Oh, for Medical Advice, one can go to United Health Care’s website and they have online nurses who can discuss any medical issue you may have. AND you can call them directly to discuss issues.

I bought my house for about $450 and made around $70K at the time.

1) NO Credit Cards!!!

2) All extra money you earn, put it into savings. Don’t bother buying expensive suits or hats. Put all extra money in savings.

3) Cut down on all your bills, as much as possible. Hence, I got rid of cable.

4) You will need to save for a few years. You should have enough for 20% AND closing fees which can range from 10-20K. You could probably put down less for a down payment, but pay PMI. Speak with a lender.

5) Shop around for the BEST rate, no matter if your friend does mortgages too. Be educated.

6) Do NOT move to Brooklyn or any densely related areas because the housing prices are high. Look for frum neighborhoods where you can get relatively cheap houses, like Monsey.

7) When you are ready to buy a house, increase your allowances on your W4 to receive more money back in your paycheck. I increased mine to 12. The end result is you will be receiving a less of refund at the end of the year. But who cares? You need money NOW.

8) Learn to be handy. Do not call an electrician to scrrew in a light-bulb or change an outlet. Home Depot sells great books that teaches you how to do it yourself. Yes, something you need help, but there are a lot of things you can do yourself.

Good luck and have fun!

B’h I hold of the other Torah where drinking beer is not usser. In addition, if it is a glass cup and clean there is no issue of traifos since glass can not be mikabul tumah.

The only issue with a bar is drinking with goyim and unless this girl is not Jewish there is no Halacha issue of him drinking.

Now, should a boy drink on the second date? Who are we to answer what is appropriate or not? If this girl is the type not to mind, then there is nothing wrong. The fact that she is asking this question, means it bothers her and therefore she should not date him because obviously, he feels it is appropriate.

Or maybe it was a bad date and he needed alcohol:):) Who are we to judge?

In the Gemora, Shabbat 64b, R’ Akiva allows a women to apply makeup even while she is a niddah!! This is a time most things are uisser, but we see makeup is mutter because of Shalom Bayis! The makeup is not for the women to feel attractive. We see from this gemorah that women wear it to make their husbands attracted to them.

One the the Takakna of Ezra was for salesmen to travel to every community to perfume or other things.

This is a VERY sensitive issue that one should not mess with! If a women wears makeup like a clown it is none of your business if her husband wants her to wear it! This is a shalom bayis issue and none of our opinions matter, but the husband and wife.

LOL, ok, sorry I missed the type.

Poster: You are missing the point. I don’t care if you have a mishgas about 4′ skirts or shaving or the likes. I have a problem with self righteous jews dictating their veiw points and hashgafa on others. We already saw this in Israel and Kirya Yoel. First you have the signs and then you have the “kanoim”, zealots, who take matter into their own hands. All of this is L’Shaim shmayim, their g-d, not others.

600kilobear returns: What is funny how people like you idolize our history of the Bais Hamikdash when the same “Rodaf” state was in existence. People like you don’t realize that during the First & Second Bais Hamikdash, and even during the times of shoftim the “medina” was not religious. There were very few and far in between having frum Kings! The reason why the 10 shavotim were expelled was because Malchai Yehudha called on Sancharav to assist them during a civil war between the Jews! The same occured during the second bais hamkidah when there was a civil war between the chashmonaim brothers and called in Rome to settle the dispute.

I am sure if you lived in the times of the chorban you would have cheered on the Persians and Romans in their conquest of E.Y. As the gemrah said, the people in those times were violated Avoda Zorah, shfichas domim and geloa aroyas!

One time more than my wife wants me to eat!

That song was from the movie “The Man Who Knew Too Much”…..Great movie!! I love the old time classics!

Derech: If you want everyone to get together then you stop eating gebrochts. It’s not a big deal. My syster does it all the time to spend time with the family.

The Goq: Do you make sugary treats for your guests or do you cook with alternatives?

Out of curiosity, is Tznius a D’Orayso or D’Rabbonan. I am trying to find the source where we learn tznius from.

truth be told: Not souring the mood but setting the true expectations.

I wanted to get married in front of the Kosel. I told that to my mother and she almost died. I explained, it was cheaper flying my family (only siblings) to Israel than to make a big wedding. However, she wanted her party. As I once said, I was just a guest, the wedding was a night for her to shine:) What would the neighbors think? etc. I feel wasting tens of thousands of dollars for one night is ridiculous! I also would not want to have a wedding in a shul. I would want it in a more meaningful place, like the Kosel.

Wasn’t here a story with the Chazon Ish or Steipler, where an older boy came to ask for a brocha for a shidduch and they said that they already rejected their zivug? So I guess people should not be too picky.

Al pi kabalah, there is a zivug and there are also basherts. Hence, you might not marry your zivug, but you could still find your bashert.

Schools are expensive. Chicken and meat are too. Dairy products and other products are cheap if you get the in stores like Shop Rite and Pathmark. My wife used to keep chalov yisroel, but she was mvater neder because of the expense. Cholov Yisroel yogurts were $1 to $1.25 and milk is around $2 half a gallon. Now, a gallon of milk is $2.50 and crunch yogurts is .50. My grocery bills cut in half!

mbachur: I find it hard to believe that Gemara without a source. Because now the Tanna ripped off the shirt of a woman (forget the obvious issues of negeah) because it was untznius. Did that rectify the situation or made it worse? I think we all can agree an undressed woman is more untznus than a partial dressed one. It is also amazing how Rashi NEVER looked at ANY women in his life. When he once saw a woman, by accident, he knew it must be for a reason, and hence Rashi was able to explain the cohen gadol’s apron. That was Rashi, so I must assume a Tanna was on a higher level than him.

This seems like a classic case of Mitzvah Bo Bavaryah.Even for those who feel what the Bochurim did was correct, in either case, the Bochurim were “Over An aAveaytrah” if G’Nayvu and have a chiyuv to pay the advertisers back. If not, than the whole act becomes an averyrah. If you want to show you are a chossid, then act like one,not an animal.

Can anyone please remind me of any case a Gadol approved destroying someone’s property? If yes, did the gadol endorse not paying for the damages?

The most appropriate response would be to boycott the company, but not create a chillil hashem because now they think Jews are a bunch of animals and uncivilized. Are they wrong in this case?

Popa: True, it is not a berry, but it is cooked like a berry. It is actually a seed.

a mamin: I understand your story, but what you did was also wrong. Kibud Av Vam requires YOU to give up YOUR chair. The other girl had no chiyuv of K’bud Aim, besides lefno savo tokum. True, the girl should have offered, but what are we teaching our children? That K’bud Av V’am requires to make OTHERS sacrifice for someone they do not know? You should have gotten up for your mother regardless whom is sitting next to you. Hopefully, if someone saw you standing they would have offered you a chair. But you need to set the example first.

When I married my wife she did not drive. While studying for her license I also made sure she new how to change a tire. I did not want her stuck in no man’s land without having the ability to fend for herself. For those young people out there, this was before cell phones became popular and inexpensive.

Yes.

Ok, I usually do not agree with popa, but he/she is 100% correct. This older lady was in the young girls seat without permission. The girl had her coat on the chair so for all intents and purposes the girl has baylos on the chair while there in shul.

Having good midos does not mean to allow someone to step all over you. If the older women had no seat and the mother saw that, she should offer her daughter’s seat to the older woman. That is showing good midos. However, in this case, there were extra seats and this older woman decided to occupy an already occupied seat. That is bad middos and it is the responsibility of the mother to educate her daughter that people will not tolerate bad middos. There is no chiyuv to be a chosid shotah.

SJS: Also with respect to men, Mishnah Berurah 75:3 prohibits praying in front of breastfeeding women. The Ben Ish Chai Bo 10 permits in extenuating circumstances.

Here is a post from a similar question when asked to R’ Tendler.

Thank you for a very interesting question. First of all, I was unaware that such a Psak had been rendered in a public manner, so I really can’t help you in determining which Rav may have announced this Psak. Most religious women that I know will only swim at a pool where there are female lifeguards, or will wear a robe if there are males present. I am aware, though, that at separate beaches in Israel it is common for women to swim in the presence of male lifeguards, the rationale being that most women lifeguards may not be strong enough to carry out an ocean rescue if CH”V needed. However, even in this situation, many women will only go into the ocean in their robes, and this is certainly preferable, when possible.

However, you are correct in observing that some religious women don’t have a problem swimming in the presence of male lifeguards in their bathing suits. In their defense, I’d like to explain as follows. The regular Chiyuv to dress in a modest manner only applies in a public area, where Bnos Yisrael dress in this fashion. At a swimming pool or on the beach, if it is designated for women only, it would be permitted to dress as Bnos Yisroel normally do in this venue, in their bathing suits. However, there is another problem, that of “Lifnei Iver”, appearing in front of a man in a manner in which he will have improper thoughts, which applies in all situations. In Halacha we find a concept of “Torud B’Melachto”- when a man is involved in doing a job, we say that he is busy concentrating on properly doing his job, and you are not transgressing Lifnei Iver be appearing in front of him in an undressed manner since he will not be easily distracted from his job, as he would be if he just happened to be sitting there. This can be compared to a male doctor who is doing a routine checkup on a female patient, he is busy doing his job in the most professional manner, and we don’t have to be concerned that his mind might wander. However, if you are certain that this is not the case, it would certainly not be appropriate to swim in the presence of such a lifeguard, or to allow yourself to be examined by such a physician.

I’m not certain what you mean regarding the difference between swimming and other sports. If you don’t mind explaining, perhaps I could better help you.

I hope that this is helpful for you.

Take care,

Rabbi Aaron Tendler

Ok, I understand the need to nurse, but I do not understand the need to nurse in public if there is place to do it in private. I do not need to see a lady nurse in Famous Pita when she clearly could have gone to a corner facing another direction or the bathroom. To me, there is a lack of sensitivity. A underage child does not need to see this “natural” process or even other men. The mere fact that area is constantly covered because of Tznius does not magically disappear just because someone needs to nurse.

I understand that sometimes it must happen. But then again, there is a lack of planning and foresight into the event. If you plan on being in public when it is feeding time; take a long a bottle.

On another matter, it is unfortunate that people treat infants as objects and not like a person. How would you liked to be wheeled down an aisle in Shoprite or the street in your bed? If your infant has a nap time scheduled please be considerate and let the infant sleep in their bed, and not being pushed down the street. Even though they are small, they are still human and some consideration should be afforded to them.

I think the worst is when kids use those party poppers and the strings fly around. After Megillah, shul looks like a trash house. This is the most important time to be m’chanuch your kids about the kedusha of a shul. Parents should teach the children not to leave until every peace of garbage is picked up and thrown out.