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October 23, 2014 3:10 pm at 3:10 pm in reply to: Haredim refusing to sit mixed on airplanes #1037002DaMosheParticipant
DaasYochid, I’m not aware of any teshuvos arguing on R’ Moshe. If you know of one, please let me know.
Here is a translation of the teshuva:
October 23, 2014 2:48 pm at 2:48 pm in reply to: Haredim refusing to sit mixed on airplanes #1036999DaMosheParticipantsem613: There’s a big difference between a preference and a demand. In your case, you wouldn’t want it. You may even ask to switch. But what if the response was “No”? Would you then refuse to sit in your seat? That is the issue here. I have no problem with someone requesting a seat change. But you can’t demand it, then refuse to sit in the sit you were assigned if you don’t get your way.
Let them learn the Igros Moshe a bit, where R’ Moshe zt”l paskens that it’s muttar l’chatchilah to sit next to a woman on a bus or train. I see no reason the same shouldn’t apply here.
DaMosheParticipant147, I don’t know, because the kibbud hasn’t been auctioned off yet for my shul.
I do know that the person who usually gets chosson Torah (the same person has been buying it for him for many years) has finished Shas many, many times. I believe he has taught the entire Shas to others (via Daf Yomi and other shiurim) about 6-7 times already. He has an incredible knowledge of Shailos u’teshuvos from the major poskim, and can quote from all of them with ease.
Definitely deserving of chosson Torah!
DaMosheParticipantDaasYochid, there’s nothing wrong with giving the OP advice. After all, he came here looking for it, didn’t he? He’s not required to listen, but when he wants advice, why not give it to him?
DaMosheParticipantOk, I haven’t seen any guesses on the first one I posted, so here’s the answer.
It’s also I Want to Know, by Miami Boys Choir. It’s even from the same part of the song – exactly the same part, in fact.
In the original release (on Miami Meets Toronto), the full line was “So now my days are filled with truth, It’s given me peace, feels like my youth”.
When it was performed at Miami Experience, that line was changed to, “So now my path becomes so clear, I’m part of a chain linking thousands of years”.
They actually changed a lot of lines from the song. I like the original version much better.
DaMosheParticipantYom Kippur is about forgiveness. Rosh HaShanah is not. On Yom Kippur, we all confess our sins, so we declare that ALL sinners are welcome.
DaMosheParticipantOk.
The first one was sort of a trick question. The answer is staring you right in the face.
DaMosheParticipantWhere’s DaasYochid? He should know this!
DaMosheParticipantI recently sang at a chuppah. For Mi Adir, I used the tune from Chatzos Lailah, from Miami Boys Choir. For Mi Bon Siach, I used the one from Lev V’Nefesh 2. Then, I used Shwekey’s Im Eshkacheich.
DaMosheParticipantOk, back to naming tunes! Here are 2 more, personal favorites of mine (although they should be easy!)
It’s given me peace, feels like my youth
I’m part of a chain linking thousands of years
October 2, 2014 3:24 pm at 3:24 pm in reply to: "Sometimes you gotta fight when you're a Jew" (or, Questionable content) #1113785DaMosheParticipantcatch yourself: throwing the PC out the window is like throwing your entire closet out just to get rid of the peanut butter.
October 2, 2014 3:22 pm at 3:22 pm in reply to: Country Yossi versus Abie Rottenberg versus? #1113477DaMosheParticipantRandomex, I don’t know if I’d consider some of those songs as emotional. I Will Follow Him? Really? That’s emotional? Mitzvah Tantz?
The other issue is that as I said, he doesn’t write his own material. Take Deaf man in the Shteeble. Yes, it’s a touching story. Many people enjoy it. But they don’t know that it’s taken from a song about a baseball player whose father was blind, and after his father dies, he says, “It’s the first time that my father saw me play!” It takes away a lot from it.
October 2, 2014 12:55 pm at 12:55 pm in reply to: Country Yossi versus Abie Rottenberg versus? #1113474DaMosheParticipantLenny Solomon makes Shlock Rock.
Country Yossi does have some touching songs (Deaf Man in the Shteeble, anyone?), but mostly does funny. He also doesn’t write much original music, although he does write his own lyrics.
IMO, Abie Rotenberg is one of the best (if not the best) composer of Jewish music over the last century. Look how many of his songs are known by almost the entire Jewish world! They have withstood the test of time. He also has some funny songs, but I don’t know if he wrote his own lyrics or someone else did it for him. They’re in the Journeys series: Ninth Man on the Team, The Wedding Song, Atheist Convention, etc.
But yes, AR does touching better than most. Some songs were pointed out already. I’d add In a Vinkaleh, Conversation in the Womb, Who Am I?, Memories, and some others.
October 2, 2014 12:48 pm at 12:48 pm in reply to: "Sometimes you gotta fight when you're a Jew" (or, Questionable content) #1113781DaMosheParticipantMoishe Online, from Destiny 4. Really, throwing your entire PC out the window? The problem is the user, not the PC.
DaMosheParticipantLearning, saying tehillim, etc are great in the right time, but during davening on R”H is not the right time! He needs to go to a shul where he’ll be able to concentrate on the davening, not use something else to distract himself!
DaMosheParticipantWhy can’t I answer it?
DaMosheParticipantWhy can’t you go to another minyan? If the davening just makes you want to scream, then you probably shouldn’t be there.
DaMosheParticipantCountry Yossi and the Shteeble Hoppers! In the Year…
DaMosheParticipantRandomex, I see why you’d think that, but I don’t think those words are from that song (unless there’s a second version with slightly different words.) I’m listening to it right now to double-check.
I’m not sure where those words are from.
DaMosheParticipantSome of your words are slightly off, but it’s still recognizable as Country Boy.
DaMosheParticipantIt’s Be a Mentch, from Miami Experience 2.
DaMosheParticipantHere’s a hint: the album came out in 1992, and was second in a series.
DaMosheParticipantI can’t believe DaasYochid hasn’t gotten it yet!
DaMosheParticipantDash: In order to (properly) season a pan, it needs to be heated in an oven. I don’t know how factory seasoning is done, but my Rav said a self-clean should be enough no matter how it’s done.
DaMosheParticipantIs there a user here named “The Future”? I checked and didn’t see a profile page for that name.
DaMosheParticipantDash, my Rav told me that’s enough.
DaMosheParticipantOk, getting back to actual words instead of trying to write out a tune…
“Thinking of your friends should be a rule of thumb”
DaMosheParticipantPAA: I agree with that.
Wow, 2 posters here have reached common ground!!! This calls for a celebration!!!
DaMosheParticipantI don’t. R’ Moshe Feinstein zt”l also held that metzitzah is only done for medicinal purposes.
DaMosheParticipantDY: Why is his comparison so far off? His point was that it wasn’t real achdus, it was a large group sharing a common emotional event. How many of us are keeping the same spirit of achdus that we had just a short time ago?
As for our deeply held beliefs, he’s not suggesting that you give them up. All he’s saying is that we should recognize and respect other opinions, even if we don’t hold of them ourselves. There are 70 different paths all leading to the same place. Let’s recognize the different opinions as the different paths.
September 18, 2014 12:39 pm at 12:39 pm in reply to: Can you mix different types of ground meat? #1032695DaMosheParticipantI’ve never heard of that. My mother would make a dish for yom tov with ground chicken and beef (although she didn’t mix them together – they were separate parts of the same dish, and were cooked together.)
DaMosheParticipantPatur Aval Assur: So if the study shows that there may be correlation, and more research is needed, it would seem the Chassam Sofer would hold not to do metzitzah b’peh. He wrote that if there’s even a minute danger (which the study shows there is), we should not follow kabbalah on it. Doing metzitzah with a glass tube would seem to be the preferable method from a halachic standpoint!
DaMosheParticipantDY: You wrote, “which seeks to stop people from practicing milah in a manner their ancestors have done for generations”. I was just pointing out that milah HAS changed in the past. The way we do bris milah today is not the same as when Avraham Avinu did it.
DaMosheParticipantDY: Actually, bris milah has changed somewhat through the generations. Most notable was the addition of periah about 2,200 years ago. People were trying to get Jews to undo their bris by stretching the remaining skin. Rabbonim added periah to the bris, so that there wouldn’t be any skin left to stretch.
DaMosheParticipantsqueak: If you read my post, I wrote, “I was reviewing the davening, as well as some of the tunes I have used.” The first thing I look over is the meaning of the words. Then I decide what tune to use.
My Rosh Yeshiva, R’ Bender shlita, once told me that in the Mir, they don’t sing anything on the Yomim Noraim. When Darchei first had a minyan for RH and YK, he asked R’ Shmuel Berenbaum zt”l if Darchei should follow the Mir, and not sing. R’ Shmuel told him no, because nowadays, people need good tunes in order to follow the davening well. If there’s no singing, people’s minds start to drift. The songs are important.
I happen to know R’ Pollak, the ba’al tefillah at the Mir. The first year he davened there, he sang some tunes. R’ Berenbaum came over to him after and told him, “You sing very well. Just don’t do it here!”
DaMosheParticipantDY, I listened to the tune. You were right, it’s not the one I thought it was. Actually, the Ba’al Shacharis in Darchei Torah uses that tune for the piyut. It fits somewhat better – the low and high parts work. The middle (actually sung 3rd) doesn’t fit as well.
DaMosheParticipantOk, I can’t listen to it at work, but I know the tune you’re referring to. I don’t think it fits the piyut well.
DaMosheParticipantDY: Metzitzah clearly is medicinal. The Chassam Sofer says so straight out.
DaMosheParticipantDY, I probably know the tune, just not by that name. Are there words commonly used for it which I’d know?
DaMosheParticipantIf we follow scientists over Chazal with regard to medicine, then why is there any arguments about metzitzah? Metzitzah is done for medical reasons, isn’t it?
September 11, 2014 12:49 pm at 12:49 pm in reply to: Im Going to Uman.I will pray for you there. #1038434DaMosheParticipantI’ll be davening at a regular shul in the US for Rosh HaShanah. I think 0% of the people there are going to party. Everyone is going to daven and get close to Hashem. I don’t think there are people dancing, because of the awe we all have.
If you want to put your name here, I’ll B”N daven for you. I happen to be a shliach tzibbur as well, but I don’t know if that may count for more.
DaMosheParticipantzete605 and DY:
I think that in both cases the person doing the work is doing work for the Jew. However, in both cases, he’s also working for himself. DY, in the case of kablanus, it’s not talking about where it could have been done at any time. It’s talking about specifically on Shabbos. If it could have been done at any time, it works even with a straight salary.
With kablanus, it’s allowed because the worker is trying to work more so he’ll earn more. In a case of shutfus, even if half the work is on the Jew, the partner is still working harder because he will gain more.
DaMosheParticipantMaybe this isn’t controversial enough to warrant an answer?
September 8, 2014 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm in reply to: Does anyone have information about a good exorcist #1031482DaMosheParticipantI think everyone needs to get involved in this thread! The power of the CR compels you!
September 5, 2014 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm in reply to: Does anyone have information about a good exorcist #1031457DaMosheParticipantI used to know two good ones. One was killed, and the other one was so upset about it that he jumped out a window.
September 5, 2014 1:17 pm at 1:17 pm in reply to: How can I contact or meet the Kalover Rebbe in Brooklyn? #1030900DaMosheParticipantWhen I was in Darchei Torah, the Kaliver Rebbe once came to Far Rockaway for a few days. Many bachurim went to see him. The Rosh Yeshiva, R’ Altusky, called everyone together and spoke against it. He said that we have our own Rabbeim, and we should be speaking to them more than we do. They aren’t just for giving a shiur! We don’t need a chassidish Rebbe to give us a bracha, our own Rabbeim could do so! He said it’s an insult to our Rabbeim.
I had one Rebbe in Darchei who I was very close to, and I used to speak with him all the time. He actually approached me and told me I should go see the Kaliver Rebbe, and I’d benefit from it. I was hesitant after R’ Altusky’s speech, so I went to R’ Altusky. He told me that he knew I was close with this Rebbe, and if the Rebbe felt I should go see the Kaliver Rebbe, then I definitely should – that would be derech eretz, to listen to my Rebbe!
So I went to see him. It was an amazing experience!
Fast forward a bunch of years. I was married. I’ve written before that my wife and I did not have an easy time having children. At that time, our doctor had just told us to stop with our treatments and start looking into adoption. We were devastated. Then I saw a sign in shul that the Kaliver Rebbe was going to be visiting a community not far from ours. We made an appointment to go see him.
We walked in and sat down at the table where he was. Before we could say a word, he asked, “Nu, so what are the doctors saying? Why can’t you have children?” We explained the medical situation to him. He said, “This is a very complex case! I don’t know enough about the medical side to even ask many questions, let alone offer some advice. Just keep davening! I will daven also, and I give you a bracha that you should have hatzlach in your treatments! Don’t give up!”
We went back to our doctor. He told us, “If you don’t want to give up, that’s fine. I did some research. There’s a certain type of surgery which may help in your case. But beware – it’s risky! It can help, but it can also eliminate any chance of you ever being able to carry a pregnancy! I don’t do this surgery myself. The best doctor is in NYC. It’s Doctor [so-and-so]. Go see him.”
We made the appointment. He agreed the surgery could help, but said, “Before we do the surgery, I’d like to try one more IVF cycle with you, if you don’t mind.” We agreed.
We then got a call from the Rebbe’s assistant. The Rebbe wanted to know where we were holding. We told him we’d be doing an IVF cycle with this doctor before attempting surgery. He said, “Keep davening, and so will I!”
Baruch Hashem, from that IVF cycle we have 2 beautiful children, a boy and a girl. We actually informed the Rebbe about the bris (no invitations to a bris!) but he was unable to come. It helped with a question – we didn’t know who to make the sandek – the Rebbe or R’ Bochner from Bonei Olam. In the end, the Rebbe couldn’t come, and R’ Bochner was in Eretz Yisrael, so my Rosh Yeshiva, R’ Bender shlita, was the sandek.
Now that I’ve written my whole story, I guess I realized I need a point. Yes, the Rebbe is a big tzaddik, and can help. But so can your own Rabbeim! If your Rebbe thinks you will benefit from a visit to a Rebbe, he will tell you so. You can even ask! But don’t insult your own Rav by skipping over him to go to a big name.
DaMosheParticipantGAW: and if they can’t afford it, then they can ask for a discount. Nobody wants them to be pushed away.
DaMosheParticipantzahavasdad, in communal schools, they usually accept a lot more responsibility anyway even for “problem” children, as there aren’t too many other options. Even if they feel a kid needs a different school, they will usually work with the parents towards getting them into the school.
GAW: Why would they have to pay more than their children? They just need to pay the shul membership.
Let’s take an out-of-town Modern Orthodox community. They may have one shul, and one school system. Let’s say shul membership is $1,500 per family now, and tuition averages $15,000 per kid. Those are somewhat typical numbers for a MO area. Let’s also say the shul has 150 families who are members, and 75 of the families have children in the school system.
Let’s say you raise the shul dues to $7,000 per year. Now you can take the extra money and put it into the tuition “pot” beforehand, and lower the tuition costs per student by that amount – provided that the students’ families are members of the shul! You’re not kicking people out, you’re just making some of the responsibility a communal one. Additionally, since shul dues are very often tax deductible, it would also amount to a savings for many parents of students. If someone can’t afford the shul dues, you can work with them to find out how much they can pay. I know that my shul does that already anyways with some people.
DaMosheParticipantGAW: If they’re not members, then they don’t get the perks. No aliyos. You have a yartzeit coming up? Too bad. A seat for the Yomim Noraim, when shul is packed? Sorry!
If people believe in it being a communal responsibility, then they should be willing to participate.
zahavasdad: True, you can’t force people to pay. It would be from the people who support the type of education you have in the area. You’re not targeting reform Jews, you’re targeting the Orthodox community. A Zionist yeshiva would be getting funding from the Zionist shuls, not the Satmar shuls.
If a kid is undesirable, that’s a while different story. The issue of kicking those kids out has been discussed many times. I don’t want to get into it again.
If someone’s financial situation changes, you address it, much as you do now. At the end of the day, it should be cheaper for the people who have kids in the schools, and more expensive for those who don’t. Someone needs help? You work with them to figure out how much they are able to pay.
DaMosheParticipantI asked my Rav about this recently.
Most cast iron pans and griddles are sold already pre-seasoned, and there is no hechsher on them 99% of the time. Therefore, even a new pan/griddle should be kashered. He said that to do it, it should just be placed into your oven when you’re running a self-clean cycle. Then you can tovel it, and re-season the pan/griddle however you like.
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