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RK. I suppose a Rav will take into account all your questions. He might even take into consideration all the poskei coffee room.
I think it is wonderful that you took the first step, and spoke to a Rav to help you figure out how to proceed. He should be the shliach from hashem to help resolve this situation.
Whatever advice and course of action he dispenses and prescribes, I don’t think the CR needs twice daily updates. This is not a reality TV show. Of course, if the Rav you are speaking with disagrees, listen to what he says, not me.
So, is it being argued that this fellow was arrested, found guilty and now jailed on the basis of nothing more than politics or trumped up charges? No evidence, a sham trial and simple bigotry?
It has been noted that other gedolim have sat through these “performances”. People should follow their Rav, not signs on a wall, the yated or INN.
Yesodei Yeshurun in Kew Gardens Hills. The “big brother” of Yesodei Yisroel of Monsey and after 11th grade they move to Yesodei Yeshurun anyways.
I’m hungry (Tain Li Chow)
Start over (Fang Un Fun Unfang)
Oriental teenager (Sum Yun Guy)
If it helps, Heinz ketchup is Kosher LiPurim. Perhaps you can move up your trip a month.
Looks like the caterer IS doing his best to ensure all bookings come through him. He might be makpid on you coming to his minyan as an unpaid guest. You should probably call him.
Yes, it is a ptur, so no need to pay if you also vacation in the area. The caterer is not booking exclusive rights to the vacation area, is he?
Ask a Rav, this might be a case of zeh nehneh vleh lo chaser. Surely the caterer is aware that this is not the only hotel in this vacation area and there is probably a chabad house within a reasonable distance from the vacation area.
Personally, I don’t look for minyanim near a vacation area, I look for vacation area near minyan so I don’t come across this problem, ever.
Technicly you don’t have to tell the shadchan more than yes, or no. Practically, you may get on the shadchans blacklist for limiting what you tell them, if you are so terribly desperate to work with this shadchan you might want to throw them a bone.
After 6 or 7 dates, why are they still dealing with the shadchan, shouldn’t they be talking to each other directly?
I think most other schools do this too. Only, they call it dismissal.
“For a restaurant the Mashgiach doesn’t have to know anything”
He has to know more than bugs and oven lighting protocols. He doesnt even need to know bugs if they demand the establishment buys pre-checked with a hechsher they like and all he must know is, how to read the name on a label. Mashgichim should be aware of what things that might be prepared look like. I will never forget the time I came into a kitchen to relieve the AM mashgiach and something was sizzling on a grill. I was told by my fellow mashgiach “they are grilling a bunch of burgers”. Because the burgers looked kid of funny I took a closer look. They were not burkers. The chef (a mechallel shabbos) was kashering livers on the broiler! To the credit of the Rav Hamachshir of the establishment, this fellow was promptly let go from his position until he was able to pass a very thorough test administered by the kashrus agency.
This thread is headed nowhere.
It’s nice to argue theory. The fact is, there is an Israeli government. We have to learn to live with it. Unsure how? Follow your leader.
I’m not questioning you, or your understanding of the medrash. I am ultimately probably not disagreeing with you either. The reason I asked is because I wanted to see it for myself. I have been told that the statement that “Hashem never gives a person a challenge that he cannot overcome”, is not accurate. Hashem does give people challenges that they can not overcome, on their own, however, he always provides the necessary “support system” needed to overcome a challenge. Going solo, a person can fail a challenge because they are not equipped to handle the challenge alone. However, the support system needed to handle the challenge is always provided by Hashem. That is what I have heard, and it is perhaps what you mean. It is the reason I want to see the midrash inside for myself.
Regarding sticker hechsherim.
The way to know what added KASHRUS benefit the sticker provides to the kosher consumer is to ask the name printed on the sticker. You’d be surprised at how often the answer is NOTHING. Often, it is nothing more than a marketing strategy.
Caveat Emptor.
Music should be defined by the effect it has on people. If it has a positive effect, it is good, a negative effect, it is bad.
Can you provide a mareh makom for the medrash in bereishis you quote?
Doesnt the gemara tell us that Acher had the same problem addressed by the OP, (or was it Tzadok and Baytus)? He/they witnessed someone performing the mitzvah of kibbud av and shiluach hakan, mitzvos the torah says straight out “viharachta yamim” and the person fell off the ladder and died, whereupon he/they “concluded” Les Din Vles Dayan”? It is not a new phenomenom.
Isnt a mashgiach an eid?
The torah is not a bill of rights, as such nobody who follows torah and halacha has any “rights” to do anything.
The better question is, are you permitted to say something, and if yes to whom and what is it that you may say.
I would think that you are certainly permitted to voice your displeasure with the person or group who released the song(s). Whether you are permitted to tell others and what/how is something your Rav would have to rule on (or call the CC Heritage Foundation hotline).
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“Lower our standards?”
Reminds me of an old SNL skit.
I thought I saw it in the Amazon marketplace.
“Unlike in America most chareidim do listen to their gedolim.”
Which Charedim in
America don’t listen to their Gedolim?
Seems This particular item is a cookie. Comes with and without marshmallows.
If you want to nitpick the article, take it up with Rabbi Kelman 🙂
“If your hips / shoulders are wider than your waistline,”
Looks like we have been focusing on the wrong middos all along. Thanks for the clarification.
“how does the body react to a 5AMish breakfast?”
It depends. If breakfast consists of whatever scotch, herring and kugel is left over in the shul from last weeks kiddush because you remembered at the last minute that you wanted to eat before the fast, you wont have an easy fast.
I’m speechless that people can be so blind and so naive.
What is Hersheys N’ More?
I think what he is saying is chinuch involves several partners (school and parents at the basic level) and while the school can teach something until they are blue in the face, if it is not reinforced at home, or worse a contradictory message is given at home, then it is a partnership doomed to failure. He seems to acknowledge that mothers should of course be reinforcing the message taught in school, but since they are not (can not?), fathers/husbands who also have a responsibility for the kedusha of the home, in fact the primary role, (and as it relates to their daughters, an obligation of chinuch) need to step up to the plate. He wonders why they are not.
GAW. My wife made a similar point. Her point being, her girsa diyankisa is different than what is being taught today, she cant give a unified message along with the school, if what she learned and what is currently being taught is different.
“I’ll be the judge of when I’ll be heard or not”
I hear you. Then again, did I have your permission to do so?
Has this “ban” been corroborated by any other source?
This is the type of story that a secular press would be all over with provocative headlines and even more provocative “reporting”.
Your father is a master of Chanoch LiNaar Al Pi Darko. Not a master of mussar.
I think parents should make sure their sons are marriage ready.
Having just read the article by Rabbi Kelman which can be read on Mishpacha website (use their search tool to find the article), I commend him for a well written article.
He wonders how those who seemingly learned their lessons well 5 or 10 years ago, suddenly regress in this area as a mother. He wonders why the men are absent in this subject, yet do not hesitate to take charge when it comes to the level of kashrus in the home, (he could just as easily have written, the shul the family davens in, or the Rav the family asks its questions of).
Towards the end of his article he writes the following, “Fathers must become involved in all aspects of their home. We must set the standards for for kashrus, tznius, home entertainment, internet and cell phone usage”.
Does anyone disagree?
He concludes “Only when we add this missing ingredient fostering consistency between messages being delivered at home and in school, will our girls imbibe clear lessons. And perhaps even the wives and mothers will retain their girsa diyankusa, the lessons they learned in their youth.
This thread redefines the crisis. Whereas in the past we have been told that mathematically there are not enough boys for all the girls, so that various programs have been implemented to help the math work itself out, now in this thread the crisis is not that girls have nobody to date, but rather the pool of available males to date are simply not husband material.
Cantgetit. Obviously, you Didntgetit. I didnt dismiss anyones opinion, all I said was to be aware that while you follow an opinion, you should not be dismissive of the opinions of other gedolim. The same sources that claim a ban was issued also claim that many gedolim back the mishpacha newspaper.
Yahud. You dont wonder where Rav Elyashiv Shlita found the time to read the paper and issue a ban?
So, you equate the spitter with pinchas?
I think there are different age groups. I think the group running it calls it Yeshiva Basketball, but I’m not 100% sure. I’ve seen their ad in the local papers (Vues, FJJ).
Rav Shteinman said WHAT is assur at an agudah convention?
Motsai Shabbos at Madison High (Quentin and Bedford). Gym and pool are open for boys from 8:00 (or 8:30) to 10/10;30?).
why dont you try having some emunas chachamim in those gedolim and rabbonim who back Mishpacha?
No, I have no desire to play, “my gadol is bigger than yours”.
“Someone who can do so B’Nachas, without making the person upset or looking down on them. Just like any other tochacha.”
In the case of ones daughter, it is not tochacha, it is chinuch if stated the right way. whatever is said, it better be something that both parents agree on. In the case of a married woman, she ought to be open to a comment from her husband if said the right way. All couples interact differently, no cookie cutter answer.
So, what was so objectionable in a frum publication, that supposedly is backed by rabbonim that the paper had to be taken to rav elyashiv shlita and not the rabbonim who advise the paper?
Nachal Charedi has a website. What I know about NC is what they claim about themselves on their site. They claim that they exist to help those found in no mans land. A young man from the charedi/yeshiva world who is out of place in the world he grew up in, with no future prospects. They say it is a religious, social and economic program for these young men who would otherwise flounder in all 3 areas. Does anyone have an alternate program for such young men? The site claims the program is run according to halacha and has the support of “leading gedolim”. Who those gedolim are is not specified, but I suppose is verifiable by asking them. Those who have a problem with this program, did they reach out to its leadership? If yes, what happened that they went to Rav Elyashiv too? Did they tell Rav Elyashiv about any meetings they may have had with them, if not, why not. If they did not address their concerns with those who run the NC program, why not?