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Sounds like a good idea to me. why not? Isn’t shidduchim all about networking?
The overused “like like like” is annoying. “whatever” is here to stay though, & “um” is universal, just with different vowels sometimes.
I’ve worked in hotels often in the past. The first time it was like “wow”, but it gets less exciting each time. Obviously it’s different as a worker than as a guest, but I’m not jealous of the ones who go for “pleasure”. As a matter of fact, although I enjoyed some parts of the hotel experience, it didn’t really feel like Pesach to me over there…
Offhand I’d say no, due to the the major cultural differences. However, if a wonderful man came my way & he happened to be sephardi & everything else between us would be compatible then maybe I’d consider…
Bjjkid as long as you’re confident with what you want, just stick to your guns. I also had people redding me things that were so off the mark – I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry. (for ex a guy 10-15 yrs my senior or someone w/ kids when I’m really young without children. Or borderline slow. Or Bums. etc. This would mainly come from people who didn’t know me or barely knew me. (Or no sechel) I’d be like “huh? you know who I am and what a good catch I am?” But I learned not to take it to heart. If you have a lot to offer yourself, somebody out there will appreciate that and don’t settle for less than you deserve. Hatzlacha!
a shpitzl is a sponge covered with threads worn at the front of the head – top of forehead, with a tichel or hat on top of it covering the rest of the head. An easy to picture description of it would be a frankfurter. (yes it does resemble a frank, especially the ones worn with a sock on top of it)
Is this thread for real?
If yes, I have a solution. Why should you have to risk straining your muscles shlepping all those heavy coins in your bizem tash, when you can send it my way? Consider it a purely pleasurable experience, so it might not even be considered tzedaka al pi din.
lol Gabboim. Most of the time it’s fine but occasionally I lose service from one minute to the next. Wanna try it, or you have an Ipod already? 🙂
op you do not have to feel like a goy.I remember learning in school that when a goy offers you pork,you do not have to show disgust or say that you hate it, but you could say, “it looks good / it’s probably delicious, but our Torah does not allow us to eat it.” So as long as you’re following halacha – it’s normal to find some things hard or unpleasant. It makes it all the more choshuv when you do keep those mitzvos…
btw, smartcookie I once observed a friend of mine “binding” her shpitzl and there were at least 5 layers there – no exaggeration. so it’s not the most comfortable thing either. I’ve also heard from shpitzl wearers that in the beginning they feel half deaf due to the thickness of it. So apparently it’s even more mesiras nefesh than it appears.
I.M.E. Broken home is usually a layman’s term as in divorced or separated parents when describing the children’s background.
Nowadays they use the word “dysfunctional” which basically includes any kind of unhealthiness, whether the parents are together or not. Can refer to abuse going on, neglect, or just “tzifoorenkeit”.
Now about the second class issue – that is unfortunately a result of stigmas in some communities that are absolutely no fault of the children of course. My view on why this happened is that When people used to hide most things deemed “imperfect” on the street, (special needs children, disease, mental illness, etc.) the blemishes that were obvious to the public appeared worse in their eyes (due to the denial factor) & shunned even more.
Some guys might think it’s cool to smoke, but as others have said, it’s not bummy- it’s very unhealthy. And unpleasant for others who have to live with it.
I had no desire for an ipod, but I happen to have gotten an ipod touch as a promotional gift from a company when ordering a service. Never used it yet. Not that I don’t love music, just never got around to loading it..
But I don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s like any other tool that can be used for good or for bad.
come to think of it, can anyone recommend a place where I can download good stuff for cheap and finally start using it? Thanks.
On a general level designer names are probably better quality, but that doesn’t mean that a non-brand name can’t be of equal good quality. When it comes to clothing for example, I personally look at the fabric. A 100% cotton item that appears to be sewn well, (experience or being a mayven on material definitely helps) will normally last you a while, regardless if you paid $5 for it or $200. Same applies to a genuine leather bag, or pure wool/cashmere hat. when I see something I like I go right to the label to see what it’s composed of – not to see if it’s a fancy name.
Cedarhurst- are they against Jewish / non mixed colleges too?
the term college is broad. Nowadays there are a lot of options for frum people.. I myself am in college and I think it could actually keeps some people from doing not such good stuff instead, as a result of having too much free time.
Middos and yiras shamayim priority, next comes compatibility, stable in mind / settled, and the rest differs for each person (looks money background health etc)
If you’re asking more specifically about character, I’d say make sure no temper, giving type – baal chesed. And oh, very important: a happy positive person – makes life so much easier…
I found the snow situation today amusing. Was walking 7 long avenue blocks with 3 bags in 1 hand, while clutching an umbrella with the other hand (with tip-less gloves..) wind blowing in all directions, watching people’s beards splitting in half (from a distance I actually thought one was a fur collar cuz of the way the wind blew it on the coat..) b’kitzur, snow is fun!
playing music or singing for simchas.
I actually find this combination very appealing, shidduch-wise.
First of all, you have Hatzlacha Supermarket on Flushing avenue between Franklin & Skillman. It’s nice and they have a fleishig takeout section as well.
I think there’s also a grocery on Bedford ave. bet Flushing and Park called “chestnut” (I might be wrong about the name)
about Shopping, you have S&W clothing and shoes on Wallabout between Bedford and Lee Avenue, and in General most stores are on Lee Avenue. 5 min. by car. Even if you’re walking- Williamsburg isn’t that big, so if you have time I’d recommend going up a few blocks and checking out Lee Avenue.
actually, by some it works that they’re in the coffee rm when waiting for other replies…
but by me it’s usually housework.
Yeah.. true compliments anytime. Especially when it comes from children.
also a long awaited phone call, or msg..
Sunday night we definitely eat it, & even Monday night. especially if it was cooked on Friday.
of course – I don’t think your reply has anything to do with my post. I was clarifying some stuff about the chassidish oilem cuz that’s what I’m familiar with. I did not say anywhere that litvish marriages are more successful. I was stating info about why adopting the chassidish shidduch system isn’t the answer to the “crisis”.
And btw the jewish / frum/ religious world isn’t only limited to chassidish and litvish- which you are bringing as a comparison. there are many different types of yidden that we’re dealing with here.
Oh and for the b’show / dating process I want to add that by most chassidishe young people who follow the 1 or 2 meetings -and -get engaged.. there’s a huge fear of saying “no” to the boy or girl after a bshow, and many couples get engaged despite a lack of chemistry/attraction. And lots of them live forever in loveless marriages, although there could technically be “shalom bayis”. ( in other words: not overly happy, yet not bad enough to leave..)
so although some posters will say “I’m happy, other chassidish people are happy etc..” Yes. I also B”h know lots of happy chassidish couples, but it is mostly luck. but not proof of a better system.
Okay, let me make this clear once and for all. Less older singles,
or less divorces does NOT necessarily equal happier marriages.
And “smartcookie” I’m chassidish too. Because you and your friends are happy does not mean that the system works. I know tons of people who it didn’t work for. And as someone else has mentioned the lower divorce rate (which has btw risen tremendously in recent years) has more to do with the fear of the resulting stigma than with being happily married.
For every person, priorities differ. But I agree that there has to be chemistry and basic compatability personality-wise. From there everyone “looks away” at something else.
I do not have a tv, but I don’t think this proves anything for anyone because nowadays you can access everything through the internet, so op I don’t know how much smarter you will become through this poll.
Thanks, trying to be helpful. Now what about an old post that can’t be edited anymore?
sorry double post – is there a way to completely delete a post here?
I cook the eggs & peel them before putting it into the chulent because somebody explained to me once that the shells are really “dirty” even though they look clean and all the dirt gets cooked into the chulent- if somebody can explain more I’d appreciate it, although from then on I just peel it before it enters the pot.
Brooklyn Yenta
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willi
you’re right that no one knows what goes on in someone’s soul, but sometimes his actions speak for his soul. in my very personal experience, i have found that a huge amount of divorcees have lost their yiras shamayim. you may see them in shul, on the street, in the grocery looking the same as they always did (even though many change even their mode of dress), but put them on a date and all *** breaks loose. believe me, this information is not made up. it’s coming straight from the tzaddikim themselves.
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okay Brook. Yen. for clarification sake, since you just keep repeating yourself in different words without bringing adequate proof to back your (harsh) statements, are you referring equally to both genders, or specifically divorced men or women?
In any case your words are very derogatory and not fair for any divorcee trying to remarry, or “stam azoi” to be viewed with suspicion by others from now on- for no reason- other than your “personal experience from tzadikim themselves etc”
haifagirl, thanks I’ll try it now willi:
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Brooklyn Yenta
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willi, if you really have personal experience, you’d know what i’m talking about. while i understand that many divorcees have been through the wringer and therefore have lost a lot of faith, ***the fact is that their actions and behavior are far from ideal.***
are there some divorcees that have retained their level of frumkeit? definitely, but they are the precious few.
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yes I do in fact have personal experience, and I think you are generalizing and unfairly stereotyping most divorcees. and in general I find your post quite judgemental. how do you get the ‘facts’- as you state? I know countless divorcees who are frum erlich and trying their best to stay strong. only Hashem knows what goes on in a person’s soul and that applies to anyone, divorced married or single.
trying my best- continued -sorry I do not know how to highlight/ make bold on this page so for clarity, please just read the lines after “POSTED 1 DAY AGO” for my current response
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Brooklyn Yenta
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sacrilege: back to the beginning here, if you think this is a gross exaggeration, it’s obvious that you’re not familiar with the goings-on in the divorce scene. good. it’s better that way. stay innocent.
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Brooklyn Yenta well I’m familiar and not innocent and I don’t understand why you are bashing divorcees..
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– about innocent- okay I just used brooklyn yentas words- in not innocent I meant to say that I know whats going on in the divorce scene
– and with personal experience I again used her words
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eclipse: unfortunately, MANY divorcees consider themselves above halacha and do, in fact, lose their yiras shamayim. if you are one of the few that haven’t, kol hakavod to you. i speak from personal experience with many of these. “
Posted 4 days ago #
I find your words very offensive, and where do you base your findings on? I have personal experience too, and do not see at all that divorcees should “consider themselves above halacha & lose yiras shamayim” more than anyone else.
Posted 1 day ago #
and with that I also simply meant that I have experience of my own with divorce.
“Brooklyn Yenta
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eclipse: unfortunately, MANY divorcees consider themselves above halacha and do, in fact, lose their yiras shamayim. if you are one of the few that haven’t, kol hakavod to you. i speak from personal experience with many of these. “
Posted 4 days ago #
I find your words very offensive, and where do you base your findings on? I have personal experience too, and do not see at all that divorcees should “consider themselves above halacha & lose yiras shamayim” more than anyone else.
Brooklyn Yenta
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sacrilege: back to the beginning here, if you think this is a gross exaggeration, it’s obvious that you’re not familiar with the goings-on in the divorce scene. good. it’s better that way. stay innocent.
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Brooklyn Yenta well I’m familiar and not innocent and I don’t understand why you are bashing divorcees..
I think it’s combination of facebook and twitter…
vus nuch hert zich epes gits?
cheesecake – bist gerecht.
bombmanian – zaer git.
how does willi sound? I’m an old poster. (though I take frequent breaks in between)
ver es ken shreiben in yiddishe oiseyes vet es machen feel gringer tzee leinen. ich ken nisht azoi git type’n yiddish uber ver es ken yu – vel ich dankbar zine (in ich vel ohch pribiren)
hey I’m also interested in this. I’m told “do your research” but the question is where can I do research and how?
thanks!
Striving if you find out more please post it here.
I had a one a good few yrs. ago & even started getting infected, and “duofilm” liquid helped wonders! I shmeared it on once or twice a day and within a several days it was gone and forgotten Bh. never heard from it again. I’d highly recommend it.