Always_Ask_Questions

Forum Replies Created

Viewing 50 posts - 3,451 through 3,500 (of 8,865 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • common, are you saying that because others are suing an Yid in a goyishe curt, beis din will let you join them? makes no sense to me. do you have references?

    in reply to: Flying to Israel #2178084

    Flying Al Italia (O’H) always ensured that you will daven with kavanah the whole way (and some extra time). A good chance, others were davening with you, so you can think you are in a minyan. I once enquired of Polish catholic stewardesses whether there is a place for davening and they said that the plane will definitely benefit from tefilos and cleared an area for me, and gave me extra raw carrots after that.

    in reply to: How to do teshuva for breaking shabbos? #2178077

    @fakenews, thanks for bringing high science to support my empirical observations. Generally, if you feel uncomfortable with something, it is always a good idea to try changing things gently. As Trump said it succinctly to Black voters “what do you have to lose”.

    in reply to: 2 shabboism initiative this week from Rimanov Rebbe #2178069

    Someone needs to get this campaign to the wilde demonstrators

    in reply to: Et Tu #2178068

    (Brutus being adopted son of Caeser)

    in reply to: Et Tu #2178066

    Romans were in England, so an Englishman can be addressed with “Et tu” on a chance he is a descendant of a Roman. Ditto, were non-Roman Jews.

    in reply to: Arkansas Gov. Sanders signs law loosening child labor protections #2178064

    Amil, apparently great depression was a catalyst of children – who were first to become unemployed – to go to school as they had nothing else to do, leading to official recognition of “teenagers” as having their own status and privilege of not working.

    in reply to: Arkansas Gov. Sanders signs law loosening child labor protections #2178065

    if someone is serious about gun violence prevention, they should propose a legislation that has something for all sides. Better background checks balanced by some perks to responsible guy owners, so that the other side does not feel that they are losing ground even on issues that they could accept on the merits. Unfortunately, like most debates, this one becomes a game of partisan advantage, so there is blood on all their hands.

    in reply to: Kollel life with no parental support #2178062

    yeshivaguy45,
    what is the difference between a kollel student “with a side job” and a “working person” who spends serious time learning? is it a matter of degree? status? Are sponsors (and tax authorities whether in US or Israel) aware of the side businesses?

    in reply to: Kollel life with no parental support #2178063

    Does out-of-town kollel come with an obligation to teach the locals? So, it is also a p/t job situation. I always hear that fulltime learning is koidesh and can not be mixed up with anything else.

    in reply to: Should girls wait for older sisters to get married? #2177582

    If you put an older unmarried sibling on the shidduch resume, you will certainly avoid those who think this is unseemly.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2177581

    Doing his best> no one in the last 20 years that grew up in lakewood ever looked back and thought “I wish my elementary school/mesivta had more English.”

    You may be right, but lack of awareness of a problem is in no way an indication that there is no problem.

    Looking from outside, I can tell you that this is a thought of parents whose kids move to Lakewood or similar locations. One such “kid” I know whose working parents encouraged him to learn (possibly beyond his talents) later responded to their concerns that he is not gainfully employed – “you encouraged me to go in this direction” …

    in reply to: Bein Hazmanim Shiurim #2177579

    I heard of yeshivos offering their students for car cleaning. Would this be disrespect of the Torah to call them? Or a good way to check out shidduch potential?

    other than NYPD, all other actions will be in beis din. Will be interesting to see.

    in reply to: korbonos #2177576

    Anybody is holding in our days by the Rambam that karbonos are due to our weakness?

    in reply to: Storing tefillin in car #2177185

    May not fully solve the problem but – leave the car in the shade, put curtains of the car esp in the sunny side, have the window a little opened so that it does not overheat inside (maybe not in NYC). You can also follow an old minhag of wearing tefilin the whole day.

    in reply to: Professional education #2176597

    for in person, the best idea is to go to college while living at home, so one does not have to hang around the campus after hours. Evening departments, as YS mentions, are often a good deal – students are more mature.

    For online classes, you don’t need to settle for a local community college. There are places like MIT open courses, coursera that should have recording of very good professors on advanced topics.

    I agree on CS – this generally means “instructing computer” to do something. This ranges from making screens for ACA users to making airplanes process streaming sensor data in real time.

    If you learn just programming, then this is one type of jobs, depending on what language you learn. If you study CS, then you can be a system designer. Better yet, learn something else – science, engineering, statistics, health – then, you can be the person who converts ideas from that field of study into computers.

    in reply to: Dental Insurance #2176592

    Dr. Pepper, thanks for details. It is very similar to the system Cuba/USSR/China have – where central government gets to decide all issues in society. Note that most of “deciders” are not Talmudic scholars but have bachelor degrees in nothing. US used to have a similar system in defense until it was partially broken during Reagan times, with more robust competition introduced among a small number of suppliers.

    As you describe it, the ACA-type systems favor large companies – not just by these required payments but, in general, by making compliance complicated and costly. Between accountants, lawyers, consultants and management time, small businesses can’t really deal with all the good intentions… Resulting consolidation, in return, justifies government intervention as the market is destroyed.

    in reply to: How much does a shadchan charge? #2176172

    they charge 0 lira last time I asked. Not sure how much they’d charge an Ashkenazi or maybe they do not favor intermarriage.

    in reply to: Professional education #2176170

    Avira > Quite ironically, the most sanitary courses are online, where you don’t have an institution and the presence of authority figures shaping your mind and getting inside your head.

    Indeed, not sure why “ironically”. Still, some maturity and parental support is required. Show interest in the kid’s studies and peruse some of the material. For a thinking student, it is usually enough to point what is silly there and with encouragement, he’ll be showing what he discovered to avoid himself.

    in reply to: Professional education #2176169

    not online, but I heard good feedback on improving YU CS program, although they seem to be strict on transfers and yeshiva classes.

    in reply to: Professional education #2176168

    Desperate> you list a few good online colleges that offer b.s. in computer science?

    I did not research CS per se. ASU in general is mid-level solid program with huge population and reasonable programs. Work for Starbucks or Uber and it is even free (read fine print). Look for ones that offer same programs (and diploma) for both offline and online programs, those are less likely to be scams. Some public colleges are a good deal, even when paying out of state tuition (online should be close to half cost of offline). U of Florida, U of Oregon, U of Indiana sounded good in some specialties I looked at.

    Many of them take some number of transfers and CLEPs. There are cheap reasonable places that are good to do basic classes and transfer (for example, U of Maryland, global school, or something like that).

    in reply to: Hand Matzos vs Machine Matzos #2176167

    Matza making is probably the most effective (dollar per lb ) way for Ukraine to send out their wheat this year. Someone should market that.

    in reply to: Flying to Israel #2176161

    some companies allow first class if the exec goes directly to a meeting. So, those cheating VPs make sure they have a meeting on the day of arrival …

    I never had yetzer hara to follow on that. I just sit in my armchair at home with a cup of wine and contemplate that people are paying huge money for several hours to sit like that.

    > ideal of a woman working in a high paying job in a Jewish institution isn’t feasible,

    this is not “ideal”. Jewish public is paying already a lot for schools and other community programs. Our ideal includes people volunteering or working for low salaries to enable Jewish public access to education and other services.

    Married women _are_ required to work even if they have enough servants. There are a lot of jobs that are problematic, and some – like Hollywood – might be more problematic for women while still not recommended for men. At the same time, a lot of jobs that are not challenging spirituality much, I think – from WFH software engineer to a neurosurgeon.

    Historically, “jobs” often required either muscle strength or travel in dangerous environment, so those were not for women. At the same time, women with property (usually, inherited or gifted by the father) were able to do business – if they chose so, or let their husband to manage it.

    Also, some say, that sometimes there is more danger in “heimishe businesses”. An observant person is on guard from non-kosher world, but in the environment where everyone is “kosher”, people can become more relaxed over time.

    in reply to: Why did the Brisker Rav zt”l call giving brachos “shtusim”? #2176023

    common, was it even a question!?

    in reply to: Why did the Brisker Rav zt”l call giving brachos “shtusim”? #2176021

    I agree with Rocky. This might be a judgement call depending on the people the Rav is dealing with – where they hold, does he have a long-term relationship with them, will they be unhappy not getting brocha, does he have a chance to affect this person and the whole community, will they just go to a different Rav and bother him … So, you can’t necessarily question different Rabonim coming to different conclusions, but you can try to understand their shitot if they ever commented about it.

    in reply to: How much does a shadchan charge? #2175243

    practically speaking – you need to know the price. If you don’t agree on a price of a service, then you are supposed to pay a reasonable market price. Given that shadchanim often come en masse and people do not bother negotiate prices in advance (right?), then one needs to know going prices.

    Incidentally, sephardim have a fixed price that did not change for centuries despite the inflation.

    in reply to: Conscientious objectors Haredi VS lefty secularistts #2175242

    In most countries, now and especially in earlier times, religions had to be officially recognized.

    in reply to: Shmurah Matzah Prices #2175241

    I am also looking for highest price matza so that I can brag that I have the most expensive one.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2175238

    AAQ “OUR TIMES SEEMS TO BE THE FIRST IN HISTORY WHERE [SOME] JEWS ARE CLAIMING THAT THEIR MESORAH IS TO BE WILLFULLY IGNORANT.”

    Avram> This is motzi shem ra.

    To the opposite, I am defending the honors of mine (and maybe others’) ancestors who were not ignorant and insist that even now this is not true despite some here making a virtue out of ignorance.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2175237

    > They are claiming that the mesorah is to be just as educated today as we were 100 years ago, 250 years ago and 1,000 years ago. None of those periods included a secular studies curriculum for the masses of bochorim. It did include a highly rigorous Biblical and Talmudical curriculum.

    I am not sure about 1,000 years ago, but 100 years ago most of my zeides and some bobbies were educated at the level of their times and were involved in technical businesses and trades.

    Volozhin yeshiva had 400 students, this was not universal.

    Still, the bigger point is that Jews were not less educated that others and probably more, given our tradition of learning.

    I agree that life-long learning is the ideal, and I don’t see how knowing sciences is worse for your life-long learning than working hard cleaning after the cows and horses.

    in reply to: Dental Insurance #2175236

    Take a longer view – 250 years ago, population of Europe was way larger than USA. Then, for some reason, they/we all started moving here. So, something is done right in the American system in general. When comparing expenditures, you may want to

    (1) review outcomes by different social/ethnic groups – USA is full of newcomers and groups of problematic population. Try comparing a person with origins in say UK or France n both countries

    (2) make sure you compare all expenditures in European countries – cost of government policies gets diffused in many areas. Look for example at where medical research is being done.

    Tp the OP: do all students take these tests? If not, what percentage take them at different institutions.
    Also, how are the boys doing?

    > Careers for women often ruin their ruchnius.

    and same for men, of course. We need to separate between two issues related to “career”:

    1) desire to advance at a job at the expense of anything else. Not healthy in many cases, (unless you are a Rav, a doctor, a soldier, a firefighter, or anyone else who benefits people …)

    2) ability to work in an easier environment, using professional skills.

    People often confuse the two. Yes, having professional skills creates a danger of becoming a workaholic, but so does a job of selling phones on amazon. Professional job, when taken in right dosage, satisfies gemora’s and, I think, also Rambam’s, suggestion to have a clean easy job that does not require exhaustion or fear of hunger or using charity.

    in reply to: Professional education #2175232

    In my recent experience, the best set up is 2-4 friends going into a reasonable quality online college and studying together. So, you get a half-price (online v. on campus) school with kosher kitchen and Jewish environment. Maybe there should be a sign-up sheet for people to join.

    in reply to: Teen Violence in Lakewood #2174896

    > In the pre-Holocaust era in Europe secular studies was by far the exception by Chareidim,

    at earlier times, most nations did not have a lot of studies – and majority of population did not need them, given that most of them were farming and later working at factories. Jews were generally more educated than surrounding population. Our times seems to be the first in history where [some] Jews are claiming that their mesorah is to be willfully ignorant. Not everyone received this mesorah, and I hope this could be respected.

    in reply to: Shmurah Matzah Prices #2174895

    One idea is a for a group/shul/community doing a bulk purchase and resale at full price, with funds going to tzedoko. This way everyone feels better about it.

    in reply to: Conscientious objectors Haredi VS lefty secularistts #2174893

    akuperma, thanks for a good description. I would take an issue equating anyone charedi with clergy in other countries. Clergy is a concept of established religious activities approved by the government. It does not mean anyone who declares himself occupied by religious studies can qualify.

    in reply to: Backstop everything #2174891

    Further reporting seems to make it more complicated: apparently, CA Feds were warning SVB for 2 years already, but nothing was changed, and Feds followed up at glacial speed.

    This looks like a systemic problem in everything related to risk management: people who are responsible receive their salaries and hope that nothing bad will really happen. If something bad happens – rarely – they just lose their jobs. Otherwise, they’ll get paid extra for many years… Same as people in charge of institutions who invested with Madoff. And probably many others who were lucky not to be exposed.

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2174190

    Avira, I think I was recalling ספר תולדות ישו, and wiki says it is indeed 10th century at least, maybe 6th to 9th, and possibly a combination of earlier sources. Author unknown, or mahybe a combination of multiple sources,

    in reply to: How to do teshuva for breaking shabbos? #2174188

    I apologize for the joking tone of my second paragraph. Did not want to offend anyone. The serious way to put that is this: Shabbos is supposed to be time of menucha and, hopefully, this should be beneficial for the person. So, maybe there are some external or internal pressures that prevent relaxation – be somewhere on time, daven in a proper place, behave during a dinner, etc. Maybe one can re-arrange their shabbos routine and focus on what makes this person happier and relaxed without doing things other consider obligatory. I am not claiming any expertise here, just thinking out loud.

    in reply to: Anti-Semitism refuted by Non-Jewish Philosopher #2174187

    Marxist, my claim stems from the fact that his later criticism of capitalism is a carbon copy of his criticism of Jewish business influence on the world. Your further quotes from someone who actually was in charge of killing people shows that you see this a purely theoretical debate of ideas. Maybe your family came to US on Mayflower and nobody was ever touched by the Marxist murderers in Europe.

    in reply to: Anti-Semitism refuted by Non-Jewish Philosopher #2173941

    Marxist,
    my interpretations are from the time I read it (thanks, professor who referred me to the volume so that I was able to see this paper!) and I shared them with many budding marxists. Sad that they only reached you now. I provided enough of the argument that you can open the paper and see if my interpretation fits. Maybe we can publish in some Pravda International – polemic about polemic w/ Bauer. Somehow, I even remember the name of the reverend, even as I do not remember the mishnah I learnt yesterday …

    Practical lesson: read early work of famous people to see what they really think – before they polished their oratory skills. I heard a similar advice from a Rav – listen to what children say as parents already say what is accepted in polite society, not what they really think.

    in reply to: How to do teshuva for breaking shabbos? #2173938

    Avira, I presumed that the most jarring moment is transition from chol to shabbos. Maybe the person does not know how to detach himself or afraid to focus on himself (especially, these days when people can use tech to always be “busy”).

    But if someone has panic attack later on shabbos, I would examine what is in the cholent and whether it is heated sufficiently.

    in reply to: How to do teshuva for breaking shabbos? #2173937

    RBZS, a sad story. This is a case of a bias: halochos shabbos are pretty straight-forward, while internal state of a person is an unknown thing.

    Not sure how to fight this bias – ask a Rav, imagine that this person is your close relative, show to him that you really care (say, walk there on shabbos – not possible in your case).

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2173936

    Ben T, you won’t convince people with obscure references. You have higher chance if people see how you behave and learn according to your Rebbe’s teaching. Then, all Yiddishe mamas in the street will be pointing to their children – do you want to be an Erliche Yid and a Talmid Chacham like that chosid? Then, everyone will eventually become a follower of your Rebbe and you can vote for a Moschiach of your choice. Hatzlaha. Start with helping the old lady cross the street and open a sefer.

    in reply to: The Five Most Likeliest Candidates to be Moshiach #2173934

    Avira > it’s a theory from a prominent frum historian and talmid chacham,

    I am not sure who your source is, but this is described in at least a medieval Jewish source of unknown (at least to me) origin. It is pretty hilarious – describing every action of paul and peter as a step in separating the new religion from us.

    in reply to: Backstop everything #2173935

    Is there a metric that tracks how many board members re solid professionals v. politicians and social warriors? is it predictive of anything?

Viewing 50 posts - 3,451 through 3,500 (of 8,865 total)