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Chazal say that kinah (jealousy), taavah (desire/lust), and kavod (respect/honor) have the ability to make people do things that they normally would never do. Think about it.
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Guys, no need to fight, seriously. And Daniel, don’t bring up Judaism/religious observance or lack thereof. That’s not your place. Remember that you’re his friend, not his Rabbi or mentor.
Good luck!
Don’t be judgemental. That’s what pushes them off even further. Just be friendly and do the things you’ve always done. Also, don’t expect that things will turn around overnight. Chances are that they won’t and you’ll only become disappointed in him/her. Have patience as this can be a long process.
Which yom tov?
Obviously this decision is totally yours and has nothing to do with me, but why would you move to a place with such open anti-semitism in the recent months? I know that I would be afraid to move there. People living in England keep saying that they don’t see a future for themselves there. If I were you, I would try to find out specific people in the frum communities (London, Gateshead, etc.) and interview them about what it’s like to live there. I’ve never been to England so all I’m telling you is based on what I hear. My friend in London keeps me updated and I constantly hear things on the news.
Hatzlacha Rabbah!
@Daas Yochid
Very funny!
What’s on your “top 5” list? Decide for yourself which 5 things are non-negotiable. The rest you can decide, case by case. If height is non-negotiable, then that’s your answer.
Medically, it’s not a question. Alcohol and tobacco are dangerous substances in a child’s body.
Legally, most definitely. They are underage and can get in big trouble with the law.
Halachically, ask your LOR.
Yes, a person gets a mitzvah for all the moments when they do not speak loshon horah!
Are women allowed to shave during sefirah?
I think that question is a little personal
Yeah, I agree with hashtagposter. It’s hard to tell what you want; if you want to get married or stay single. The real question is do YOU know what you want? You need to be super clear on where you’re at in life, what you want to do with yourself, what your values are… That’s when you can find a partner who is compatible to you on those levels.
I wish you much hatzlacha!
Do you have someone who you trust who could do it for you? A religious aunt, cousin, friend, neighbor? Maybe a teacher or mechaneches you connected to? You definitely should not be doing it yourself. And I agree with @DaasYochid the oorah rebbetzins program is great.
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Interesting discussions on the topic of shidduchim.
As a little girl, I used to mix up my colors. I once walked up to a black woman and said “lady, why are you blue?”
BJJ: very mixed crowd, very academic and “text-based”
Bnos Sarah: more out of town crowd, warm and homey, less academic than BJJ but still “text-based”
Bnos Chava: your typical Flatbush girl kind of crowd (or 5-towns), not very text-based
Just be aware that there are many other seminaries out there and each year new ones open. Don’t limit yourself to only 3. Do your research and find out about a lot of places, then narrow your selection based on what you hear. Also speak to alumni of the schools you are considering. They have the most first-hand and accurate information.
Hatzlacha!
I read your seminary guide when I was in seminary. You list a very sarcastic way of asking yourself out for Shabbos. My suggestion is that you write an accurate way to ask yourself out. And one in Hebrew would be helpful, too.
If you’re all on here and typing replies ON CHOL HAMOED, then obviously you feel that it’s okay 🙂
That is so creative!! I love it!
**But why, pray tell, do you wanna be chasidish???
Money is actually not a positive attribute. It comes along with lots of problems, especially in Shidduchim and a new marriage.
And about looks: you need to like how your spouse looks. You don’t need a drop-dead gorgeous model, but you do need a girl that you find pretty.
Hope that helped.
The only way to remove it is by contacting them. It’s ridiculous!
Come to Israel, we have milk bags 🙂
Not at all! We resent them!
Speak for yourself. The question is if your wife is happy.
I’m in Eretz Yisrael! Maybe I should wear white tomorrow.
Guys, this is ridiculous. Everyone has a right to marry who they want. To this girl, height is important. You can’t determine or control what will be considered significant for another person. End of story.
Now for a real answer:
The foundation of marriage is giving. Each spouse should be in it to give. And ultimately: the more you give, the more you get! So don’t worry that you’ll be stuck giving more and losing out.
Be SELFLESS! Not SELFISH!
@YW Moderator-29
When would you like us to take breaks? During class time? We should walk out and allow the classroom to become a free-for-all? At least during recess, we are standing nearby and can see when problems arise.
Use your head.
Are you from England or Australia? Because here, in American, we spell it with an “e” at the end.
As a teacher, I can tell you that teachers need breaks, too. We’re humans also, believe it or not.
I’m not sure what you were implying there (hope it was nothing inappropriate) but I meant that people can think for themselves. I hope.
There’s an expression “having a head on your shoulders,” which means you have some seichel.
@The Therapist
It doesn’t look like you got any substantial answers. Oh well. Better luck next time.
You are extremely sexist: “*Note that there is no such thing as a blonde guy.”
Is that so? Have you never seen a blonde man? Because I have. Think twice before you post next time.
You don’t ask a halachic question in a group forum like this. Call your rav.
Oh, come on! No one is that foolish. People have a head and can think for themselves.
@BoruchSchwartz
That is definitely true. But where’d that come in?
Let’s not advocate suicide here, please.
Besuros tovos, everyone!! 🙂
I don’t think there’s such a thing as a shadchan “specializing” in shorter boys’ shidduchim. Any shadchan with a head on their shoulders should have no problem redding tall, short, fat, skinny, rich, poor, smart, dumb, etc. boys or girls. I’m not sure what happened to our society that people are so critical of each other. If a shadchan refuses someone because of a frivolous reason like that, you should not be using them! Period. The end. There’s nothing to discuss. Eventually they’ll get the message.
Great question. So happy you asked.
A man touching a woman accidentally is not a problem, but b’derech chiba is a problem. Intimate and intentional physical contact between the genders is problematic because it can lead to one of the three aveiros chamuros, namely giluy arayos. That is why it is considered to be a part of them: it’s like a subcategory.
I hope that answered your question.
Besuros tovos! 🙂
Sorry, I just joined the conversation now. But I read your comment and WOW!!! That’s pathetic! It just goes to show how crazy our society is that we have to lie to get ahead. It’s sad that we brought this upon ourselves. We’ve fallen so low. It’s an embarrassment.
WOW!!! So happy to hear that your son returned home!! All of klal Yisrael is rejoicing. May Moshiach come in this merit!
@sam2 I 100% agree! What it says in Gemara is not just there to be learned: it’s important to be learned!! It SHOULD be learned. And not in a way that makes people feel uncomfortable about it.
As for this discussion, any article of clothing can be worn in a tzniusdik or non-tzniusdik way. It’s all in the way it’s worn. I once saw 2 girls at a wedding wearing the same dress; one looked so eidel and refined, the other one did not (I won’t elaborate, considering the public forum here). Tznius isn’t about inches, styles, colors… It’s about how you wear your clothing, if you’re trying to attract attention or if you’re wearing it for the right reasons.