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  • in reply to: Working with Non Jews #823150
    rosesharon
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    I also work with non-jews. The only advice I can give you is act like a mensch. Dont get involved in discussing politics or religion.

    Remember that you have the amazing ability to be a kiddush hashem and be careful about being a chillull hashem. Its very easy to slip from one to the other. Hatzlacha

    in reply to: How was your fast?? #1007827
    rosesharon
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    I was stuck in bed with a sinus infection. spent maybe 30min in shul in total…..blah

    in reply to: Mussar Book #814785
    rosesharon
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    Thank you for all the suggestions!!!!!!! I already am learning shemeras halashon and will look up some of the suggestions.

    in reply to: asking mechila of kids #815032
    rosesharon
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    As someone who has parents who have come very close loosing myself and my sibling through their actions, both growing up and as married people, learning to evaluate your (re)actions as well as what m22 said that they did will avoid alot of heart-ache and pain on both sides. Your children will remember the lessons which you have taught through your anger and your personal pain.

    in reply to: 9/11 memories #1178167
    rosesharon
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    My fathers cousin was niftar in cali over the weekend. My great uncle, his step-sons as well as my grand mother and aunt, all went on the 11th, but for some reason had all taken different planes. My great uncle was on flight 93. I remember my father, a former IDF member not being able to watch the TV and just paced the house until news came if my family was alive. In my minds eye I can see my uncle fighting with the rest of the heros who caused the plane to crash in a field.

    in reply to: Attn: mik5 #805487
    rosesharon
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    I also went to BC and made it out with my masters. Keep strong. You did nothing wrong to choose this as your college. Hatzlacha

    in reply to: College Professor Mocking Yiddishkeit/ Torah #805183
    rosesharon
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    Oy I could have stories for you…… let me guess, your professor is Jewish, right? No prof has the right to make you feel inferior, and you have the right to the college education of your choosing.Ignore whatever the scum is saying. Do the work, get your grade, and you will never see the prof again. If you feel that you are being treated unfairly, go to the head of your department and make a complaint. They have a legal obligation to protect your religious freedom.

    in reply to: Not canceled #805093
    rosesharon
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    As someone whose mahatanus STILL don’t get along after five years, they should move as far away from both parents as possible for the first year and get used to saying-” ma/ta, shvigger/shver, I understand that you feel upset and want to talk but I don’t want to listen to L”H. I love you and will call you back in one hour.” They should not get involved in anything between their parents and concentrate only on their shalom bais. Most of our fights in the first 1 1/2 years of marriage were about what one parent did to the other. Two ended in screaming matches and threats of divorce. Hatzlacha and koach to the new couple. May they build a BNB.

    in reply to: a raise? stay at home mom/wife? #802835
    rosesharon
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    If u do hire a babysitter please hire a Jewish one who will not serve traifus to your kids and can cook for you too. Try to have hubby help out and I agree with aposhitermaidel

    in reply to: He has a past, and she doesnt know. Or the other way around. #804853
    rosesharon
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    I agree with Toi- many people have pasts and change however you should ask a Rov fast before the chupa, especially if it had to do with him being involved with drugs or “wandering around” so she does not have any health problems later, or if he behaved abusive or controlling. Those behaviors will not change and get worse over time.

    in reply to: off the derech #801689
    rosesharon
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    Its more of a problem that your menahel threw you out and that you were snitched on then you talking to girls, I hope you realize that. Please take this experience and grow from it. Learn to help other bochers like you maintain their yiddishkeit when it is mutilated by “well meaning” yidden. Turn this into something positive and learn the laws of lashon hara in the zechus of the one that snitched on you- they will need all the zechus they can get and by learning the laws you will ensure that 1)you will never do the same in any situation and 2) you can stop it from happening to someone else.

    in reply to: cleaning lady advice #799149
    rosesharon
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    Maybe ask her to stop or she will have to find another place of employment. Explan that it is unprofetional.

    in reply to: Feel bad having a good time #786010
    rosesharon
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    Why would you think that you would be stoned? Its perfectly normal to feel a sense of anger or resentment. As a mommy,I also feel dumbfounded and in shock at the tragedy. Take some time for yourself and don’t feel guilty. If you do want to take something upon yourself, start small. Take your time to increase what you want to do extra to counteract the horrible actions of one sick person who acted with free will, not those of a caring G-d.

    in reply to: El Al Flight 27 #769321
    rosesharon
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    I am going through a stressful time in my life. I even signed up for davenforme.com and became lax due to my feelings of abandonment. I felt that because my nisyanot had not been lessened that saying tehillim did not work, at least for me. I have no doubt that this nes has been a sign for me to do teshuva. Now to work on the tephila and tzedaka. What can I say when presented with proof of what klal yisroel can do when united in prayer.

    in reply to: Midaber Ivrit??? #770131
    rosesharon
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    I went to a very sphardi school in Brooklyn for elementary school. Of course when I left after eighth grade I was an ashkanazi sounding like a displaced Israeli. When I went to an ashkanazi high school it took me two weeks to adjust to the way Hebrew was spoken because all of my life I had never heard a “suh” and kamatz aleph to me was “ah” not “oh.” Now when I read Hebrew out loud I still get confused. At lest I know if I ever get to Israel I will be understood.

    in reply to: Need people to make my wedding B'simcha #768911
    rosesharon
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    My family other than my mom dad and bro are not religious in the slightest. My wedding was separate seating however the mechitzah was placed in a way that allowed room for family seating near the dais which made my extended family happy. You must discuss any modified seating arrangements first with any hall you find as to see their policy on seating. Some halls are more strict than others. One piece of advice, discuss with any female family members on how they should dress so that they could have time to shop for an appropriate outfit. It took my teenage cousin weeks to decide what to wear with all the “restrictions.” She wore a modestly cut long sleeveless gown with a shawl over her shoulders which covered her arms up to her elbow. Needless to say she didn’t dance much 😀 Show your relatives wedding videos of your friends so that they know whatever they choose to wear must be dance proof to avoid any “wardrobe malufunctions.”

    rosesharon
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    The chillul Hashem is that American law does not accept ignorance as an excuse. They should have known better that the exclusion of the two women would be taken the wrong way. They had a responsibility as representatives of Jewish journalism to uphold a high standard, which they did not. They should have chosen a different picture. There is so much negative ignorant internet chatter about this talking about how Judaism is a woman hating religion. They should have been more careful.

    in reply to: Secular Studies In Mesivta #765276
    rosesharon
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    Actual line my hubby heard in a yeshivah from one of his students- “I don’t need to learn this. My parents said it is not important because when I learn in kollel my wife can work and I don’t have to.” That line as well as the low pay and principal support is the reason why yeshivahs cant hold down properly educated teachers. We both are educated and licensed to teach in public school however due to Bloomberg we cannot. If the yeshivahs want frum people they have to value them which means decent ON TIME pay and benefits.

    in reply to: Diamond Wedding Rings #763465
    rosesharon
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    Nevermind

    in reply to: Getting Married & Trying To Decide To Have TV Or Not #764290
    rosesharon
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    You dont need a TV. All you need is a computer with an internet connection and a subscription to netflix or a monitor with a DVD player. I wish when my hubby and I got married we had just that. Now that is all we have. We watch the shows that we like and my son gets all the Thomas and wonder pets he wants (in moderation). I dont have to pay for cable and netflix is less than 10 per month. And yes, those who do not have any way for their children to view things in their own home will most likely have children who seek TV out in other unsupervised. Better to know what your children are watching and have them educated at to what they are watching then being shocked when your child gets in too deep.

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913804
    rosesharon
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    Even though I met my husband in college without a physical shaddchan, I know a better one that set me up 😀 Thank You Hashem!!

    in reply to: Special Needs Sibling #933601
    rosesharon
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    My brother is a special needs adult. As it was the two of us, it was very hard for me to relate to my brother past a certain age. It also was very embarrassing the questions I would get from my friends as to why he was still living in my parents house, had no real job, and no girlfriend. My parents did all they could to help my brother. He had and still has many social and learning issues. In our community it is a very big stigma to have a sibling with a special need with shidduchim. While I did not meet my husband through a shadchan I have no doubt it would have been an issue as to what disability my brother has and if it would be passed on to any children that I would have.

    I also understand what it is like to have an older sibling that you have surpassed. In some ways, I feel like I never had an older brother. It is very hard and psychologically draining to be the older sibling in some ways when the person is older than you are. I have no doubt that the younger siblings resent their older one in some ways, or at least are as tolerant of their sibling as the parents are. The parents most probably have their hands full with the other children that they are now unable to give the time and energy that they may have once given.

    Your friend should defiantly talk to her siblings about how she feels her brother is being treated. They need to learn to respect their brother as a person. It will not be easy. The parent should also seek counseling to help the family embrace their son as part of a the family and not as a “taboo” which needs to be swept under the rug. From experience, while my parents did the best that they could, they did the best that they knew how. My parents were sometimes harsh and unnecessarily critical of my brother which was in my belief more damaging than any condition. If your friends family does not fix any negative behaviors or attitudes towards the brother, it will effect him negatively for the rest of his life, and theirs as well.

    in reply to: Interesting observation #760316
    rosesharon
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    I feel that in this case the internet is the most loaded gun anyone can have. I learned my lesson just how harmful it can be.

    in reply to: I Guess I'm Out Of My Mind… And You May Be Too… #760814
    rosesharon
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    Hang in there wolf!

    in reply to: shidduchim and weight….. #906588
    rosesharon
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    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/04/12/health/12orthodox.html Please read this article if you want to know the true effect of weight and its emphasis in shidduchim.

    in reply to: cursed or blessed crew?? #758498
    rosesharon
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    NO one should not just get engaged to just “get it over with.” Better to just have the sofer make up a kituba and a get. PLEASE take your time. Remember-it is one of the most important decisions of your life. No need to rush.

    in reply to: Surprise Brochos Party for Eclipse #1108571
    rosesharon
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    May Eclipse go from strength to strength. May Hashem michazek her and guide her through any nisyanot.

    in reply to: Need camp for 3year old boy in flatbush #754002
    rosesharon
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    could i have the number to torah umidos please? thank you

    in reply to: Need camp for 3year old boy in flatbush #753996
    rosesharon
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    I don’t live in Flatbush, but work close by.

    in reply to: Chillul Hashem Or Not? #751853
    rosesharon
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    Of course it is a chillul Hashem, and quite frankly one that happens more often than not. In fact my husband who is a public school teacher as well as a teacher in a yeshiva can attest that the public school kids behave more often than not better than his yeshiva students (and he is not the only one in his public school job to say this). As to your question “are we doing a bad job educating our youth” the answer is yes and no. I feel that we teaching boys to be better Jews then people with derech eretz even though “derech eretz kadma l’torah”. When I was in high school we had “chesed hours.” Only in Yeshiva of Flatbush have I heard of boys having that requirement. I am not saying that chesed hours is a cure all and will automatically help, but an emphasis on long hours of learning and little secular studies, community awareness, and public service does little to help either.

    in reply to: Bocher with No college, what to do? #750361
    rosesharon
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    Would an on-line college be an option?

    in reply to: fogel situation #750416
    rosesharon
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    Very well said genug

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