the point please. For what it’s worth, even if I had a truly autonomous car I would not use it on Shabbos in 2020 because of Maras Ayin.
But If you keep your cholent warm on a blech that you set up on Friday afternoon, then I don’t see why this kind of predetrmined use of energy is any more of a problem.
The premise is that the car is programmed to take someone on a predetermined trip at a preset time. Like a Shabbos Clock.
Or it could just follow a route from some homes to a shul or other Shabbos-appropriate place (NOT the Wawa) continuously through Friday afternoon to midnight, and again beginning Saturday morning. This is similar to a Shabbos elevator.
If you hold that either a Shabbos Clock or a Shabbos Elevator is Assur, then of course this convenience is not for you.
Doesn’t the issur of riding on a steamboat apply to the operators’ inability to rest? Anyway the shailah is theoretical until autonomous cars become commonplace. Seriously, it would be very nice for older or otherwise physically challenged folks who live far from shul. And people could buy homes that are further away from shul. Just think, one less excuse not to be at minyan.
Reb Eliezer, surely you are joking. Are you suggesting Shmos 20:10 applies to autonomous cars?
jzq, it sounds like you are asking whether an autonomous vehicle would be muttar for riding on Shabbos. I am not a qualified posken, but you should clarify your question. Even if the car, including the doors, stopping and starting, was fully automated, I suspect it would not be allowed because of Maras Ayin. Maybe these vehicles will be commonplace someday and Maras Ayin will not be an issue, but that’s a long way off. I’m sure there will be plenty of machlokeses over it in the meantime.
Seems early to me. If I were the girl’s father I would still question the bachur’s maturity, no matter how learned or financially stable he might be.January 23, 2020 12:44 pm at 12:44 pm in reply to: Are public displays of Frum support of Trump a safe thing? #1825412
You need to look at the big picture. Whether or not you like Trump as a person, it’s good to provide balance to the Democratic Congress, and keep them from pushing the country further to the left. The Democratic strategy is to buy votes by painting all Republicans, business people, and white males as privileged racists. Avi K’s example is an excellent case in point.